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TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

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L1zz13 · 22/05/2018 18:07

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Pancakes7 · 04/06/2018 17:57

@TedLife Oh that is harsh. But you will get there! I am just hoping no one I know gets pregnant as I think it would upset me alot. Luckily at my work I don't think anyones really at that stage in life or older. Glad I have got one day out of the way. I didn't cry which is good. Bleedings stopped again. I just want it to be friday and get a bfp and get ttc-ing!!

HidCat · 04/06/2018 18:32

@L1zz13 I was really down for about 4 mths after my MC. I know for many it takes a lot longer. Bizarrely I've now found a new lease of life that I haven't felt in quite a long time before I was even pregnant. Dealing with your OH being disinterested can't be helping. Do you think he's struggling too?

@TedLife I hope you're ok after your baby bomb. I had the same - a colleague with their due date the same week as mine. It's hard to deal with but easier if you don't have to see them all the time.

@Pancakes7 it sounds like you're feeling a bit more positive. Long may it continue.

I've only had one period since my MC and had horrendous PMS. I've had a fairly easy month but now that my period is due I'm getting horrendous cramps again. Regardless of whether it's implantation or period related it just doesn't feel right. I feel like I'm being stabbed in the pelvis front to back and on both sides. It comes and goes. Implantation is supposed to be painless and I've never felt period cramps like this before. Has anyone else experienced it?

Lilimum4 · 04/06/2018 18:39

@Boboelephant thank for your kind words. Do you think I'm over thinking things. Omg I'm driving my self up the wall

L1zz13 · 04/06/2018 18:43

@HidCat ❤️
My second AF was quite painful xx more than it should have been.

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Pancakes7 · 04/06/2018 18:43

@HidCat Yes I am feeling more positive. I am hoping that we can get trying soon and get a BFP asap. It does feel akward now that so many people know we must be trying. The directors at myn work know as I had to tell my boss... I have been doing headspace for 5 days now which GP recommended. It is really helping me. It makes me feel so calm when I've done it.

Pancakes7 · 04/06/2018 18:45

@HidCat I hope you feel better soon. Was your last af painful too? Implantation can cause a pain but it shouldn't last from what I've read. Maybe it is just pms cramps but its worse than normal as your body is still settling from mc. I hope it goes soon.

MrsGS76 · 04/06/2018 19:30

@L1zz13 , I can totally relate, felt really down after my MC, in an instant so many future memories/events were taken away from me. For weeks I found it really hard to do jobs like housework, shopping etc. I really could not find any joy in anything! Time is definitely a healer. I am also receiving counselling which felt weird at first but it's definitely helped. Has your DH had any counselling or had anyone to talk to besides you. There should be a 'dadsnet'. Fx for you. Xx

@HidCat your pain sounds awful, I've never really experienced AF pains/cramp and I hope it doesn't start! I've had one AF after MC and it was quite light so fx my cycle is back to normal xx

DaisyMay25 · 04/06/2018 19:49

@Boboelephant scan went fine, they said everything is fine so no idea why I get pain. It was weird seeing my ovaries!

@L1zz13 I've suffered from depression for a very long time but after mc I get seem to snap out of it. I completely understand how you feel, my life is very much routine. I'm always tired too because of the crappy mood. I'm glad you've gone and sought help though, that's a huge step. I really hope you start to feel better soon Thanks

maxiflump1 · 04/06/2018 19:53

@HidCat my second period after mc was horrendous. Really heavy and super painful and was leaking through tampon. I got my BFP on the next cycle so hopefully it's just tour body resetting itself. Thanksfor you and fx it's implantation pain!

maxiflump1 · 04/06/2018 19:57

@L1zz13 sorry you are feeling so crap. Men can really struggle after mc too: I know my DH did. Now I am pg he won't really talk about it as he doesn't want to jinx it. Which is fine for him but I can't really pretend it's not happening! Hopefully you counsellor will help and you and DP can come back together Thanks

Pancakes7 · 04/06/2018 20:20

@L1zz13 I know how you feel. I am devastated. I feel so low. I wish I could be stronger. It's only been just over a week though since my mc. I am hoping time will heal it. Its good you're seeing a counsellor. I hope this helps. Try and discuss with dh let him know that you want to try again. If you do? Do you have kids already?

HidCat · 04/06/2018 20:21

Thanks everyone. Hoping that this will sort itself out in time but I can't get over how different the cramps are after my MC. Spotting / Light bleeding has stopped again. Period due tomorrow so will try to resist the urge to test in the morning and hold on til Wednesday (assuming my period is actually late).

MrsLCW · 04/06/2018 20:30

@L1zz13 I'm totally with you, worse this week than ever! Should have been my due date on the 27th, we're meant to be moving on the 28th and our mortgage was rejected today, and I feel like I'm balancing plates and about to drop them all.
I've been thinking about counselling too, but unsure it would help? X

zarala · 04/06/2018 20:39

@Boboelephant hey thanks for asking- it was actually really good and I am so glad I went to see him. All my hormones and egg reserves and blood clotting stuff came back normal- had I gone to nhs they would have basically told me to go home and try again. But dr Shehata goes beyond all of that and he discovered that I have very aggressive Natural Killer Cells- which he has found the majority of women who have had 3+ miscarriages have this. (The nhs don't consider this a real thing yet due to lack of enough scientific evidence- but his results are phenomenal) Luckily his remedy for me isn't too onerous either...
Once we decide to TTC again I need to start taking steroids from ovulation until 10dpo, take a test- if positive continue, if negative try again the next month. Then once get BFP start with progesterone pessaries.
He also told me my OH has superman semen so he was particularly chuffed about that! Lolll
So now I'm in the position where we can start TTC but I am really anxious and nervous about it!
I just don't know how I will deal with a BFP - the last 3 have ended horrendously - but at the same time i know I have the remedy 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽
It's really nerve wracking!
I am currently CD7- AF just finished- she came early (25days) and lasted a whole bloody week! This is AF 3 after MC.
So I should probably JKS but I'm now feeling really anxious and don't know what to do. OH said we can go for it whenever ready because he just loves JKS- like your OH if we could do it twice a day everyday he'd be a satisfied man!

Anyway I bought some opks (digital ones coz I'm an amateur) and I've ordered my basal thermometer and going to download FF and begin this crazy journey

littleemma1 · 04/06/2018 20:49

Hi All
Wish I didnt find myself here but sadly I do but I am hoping (you do look like a lovely bunch!) that I will get some support.
I found out on Sunday 20th May that I was pregnant with no.1 at 4+4w but on Wednesday 23rd May at 5w sadly I started bleeding and miscarried.
Although it is totally shit, OH and I are trying to take a silver lining away from this that at least we can get pregnant as just in February we were told by a gynaecologist it was unlikely we would conceive naturally due to me having PCOS. Yet somehow, the first time I naturally ovulated we fell pregnant! Kind of knew it was to good to be true!
So, onwards and upwards we go, and back on the TTC wagon we get.
My cycles have always been craazzyyy and unpredictable so we're not even waiting for first AF, we will JKS as much as we can, like we always have lol.
Hope all of you ladies are well. xxx

weasledee · 04/06/2018 20:51

Zarala that does sound really promising and gives you something practical to focus on and do!

As for me I think I'm 9 DPO and I have tested!!! But I'm wavering now!!! I know I have a frer in the cupboard downstairs and I'm trying to resist it!!! SmileConfused

weasledee · 04/06/2018 21:11

Just ordered more FRER's!!!!!! Why?!?!?
Anyway I think there on amazon at a good price! £7.89 for a 2 pack with free delivery! Bargain Grin

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littleemma1 · 04/06/2018 21:43

@weasledee I have 6 from amazon using that deal 😂😂😂
Hope you get a BFP 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

HidCat · 04/06/2018 22:02

@littleemma1 I'm so sorry for your early miscarriage. I hope everything settles quickly for you so you can try again.

Did anyone see the post from vivi Clemente that got deleted? It's on every single one of my conception threads! Hope she didn't post something nasty!

maxiflump1 · 04/06/2018 22:05

@HidCat she was trying to sell some app for falling pregnant. Think it was deleted as it was a sales post rather than anything nasty

@littleemma1 sorry for your loss but this is a great group and sounds like you are in a good mindset.

hellotoyellow · 04/06/2018 22:44

@weasledee @littleemma1 me too - bought four. Fingers crossed - going to test on Friday am at 10dpo, just want to know if I can drown my sorrows drink on the plane to visit dp...

KnitKitty · 04/06/2018 22:53

Cakelaur Best of luck for Wednesday. Will be thinking of you. xxx

ek78 sorry you didn't ovulate this month, but good to know you're feeling ok and enjoying the exercising. I need to get back in to doing more regular exercise. It's just getting in to a routine that sticks which is hard for me.

SerenaOverjoyed I hope not trying this cycle gives you a well needed and deserved break and allows you to enjoy your holiday.

Lilimum4 Sorry you didn' get any answers today. Hugs xxx Try to keep your mind on other things until your follow-up.

Andyday88 Hard to say if that's a symptom or not. Fingers crossed for you. xxx

Pancakes7 I'm glad your first day went ok. Well done for not crying and getting through the day. I found getting back to work strange but helped me start to normalise again. I had (and still have) good and bad days, so just roll with it. Hugs

TedLife I'm so sorry to hear about your colleague's announcement, that must be really hard to deal with. Good luck for this cycle.

L1zz13 I have been struggling a lot since my miscarriage. I'm not depressed exactly, but I am having quite a few down days and struggling to enjoy life as much. Things that would have been a minor bad blip in an otherwise good day now seem to tip me over the edge and make it becomes a bad day altogether. However I think I'm still just healing emotionally and I'm confident I'm going to get better again. I've been repeating positive mantras before going to sleep and when I wake up. Sorry you're struggling.

Hidcat thanks, it's really encouraging to know you've found a new lease of life. Was it just time being a healer or did you do anything in particular to help you get better emotionally? Still spotting? The only time I've had pain like how you've described was when I had a cyst on my ovary, so if it keeps up go and see your GP.

DaisyMay25 Glad to know the scan went well.

maxiflump1 it must be hard not being able to talk about it with your OH. Mine told my mum he won't be able to relax during our next pregnancy (all being well!), so I think it's very much on their minds. We're here to talk to if you need though!

MrsLCW Hugs. Get in to the huddle. Sorry you're going through this crap.

zarala sounds like a really positive appointment. I hope it gives you some confidence for future pregnancies. Very best of luck to you with TTC again.

littleemma1 so sorry that you find yourself here with the rest of us, but it's a good bunch of ladies to have around, so welcome. I have endometriosis so wasn't sure we could conceive either, and felt the same silver lining that I can at least get pregnant. Hopefully you'll get a sticky on next time! Best of luck with that. Hope the PCOS doesn't cause you to have a long journey to motherhood, but we can be here every step of the way for support if you need us!

weasledee good luck with testing. It's about time someone got another BFP on this thread I think! Having any symptoms?

Jessabean thanks, yes it is still early days. I think I keep forgetting that. I will definitely take time off if I need. How are you doing emotionally now?

RedRobin7 How's the holiday and the JKS going?

I had a major wobble when I arrived at work and burst in to tears but my colleagues are angels and made me feel loads better and I ended up having a good day. I am very blessed to have such lovely people around me. Feeling a bit more positive again and trying to look forwards to a fresh new cycle.

BabynameEdie · 04/06/2018 23:04

Go @Boboelephant go! 🤸‍♀️⛹️‍♀️🤾‍♀️🏊‍♀️🏄‍♀️🧗‍♀️
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Where are you? What day? Ov yet? 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

weasledee · 04/06/2018 23:06

Just a quick question...
So this month I think I ovulated early day 10 (normally 14) as In day 10 was the day I got a very positive OPK. So would you count that as ovulation day or 48 later? Ie day 12? I'm just trying to work out how many DPO I am!

Thanks knit! Glad your day didn't turn out too awful and your work mates were supportive, mine were the same when i returned to work after mc.

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