The Good, The Bad and The Yams!

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CALLING ALL YAMMER'S!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

@Chooklass oh my goodness.. talk about unfortunate or what!!

@BGDino also happy to hear pork dumpling is going well. :-) Reading your post made me start thinking about what I could call mine once we are successful with IVF. (Positive mental attitude... positive mental attitude.... )

Congrats @BGdino, delighted for you. It’s so nice to hear a positive story and certainly gives me some hope of possible good things to come xx
@Chooklass, that made me laugh! Chocolate solves everything and you’re right, it (unfortunately!!!) won’t multiply before you’re eyes! 🤣😂 Think I may join you with the treats and chocolate - AF has arrived in style - worst period I’ve ever had in my 22 fertile years! Makes me wonder if my BFP the other week was in fact a proper Positive, as I’ve never had bleeding like this before! 😢 Bath, painkillers and chocolate required tonight. x

Glad all is progressing well with you @BGDino

think the dreaded FP is definitely on her way. Havent had any symptoms really to show me otherwise.. and my temp dropped a bit again this morning. Tried to convince myself that it dropped because its cooler in the room.. haha

Im also back to feeling meh which i normally feel a few days before it starts. Really agitated and just generally annoyed with everything.

Hope everyone else is having a good week.

Keeping everything crossed for you @Pinkemi, hopefully it’s not AF. X

Thanks! Little confused as my temp has risen slightly for the past 3 days.. but i took a test yesterday and it was negative..it was one if those FRER so you think it would have picked something up if it was there. Meh.

Yep @Pinkemi, I’ve heard they’re the best ones. Hopefully it’s still just too early to pick up the hormone?
Personally I’d avoid Asda digitals after my experience, but I think I’m just being daft there.
When is AF actually due?

The dreaded AF is due tomorrow.. all the signs are there that its coming.. feeling seriously grumpy today (although that might just be because DH has been on a stag do this weekend and im feeling self conscious.) Plus feel sick but then i did scoff my face with Dominos last night. Haha

Who am I kidding.. its going to come tomorrow and the injections will start. I need to think like this so im not heartbroken when it does come. (Although not going to lie.. will still have a cry when it comes!)

How are you doing today? Im sorry about your recent experience.. but id probably be avoiding that brand too if it happened to me. Lol

Oh it’s just a laugh an emotional rollercoaster @Pinkemi! You’re entitled to tears if it arrives - Mother Nature can be so cruel in this game! The more you try to not get your hopes up, the harder it gets. I convinced myself that the symptoms that led to my BFP weren’t symptoms at all, just to stop myself becoming disappointed, when clearly they were early signs. TTC just screws with your mind on every level.
Poor Hubby! I’d be feeling the same - been snapping at my poor other half all week whether he’s been positive or upset with me - Poor sod can’t do right for doing wrong!! 😳
I’m not bad, thanks. Trying to be philosophical that at least we finally got as far as a BFP and maybe another will come along soon? I’ve got a big holiday to look forward to next week so I think we’ll take a month off the OPKs and timed DTD to try and give us a mental break. Also we’re sharing apartments with my parents, and as much as I know they’re desperate to become grandparents, that may be a little too much for them to bear!!! 😂😂 hahaha!

Coming up to CD70 with no sign of AF. Last had a negative test on CD45 ish. After that one I vowed my next test would be my positive one so I haven't done any random testing.

Trying so hard to not cave on that today. I've been quiet on here as have been taking a step back from all the ttc madness and just relaxing, went on holiday and started my new job so I've been distracted and the last two days it's taken over my mind again. I have sore boobs (only when touched - does anyone else poke their boobs most days to see if they hurt in the hopes that they will and you'll be pg? Just me? Probably...) a horrible taste in my mouth and I had a nosebleed for the first time since I was a child completely out of nowhere. Also whilst on holiday I said to DH that my hair hurt, which was such an odd sensation as I didn't think hair could hurt haha. Of course DH Googled and it came back with early pregnancy and the seed was planted and now I'm obsessing again. Someone please talk me out of testing.. I can't handle another negative!!

Hope you are all well, @Teachermummy83 so sorry that your BFP was so short lived, I can't imagine how much that must of messed with your head. @Pinkemi Crossing everything for you, but if AF comes atleast you can start the treatment and hopefully be one step closer to your BFP.

Xx

@Pinkemi sending hugs, I hate it when you just know fp is on the way, it's a major come down month after month.

Sorry I've been AWOL on here... fp got me hard this month, starting 5 days early which never happens it then lasted nearly 10 days! With it came emotional craziness and it was different to other months. The other day me and dp had a heated debate about money and dp having not yet still had his tests, he totally flipped out at me and we almost almost decided to stop ttcing....until my libido increased with ovulation lol! Anyway I'm cycle day 14 today so we've dtd twice this week. So I'm technically still in, whilst thinking what the heck I'm doing with my life! I need a new project which isn't ttc to take my mind off things, does anyone have any interesting hobbies? I've got on the cleaning band wagon last few weeks which has really helped my stress and anxiety I highly recommend it

Baby dust and much love x

Thanks @Maddie, yup we were absolutely devastated. Even though it was so short lived, we were over the moon so it was a total kick in the teeth after trying for so long. If it wasn’t for the fact that we’re away on holiday next week, I’d have been in the pits of depression by now. Trying to convince myself It would have been horrendous trying to hide a pregnancy from my parents for a 3 week, hot-tub fuelled trip to the wine region for a family wedding with lots of parties etc planned! If I say it often enough, I’ll convince myself that anyway.....
Trying to be philosophical though, as reading that lots of folk conceive straight after a chemical so desperately hoping we can join that gang. Fingers crossed!

It sounds like your holiday did you the power of good @Maddie. This rollercoaster of TTC is horrific and messes with your head so much - I’ve never been so up and down emotionally as I have lately! I’m glad you were about to switch off and relax for a while - fingers crossed it did the trick - Your symptoms sound promising to me though - I had the awful metallic taste too just before my BFP. Will keep everything crossed for you xxx

@Teachermummy83 Think your right about taking a break! I would be mortified if my parents heard me having sex. haha

@maddiie meee... I poke my boobs all the time towards the end of my cycle. Only yesterday i was thinking "Damn my boobs hurt.. and they feel so heavy!" Never heard of Hair hurting before.. how does that work?

@Owlpatrol With regards to hobbies.. Its going to sound really old.. but I cross-stitch. It keeps my hands busy so I don't get bored and eat. ha!

So... AF is due today and I am convinced she is coming. Had the worst nights sleep ever last night (mainly due to this cough ive got and my DH snoring more than normal) but I normally have a restless night the night before. Plus my hips are hurting and i felt a bit frisky before I went to bed last night. haha (Which is typical as my DH was working late. ) all signs of impending Dooooom!

But.. I feel dryer than normal and my cervix is still WAY up there.. feels softer than normal but i "think" this is just me trying to read too much into it. Have a small suspicion also that i've got a bacterial infection (again) as my lady parts are not feeling too comfortable. Sorry for the TMI. I'm in a sharing mood today.

Will update you if.. .sorry.. ONCE the witch arrives.

How is everybody doing? Hopefully those FPs won't show up!

Does anyone want some OPKs? I've got about 45 or so. I'm not using them or temping anymore, need to start letting go of that. I think I ovulate but nothing happens after that, so a bit fruitless really!

If one of you yammers wants them just let me know.

oh for god sake?!! Ive just had a call from the clinic to say that they wont allow me to start my injections before all the blood test results have come back.. not only for me but also for my husband. My doctors are USELESS! I asked them to do a list of specific tests and they have missed one off.. My cycle is due to start TODAY for petes sake.

Got my husband chasing the doctors surgery for his results and have booked us in for an 8am appointment to get my blood test done privately. Should have just booked it privately in the first place but didn't want to "waste" the money if we could get them done via the NHS.

I just have to "hope" that AF starts late tomorrow.. because we start injections on the second day of full bleeding... which should hopefully give us enough time to get all the results together.

i am FUMING with my doctor. This is not the stress I needed.

and to make matters worse.. I'm convinced I am going to start any minute now.. I can feel it coming.

@Pinkemi oh no how rubbish! I had a major melt down this month and needed to let it all go it worked a treat!
Not much to report here today my friend is due to pop any day so plenty of "Oh I'm so fat and pregnant, get this out of me" comments and me coming up with usual have you had a curry, have you had sex? Comments..... sigh

No further knowing what's going on with us, may or may not have been in with it this month I've only used an lol twice so not exactly sure when I even ovulated! Dp has lost some pounds and taking some herbal tablets for increased testosterone it's something to do with losing weight!? Who knows whether it'll make a difference with ttc

Opk *

Why did I cave on my no testing rule? Negative and I've been nearly crying all day 😭

Hey everyone. Sorry to see some negative tests and bad news :(
So I have had my suspicions for a while that my hormone levels are too weird for the clearblue OPKs. This month I started using them at 7DPO which is way too early as usually I ovulate CD19 apparently.

7DPO - negative.
8DPO - high fertility.

Really???? Apparently the first one is always low because it is a baseline but I am sure no matter when I start testing it always jumps straight to high the next day. Then some months I have weeks of high until supposed ovulation and some weeks it goes to ovulation the next day.

I just don't believe them and I am sure that my hormones are not right. Feeling very frustrated. :(

So.. its nearly 10:30pm and no sign yet of AF.. but i feel like she will arrive at some point tomorrow for sure. Have spent most of the evening ranging from being super happy to weeping at the smallest things.. i normally get pretty weepy the day or two before its due to start. to say im fed up with all this is an understatement.

@maddiie im so sorry you have been crying. (Hug) TTC is just pure shit.

@owlpatrol hats off to you! Not sure i could cope with that!

@Pinkemi, your Dr situation sounds so stressful, Id be raging too if I was you! Hopefully AF is late to let you catch this cycle.
@Maddiie, so sorry your having a crap day, this game really is the hardest one ever! I often wanna scream that I’m not playing any more, but then I get broody again......it’s a mega tough emotional roller coaster!
@owlpatrol Hats off to you with the pregnant friends! I really struggle with that! Fingers crossed you get back into a rhythm soon. I’ve no idea what’s happened to my cycle after this months drama..... Lord only knows when I’ll ovulat now?! Knowing my luck, smack-bang in the middle of my holiday with the parents, where we can’t do much about it 😔

No I'm really confused with dates as well this month that as well as I've not really been using the opks

I've been pretty patient with my 2 x pregnant friends this week, I've literally got to a point now where I don't care I know it sounds proper doom and gloom but I've spent so much energy on being negative, jealous and everything in between that I literally only care about them and hoping they have a good labour, life's too short

@owlpatrol, I totally understand. I’m normally genuinely happy for the pregnant friends, but some months months I really struggle. I feel so guilty when I’m jealous though and I totally agree - it’s a total waste of emotion and energy.
Must try and sort my cycle now AF, or chemical bleeding, or whatever it was is over. OPKs will hopefully help. Hopefully you’ll work yours out soon too

Stiiiillll nothing and still incredibly dry down there. (Knowing my luck i have an infection.) Cervix is still right up there.. and it feels softer than normal. AF is now 1 day late... and my temps are still rising ever so slightly. :-/

I am sure most of the symptoms are due to stress.... except for the rising temps. Ive never had that before.

But took another test this morning (a FRER) and it was still a negative.. I just dunno whats going on.