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L1zz13 · 30/04/2018 19:56

@Blondcat I had my mc on March 15th. My pregnancy tests were positive until the end of my 1st Af last week! Still positive for five and a half weeks!
Looking at the (tmi) contents of Af I could see why. There was definitely bits of left over lining and other tissue. Once it all passed the test was neg.
I was so concerned and annoyed at the time but now all seems to have settled down and I think I'm about to start my Fw.
We're all different and our bodies handle it their own way.
I hope my story helps xx

Blondcat · 30/04/2018 20:00

@L1zz13 thanks for sharing that. And glad to hear you are getting back to normal with your cycle good luck for a bfp soon x

YellowDaffodils86 · 30/04/2018 20:18

@L1zz13 thats what mine looked like today. They are on their way it seems.

@Boboelephant last month i think it was cd 22/23 but that counting cd1 the first day of bleeding from mc.
The cycle before, the one I convinced in and also the first following mirena coil removal, i ov cd 14/15.
So kind of a bit who knows🤷🏻‍♀️

Im hoping its cd14 im really impatient and the impatientness just kind of ends up making me feel generally fed up.
Then i feel bad for being impatient because really iv been ttc for five minutes in comparison to lots of others.

Smoothieyummy · 30/04/2018 20:24

Thanks ladies for the advice I’ve boight the OPKs from Amazon. I think I’m ovulating soon or maybe ovulating now because I just got EWCM, is that the sign of ovulation or does it mean I’ve ovulated?

My body has changed a lot after the MC, it’s been 8 months and since then I just feel more random pains in the ovaries and uterus area. Uterus is quite tender since yesterday I’m wondering if it has anything to do with the ovulation, ever since the MC I have ovulation pain but it was in the ovaries, not the uterus like today. From talking with some ladies at work who also had MCs it sounds like none of them have this problem :(.

DaisyMay25 · 30/04/2018 20:28

@Smoothieyummy it's been 8 months since mine too, I get different pains, just in the pelvis generally. They're usually on the left side. I get period pains randomly throughout my cycle too. It's crazy how much our mcs change our bodies. You can always go to your gp and get them to check it? I've had a few tests done and having more in the 15th

DaisyMay25 · 30/04/2018 20:55

I can't remember who it was that said about the 'bottom drawer' but does anyone else have anything like it? I'm not sure if having some baby stuff would give me something to look forward to or make me sad. I'm in two minds, I've seen some people do boxes. Sorry if this is upsetting to people, that's not my intentions I just wondered if anyone else has anything like this?

TimeWaitsForNoWoman · 30/04/2018 21:02

Hi lovelies! Just checking in to the new thread. I'm 29, TTC #1 C2 post MMC CD16 (please could someone add me to the roll call?).

Natural Cycles and Ava both predict that I'll ovulate today but I find it very hard to trust them since my cycle feels very different compared to before my MMC, despite peak fertility on CB OPK on Sat. Just going to keep shagging until temps confirm!

I think last night was the first night I didn't dream I was pregnant/had a baby/was having another MMC. I feel like this is a milestone. Big shout out to the penguin huddle for getting me through the last few weeks. I don't know what I would have done without you all!

Smoothieyummy · 30/04/2018 21:06

Yes mine is often on the left too. What tests have you done? My GP was quite dismissive, she told me MC was “normal” and “common” and didn’t offer me any test. However my friend who also had MCs went private and had tons of tests done and she found many issues. Some of the tests she did were thrombophilia screening, antiphospholipid anticardiolipin antibodies, lupus anticoagulant, thyroid functions and a natural killer cell test.

Boboelephant · 30/04/2018 21:09

@L1zz13 looks like it's coming soon 👍
@YellowDaffodils86 yeah I'm impatient too. Although i am one of the long timers. 😫 But hope I ovulate sooner as I hate the waiting for something to happen bit!
@Smoothieyummy EWCM is a sign that you're fertile bit not necessarily ovulating yet. Some people only get it for a day and some for several. I tend to get EWCM at the start of my fw so still about 4 days or so before ovulation. They say that it is the disappearance of the EWCM that signals ovulation. Opks can help as once you get a positive opk you usually ovulate 12-48 hours afterwards. If you've got it now I'd say it's time to jump DH for the next few days!
@DaisyMay25 I do remember it being talked about on one of the old threads. I don't but only because it'd make me sad. I have a big bro t-shirt I bought 6 months ago and I keep thinking I hope I get pregnant before it won't fit DS. But I'm sure it might help some people. Do what feels right for you!

DaisyMay25 · 30/04/2018 21:16

@Smoothieyummy I've had an ultrasound on my pelvis, tubes, ovaries and cervix (all were fine) then I've had bloods done for diabetes, thyroid checked, iron levels, celiac disease, kidney functions and had checks for uti and stis, everything had been fine but if you're getting pains often I'd try and push for tests.

@Boboelephant I think my issue is I can't resist a bargain so if I see some tiny little shoes in the sale I might not be able to resist and put them in a box but then I think what if I never get a chance to use them. I'm undecided, hopefully that too doesn't get too small for your DS!

Curlypop · 30/04/2018 21:37

Hello!
Can I join this shiny new thread?
I'm ttc #2 after a MC early April - I luckily got pregnant on our first ttc cycle but it wasn't meant to be.
Have got the clear blue advanced ovulation tests and today was day 4 of a flashing smile.
Love to all x

Curlypop · 30/04/2018 21:38

Oh and I'm on cycle day 14 x

Lovewinemorethanhusband · 30/04/2018 21:44

Hey girls wow lots to catch up on will read later when relaxing in bed
I've been doing opk and they are very faint what time of the day should I be doing the does it matter ? I've been doing them on the afternoons and it's feeling like I'm due to ovulate with pains I'm having and a bit of ewcm

YellowDaffodils86 · 30/04/2018 21:48

@DaisyMay25 i don't remember it on previous threads. Before mc i bought some pregnancy books and a little outfit set, it was the one thing i was going to get and then nothing until later in the pregnancy.
Unbeknown to me at the time, the baby had already gone😔. Quite a sad thought really.
The things i bought are now kept away in a cupboard.
Iv thought about buying little bits as i see them, but can really bring myself too.
I aways wonder if it will jinx things.
However i think its nice it it makes you happy.

@Boboelephant I think you have earnt your right to be impatient.
I know, i hate waiting for ovulation and hate waiting in the tww😩
The worst bit for me is the fact is i already got there, i did it, but it was taken away without any control or say in it.

rdm10 · 30/04/2018 22:53

Sorry to see all the new ladies here but welcome.

Can I ask about cm... I’ve never really taken much notice of it but my understanding is once you get it it means the start of fw then ewcm means ov? Well I had cm at the weekend, cd 9-10, now nothing. Have I ovulated and missed it??

Definitely going to get some opks for next month so avoid this uncertainty (unless I’m lucky this month 🤞)

hayleyfx · 30/04/2018 22:55

@DaisyMay25 it’s totally to each their own. I have a box of baby clothes/stuff but I bought it all while I was pregnant. I started buying stuff at 8/9 weeks pregnant as I naively assumed that things would be fine then. So by 11/12 weeks I had quite a few little outfits, teddies, blankets. Looking in the box now just makes me cry so I can’t even look at it. I just hope I can use all the stuff sometime soon. I think if it makes someone feel good then go for it!!
@Smoothieyummy I agree with what Bobo said! EWCM basically means = DTD asap haha!! I usually get EWCM for about 3-4 days before ovulation then on ovulation day it goes back to watery. Get to BD’ing haha!

Boboelephant · 01/05/2018 06:15

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1
Fireworksbaby c2 ttc #3 (ttc 2 cycles pre MC)
Tefiti2 - 24, TTC#2 (after 2 consecutive early mcs)
PetraRabbit 42 C1 TTC#2
LoveMySparkle 39 ttc#2 (cycle 6 after 3 consecutive mc’s under rmc)
Edinbeezer 34, ttc #1 (5 cycles pre mmc)
Llondbol 33 / TTC#1 / cycle 13 TTC (10 Cycles before MMC, 3 Cycles since)
Lilimum4 36 C1 (post mmc) TTC#3
Timewaitsfornowoman 29 C2 post MMC TTC#1
Curlypop C1 TTC#2

Boboelephant · 01/05/2018 06:23

@DaisyMay25 thanks hun me too.
@YellowDaffodils86 thanks. Yeah I agree. I stuggle with that too. Especially as I fell pregnant first go and then it turned out to be EP. We've had such a struggle since then which I naively never expected. The lack of control and choice seems very unfair.
@rdm10 I'd keep bd'ing. You can get it in waves until o. I'd defi recommend opks and bbt. I've started to think we have been getting our times wrong for alot of the time trying!

maxiflump1 · 01/05/2018 07:13

Morning all. Long time lurker and very occasional poster: just adding myself to the list! Was in the 2ww in first proper cycle since mmc but thing AF has come after only 23 days Trying to persuade myself it's implantation bleeding but think I'm fooling myself!!

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1
Fireworksbaby c2 ttc #3 (ttc 2 cycles pre MC)
Tefiti2 - 24, TTC#2 (after 2 consecutive early mcs)
PetraRabbit 42 C1 TTC#2
LoveMySparkle 39 ttc#2 (cycle 6 after 3 consecutive mc’s under rmc)
Edinbeezer 34, ttc #1 (5 cycles pre mmc)
Llondbol 33 / TTC#1 / cycle 13 TTC (10 Cycles before MMC, 3 Cycles since)
Lilimum4 36 C1 (post mmc) TTC#3
Timewaitsfornowoman 29 C2 post MMC TTC#1
Curlypop C1 TTC#2
Maxiflump1 37 TTC#2 I cycle since mmc

PumpkinPatch000 · 01/05/2018 08:17

Good morning ladies, so sorry I’m rubbish at replying on here. Juggling so many things and the moment and pretty stressed so can just pop on here from time to time.

How are you all?

Have I missed any BFP news?

X

Lovemysparkle · 01/05/2018 08:45

Morning @zarala I was referred by my gp after my 3rd mc in early July 17 & my 1st appointment came through & I was seen 10th August 17 so very quickly!! I was seen firstly by a senior registrar & it took over an hour to go through everything they were very thorough, the registrar then took my case through to the professor (he only takes on certain cases) & after a very long 10 minutes I was told that the professor was going to take on our case!! When I had my 3rd mc my gp made me go & have bloods done so the rmc would have them when I had my appointment but the rmc put all new more involved tests into place. So I had to have bloods done between day 2-5 on af, then have a scan when not pregnant (internal) & I then I was scheduled to see professor 8 weeks later on 12th October 17 when I got all tests back (which were all normal) I was also told I had a polyp in my uterus so professor booked me in for hystoroscopy that appointment was 6th November 17 (no polyp found even though I was led to believe I’d had it nearly a year 😡) so I was then given the green light to ttc in instruction as soon as I get a bfp I have to see the professor straight away. So we have been trying since November, of course it’s personal Choice but although we may call it chemical pregnancy the medical people call it early miscarriage or pregnancy of unknown location so if this keeps happen to you & you want to be investigated by rmc then you have to report it to your gp (obviously personal choice) so all in all @zarala the process took 3 months so very quick. I am under professor manyonda at St. George’s hospital in south London, just waiting for that bfp & to give him a call!!!!
I had a good hen weekend thank you🤪🤪

Laney79 · 01/05/2018 09:21

Hello ladies.

Can I tentatively mark my place? I was on one of the older threads during my MMC. But it appears I may finally be coming out the other side (6 and a half weeks after it was discovered, 2.5 weeks waiting for confirmation, 2 more weeks waiting for nature to take it course, which it didn't, medical management which failed then a second round of medical management with the additional mifepristone drug which appears to have worked).

Bleeding and pain began Friday, Sunday was the main day-agony, very heavy blood loss and clots. Bleeding now easing and this morning I POAS and it was only faintly positive-squinter.

So I need to get on the TTC bus. This was my first pregnancy and we weren't doing anything to actively conceive, just leaving it to nature/fate. But now we've had the joy of a BFP and the devastation of losing bean we definately do want a baby. And I'm no spring chicken...my 39th birthday is fast approaching.

So any top tips? I have opks...but have no real clue what I'm doing. All I know is my body and my heart is saying I need to be a mom...

Can I be added to the list? Age 38 (birthday in July) TTC #1. Cycle 1 I guess? Still bleeding from MMC? (MMC discovered at 9 weeks, bean measuring 5 weeks. Finally miscarried at 15 weeks)

Baby dust and positive thoughts to all. We WILL do this!

weasledee · 01/05/2018 10:27

Hello laney and sorry for what you're been through.....

I can understand the age worry, I'm 41!!!! But on a positive note I finally went to see my doc this morning and he was very encouraging! He was more positive than me :) he's prescribed high dose folic acid and baby aspirin to be taken when I get my next BPP....
So I'm now 1DPO so we'll see what happens....
Oh and he referred me to the recurrent miscarriage clinic but actual said to just call the epu if I get a bfp before an appointment :)
Very helpful appointment :)

Laney79 · 01/05/2018 10:43

Thanks @weasledee -nice to know I'm not alone on the age side of things!! I'm also on high dose folic acid, got an appt with the GP in a couple of weeks when I'm going to ask about the baby aspirin. Taking vit d too.

Just want to do everything I can to make sure I fall again, and when I do baby sticks. Got a hol to look forward to at the end of May so hoping that AF doesn't interfere and we can make that a baby making marathon!

sweetpea0318 · 01/05/2018 11:37

Hi @laney79, I'm thinking of going to see my gp due to the age thing and I also know that one of my ovaries is polycystic.. but I've been dithering as this was my first mc and I've already got a dd so not sure if they'll do much with me. Did your gp take you seriously when you first went or did they give you the usual lines of trying for a year etc? Did they also prescribe high dose folic acid? I'm wondering what I should do! I'm 38 so time isn't on my side either.