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TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

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Miami81 · 14/08/2018 08:50

Hi all. Sorry I hadn't realised other thread was full.
Have tagged who I can remember.
Please add people in.
@AnneLovesGilbert @Labmum @Hopefulforourrainbow @zarala

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Hopefulforourrainbow · 14/11/2018 14:56

Hi how's everyone doing? How are you feeling about tomorrow @CurlyTwirlyTwos? What time is your scan? Mine is 11.15. Feeling quite nervous about it though just want to know now. I felt horrendous earlier today. So tired, nauseous. Like I had a really bad hangover!

CurlyTwirlyTwos · 14/11/2018 18:36

Hey @hopefulforarainbow – I’ve that hangover feeling for a while now, but being nauseous is a good sign! I’ve been eating so much crap (mainly processed white carbs) I feel rubbish, I don’t know if it’s the crap food or the pregnancy!

I’ve had the strangest day today. Last week I got a text from the hospital to confirm an appointment for this afternoon which I confirmed. I assumed it was for DD as she is the process of removing adenoids. So today myself and DH booked time off work to attend, we turned up at ENT only to be told we don’t have an appointment. It turns out it was for me, my first RMC consultation! We legged it over to gyne and unexpectedly met my rmc consultant.

I’ve had NO letter or referral confirmation in the post, I’d assumed it was lost!

The consultant was lovely, and wasn't annoyed I was pregnant again. As he expected a much longer appointment he was happy to chat in in detail about my EPAU notes. He guesses (without testing me) that I fall into a category of women who have a very receptive womb lining which will accept any old egg in any old condition. Most eggs each month he pointed out are rubbish and shouldn’t be implanted (then gave IVF stats). Where most women will reject the egg or not implant at all, my body holds onto it longer than ‘normal’. He says it’s very unusual to have become pregnant so many times in 12 months – but he sees it occasionally and quoted a few studies (more for DH’s benefit, as he has a medical background). I was on the pill for decades until I conceived DD on the 1st go, and back on pill - pretty quickly after bf, so I haven't really experienced the process of ttcing until this year.

I’d semi-guessed this diagnosis myself through my own googling and by the bbc article I posted last week, but you never know! He doesn’t think it’s my age (which was my concern) and that at 35 I shouldn’t worry. He says it’s normally 40+ when it gets much more difficult to conceive.

He then gave me a scan and to find everything well - and he thinks it’s a perfectly normal pregnancy! He discharged me from his clinic and is happy for me to under normal antenatal care without any extra monitoring/folic acid/aspirin etc. DH reckons he was happy because he didn’t have to deal with new case!

The scan confirmed that I’m over 8 weeks from the measurements (should 7+3) and that the odds are in my favour! Consultant reckons it would very unusual to miscarry from this point.

It is a huge relief to hear this from a specialist, and yes – I’m still in the first trimester but things look ‘normal’. I’m feeling excited for the first time since this whole ttcing process started last Dec!

I’ve cancelled tomorrows private scan, as I don’t feel there is a need to go twice in 2 days. I’ll lose my deposit but still save £60 which is better than nothing. I’m feeling very calm yet positive.

I’ll be thinking of you (with all my heart) at 11.15 tomorrow hopeful I really think from your symptoms you will be fine. Please check in and let us know.

An unexpected but very good day, I feel emotionally exhausted!

Hopefulforourrainbow · 14/11/2018 19:27

Wow that is amazing news @CurlyTwirlyTwos. I'm so happy for you! Your consultant sounds lovely too. Thank you. I'll let you know how it goes! I'm so nervous but keep trying to tell myself it'll be ok.

norbert23 · 14/11/2018 19:41

Amazing news @CurlyTwirlyTwos! Smile
good luck tomorrow @Hopefulforourrainbow hopefully it will be more lovely news xxx

Laney79 · 14/11/2018 20:02

Great news @CurlyTwirlyTwos so pleased!

Keeping everything crossed for you @Hopefulforourrainbow xxx

Hopefulforourrainbow · 14/11/2018 20:30

Thank you xxx

Rivera1985 · 14/11/2018 20:36

Hi all I'm new here.
First off congrats to those whom are pregnant and good luck to those ttc

I've been trying for a little over 5 years. Had a miscarriage June 2017 at 16 weeks. Worst feeling in the world. Been ttc since. No luck yet.
AF is due on the 20th. With my first before the mc, I had no symptoms whatsoever except for a missed period. All i can do each month is pray..
Any advice you ladies can offer?
I do have endometriosis and was told that if I were to get pregnant, I'm to take baby aspirin?

Hopefulforourrainbow · 15/11/2018 08:29

Hi @Rivera1985. Sorry you've found yourself here and welcome. Have you been seen by a fertility clinic? I'm not sure what to advise for endometriosis. Maybe one of the others can help. A lot of us are on aspirin and there's no harm in giving it a go. Good luck and I hope you get the answers you're looking for xx

Hopefulforourrainbow · 15/11/2018 09:22

@Rivera1985 you could look in to this

www.luisazissman.co.uk/?p=647

Hopefulforourrainbow · 15/11/2018 14:17

Good news for us too! Very wriggly baby in there measuring at exactly 10 weeks! I still can't believe it xx

Rivera1985 · 15/11/2018 14:24

@Hopefulforourrainbow thank you!
I havent been to a fertility clinic in a few years. In a way I felt that if and when the times right, it'll happen. I was originally told by 2 fertility doctors that I'm not able to conceive so when I got pregnant last year I was shocked and surprised. Unfortunately I had the MC and that took an emotional toll on me but have since been trying.
I had surgery for my endometriosis about 5 years.
I know the doctor said it does come back. I don't think I'm pregnant but I've had a few symptoms. Though it could just be AF.

CurlyTwirlyTwos · 15/11/2018 14:39

Any news @hopefulforarainbow?

I’ve been thinking of you, post when you are ready xxx

Hopefulforourrainbow · 15/11/2018 14:43

Must have posted at same time @CurlyTwirlyTwos. Good news for us too!

Laney79 · 15/11/2018 15:43

Fantastic @Hopefulforourrainbow so pleased! Xxx

CurlyTwirlyTwos · 15/11/2018 16:36

Ahhhhh ..... @hopefulforarainbow! I’m so so pleased!!!!! I kept glancing at the clock all morning! It’s so nerve wrecking isn’t it? Even for others in the same position!

So happy for you, congratulations! Wow! 10 weeks!!

Lauraliverpool · 15/11/2018 17:36

@Hopeful wonderful news!! 😘

norbert23 · 15/11/2018 18:16

@Hopefulforourrainbow that's brilliant news, so exciting! X

SerenaOverjoyed · 15/11/2018 18:30

hopefulforarainbow Amazing news!Flowers

CurlyTwirlyTwos what a pleasant suprise for you. It must be funny to think the problem has been having a womb that works a bit too well!

Riveria1985 I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how hard it must have been to lose your little one at 16wks. Fingers crossed your symptoms turn into some lovely news for you

So my EPU do reassurance scans from 5wks 6d but only if you walk-in. They suggested because of my 'history' (hideous phrase!) I come in for bloods to check hcg levels, but I feel a bit reluctant to take 2 or 3 mornings off work for the sake of discretion. Maybe I'm being a bit short sighted?

If I'm still pregnant on Monday I'll start campaigning for the antenatal clinic to give me an early scan. Pushing services doesn't come naturally to me but I must try!

Can I ask what your views are on sex and exercise? I think a bit of gym time would clear my head but I don't want to risk it. I also feel very cagey about sex, bit it's possible I'm not so rational on this one. So far poor dh has quietly accepted his temporary celibacyHmm

Hopefulforourrainbow · 15/11/2018 18:34

We haven't had sex since bfp. I'm still not keen on the idea to be honest. Will wait til after 12 weeks I think. I'm terrified of bleeding!

Rivera1985 · 15/11/2018 18:52

@ SerenaOverjoyed thank you. I'm trying to stay positive for this month.

@ Hopefulforourrainbow congrats!!

CurlyTwirlyTwos · 15/11/2018 19:23

Definitely do exercise if you are up for it @SerenaOverjoyed - it’s the only ‘me time’ I have! It’s better to be yourself as much as possible, not exercising will make you feel bleugh (if that’s what you are used to). It honestly doesn’t affect pregnancy - keep it low impact like swimming or Zumba which is what I’m doing atm (which I drag myself to - mainly because I’m knackered).

As for sex - DEFINITELY too tired for that, ha ha ha! We’ve only done it a couple of times since bfp. I’m starting to miss it though.

I’ve only bled once after sex during early preg which led to mc - but I honestly think it was going to happen anyway. I think its best to try and be as ‘normal’ as you can.

My own coping mechanism each time I pregnant was to ‘pretend’ everything is normal - then read this thread for support.

As for me, I’ve arranged my booking appointment today (it’s not for another two weeks) and they’ve also organised my 12 week scan in a months time. I might buckle and get a scan before hand but I’ll try not to. I’m pretty sure this will be my last pregnancy, so I’m going to try and enjoy it - especially after the process of getting here.

I really hope this is the one - it’s the furthest I’ve been since DD over 4 years ago!

It does seems appropriate to sign off the thread for a while, but I’ll keep lurk in the background for a bit and chip in if there’s anything I can offer to help!

(I’m sure you won’t miss my essays - I always write so much)!

Hopefulforourrainbow · 15/11/2018 19:50

There's another thread called fresh start for pregnancy after loss @CurlyTwirlyTwos. A lot of the ladies from here are on it

CurlyTwirlyTwos · 16/11/2018 08:12

Are you going to join it @hopefulforarainbow? I feel I have to hunker down until I get that 12 week scan (or 20, or 36)!

I feel very nervous and anxious sometimes, and absolutely/confident fine at other times.

It’s like everything is out of my hands again, all I can do is take prenatal vitamin tablets and my body do it’s thing (and pray it does)!

It’s a seesaw of emotions!

SerenaOverjoyed · 16/11/2018 08:25

I'm having a bit of a line progression freak out this morning. On Monday I tested with a FRER and a cb digital. I had a good line on the FRER. This morning I tested with a superdrug test (25 sensitivity), and while the line is definitely there it's not as bold as I was expecting 4 days after a positive test. I've convinced myself that this is failed pregnancy #5.

I wish I hadn't taken that test. If I can beat today this would have been the furthest along I've been. Sad

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