TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

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@RedRobin7 sending hugs. Sometimes all the crap just hits you at once doesn't it!? I felt very much the same as you. I would not have been able to wait for it to happen natutally and think that would have finished me off mentally. Especially if it didn't work. I also had some therapy which I found hugely helpful and upon her suggestion shared all my biggest worries on here (several threads ago now) and found it so cathartic. The replies showed me that I was not alone in my feelings of sadness, anger, helplessness etc.
I hope you have a lovely upcoming holiday and manage to catch on your fertile week.

@HidCat @Boboelephant Thank you ladies! 😊

@Wellthisunexpected thank you hun, I really hope we both have sticky beans 🤞

@JessaBean thank you!! I’m 12dpo today, at 9dpo my line was barely there, almost negative so it’s just a bit early! But I think I possibly see something super faint on your test? Definitely retest, I hope you get your BFP soon 😊

@Laney79 you are talking to a nurse who has a tick list to follow by.
You need to be seen before Wednesday by a Gynaecologist who knows that RPOC doesn't always follow the specific symptoms.
Please phone 111 and trust your instincts.

@hayleyfx congrats! No denying that line!

I didn't test this morning I didn't see much point AF is on her way I'm sure, just gonna wait it out now and decide what things to try out next cycle!

Jessabean I don't want to get your hopes up, but I feel like I can see a very vague line. Can you test again in a couple of days please?

Laney79 I would also back what other people have been saying about getting a second opinion. It's been such a long, long journey for you and I really hope everything resolves soon and you can get back on track. Sending hugs!

RedRobin Sorry you're feeling crappy. Ride the waves. I'm glad you've got another holiday to look forward to. Good luck with the TTC this cycle. You have a fresh start again. This could be your month! Fingers crossed for you and hugs. xxx

Boboelephant yeah, I'm putting it down to pre-period progesterone which I wouldn't normally have noticed. Having a better day today with not getting my hopes up again; just feeling more at peace that this month wasn't our month.
Sorry you've been feeling down. These big dates coming up must be really hard. Have you got anything planned for them? Some form of memorial or a spa day to help you get through it or something? We're all here for you.

hayleyfx I'm glad you've had a reassuring line with this pregnancy test! Congrats again. Hoping you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. Keep us updated.

Welcome to the newbies, and sorry you've found yourselves here because it means you've suffered losses, but glad you have found us because the ladies on here are truly amazing and very supportive.

Hope everyone having a bad day today finds some comfort and support which make them feel better. Hugs to all.
Those having a good day, have fun! :)

I'm off to a cat cafe today! That's bound to cheer me up!

Cat cafe?

@L1zz13 a cafe that's full of cats and kittens wandering around! It's like heaven 😻

@DaisyMay25 my house is like a cat cafe! 😂 they're bloody everywhere!! Haha! And a puppy and a bearded dragon and a 12 year old!! Haha!! It's like a zoo!!! Any one welcome any time!! Haha

Amazing DaisyMay25! Pictures please! :D

I went to a cat cafe a few years ago and loved it. I’d love to run my own one in the future.

@KnitKitty thankyou! Thats a comfort.The first one is a non working day so lots of cuddles with DS and the second our friends are coming for the weekend so if no bfp by then, a lot of drinking. DH and I are going to let some Chinese lanterns off as well to say goodbye. We didn't do it last year (I was in a bit of denial still) and I want to say goodbye to the first bub properly too. Glad you're feeling a bit more positive and fx for next month for you if no miracle this time.
@DaisyMay25 enjoy your cat cafe! 🤣

I just went to Zumba in boiling non air conditioned room so exhausted but at least feeling satisfied. It hasn't escaped my attention (as much as I've tried) that the 3 times I've gotten pregnant I was about a stone lighter than now. It's so hard as every month I don't get pregnant I just think well screw it I may as well enjoy the booze. And then I eat! So it's hard to be really focused on losing the winter weight. But I will do it! I've put it out there now. Team healthy Bobo!!

@DaisyMay25 I keep meaning to visit the cat cafe in Cardiff! Let me now how it goes!

Boboelephant You've just reminded me I need to exercise today. It's so easy to get out of good habits, isn't it! I've recently been devouring far too much Ben and Jerry's Peanut Buttercup Ice cream. I have forbidden myself any now and trying to cut down on other sugary foods and cut down my portion sizes. Feeling fit does help make me feel more positive, if nothing else.
Chinese lanterns sound like a lovely idea.

Hello all! Not been on mumsnet for a few days as I've been on holiday, now so much to catch up on!

Congratulations @hayleyfx on your BFP and any other BFPs out there recently.

I'm sorry to see so many new names and to hear so many of you are having a particularly rough patch at the minute.

I have just been on holiday without DH and typically I think I had my fertile week whilst I was away so I'm pretty sure we're out this month . However I'm surprising myself at not being too down about that, not sure why. Partly the lovely sunshine we have had this weekend, and partly acceptance that this TTC road is going to be longer and rockier than I ever anticipated? I'm hoping this positive mental attitude continues, and for now I'm going by the JKS motto!

@DaisyMay25 thank you! I really hope it’s not af but if it is then fingers crossed for your next cycle 🤞

@KnitKitty @strawberrye thank you both! Hopefully there’s an uneventful 8 months ahead 😊🤞

Still in disbelief!! Just going to take it one day at a time, calling doctor tomorrow to book midwife appointment etc. Hope this one sticks. Regardless of what happens though I’m sticking around to make sure you all get your bfp’s! You all deserve a BFP and a sticky bean 🤞

@Boboelephant I’m sorry that you are feeling crap. TTC is so bloody hard and such a emotional rollercoaster. It does seem like everyone’s pregnant when your having a hard time. Unfollow people on Facebook- that what I did and made me feel so much better. Try and stay positive- I know it’s hard.
I’m 9.3 weeks now. Got my first midwife app on Friday. It’s the same midwife I had with my daughter so she knows about my previous losses and she has read up on my notes so knows about these 2 this year.

@hayleyfx I'm so happy for you. Please keep us up to date. Its so good to hear a happy story for a change. Also all the other bfp's in this group, I'd love to hear how you are all getting on

Quick question - is it possible to ovulate while still spotting from mc? I had main part of mc 2 weeks ago but still had retained products afterwards. Did a preg test the other day and its still faint +
Today I had ewcm mixed with brown. Just wondering if it could be start of fw or if it could just be part of mc. Anyone have this after their mc?

It's possible to ovulate with hcg in your system though how much, I don't know. If you're wanting to try straight away then it's a good idea to assume you are about to.

@Cleozeta I didn't have ewcm mixed with brown but I did have a tiny amount of hcg still left and still got faint positives til a week or so before I got another positive for this pregnancy. It's slim but it's definitely possible if it's a small amount

@KnitKitty yep it's hard! Especially when Ben and Jerry's is so delicious!! We'll get there though. Fit, healthy and pregnant! These are the goals!
@strawberrye hope you had a lovely holiday. Hopefully fw isn't over yet but well done on the PMA!
@hayleyfx eeeee!!! I'm so happy for you and hope it's a sticky one for you!
@Primrose16 so glad all is going well for you and it's great that you know the midwife. Not too long now until you're into your second trimester. 😀
@cleozeta I'm not too sure but I'd get JKS'ing just in case!
@UnicornsandRainbows1 hey there!! How are you going? Where are you up to now? Are you up to 20 weeks?

@Cleozeta I bled for 3 weeks after my surgery (mostly light brown but with clots every couple of days) and was still getting a positive test so I had to go back for another scan to check what was going on. They told me on the Tuesday that my ovary was getting ready to ovulate and then I ovulated on the Thursday - so it is possible. I finally tested negative the following Monday.

They did say I shouldn't be having sex until all bleeding had stopped though, including the light brown spotting.

Thank you everyone. Will wait and see if I get any more. Also having a scan on Tuesday to see if the retained products have gone. I really hope I ov soon, as I want this episode over now!

Wow, so many posts since I was here last!
Oh @cleozeta I'm so sorry to see you here, I remember you from the 40+ antenatal thread
So happy to see so many positive stories from the last few days, helps me to keep my hopes up. Congratulations to those of you with bfp's and lovely scans.
I feel like I'm so old compared to everyone else though!! What I was optimistically thinking may be implantation bleeding last week then turned in to fairly heavy bleeding and clots the next day, but then spotting again yesterday. Had a bfn this morning so I guess this is post miscarriage early af/body getting back to normal. I just hope so much that I ovulate again at some point. Although I've always just relied on a periodtracker ap rather than done anything to track when I ovulate so I don't know the first thing about how to do this