(Still) Waiting to TTC... Part 2!

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@randomuntrainedcuntowner @rapunzel91 @summerbab @AssumeItWasSomethingClever @dottydally @NoseringGirl @Jelliestogether

Hello again! Hopefully I've remembered everyone - apologies if I haven't, get tagging!

@dotty, well I bit the bullet and did the figures and turns out we can afford an extra 3 months of mat leave on SMP pay, I'm thrilled! Thanks for posing the Q which gave me the kick up the backside to double check! Now I can have around 10 months off which is ace, I had that long with my son and almost felt like I'd be robbing DC2 if I didn't have the same amount of time off iyswim?

@cupcakes, I think that's why we're so relaxed about it. The longer it takes the more we can save so October is pretty perfect to be honest. We said as long as we're in before Christmas we'd be happy (and we'd beat the deadline for applying for DS1's school place in January). And I get what you mean, August/September are literally around the corner but because they're so close time is dragging by! I've been clock watching the past few days and feel it's been going really slowly . And yep, flavoured latex in your mouth is still latex and still gross...nuff said!

@springsummerautumnwinter there weren't any twins in my family until I had them! Finding out was literally the biggest shock, I had absolutely no reason to expect I was having them!

Oh god, flavoured condoms are vile - they smell sickly sweet, then they're mixed with the scent of bodily juices... Blurgh. 😂😂

Oh fab @rollerskaterdata, 10 months maternity leave would be great. I had nine months with my daughter but I wish I'd had longer (or not gone back at all! 😭)
I hope all the house stuff goes as quickly as possible for you!

I actually had two wedding dresses, @dollydally. 😳 One I bought before getting pregnant and then one after, though in the end it was my maternity dress that I loved the most. Technically my first dress was a white ballerina prom dress, so I'm keeping it for when my little sister leaves school if she wants it.
Being a pregnant bride was actually magical. Our little girls name was mentioned during the ceremony and multiple times during the speeches so it felt like she was really a part of it. I can't wait to show her the video when shes older.
Wow sounds like an intense job! It seems like you enjoy it though which is great. Is it a career you'd like to always be in? I love my job, I absolutely adore children (they're between the ages of 4-11) and I only work three hours a weekday so it means I have loads of time at home with my baby.
I'm a little bit apprehensive about her becoming a big sister because shes such a mummys girl, but I'm sure she'll be amazing. I want to buy her her own baby doll when I eventually do fall pregnant again so that she can practice.
I'm jealous of your spreadsheets! Wish I was as organised. 😂

@PastaSauceHoarder everyone knows that scent 😂😂 so vile

Your wedding sounds like it was magical, and I'm sure your DD will love being an older sister x

@rollerskaterdata yay I'm so happy for you!! Hugs 9 months is a massive leap when you were only expecting 6! It makes sense to want to give DC2 the same as your son. I'm sure I've asked before, but how do you think he'd get on with a baby?

It sounds very much like our house, which was bought with a family in mind! We are all here counting down the days with you.

@cupcakesandglitter when do you think you might move on? Or is it just as you find your forever house? Maybe squirrel the money away for the future then! Would you buy your in laws house if they moved?

@RandomUsernameHere be honest, how difficult were twins?

@PastaSauceHoarder is it outing to ask what your maternity wedding dress looked like? Only because I'm bridesmaid next year and the dress style would be like a tent on me if I was pregnant (it lends itself to tall/slim).

When does your little sister leave school? I bet she'll love it as a prom dress.

I love my job about 95% of the time, some days are just a bit stressful! If I'm honest I kind of fell into it as it requires lots of skills that I'm good at. 100% best decision I've ever made though! I imagine I'll stay in it for my whole career, unless I win the lottery of course!

That sounds like a brilliant balance! Have you always worked with children?

She will love helping! She can look after dolly while you look after baby

@dottydally I'd like to hope 10 years at the most... it's plenty of space for a family but it's just not me I think, I'm far too impatient. I'd definitely buy their house but I don't think they'd ever downsize unfortunately... doesn't mean I can't move onto their estate though 😂

@dottydally the first month or so was incredibly hard work, especially as I was BFing. I was barely getting any sleep, literally. They were feeding every 3 hours, so by the time I'd fed, changed them (and was also expressing to begin with as they both had tongue ties) it was almost time to start the next feed again.

They both slept through from quite young though, so things got easier very quickly. As they get older it's a lot easier having two the same age. Especially things like days out, as they're able to do and enjoy the same things at the same time.

Just catching up on the last week or so posts so thought I would drop in and say hi :) lovely to catch up with everyone's news :)

They sound lovely @RandomUsernameHere, how old are your children now?

Thank you, @cupcakesandglitter! Are you very close to your in laws? There were a few potential houses near my mother-in-law which would've been nice, but we went with something else in the end.

Not at all @dottydally, I'm not too worried about being outed anyway, I'm not that much of an interesting person. 😂 But my dress was definitely NOT tall and slim, as I am only short and stumpy! My dress came to around my knees, had long sleeves and lots of sequins all over the top half. The flowy skirt started just under the breast bit so I had lots of room for my little bum. Bit of a shit description I'm afraid, perhaps I could dig out an old photo. 😳
My sister will just be starting year 8 in September so she has a little while to go yet. I hope she'll like it as theres no chance I'd ever get back into it!

Ah its great that you enjoy your job so much. For some reason I'm imagining you as some kind of high-powered business lady! I actually left school and got two apprenticeships in administration but hated it, though I stuck to it until I got them done. Then I went to college to retrain and voila! I never not want to be working with children now. I'm hoping I can maybe look into becoming a childminder in the distant future.

And hello, @Pinkroseuk!

@PastaSauceHoarder sounds like a beautiful dress, I'm sure your sister will love it.

My DCs are 4, starting Reception in September, I can't believe how fast time is going!

@dotty, I think he'd love a little baby sister or brother! He asks for one occasionally and is so loving and caring anyway I think he'd be a wonderful big brother! I can't wait to see them together already!

And thanks @dotty and @Pasta, it's so wonderful to have everyone on here to talk to! I hope you all don't mind me sticking around even though I'll be on my first cycle TTC by weeks end? I'd love to see how everyone is getting on!

@cupcakes, I know what you mean, we've planned to stay in our new house for 5-10 years before upsizing to our forever home, but it's weird to even think that when we've not even moved in to the first one yet!

Pinkrose, hi! waves* how are you getting on?

Not sure what all those stars are doing in my last post lol!

@PastaSauceHoarder literally a five minute drive 😂😂 we're in the same area, just a different sub-are/estate if that makes sense?

Hi @Pinkroseuk!!

@rollerskaterdata I'm so glad it's not only me 😭😭 whenever I mention it, people think I'm expecting too much etc but I don't think there's anything wrong with having a plan!!

Please do stick around, @rollerskaterdata! It'll be lovely to know how your getting on and hopefully hear about your BFP really soon!

Thank you @RandomUsernameHere, I did love my dress a lot. Though just to clarify I'll be giving my first unworn ballerina dress that I talked about upthread to my sister, not the one I was describing - she'd be horrified if I gave her a maternity wedding dress! 😂
Awh how lovely, how are you feeling about your children starting school? I bet its a bit emotional? I think 4 is personally my favourite age, they come out with some funny things!

Hi everyone - just caught up :)
I would love to have twins- DH is a twin but I have heard it carries down the female blood line is that right?
I'm still waiting for AF (day 64) but we're getting on with renovations to the house we bought last summer. (This seems to keep quite a few of us going :))
The dining room is still orange/good/coral so that's next on the list if things to do along with getting an electrician in to install some more plugs!
DH is getting very impatient for a baby now so hoping AF returns soon so we can ttc properly!

Sorry yes that's the one I meant @PastaSauceHoarder 😂 they both sound lovely though!

4 is such a lovely age, they say the funniest things! I actually feel fine about them starting school, they went to the preschool at the same school so it won't be a very big change. They will even have the same teacher as last year as she is moving to Reception.

@Pinkroseuk yes I think that's right about twins and being passed down only on the female side. Coincidentally there are twins on both sides of DH's family though!

How lovely for them @RandomUsernameHere, do they like the teacher? Its great that it won't be too much of a readjustment for them!

Yes @PastaSauceHoarder they love her! I think she's brilliant too, very happy that they get to have her again.

@cupcakesandglitter maybe once you have a little one it will take your focus away from house hunting! I still watch Rightmove though, even though our house is finally as we want it and I have no intentions of moving any time soon!

Ha yes, you could move closer! Will they be helping with childcare at all?

@RandomUsernameHere yikes! I can only imagine the lack of sleep. Does it start to make you feel crazy? I stop making sense when I'm really tired and I'm not up in the night feeding!

Definitely sounds easier once you get to take them to the same places. Did it ever scare you going out with both of them on your own as toddlers? I'd panic that they'd run in opposite directions and I'd only be able to follow one (showing that I don't have kids here, sure you're a pro)

Do you think you'll cry at all when they start school? I know it's not a massive change and they are at pre-school already, but I've seen some of the most 'together' women at work crying over first days at school! 

@Pinkroseuk hello! Lovely to see you back here. How have things been? Have you got any idea what is causing such long cycles? We will all have beautiful houses by the time we have babies!

@PastaSauceHoarder I'm sure you are interesting! I always worry someone here might know me even though it's unlikely and I don't think I've given enough away. Your wedding dress sounds beautiful though, I love flowy dresses. You are of course welcome to show us a photo! Is there quite a big gap between you and your sister?

Ha, I have days where I feel like some kind of high powered business lady and other days I just want to crawl back into bed. I definitely don't feel high powered and business-ey when I work at home in my pjs! Your job will definitely be a lot more rewarding than mine though, I love my job but I have days where I wish I could actually make a difference. I always wanted to be a nurse but then we realised that I can't do needles and blood, so that was a bit of an issue.. I'm now at a point where any change would require retraining (I'm very qualified in what I do - having spent the last 3 years studying) and would involve a significant pay cut. Definitely not something I want to think about before we have a baby! I've just realised how long winded this sounds..

One of my best friends is a childminder, if you want any advice on setting up 

@rollerskaterdata you'll have to do a cute big brother announcement when you are pregnant! You are always welcome to stick around even though you're ttc. You've been here since the early days - I can't believe it's been 7 months since we started the first thread. If the next 7 could go just as quickly that would be brill!

Pasta my dress is a champagne colour with ivory lace overlay with v neck and kind of strait down. I am so looking forward to wearing it!

Haven't told family apart from my sister but they have pretty much guessed, getting married and both extremely broody! Very hard to hide. I feel myself looking in every pram that I pass to look at the beautiful little babies!

roller congratulations on the house. Hope all goes well we brought ours 2 years ago and I still get excited coming home to it after things like holidays.

KinCat it is good to hear positive stories of twins. Random wow that must have been a hell of a day with that shock! A friend of mine was in very early pregnancy, no family history of twins and her 7 year old kept saying there are 2 babies in mummy's tummy. 7 year old didn't know about pregnancy at the time. She then had her scan and found out it was intact twins!!

So excited for those who are ready to start TTC in the next few weeks.

@dotty, thanks and yes I can't wait to do a big brother announcement! I've been thinking, I really wanted to keep it a secret until 12 weeks, just to see if I can! I didn't last time and told close friends and family as soon as we found out, which worked out fine as my pregnancy went well, but I'm worried, especially having a young DS, about not telling close family/friends at the beginning and then every else at 12 weeks. I'm worried I'll be sooo tired in the first trimester (I was last time) and with a toddler in tow I might need help from people to get through it but can't do that if they don't know I'm pregnant iyswim? Also I think I would want my best friends and mums support if I did miscarry, I'm not sure I want DH and I to have to go through that alone. The other part of me though does just think I'm too impatient to wait until 12 weeks to tell everyone! What are yours - and everyone else's - thoughts on this?

And I know what you mean about your job. I like mine overall but deffo have up and down days. I'm also highly qualified in mine, studied at uni bachelors and masters level to get it and I worry any career change would also require retraining and a significant pay cut. I worry about this because I'm not sure I can see myself doing my job for the rest of my life, I always thought I would love to be a midwife but that's another 3+ years in uni and starting at the bottom rung of the salary scale all over again . Although, this is easy enough to push to the side for now, I absolutely can't career change now as I need that enhanced mat pay ha ha!

Thanks @spring, I really can't wait to move in to my very own house!

Also I can't do a pregnancy announcement at 4/5 weeks to close friends and family anyway can I - I won't have a scan picture lol! (I've always dreamed about getting DS a "I'm going to be a big brother" t shirt with a photo of our scan on it. Not very original I know but I've always liked that announcement!)

Wow has it really been 7 months since we started these threads! Glad we've all got each other to keep us busy! And it's lovely that some have started ttc which I know definitely helps keep me positive it'll be everyones turn soon enough!!

@rollerskaterdata I would only tell a couple of people before 12 weeks - like you say the ones I would want support from should anything happen! But I wouldn't put anything on social media until after 20 weeks. I am a nurse and I see some of the terrible things that can happen and I just always worry about the worst! But I would tell my family at 12 weeks.

@spring how creepy is that about your friends child knowing about the twins!!

@pinkroseuk sorry to hear your having such a long cycle! Have you seen your gp? Sorry if you've already said I can't remember!

Hi @Jelliestogether and @dottydally I have seen the GP and referred to the hospital- she had given me 3 months of provera to force period which worked but when I last saw her she said no more tablets and loose 40kg! So that's what I'm doing but it's slow progress- the hot weather really hasn't helped either!
It's so frustrating but at the same time I can see they won't give me the tablets again till I am under 30kg for my own heath.
The house is definitely keeping me going though still desperate for a little one-
I'm not enjoying my job at all either but want to stay in it so I get the maternity pay -
Unsure what to do as never know how long it could be!
I think I would probably only tell brother in law before doing an announcement at 12 weeks- my mum had problems getting pregnant and had several miscarriages so I havnt even told her about my hospital appointments. They ended up adopting me in the end so we are also open to that route if things don't work out but that also seems like a long process!
Lovely to catch up with everyone again - so pleased I joined this chat :)

Sorry meant bmi of 30 not 30kg!