TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

[Miami81]

Hi all. Sorry I hadn't realised other thread was full.
Have tagged who I can remember.
Please add people in.
@AnneLovesGilbert @Labmum @Hopefulforourrainbow @zarala

Oh bean what conflicting advice. So glad the bleeding has stopped. We're all thinking of you and keeping things crossed that everything is okay 💐 xx

@beanhunter you poor love.
So my consultant advice was also to stop aspirin if there was bleeding. Especially as early as you are, she was going to start it back up again once bleeding had settled. This was based on advice she has received from prof Lesley regan who is the queen of RMC as far as I can see.
I know you will just want to get home and see what is going on. Staying positive for you.

I was also told to stop aspirin when bleeding in first trimester. Several of us on the pregnancy thread have had bleeds early on- I had bleeding and spotting from 5+4 to 10 weeks. Kirinm had several very big bleeds and is now almost due. It’s not always bad news. Fingers crossed for you.

Thank you both. It’s hard to believe it might not be bad. My sore boobs have completely disappeared.

Glad they got back to you quickly @beanhunter, having an email contact is a good idea. How do you feel about the advice? Glad it's stopped for now. You poor thing, awful being away from home with this going on never mind the other side of the world. Hope DH is looking after you.

What's happening with you today @Paranormalbouquet? Did your consultant get back to you? Are you still on aspirin? Hope you're not too worried. Sending sturdy healing thoughts to your cervix

It's been pouring all day here, I'm over the moon. Even saw some tiny blades of green grass on the way to work.

She did call me back- said if it’s stopped now just to keep and eye on it but if it starts again straight in as they need to check it’s not placental bleeding. I’ve been off aspirin since around 7 weeks as had constant bleeding on it. And obviously was having surgery so they didn’t want my cervix to be too friable for that. Had some clexane after surgery for a few weeks but am now drug free! I’m soaked after walking between buildings but also pleased to see rain! How long until your next scan now Anne?

@annelivesgilbert. I trust my rmc consultant. I just wish there was a way of knowing because if it’s over i need to know.

Drug free, you lucky thing Para

Grateful as I obviously am for access to loads of free drugs and a consultant who dishes them out like sweets, he told me I'd be on cyclogest to 20 weeks now and fragmin and aspirin to term. Yeesh.

That's good she got back to you. How have you kept your sanity with all the bleeding you've had? I nearly lost it completely with mine and it wasn't even that heavy and I had no pain. How do you maintain your zen?

It's Thursday next week. I woke up this morning realising I'm starting to get attached to the idea of being pregnant and it feels like such a risk. 10 weeks tomorrow and still such a way to go, though thankfully interspersed with milestones that we'll hopefully be able to pass this time. How have you handled that? Any wisdom gratefully received

Of course you do @beanhunter, it's the uncertainty that's the absolute head fuck. Apart from change in boob pain, do you have any other symptoms? I didn't get sore boobs till about 7 weeks this time I don't think and it's come and gone. Have you had any nausea or anything else?

Oh I’ve been a ball of anxiety to be honest. Constantly wound up and stressed all the time. It’s always horrible seeing blood. I’m trying to accept that I just have a sensitive cervix which will bleed at slightest provocation.

Bean the waiting is the worst part, I hope it passes as quickly as it possibly can for you.

@AnneLovesGilbert all the stats that I read with dd were that if you made it to 9wks and measuring well with good heartbeat it is almost as good as 12 wks in terms of odds. I found it quite comforting. I hope you do too (although I am aware with my history that may not be super helpful). Although the thing to remember with that is that they think the aspirin got her to 27 wks and that hopefully the addition of lmwh will sort out the random placental failure that we had.
I will be on cyclogest to around 20 wks too, and aspirin and 5mg folic and the lmwh to the end as well (or close to the end).
@Paranormalbouquet hopefully things settle down again for you now. It's such a rollercoaster. I'm assuming your next big milestone is 24wks? I am sure it will feel great to get there (and obviously miles further) but just to be there soon will hopefully help your anxiety.

I think Miami is right re scan at 9 weeks bring as good as 12 in terms of prognosis. I’m just anxious because of the anatomical issues now. My consultant is great though, I do feel that she’s doing her best now.

Keep had her baby girl. Which is great to see after everything she’s been through. Gives us all hope!

You both talk absolute sense. I remember last time feeling so buoyed up by a good scan at 8+6 and then finding out at 10+6 we'd lost it the day after and it's plaguing me... Just emailed by midwife referral and wishing I could have left it a while. Oh well.

Do they think the aspirin helped the placenta as far as it could do you mean @Miami81? Hopefully we can continue to sympathise on many more weeks of suppositories I currently feel fat and tired, but when consultant was asking about side effects I did say by getting pregnant I'd realised both were possible! Ha ha.

I paid for a year of the FF app and snuck a look at the weekly facts on there last night. It said a lot of issues which cause mcs can be ruled out after 10 weeks. But because of last time, as of this morning I don't completely believe I'll be 10 weeks tomorrow, if that makes any sense. I know we're very very lucky to have another scan lined up for next week.

So glad people have great support from their medical folk, god it makes a difference. Mine is amazing but a miserable bugger in terms of any optimism. I keep saying I need manageable milestones as 40 weeks is too fucking long and he's insistent he won't relax till a baby is born. While I appreciate that on a level, as he's not going to abandon us at any point, my mental state needs to chunk it up a bit. He said I could feel a bit more relaxed in a week. Though from what I've read there's sod all difference at 11 weeks, other than every day is a good thing.

Holding onto having seen, for the first time, a teeny tiny baby in my belly kicking its feet That's enough for now.

What wonderful news @Paranormalbouquet, thank you. I'll pop over and say congrats!

Glad to hear the bleeding has stopped @bean. Must be horrible for you being away from home. Hopefully won't be anything to worry about.
Sorry to be a pest, my post seemed to get lost. Anyone tried those vitamins? Or any other recommendations to bring ovulation forward?

@hopeful the B6 definitely brought my ovulation forward so might help bring it forward a bit so that FW is while you're away? Worth a try at least. I took 50mg/day. Can't advise on the others though I'm afraid.

Oh sorry @Hopefulforourrainbow, haven’t ever tried those so can’t help love. I take a veggie gross tasting prenatal/pregnancy vitamin. You’re giving it a rest for a month or so so I reckon give it a go for a cycle if they’re not too pricey and you want to try them and see if they change when you ovulate. Apart from the vitamin they leave out of pregnancy vits (A? K?) they’re not harmful and you’ll wee out anything you don’t need. Sorry can’t help.

Thanks ladies

What’s proceive? Is it a supplement?

Hey @Hopefulforourrainbow I took vitex a couple of times. Feel I got a really strong ovulation with them.
But you stop taking them once ovulation is confirmed.

When I took vitex befor I stopped taking it when I got bfp. As did a friend and she's almost 30 weeks now. Proceive is a supplement Holland and Barratt sell

Good morning ladies. Hope you're all well. I gave in and have been using digital opks for past few days. Woke this morning to lots of ewcm (sorry for tmi) and a solid smiley face on opk. Feeling much better after feeling so anxious earlier in week. Vitamin b6 ordered. Think I'm going to skip the vitex and just take the b6. Do I start taking it when it arrives or wait til CD1?

I started on CD1 but I don't think it really matters.

Glad OV has arrived @hopeful.

TMI away @Hopefulforourrainbow really good news How long till holiday now? I've never been to Mexico but everyone I know who has adored it. Hope you have an amazing time.

How's everyone?

Hope you're okay bean

When's your next scan Miami?

We go 2 weeks tomorrow! So excited!

@AnneLovesGilbert and anyone else on the cyclogest up the bum route. This is way TMI but I put mine in at around 8am, have had quite an upset tummy and just been to the loo. I'm wondering should I put more cyclogest in? It's really only been there for 2 hours.........
Next scan is on Tuesday. Shitting it.

I googled it the other day! Didn't have an upset tummy but did my usual up, pills, jab, wee, bum pills then 45 mins later nature called! Loads of white stuff came but it always does so I panicked and apparently it absorbs in about 20/30 mins. I wouldn't worry and do more, I think 2 hours is plenty.

I'm now bum in the morning and fanjo at night as up the latter he said you have to lie down for an hour or two before getting up and I'm not waking up any earlier than I have to for the pred.

Tuesday's not long! It's nearly the weekend, keep busy if you can and then you only have to get through Monday. Got any weekend plans?

Amazing hopeful! I have a week in Norfolk to look forward to so I'm well jel

You must feel relieved about ovulating, are you specifically not trying this time though?