The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

[LookingAtTheStars89]

CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Bet they are! It's probably just packaging and marketing which bump up the price of FRERs - and we all fall for it! I switched to using ICs after first few cycles - not sure why I decided to FRER this cycle. Totally doubting my optimism from this morning now and sure I was imagining it 😬

How are you doing @LookingAtTheStars89 ? We've been ttc twins for a while (similar cycles, pcos, poor sperm etc) would be spooky if we got bfps at same time!!

@Owlpatrol. I'm sorry you ate having shit time x x We are always here if you want to talk Have you had another progesterone test yet?

@Chooklass. If you get your bfp then we should more or less have the same EDD 😂 I am peeing today like the world is depending on my urine to survive! I'm in major anxiety mode though. I was waiting to cross the road to DD to school and I felt a massive rush of panic!

Very late placemarking! Have been here since the pre-yam threads, how depressing

Fx for strong bfps soon looking and chook, hope this is it for you both!

@LookingAtTheStars89 omfg just seen your bfp a announcement!!!!!! Argh I'm spelling wrong because I'm too excited to post omg omg I'm soooo happy for you!!!

Been doctor this morning was so upset I thought she may have signed me off work but getting 're tested and obviously in the meantime keep trying. Dtd yesterday and cycle day 12 today xx

Congrats @Looking !

Not much to report here, on holiday in Tokyo with DH at the moment after going to his cousin’s wedding in Shanghai last week. Lots of talk about having babies which was hard. We’ve been to several temples and prayed for one for what it’s worth (neither of us are religious) and even bought a lucky charm for “wishes to come true”. DH has been getting plenty of action we’ve DTD every 2-3 days even though half the time I don’t really feel like it, I guess I haven’t the heart to say no atm (so I guess one of his wishes is coming true 😉)

First fertility specialist appointment next Wednesday to start the process of getting me to ovulate. Bet you my sex drive will be nonexistent by then... 😐

@BGDino sounds amazing over there. I'm glad you're having a good time and getting plenty of action. Good luck with the appointment!

@Owlpatrol.

@LookingAtTheStars89 Congratulations!!! I am trying to give up sugar but it's so difficult!

I've got my HSG this afternoon and am really nervous

Glaring BFN this morning! I feel so silly for getting hopes up. Who knows what the faint line yesterday was about - dodgy frer? Wishful thinking? Chemical? Ah well. FP due tomorrow. Can't try next cycle because of hycosy and will be nice to take a break from it tbh.

Hi ladies my break down at the doctors was worth it as they have finally found my results and came back "normal " so I've got 2 others to do and dp S.A. now!

@Owlpatrol that's great news! I hope they didn't miraculously find them just because you were upset though! That would be awful service! Anyway, good outcome.

ah man... @Chooklass ... sorry to hear that!

Great news about the results coming back normal though @Owlpatrol!

Me.. I am trying to get to grips with the fact that i know my FP will start on Sunday. I feel disappointed at the moment.. but trying to focus on healthy eating and exercise. Time to drop this 4stone of mine! sigh

Oh @chooklass I’m sorry to hear that. Totally crap after the hope.

@owl I hope you’re feeling ok? I reassessed my life earlier this year and although I’m not available to create an international yam-tastic company with you I do hope you find something that will motivate you work wise. I can’t explain the switch in my mentality about TTC since the new job and acupuncture. I’m a new woman!! (Or more accurately more like the old me before I became TTC obsessive). Best of luck!

@Chooklass sorry to hear, bastard FRER! I would have had my hopes up too

@Owlpatrol glad they found them!

My LH surge has vanished today so must O today or tomorrow, only DTD once in last week and have a headache so think I'll be writing June off. It's weird I get small glimmers of hope but they are very quickly dashed, perhaps by an injection of realism. I don't have any IC as I couldn't ever imagine getting a BFP on one, bit of a mental block and I'm too tight to have FRERs in, would be using them daily! No self restraint over here.

@OrcinusOrca ah chick I'm on your wave length in im hinting today for another deed otherwise it'll be once the fw

@LexieJean I'm waiting to hear about a job I've had a phone interview for so let's see I'm not getting hopes up as obviously I'd rather be pregnant this cycle anyway but overall I am in a better mood today knowing my results are in and yes obviously it's the first step but at least it's a step finally!

What the actual.....?!?! My OH and I DTD last night because for once we both felt like doing it.. and this morning I have woken up to blasted FP... 5 DAYS EARLY!?! I cant even pretend its something like implantation bleeding.. because im getting all the normal symptoms. (Tummy problems, cramps, etc etc.)

Spent most of the damn morning in tears.. and have just got to the feeling like.. enough is enough. Im fed up with this TTC naturally. Seriously beginning to consider going down the IVF route.. but still need to lose about 2 and a half stone before we can... Unless I just use the money ive saved up and do 1 round privately. But coz im so overweight I just dont know if its worth the money as will probably fail.

Oh I dont know.... So fed up.

Just checking in! I too have gone AWOL from MN. Being told that we have next to no chance of conceiving without ICSI and IVF reallynknocjed me for six, couples with my friend announcing DC number 3 in the time we’ve been trying for #2.

DH had an FSH blood test this morning to try to work out why his SA was so abysmal and another SA on the 14th of this month. We’re waiting on an appointment for the fertility clinic even though we can’t do IVF for a few years.

@Pinkemi I'm so sorry Hun. Maybe a call to and IVF clinic for a consultation would help make your mind up? I think a lot of initial consultations can be free or low cost. I know plenty of overweight people who carry to term and have healthy babies so it's not a given that it would fail. I hope you're ok. xx

@Justwaitingforaline lovely to have you back. I'm glad things are moving along so you may get some answers before ivf starts.

@HidCat.. I just.. Dunno. I know its not that safe for me to pregnant at this weight.. and I just dont want to have to waste the £5k or whatever it is on IVF privately and for it to fail. I mean.. I know its not 100% that it will work if i was thinner... but we would have a better chance surely? Im just worried that my cycles are completely out of wack at the moment. Last period was 4 days late.. and now this one is 5 days early. It makes no sense.

Am having cramps so I think FP is on her way. Am thinking of selling a kidney so I can do ivf privately- any takers?! 🤣

@Pinkemi if it's causing you anxiety then it can't be good for TTC either. Only thing to do is get on the weight loss. Every pound lost is a good thing.

@Pinkemi I don't know your full story but can feel your frustration in your posts Have your FPs always been all over or have they been better for stints? Have you got much weight to lose? My brother has struggled with his for years, had a gastric band when he was 28 in the end, very drastic.

@Justwaitingforaline hope the test results can give you some answers, nothing worse than being in the dark.

@bridget33 hope FP doesn't show up!

I'm entering TWT (two week torment). Just a matter of time before I'm a grumpy bitch again. Hormonal kicked off before O this month, hoping I might see an improvement now I'm on the B6, was taking 50mg a day and gone to 100mg a day post O. Going back to GP a week Monday to ask for 7DPO bloods. Hopefully she'll say yes as I'll be at exactly the right point in my cycle I think. Been in my new job three months now and it's TTC that makes me most pissy so I can't think there is anything left to be impacting me that I can alter now.

Sorry you’re so fed up @pinkemi I second the suggestion you go see an ivf clinic- they often have free open events so you can just go and ask questions and learn about the process and costs.

Glad you’re ok @justwaiting, such crap news to process.

Good luck in the kidney market @bridget! 😉

I’m rewatching the old friends episodes and last night was Monica and chandler deciding to go for adoption. I was shocked by how little emotion they showed!! I know it was a light hearted sitcom (and has many problems in 2018) but seriously- no tears, no torment- no Monica poas and destroyed because yet again it’s a bfn, no wails about her FP. The whole process is referred to obliquely. Imagine if we re-wrote it.

@LexieJean I love rewatching that period of the show. I always felt that they had resigned themselves to it and it felt like a positive step to them. I found that the episode where she's told she has an inhospitable uterus should have been dealt with better though.