Hi everyone, mind if I join in here? I'm 26, been married to my wife (28) for a little over a year, together for five. We've talked about a family and kids a lot, but as it's a same sex relationship things are a little different when we are considering TTC/TTA. My wife told me on our anniversary she was ready to start thinking about a family, but whether we go for pregnancy or adoption I really need to lose some weight and improve my health first.
My ideal scenario would be to have one pregnancy, with me carrying, as soon as possible, as I have a number of medical issues which would make pregnancy harder and will possibly reduce the likelihood of conceiving. I have a nerve condition, along with fibro, and depression, so my medication would need to be reviewed and some stopped while pregnant, which would be very difficult. We would then adopt our remaining children. I know my wife would be happy to adopt all our children and logically I am too, but I can't stop dreaming of being pregnant and having our baby. So we are waiting while we decide what the best options are going to be for our family.
The other issue I have is that my periods have been severely messed up for the last three years. I've been bleeding for 60-90 days at a time, off for 5-14 days, then starting again. They've run all the blood tests and scans and can't find a cause, they've recently finally agreed to put me on norethisterone which has stopped the bleeding, so I'm currently enjoying not having a period for longer than two weeks at a time. The doctor wanted to put in a coil but I refused, as I don't want anything long term.
I know that our situation is a little different to most of you, but it's the wait that is killing me at the moment. So many friends and family are announcing pregnancies and I just want that to be us so badly. I'm hoping talking about it here will help me cope with the wait and the uncertainty.