The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Hi @edinbeezer - it does refer to yam as in sweet pot! Relates to the precursor to this long-running thread where someone helpfully suggested yams might help. It wasn't taken too well by a bunch of women who are undergoing all manner of medical procedures and have tried everything under the moon, funnily enough, and has been a running joke ever since!

Still lurking too yammers, hope this is a fruitful thread.

My libido was sky high when ttc. Now of course I've nothing. Sex free honeymoon. Poor DH 🙄.

Well I think I'm out already, insomnia filled night of tossing and turning during the night. It ALWAYS happens before FP. I'm betting it will be here by the start of next week. I had a scone this morning and I feel bad now!

Feeling so dense, what is FP fellow yammers?

I am going to the GP a week Monday, have to go for an appt to request CD21 bloods apparently. I had some done during my long cycle (CD43 of 48 day cycle in the end) and my progesterone was 26. That fits for luteal phase but I'm pretty sure my LP is only 10 days or so and I do get brown spotting so I feel like my progesterone should be higher. My skin was fine before Feb as well so I'm convinced there is something hormonal going on. Hopefully I can at least get a snapshot of an idea about whether there are hormone issues or not.

I had a termination when I was 21 and it always lingers in my head the 'what if' that was my only chance. It was awful and my periods were horrific afterwards, they took months to settle down even when on the pill. So much pain, I don't have that now at least. Feeling a bit sorry for myself today. It's bang on five years to this cycle too. Feels such a taboo thing; I've not really mentioned it on MN before, think I am ashamed deep down

Sorry you’re feeling so down @orcinus but don’t feel shame. You made a decision that was right for you at the time. It’s impossible to know when we’re in our 20s how our bodies will be later in life. I hope you get some answers about your hormones.

Oh and FP is fucking period- some discussion on an earlier thread about ridiculous abbreviations and terms like baby dust 🙄 and yammers have since referred to ‘aunt flo’ (seriously who uses that ever) as FP!

@looking maybe that should be added to our rules- alternative abbreviations! Don’t count yourself out yet. I would often get night sweats before FP but my acupuncture seems to have eased them. 🤞 it’s just a clomid side effect for you.

@OrcinusOrca. We don't judge here x x I haven't had a termination but I had a missed miscarriage last summer and I had to have it medically managed with tablets, it's wreaked havoc with my cycles. I can understand where you are coming from with the "what ifs" I sometimes sit and wonder whether the positive rest I got last summer was the last positive test I would ever see.

@LexieJean. I was disturbed by DH and DD at some point in the night so maybe it was that. My poor DD (5) gets night terrors. She'll randomly wake up every now and then and be like "AAAAAHHHH" and I jump out of bed all dazed and stumbling lol.

You guys rock. I didn't expect to feel this accepted here

As for FP, right up my street!

What are everyone's weekend plans? I am off to pick up the grocery shop and then I need to clean the house and clean the chickens out later. Much prefer trying to do all the boring stuff before the weekend. Hopefully DH will have bathed the hounds before I get home...

I am writing reports... groan

Orcinus this is the thread for unsayable elsewhere shit. Welcome . I know how the what ifs go, but you have seriously nothing to be ashamed of.

We came home from hol yesterday, but had a massive delay so didn't get in until 4.30am. I'm beyond shattered and on my third load of laundry already. My garden has taken fecundity to a ridiculous level in my absence so tomorrow is going to be spent sorting out the triffids.

I've got acupuncture then sorting my house ready for the last bit of flooring to be done.

@OrcinusOrca I demand pics of your chickens, I'm so jealous! Do they lay?

@OrcinusOrca You've nothing to be ashamed of at all - you did what was right for you, though I understand it must be hard not to wonder. I sort of feel the same about having been on hormonal contraception for so many years - hard not to wonder if it buggered up my system but was defo the correct choice for then.

I have chickens too! (Hence my username!). I can't post pics as I'm always posting my chooks all over fb (because I don't have real children!) and am scared it could out me!! 😂🐓

@LimpLettice my garden has exploded too. I spent an hour this afternoon weeding the front garden and I'm knackered. I'm also pissed off with my husband. He told me I needed to be in from 1 to 5 for Vodafone to change our broadband so I raced home from work and spent the afternoon waiting with a dog desperate for our usual Friday afternoon walk. Turns out it was the 15th not 1st.

He's only still alive because I can't lift the patio slabs to hide his body underneath.

Si1ver A blessing in disguise!

DH tried to mow our garden today but the lawn mower (rented property, he found it in the shed) kept cutting out so he gave up. So there's a third of our lawn that's short (very wonky) and the rest of it is about a foot-and-a-half high with grass and weeds. I despair of it ever being cut. The neighbours must be cringing every time they see our garden.

Mynameis - Have you POAS yet? Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞

I luffs you all already, is that too sentimental for yams?!

Sounds like everyone has got to work hard this weekend, booooo. My chooks run the risk of outing me as they're quite distinctive but I think I'm beyond caring at this point! They do indeed lay, blue eggs too.

They're hard to get photos of because they move really quick...three are bathing in the flower bed and the other is pootling around by herself currently.

@cariad I did, bfn as expected. I’m drinking guilt free. Stress this month is probably the culprit in the weirdly light fp.

Mynameis - sorry to hear about the BFN. A guilt free night out sounds like just what the Dr ordered though.

I’ve decided that if our first shot at IVF is unsuccessful (as is statistically likely), I’m going to take a break from ttc and drink as much as I please guilt free in September and October.

Lovely chooks!

Sorry about the FP mynameisjune

Orcinus they are positively luffly! Thankyou for sharing

I did a FRER earlier and it was negative so now I feel like shit. I'm maybe only 9/10dpo though so who knows, maybe it's too early.

@Pinkemi I hope you're ok? Have you been to your doc about your anxiety over TTC? There must be something they can do. Do you qualify for IVF?

@OrcinusOrca please try to not beat yourself up about the termination. I know that's easier said than done but your time will come again. Love the blue eggs! Do they taste any different to the regular brown ones?

@LexieJean I've grown so used to the term Aunt Flo since using Mumsnet I have to stop myself saying it IRL 🤦🏼‍♀️. Much prefer FP!

@Cariad2017 I really hope that the IVF works first time for you.

@Hidcat yes been to the doctors. I don't qualify for IVF at the moment because my BMI is still too high. It has to be below 30 for IVF on the nhs. I have no idea what the waiting list is actually.

It's a long standing issue. I've put on so much weight recently that my self esteem is just out of the window.

Like for example all evening my OH has been hinting about DTD tonight (we are out for dinner with friends.) I am flaking hard.. so tired.. just want to go home and sleep. He is just playing darts and drinking. Just meh. I'm just so fed up of the whole damn thing.. convinced I won't ever get pregnant. :-(

@Pinkemi My DH is hinting at fooling around tonight and after the bfn and now probably pre FP bleary eyedness, I am really NOT in the mood. I'm so fed up of ttc. I'm trying to lose weight as well and that's so fucking boring - I just want to sit with a big bar of Dairy Milk and watch TV but I can't even do that because I need to shift some weight!!

@lookingatthestars89 oooh you sound so much like me. :-( sad isn't it how something like trying for a baby can just suck everything out of you.

I have to admit I'm failing miserably at weight loss. I'm back home from my hols on Sunday so plan to be good from then on! Enough fooling around. Need to drop weight so I can get some of my self esteem back.. Which will hopefully bring back my libido. Lol

Jumping in the new thread! Currently in the tww and not very hopeful but hey ho!