(Still) Waiting to TTC... Part 2!

[cupcakesandglitter]

@randomuntrainedcuntowner @rapunzel91 @summerbab @AssumeItWasSomethingClever @dottydally @NoseringGirl @Jelliestogether

Hello again! Hopefully I've remembered everyone - apologies if I haven't, get tagging!

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone! I would be ready to go whenever but of course the boyfriend has to be the sensible one😴 and has said we need to have money saved/one of us can drive before we have a little one.

We were meant to spend this year saving but life comes at you so fast! I have no idea where this year has gone!! So we've pulled our fingers out and started saving and should be able to drive within the next month or two!

Good luck @Jxtina86 fingers crossed for you!

Woooooooo pasta and jxtina! (Probably first and last time you'll be so happy to have a period )

pink that's annoying about having to lose the weight first. I can kind of understand that it's good to have an ideal weight before getting pregnant, but I feel like gps often use "lose the weight first" as a way of delaying And side stepping. Do get a slow cooker. I LOVE my Tefal one (don't think they make its exact make any more). Actually, I have two because it's better for dinner parties - I'd get stuff prepped in the morning and the next leave it on when I was at work or out with DD. I've left it on overnight before with big portions of stew, the low setting can take 12 hours for some things. The ones with in built timers seem to be a step up in price, but I have some plug in wall timers that I got in the pound shop, simply set up slow cooker as you'll want it, then plug into wall timer so it'll switch on at the right moment.

Someone asked how old my DD is - she'll be two in September. She suddenly so much more independent (most of the time anyway). I miss my little snuggly baby! I must be mad.... I do enjoy having my hands free, I found newborn stage incredibly hard.

Hi there notabump . Saving first is alas quite a good idea. Little tiny babies are very cheap, but childcare is an absolute killer! If you're not in London, driving is a good idea - there are loads of baby things you can do if you can drive to get them, I found them a complete godsend because you could get out of the house B and see people who wouldn't judge you for your crumpled, exhausted state!

Good new that AF has arrived for both of you - @PastaSauceHoarder and @Jxtina86.

Yes @crazychemist I feel just totally useless-
I feel like I'm just being left aside and blamed- worried that I will never be able to shift the weight - it's not going well :(
We have thought about adoption but again I think there is a long wait and not sure we would be eligible yet anyhow.

Ah that's a great idea with the timer- think I will get a normal cheapy one and see how it goes!

@Pinkroseuk I think GPs always pin the blame on weight - I've had two health issues since I was a teenager and very slim and yet both times GPs have told me I need to lose weight as that's what's causing it... even though it started before I got fat 😂

I'm going to do a workout today I think 💪🏽 but don't put too much pressure on yourself Pink, you need to look after yourself too x

@cupcakesandglitter that sounds familiar!
Yes I'm trying not to- I love Christmas - the plans start in our house in September so I know if I have to wait another 6 months it will go quicker than it has over the summer but still it feels disappointing-
I am going to continue the cross training tonight - DH has made me a sticker chart (I feel about 2) but hoping some bribery if I stick to my plan, with a nice shopping trip or something at the end of each week will help :)
The person I work with has just eaten 4 chocolate bars and 2 bags crisps for lunch so I'm feeling healthy with my salad and chicken wrap and fruit :)

@Pinkroseuk I'd definitely be persuaded if I got a shopping trip every weekend 😂😂 your lunch sounds lovely!

@pink have you looked at joe wicks the body coach for recipes and exercises? Please feel free to tell me to do one but I follow him on social media and he seems to have amazing results and he's all about hiit training rather than hours at the gym! We have his books and his recipes are super yummy too!
Sounds like your pretty motivated though! A sticker chart would definitely help me too! Haha. Working on the house will definitely make time go quicker!!

@notabump same here with the OH being the sensible one....why does he had to choose now!! Haha. For me it's only til Christmas ish!

Yay @pasta and @jxtina glad it finally showed for you both!!

Mm @Jelliestogether Joe Wicks I love HIIT but I really am itching to get back to the gym and use weights, but I'm so not comfortable with it anymore 😩

I've got undressed and me and DH both looked at my boobs - they're still really sore but the veins on them are HUGE, and I also have more veins across my chest too. I'm sure my nipples look more deep in colour too... I'm only CD15 though so I doubt it means anything. So hard to not symptom spot, I'm already going crazy 😩 xx

Don’t want to get your hopes up, but veiny boobs was my first symptom with DS... DH made a comment about them and I thought he was winding me up (he was relaxed —ignorant— and I was the obsessive and over-educated on all matters TTC 😂 so knew it was a possible symptom)!

@Goostacean that's exactly how I feel!! Usually DH just tells me to calm down because he knows how obsessive worried I can be about it... but this time he's agreeing! But then I'm also sceptical because we've started TTC this month because he couldn't wait, and he wants a baby just as badly. GAH THIS IS SO DIFFICULT!! X

(CD15 would be very early though! Like I say, please don’t get your hopes up based on my comment!)

I don’t remember when mine happened, unhelpfully... Just checked my WhatsApp history for a mention, and apparently I felt nauseous from CD 17, although I didn’t actually remember that.

@cupcakesandglitter how exciting, fingers crossed for you!!!
Darker nipples is definitely a pregnancy symptom, although I have no idea how early it starts x

@cupcakesandglitter hey cycle twin! Sounds promising, fx this is your month! Also CD15 here, think I ovulated yesterday. DTD the last 4 days in a row and 5 days overall in my FW. Can't remember the last time we had this much sex, we're both exhausted! Worried I've overdone it, or somehow still not done enough, I'm going crazy and my tww has only just begun. TMI alert, I'm scared to even strain too hard on the loo (constipation being a classic Ov symptom for me) for fear it'll somehow push sperm out or affect fertilisation and implantation. I've lost it I know

@RandomUsernameHere its torture knowing that it is a symptom but probably not this early 😭

@Goostacean probably far too early for me then, unless I've ovulated super early this month!

@rollerskaterdata Yes!! TWW for us then 😩 haha honestly it drives us crazy right? I feel you - we haven't had this much sex in so long, but then I think are we doing it too much? But what if the days we didn't have sex was our chance? Did I go to the loo too quickly? TORTURE!! X

@Jelliestogether no I haven't - I have heard of him but not really looked into it but I shall
Now.
Think I might start taking the pills to force AF this weekend and see what happens- DH is away for a couple of days in a few weeks so need to time it properly!
We have been dtd most nights for the last few months just in case and it is exhausting!! Good exercise though so DH tells me or whether he just makes that up I'm not sure! Xx

Another random question but have any of you ever had issues with MIL? DH and I have always had problems but it's getting worse and not sure what to say to her? I have started another thread but thought I would just ask quickly on here if you don't mind?

@Pinkroseuk what issues are you having? I'm gonna read your other thread now x

Thanks @cupcakesandglitter - to make it brief keeps stalking me on Facebook then telling DH - there Short on money - we're not so we buy things (not masses but normal level of spending) where as she prefers to go without - she's not doing Christmas this year - that's fine - but she keeps calling DH at work to complain about me so something needs to be said!! Xx

@Pinkroseuk I've commented on your other thread - get your DH to put his foot down! 1. You don't need this stress on top of everything else 2. You need his support right now 3. When you have your baby it will get 10000000x worse.

I knew a MIL who basically forced her DIL to not breastfeed, so that she could bottle feed the baby, and they eventually kicked her out and tried to keep the son!! The MIL was involved with EVERYTHING and always had an opinion on things that weren't any of her business

Thanks @cupcakesandglitter.
I'm going to have another word with him later- I know it will get worse when we have kids- and I would not be prepared to leave them with the inlaws!

On no that's awful- yes we need to set some ground rules now rather than later!
They have just been on 3 holidays to Devon - stayed in this hotel for £30 a night - it had no lock on the room, bathroom was filthy, shared kitchen unusable, bedding had to take own as there's was awful- she had to spend 3 hours cleaning each time they got there (her standards are not high - she doesn't own a hoover or broom!) and she can't see why we stay in places like premier inn where there more reliable! It's just been one thing after another like this so it's got to end!
Will see what he has to say tonight and try and talk to her! Thanks x

@Pinkroseuk oh god that sounds disgusting 🤢 good luck! Xx

Yeah it really does- don't know how it gets through inspection! Thanks! Xx

I think you ladies will be amused by this: I started a separate thread for advice on getting past my current broodiness, and ended up with people just telling me to go for it and have #2! 😂 So much for logic and rationality...

@Goostacean 😂😂 I must admit, it's not helpful but honestly I don't think there's any way of dealing with it 😩 xx