TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 25 BFPs for all!

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Another new thread! This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle- this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Kicking off with a roll call:

strawberrye
Age 27
TTC #1
MC#1 5-6 weeks January 2018
MC#2 5 weeks April 2018
TTC since October 2017
Cycle 5 TTC since most recent MC, cycle 11 TTC overall

Thanks for asking Boboelephant I'm feeling even worse actually. Had a fever in the night and have spent the day on the sofa asleep. I did get to leave work at 3 yesterday though.

Sorry not to respond to anyone else today, I've been reading your updates but I don't have the energy to write much just now.

CD34, no sign of AF but also don't feel pregnant, no cramps or anything. I think I might have to do a test though because I'm avoiding treating this cold properly in case and could do with dosing myself up.

I'm also taking coq10 which is supposed to help with egg quality (as I'm "older" side).

@InDreamland -TWW buddy - fx for you, I don't think we had enough action for this month.

Congrats on the new BFPs & fx for all

OH picked up some Clearblues on his way home.

I think it's negative, but there's a shadow of a line. Pretty sure it's just a notorious blue-dye test line though. Thoughts?

It didn't come up immediately but it was within the time.

@KnitKitty I can definitely see it. How many DPO? My line wasn't especially dark and I'm not sure CB ones get really dark. I think I prefer the "pregnant" "not pregnant" ones. Maybe test again in the morning.

No idea how many DPO I am to be honest. I'm on CD34. Last cycle was 35 days, previous cycles were 29 and 28 days.

I think I'll give it a couple more days to not get my hopes up. I know blue dye tests aren't as reliable.
AF might show up by then. I have no pregnancy symptoms. (Unless this stinking cold is one... actually don't remember when I last got ill like this). I'm going to have to be gentle on the cold remedies. Lemon and honey it is. I have caved a couple of times and had some paracetamol. I'm sure it won't harm if I am pregnant, but you get paranoid after loss, don't you?

@KnitKitty both times I’ve been pregnant I got a bad cold before a bfp - not sure if that was coincidental but I rarely get ill. Keep my fingers crossed for you!

@KnitKitty I think I see the line too-do you have a pink dye frer? Fingers crossed for you xxx

@KnitKitty I can see a shadow but fingers crossed FMU gives you a stronger, darker line

@knitkitty I see it too fx for you xx

@KnitKitty I can definitely see a faint line. Mine were like that with Dd1 and Dd2 I think because I tested a lot earlier as I was recognising the symptoms in myself much sooner, but with the Ds's they were much darker as I tested much later iyswim?
Fingers crossed it's a BFP for you xx

At least I know it's not just my eyes then. I'm really not counting my chickens though, so don't get excited for me yet. Will keep you posted in a couple of days.

Ooh lots to catch up on!
@KnitKitty fx for you hun! Will you do a FRER in the morning?! These tests are so expensive! Will need to get a bank loan between us all! I tend to use the amazon cheapies then a FRER to confirm if I see a squinter. They are all the same sensitivity at 6ml/u (or whatever the measurement is in) the majority are between 15 and 25 and it's not always clear until you open the test how sensitive it is! So I now avoid supermarket ones unless they state the ml/u sensitivity. The lower numbers are the best. 6 is the lowest they go.
@Mumma100 I take a few bits that claim to help with blood and egg quality EWCM etc... I take EPO up around time of OV then I take zinc, vitamin C, co-q (bloody expensive but meant to improve egg quality) folic, vitamin b complex. That's it, once a day 😊 (it's a lot huh)
So I'm not CD28 which is my normal cycle length. Didn't test today and waiting for AF. Boobs are sore (normal AF symptom) nothing but some brown spotting yesterday and day before so just waiting for her to kick in full flow 😳

kisses4u Oh that is a lot!!! I think I might by some ov kits this month and then if nothing more on to some other bits! X

Anyone recommend a good ovulation kit?

@Mumma100 I have started using the ClearBlur Digital Ovuktion kit, get a flashing smiley face in the lead up and then a solid one (although I didn’t get a solid one this month!) I like it as unlike lines you’re not second guessing whether it is or isn’t positive but I do use cheap ov line sticks in the lead up as I ovulate late I’ve discovered so they save me some money!

@KnitKitty ooh...... this is me not getting excited for you. And failing! I have everything crossed for you. I think the cold sounds like a big fat pregnancy symptom and I can see the line AND it was taken at night. I will keep my fingers and toes crossed for you. 🤞🤞🤞

Aww thanks Boboelephant but I'm really not expecting this to have a happy ending. I've been trying to work out if we could have DTD at the right time for this to make sense because we haven't been doing it a lot and I'm not sure...
Last DTD on CD26. Had period cramps and facial spots the next day. So possibly ovulation? But that would have made me 8DPO yesterday.

I went back to the test later and the line had got a lot clearer/darker so I think it's an evap.
So I think I haven't ovulated this month possibly. (Again).

Spoke to OH yesterday and he agrees I should start using OPKs next cycle (assuming I'm not preggo).
As a complete amateur I could do with you guys giving me a crash course. What are the best OPKs to use? When do you use them etc?

Feeling a lot better cold-wise but I've taken my inhaler more than 7 times in the last 12 hours and have a wheeze so off to the doctors this morning.

Thank you all ladies ❤️ sad to be back here but so glad I have all of your support! X

@KnitKitty I definitely see something! I would retest with a frer - fingers crossed!! 🤞

@Newbie21 massive congrats hun! Fingers crossed for a very sticky bean 🤞 also I wouldn’t worry about hcg levels, with Charlie I got 1-2 weeks at about 14dpo. & he was growing perfectly! (Totally unrelated to his condition) got everything crossed for you that this one sticks x

@xJune88 huge congrats! Totally understand how you’re feeling, pregnancy after loss is terrifying. But I’ve got everything crossed for you that this bean sticks 🤞

@knitknitty that definitely has colour. Ignore any changes to the line after the time frame. An evap is grey and only hcg changes the colour of the line. I know you don't want to get your hopes up but I would get yourself a digital and some firm answers. Some say that during implantation the immune system lowers and causes you to be susceptible to colds. At least find out either way so you can treat your cold. Keep an eye on that temp and do take paracetamol to lower it. Rest up.

@boboelephant fingers crossed for you! I'm in for another long one I think, cd19 and no positive opk. DH goes away at the weekend on a work trip so may have missed the boat this month.

Dh has met the nurse today to receive his fertility treatment- apparently she is an expert in male infertility so I'm so glad we switched to UCL. Hoping we will have more swimmers soon!

@DartmoorDoughnut thanks I did use them once before but I think I started late and wasn’t doing it right! Is there a particular time that’s best to start?

@knit-kitty my first pregnancy the time line completely didn’t make sense!! I new we had dtd a The very start and the very end of the month so it just didn’t make sense, but 9 months later my little son popped out! Pregnancy is a crazy thing and sometimes you just can’t undestand it so don’t rule yourself out yet. Keeping it crossed for you x

@Boboelephant I took your advice and booked an early private scan as epu flat out refused. Fingers crossed for you this month x

Thanks ladies.

I went to the doctors this morning because I've been having a very slow asthma attack since yesterday evening. I've also given myself the rest of the day off work. I got out of breath just walking to and from the car so don't think it would be a good idea rushing around today!

The doctor gave me steroids and a preventative inhaler (I'd stopped my other inhaler when I found out I was pregnant and haven't needed it until now). I told him that I wasn't sure if I was pregnant or not and had done an inconclusive pregnancy test yesterday so he offered me a blood test.

I won't get the results until Monday by which time AF may have arrived anyway, but it'll be good to have a confirmation.

I've taken my new inhaler which seems safe enough from what I've read, but I'm really not convinced about taking the steroid tablets. He said that it's what he would recommend even if I was definitely pregnant, but reading up online there are links to complications in pregnancy, especially if taken in the first 12 weeks. It does say on the leaflet with the tablets to let the doctor or pharmacist know if you are or planning to be pregnant. Do you think I'm right to avoid taking them if I can?
It also advises to take the tablets after breakfast to avoid it affecting sleep. So I may see how I go tonight and take it in the morning if I really can't cope.

Anyway, enough about me. Sorry I've been a bit self-centred recently!

@RedRobin7 Happy Birthday lovely lady! I hope you manage to enjoy it, even though I know you've been dreading it. Welcome to the 30 zone! (It's not that bad! honest!)

@MistyMeow are you cycles varying in length or just always longer? Where are you up to in your cycle at the moment? Thanks for your support. xxx

@xJune88 how are you doing? I don't think I congratulated you yet! It's a very nerve-wracking time, but I hope you're doing ok. Spotting and a bit of bleeding it quite common in early pregnancy.

@Taylorsej17 sorry everything is so up in the air for you. I don't think it's right that they haven't offered to do bloods. I think a lot depends on which doctor you see, some seem a lot more helpful than others, sadly. Hugs

@Pancakes7 that's a really great attitude to adopt. Try to keep those thoughts in your head, but don't worry when you have down days, sometimes you just need a good wallow before getting back on the positive wagon!

@Boboelephant how are you? Is the TTW driving you mad yet? How's the chart looking this time?

@Mumma100 so interesting about your timing with the pregnancy. Bodies really are mysterious, aren't they?!

Just wondering how some of the graduates are doing. Anyone heard anything from @Hidcat and @Jessabean?

@Lilimum4 I'm sad that your EPU refused an early scan, but glad you're getting one done privately anyway. When will it be? How are you feeling? xxx

@KnitKitty oh sorry your going through a hard time with your asthma, mines been kicking up lately and I’m wondering if it’s the changes in the wheather. I would say if you can manage it with just your preventer and your not wheezing or having worsening of your symptoms avoid the steroid one. Is your previous daily one not helping at all? Not sure what that one says about side effects in pregnancy though x

@KnitKitty I'm glad you got a blood test and that should hopefully help stop any desperate squinting! I have everything crossed for you for Monday! Opks wise i hope you dont need them but if you're a total amateur I'd start with the clear blue ones. You only take them once a day and you get a smiley face at go time. I use the ICs now which are cheap but you have to test multiple times a day and I think they can be confusing if you're starting out. Unlike hpts the second line has to be as dark or darker, and often the line gets darker then lighter and then bang. CBs are very clear. As for the steroids I don't know personally but know people who have been put on them to help the pregnancy stick so should be ok? @zarala?
And thankyou! I'm ok. Chart looks great tbh but I know at this stage that doesn't mean anything. I haven't googled anything yet and am being alot less obsessive so far. This may change next week but I'm trying it for now!!
@Mistymeow oh that's frustrating. How long is he away for? If just the weekend you could still be in Monday? Great news he's gotten a specialist though 🤞🤞
@Lilimum4 I'm glad to hear it. I think it's totally worth it if it gives you some peace of mind. I know once I maange to fall I'll have at least 3 before the 12 weeks one! When are you going for it?