[insert imaginative thread title here] - sanity for those waiting to TTC (part 3)

[dottydally]

New thread ladies! @PastaSauceHoarder @Goostacean @Barker26 @crazychemist @DoveGreylove @springsummerautumnwinter can't remember who else to tag.

I know @cupcakesandglitter has linked us to a new thread but I'm not sure I am strong enough to be surrounded by those TTC already!

Thanks @happytobemrsg :)

Ahh @Barker26 how exciting! Have to say, I’m feeling so unbelievably broody at the mo, TTC seems to be all I can think about 🙈 don’t know how I’m going to cope waiting 6 months to start

Best of luck to you!

Hi all,
I'm going to jump on this thread (although I am useless at keeping up and will prob go awol all the time!!)
I'm 32 (as is dh) and we are planning child #2. Dd will be 5 at Xmas and has just started school.
We had been ttc for 7 months, but I've just accepted a new job so we are going to postpone until I start and will qualify for the mat pay. But that then takes us to around Nov time and I really don't want a summer holiday baby.
Nothing against it at all, but I've been working full time since dd was 1 and I've really missed out on her growing up. Now she's at school I want to make sure that when/if we are lucky enough to have a second, that I will be on mat leave during the summer without risking being immobile due to csections etc.
This means holding off until the new year (prob mid/end of Jan earliest to plan for an Oct baby) , which sucks but its the right choice. I think!

Hi everyone, I hope you're all well! Just thought I'd drop in and say hi and see how you're all getting on 🙂

I remember way back when when I joined this thread I was house hunting - we'll we've found a house now and exchanged contracts this week 😁 I'm so excited! It's been such a long journey but I'm glad we're nearing the end. Special shout out to @dottydally for all of your advice, help and support, thanks hun! X

Hi all, just found this thread after lurking on the conception board knowing that we need to wait before ttc, so thought I'd say hi!

Age - 25
TTC - #1
Waiting until - May 2019
Reason for waiting - To receive maternity pay (not started job yet)

Currently on the combined pill but once I finish this packet I'm planning to come off and use condoms until ttc to regulate and track my cycle.

Welcome to the newbies!

Feeling super broody today. Went to a christening for a gorgeous baby girl & hot lots of yummy cuddles.

Hello from sunny Mexico! Hope all is good. Holiday is definitely making the wait worth it, bar the stomach bug I've caught 😭.

Deffo got to wait though the mozzies got us!!

@McHelenz so jealous! It's been raining all weekend in my part of the UK.

Im getting so impatient now. Started taking folic acid this week and hoping to start ttc from October half term. Eeeeek.
Anybody else waiting till a similar time?

Xoxox

I’m not starting until Feb/March, but I’m going to track my ovultion i think for a few cycles 1- so I know where I’m at when we do start and 2- for something semi proactive to do 😂

AF was 4 days late with lots of negative tests. 3 different people have dreamt I'm pregnant. Feeling crazy broody & think DH may be on board with TTC earlier than planned....

Hi everyone, just joined so very excited this is my first mumsnet post!

Age: 32 (no idea how that happened!)
TTC #1
Waiting until: next month maybe...
Reason for waiting: until now, lots of reasons. Was in a crappy marriage, got divorced, met my current partner 3 years ago and very happy. We were going to start trying at the start of the year but various career things needed sorting, and then we were waiting to hear if my job was being made permanent, but we got that news a few weeks ago. Thought we might try this month but OH wanted to wait! We've agreed to start next month but worried he might want to push it back another month. He seems less excited than me... Maybe that's normal? Or he's scared.. He says he wants it though. Anyone else feel like they're trying to persuade their OH?

Been waiting so long feels like it will never really happen!

Yes! I'm hoping to start TTC then (and I'm in the South West, what a coincidence!). I've also started the folic acid... Exciting! Good luck!

Sorry that last post was meant to be a reply to @SurfingTheSouthWest - I haven't gotten the hang of this yet!

@hippybottomas welcome! South west is best as they say. Though, I've changed my username to add to the anonymity on another post
So glad you've managed to get everything in place for TTC. My OH seems to be on the fence with trying next month (but normally he comes round to things when they get nearer so I'm expecting it to be all systems go come half term).
I totally think men take longer to get there mentally than us ladies.
The folic acid makes it feel so much more real!

Hope everyone is staying sane during the wait. The weeks are passing mighty slowly. It's yet another reason for me to be excited for the winter season though
Xoxox

Hi everyone. Hope I can hop on

Age: 28
TTC: 1st time
Waiting until Jan 2019
Reason for waiting: Waiting until I've been in my new job long enough to qualify for full maternity pay (and also long enough that I feel like I vaguely know what I'm doing at work! Can only deal with one stress at a time lol). I have talked about it with my DH and he's basically on board but I don't think he realises that I'm pretty much counting down the periods until we can start!! We're using Natural Cycles at the moment and it's been really interesting (and reassuring) getting to know my cycle better, but it does mean I'm a little over obsessed with it...

Morning all
Had to pop in and calm myself down.
Have been going stir crazy thinking about ttc and getting there in the end and having our wee bundle.
Every night for the last week I've dreamt that I found out I was pregnant, pregnant in the whole dream and then last night was in Labour!
OH is happy to ttc whenever I am and it's getting oh so tempting to just go for it!
Head and heart going in different directions!

Just popping in to say hi waves. I have been awful at keeping up recently. Life just takes over!

Sending good luck to @Barker26. Do come back and let us know how things are going 

Welcome to @Frizzy1986 @lewk @hippybottomas @AlwaysaNortherner @Rachael321 and a big congratulations to @rollerskaterdata on the new house!

There are so many new faces I think I'll recap.

Age - 23 (24 in November), DP 26
TTC - #1
Waiting until - January 2019
Reason for waiting - I'm holding out for a big promotion which will be announced in December! Also waiting to be clear from any Zika risk.

Waiting is getting increasingly more difficult. DP is all ready to go and it's taking every inch of my self control to not give in. I know this is for the best though she says whilst googling prams in her lunch break.

I am a flaky NC user so we are relying on condoms and pulling out until we are ready to go for it. Been off contraception 9 months and feeling so much better for it.

Hi @dottydally. We are both waiting till Jan and both for work reasons, maybe we can keep each other sane until then!

We've also had a few 'oops' moments with NC and condoms. Mainly while drunk on holiday It wouldn't be the end of the world if I got pregnant now though so it works for us. Also feel SO much better for being off the pill! I've suffered with anxiety in the past and that seems to be much better now, I don't know if there's any medical evidence to back that up but it's definitely made a difference for me.

Last week I had a really vivid dream that my sister was pregnant! (She's not. As far as I know...)

@AlwaysaNortherner yes! Sometimes I think it's a silly reason to wait (I know there's more to life than work) but deep down I know it's right. It will mean our future child has the best life possible. I am also on period count down. If only DP knew how much of an obsession this had become!

I was an emotional mess on the pill but I didn't make the link until I came off. I had been on it since I was 14 so I just assumed it was my normal - I would cry at anything and became quite an anxious person. I think it's more common than I realised. I am a new woman these days!

Maybe she is! Someone joked that I was pregnant last week. I sat there, awkwardly. I know I'm not but their joke was made because I am maintaining a 'I hate kids' view with my friends/work so it was a completely ridiculous suggestion that I could be. Slightly concerned that it will mean they think it's an accident though...

@AlwaysaNortherner @dottydally
Work is also part of the reason we are waiting!
It feels like it gets harder to put it off every day!
We had been trying from last November and I found out I was pregnant in July and unfortunately i MC in August. So feels silly to wait to start again! But with me now hoping for a new (and better) job it makes sense to wait to get mat pay etc.

But in my head I can't help but think if we wait 6 months or so and then if it takes another 8 months to get there etc it's getting on for 2 years waiting which is heart breaking

@Rachael321 sorry to hear

I know it's hard but good mat pay means you get more time with baby, just remember that. I wouldn't be able to afford a year off if I only got statutory.

There's nothing to say it will take 8 months again lovely!

@dottydally yeah I know it makes sense, I'm just not exactly patient when I know what I want! It's the head and heart arguing with each other that's the problem

@Rachael321 so sorry to hear about your mc. It's really tough, it does seem silly to wait sometimes when you think it might take many months once we 'properly' start ttc. But hopefully that won't happen to you the next time around.

@dottydally I love your "I hate kids" cover up haha. Various people at work keep dropping hints about me, I should have gone for that attitude too!

waves Hi all! Brand new to the forum! Can I join?

Age: 27 Hubby: 30

TTC First time

Waiting til - end of January 2019

Reason for waiting: I will get better mat leave package when I’ve been at my job for 2 years (work anniversary in April). Also don’t want a September/October due date as loads of our family members have birthdays in these months already!

I wish we could start trying sooner as I am so broody! We met our 2 week old niece yesterday and she is soooo lovely!

It’s been interesting to read how some of you have come off contraception before officially TTC.

I have been on the pill a long time (over 8 years) and I’m curious to find out what my normal cycle actually is, but I don’t want to risk getting pregnant earlier and messing up our plan! I don’t think I’d be able to convince DH to use condoms either 🤔

I've noticed we've started getting pressure to have a baby from friends and family we've been married for 10 months now and that seams to be what is expected next! We are wanting the fact we have a plan in place to be between us and only us for now though! I was late this month by 5 days which was terrifying as that has never happened at all in 14 years but a huge relief when it came which now I'm feeling guilty about as it's only 6 weeks until we plan to start TTC and my only excuse is I want to ride rollercoasters I feel like this will be my last holiday to just be a 27 year old/big kid before properly settling down so I want to enjoy it but I also really want a baby! Has anyone else felt like this whilst WTC?

Age 27 DH 27
TTC 1st
Waiting till November so I can enjoy Orlando properly!