TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

[dulwichdays]

Another thread for us all - I'm hoping I've got everyone's details in the list below, I copied it from our previous thread.

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected 34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1

@hayleyfx thanks, im not hopeful though. Its not looking positive, in all sense of the word lol.

@SerenaOverjoyed it seems we are twins.
Im still waiting.

@BabynameEdie glad all is ok, probably nit a bad thing to have mind distracted.
I am now 16dpo. Possible to be maybe a day or two less, but doubt it.

@dulwichdays Fx for you, you never know.

I did a FRER this morning, big ol negative.
No AF just brown mucus (TMI) im sure she will be here soon but wish shed hurry up.

I dont know if i will chart next month, i only do opks to be honest but thinking i will just try and forget about it all for a bit.
I will probably not do this at all😂.
Its only the 2nd cycle since mc, but it feels like the 10th!!

@YellowDaffodils86 don't give up! I need a buddy. Bought a new thermometer and everything lol to make sure I get an accurate bbt graph.

Brown snot is doing my head in not to mention the back ache I've had all month.
I actually beginning to wonder if the brown snot is AF?!? My temp is still quite high 37•c and heart rate is still high too (although that may or may not mean anything).
Can't decide if I'm depressed or just real bad PMS! I'm quite strong minded and know I can get through this. Just desperate to find a focus in life right now.
At least the sun I shining in Milton Keynes land!
Xx

@Boboelephant It's now 25 days since ERPC. I usually have a shorter cycle than most (24/25 days, ovulate earlier too). But as you say it can take 4-6 weeks for af. Anything from this Friday really. I don't think I've seen any EWCM like I usually would. I just got a new BBT thermometer and I've been averaging 36.4 since early last week, climbing to 36.7 for a few days, a dip yesterday (36.58) then to 37.73 today. I'm following all the temping rules too. I just think the ERPC has thrown everything off causing the temps to be erratic.

Sending lots of love to everyone this week! By the way, what opks to people use? I tried some cheap ones from amazon but I couldn't get them to work, and the fancy digital ones are too expensive for me.

@Mistymeow it took me over five weeks to get a negative pregnancy test after my ERPC and then the days to ovulate before AF. I do use the internet cheapies from Amazon. In what way do you find they don’t work? It might be they aren’t for you or it could be that using them an alternative way would work.

@LilacIris thanks for the advice. I always struggled with seeing the lines, but I've decided to give it another go and bought another batch.

I am still very confused about my symptoms. I had a confirmed negative test 17 days ago now (2 weeks after ERPC) but I feel like a lot of my pregnancy symptoms are back after they completely disappeared (especially enlarged/sore breasts, cramps and dizziness). Did anyone else have these symptoms post ERPC before the first AF?

@Mistymeow I find they work best in the afternoon/evening (not morning) and waiting as long as possible in between each time you have been to the loo. I also use them frequently so can do half a dozen in a day and the line can quickly appear out of nowhere, so if you have a short surge I can see how easy it could be to miss although luckily mine lasts at least two days.

Has anyone tried taking B-100 complex for fertility/quality of eggs? I've been reading about it but unsure if it's the sort of thing you should take off your own back or not...

@Mistymeow I had horrific PMS and cramps for my period after MC. The symptoms were in and off over a couple of weeks. You could be having a similar problem.

@maverick79 once I got a negative i started getting cm so started using opks. I ovulated 4 days after neg test. CM is a very good indicator so I would get bd'ing And get some opks! I had a ERPC but counted that as day 1.
@BabynameEdie glad you're going well!! I have been wondering about you. I'm ok. CD5 so af is finishing up and time to crack on again. Hope it's finally my turn!!
@zarala thanks so much hun. Everything crossed for your results!! That is a ridiculous amount of blood!!
@dulwichdays I hope it doesn't mean you're out but I know the feeling! Fx it goes up again tomorrow.
@SerenaOverjoyed are you going to test??
@DBoo have you tested again??
@MrsLCW glad she was nice!
@YellowDaffodils86 ah crap sorry for the bfn. 🐧
@L1zz13 I'll be your temping buddy. And I'm always bloody here...cheesing it up.
@Mistymeow hmm chart sounds like you ovulated yesterday! Although your body could definitely be a bit all over the shop since ERPC. I also had strong symptoms both for ovulation and af. I use the cheapie opks but I do 3 a day as surge is short. Always get strongest positive about 11pm and fmu is not best. Hope you get some answers soon.

I wonder if you lovely ladies can help me. I've had EWCM slightly yesterday, then more today... does this mean I'm ovulating, or about to ovulate?
Hubby and I DTD twice sat and once Sun, he's not back from work til thurs so no chance to DTD til that night. Feeling like we might be out in our first month of TTC again?
Xx

Me again with yet more questions-sorry!

I think (hope) AF has arrived today-can you see if what I describe is similar to your experience? Just looking for reassurance that it is AF!...

I'm now 26 days after the start of medical management and bleeding for MMC, main loss was three days later. I had a negative test a week and a half after I took the pills. I've not stopped bleeding/spotting since I took the meds, but over the past week or so it's only been whilst I wipe and has been (sorry tmi) more gloopy/mucosy.

This morning was more like the miscarriage itself-gush of blood, little clots etc and dripping blood, and has been like that everytime I go to the loo (although eased a bit at lunchtime.) also had some cramping.

I'm really hoping this is AF...is it? Thanks lovelies-honestly not sure how idve got through this without the advice and reassurance on this forum. Xxx

Oh and I've been doing opks since 8th may-all negative X

@Laney79 so sorry to hear about your MC, this sounds exactly like my first 2 periods after I had my baby at 20 weeks. They were so heavy, lots of clots and cramping. Fx this is AF ready for you to start again lovely xx

Testing in the morning @Boboelephant but no af yet.

@whyhastherumgone im not taking b100 but am taking b6 and b12 and was going to start b3 too. The b vitamins do seem to be good for pregnancy.

@DBoo that's exciting! Any symptoms? X

@YellowDaffodils86 thank you for your kind words. Hopefully next cycle for you. It’s funny how time seems to slow down when you’re trying…. It took me 15 months to conceive my first DD which I know isn’t long in the grand scheme of things but felt like forever.

@ L1zz13 sounds like you’re not too far from me. Beautiful sunny day here in Bedford but I’ve spent all day running around doing house jobs inside as we’re moving house soonish (hopefully!).

@Mistymeow did you ttc this cycle (i.e. between miscarriage and AF) – I think I’m going to give this a go but I’m still spotting and it’s near impossible to tell what my mucous is doing, plus I’ve still a faint positive on a pregnancy test (it’s been showing faintly for a week now, anyone any idea when it might disappear?!!!). @Boboelephant sounds like you did similarly. Any tips anyone? The lovely sonographer nurse at the EPU (there was also a not so lovely one!!) told me I could try right away….

@Littlegoth pleased to see you over here (as opposed to just on the MC board – I’d rather you weren’t over here iyswim!!). I think our dates are likely to be similar ish (miscarriage completed on 12th May for me).

@ whyhastherumgone sorry it sounds like you’ve had such a tough time. But the timing of your MCs makes it look like different causes at least? So hopefully no reason that things won’t work out next time! Fingers crossed for you.

@maverick79 I’m not sure about strength…. You just get on with what’s thrown at you don’t you. I’d choose to be weak and not have had all this rubbish  but I see what you mean! I think you were on the same antenatal group board as me. How long did it take you to get a negative pregnancy test? It’s only ten days since my MC but I’m feeling very impatient. Plus it’s half term next week and it would be super convenient if I could ovulate then (DH and I both teachers!).

@hayleyfx will be thinking of you as the week comes to a close. Fingers crossed.

@zarala thank you for the welcome and oh my at the blood! GP wants me to go for a full blood count (so one vial!) because of how protracted my bleeding was / is and I’ve been putting that off!!!

@MrsLCW sounds like you’ve had such a difficult time. So nice to have someone supportive lined up for when you next fall pregnant. Lovely sonographer at the EPU has said they will scan me at six weeks and then weekly if I need the reassurance… I’ve only had one loss (sorry I feel like a bit of a fraud given what a lot of you seem to have gone through) but she seemed to really understand that emotionally everything else is going to mean that any new pregnancy takes a toil on my MH, especially in the early weeks.

I’m sure I’ve missed lots of you and I’ll try to keep up a bit better! 
xxx

@LilacIris I didn't know that, thanks for the advice!
@HidCat ah that does sound like me. Although I don't have any of the moods...yet!
@Boboelephant thanks for the info. I didn't used to bother much with opks because I always had fertile CM, but now my body has gone crazy I'm going to pay more attention (have ordered some packs). I really don't think I've O'd at all but who knows (no bd'ing since last week because of UTI waaaah)
@Laney79 I was told that the first af after miscarriage could be very heavy so it does sound like it. Still waiting for mine, hopefully in the next week.

@Pampl3m0usse don't be daft, doesn't matter when your loss happened or how many you've had, we're all mams who are plodding on without our babies in our arms and it's so bloody difficult! Please don't feel like that at all!
The midwife was honestly brilliant, as was our consultant. Slightly worried as we are moving to Cheshire in the next couple of months, however hubby and I have discussed sticking with and travelling (to the north east) for these consultants until we get a chunk of the way through our next pregnancy before switching to Cheshire! But we'll cross that bridge when it comes to it (which will hopefully be soon!)

Sending you lots of love and good luck wishes!! X

@Pampl3m0usse thank you hun! Sorry I think I missed your post - just went back and read it and I’m so sorry for your losses!! You are so strong for getting through all of that. Good luck for when you start TTC again, we’ll all be here to support you!
@DBoo fingers crossed for tomorrow morning then! I hope you get good news 🤞
@YellowDaffodils86 sorry for the bfn 😔 still got everything crossed for you though - still got a good chance! 🤞

@Laney79 it's hard to be sure without a break in bleeding but the timing between negative pg tests and your stronger bleed fits with AF, I think (2 weeks ish).

Feel a bit tired but thats about it at mo @MrsLCW if my memory serves me right i dont tend to get much symptom wise until closer to 6 weeks so i really cant tell either way.

Thanks @hayleyfx

AF is here, the bloody bitch. I was getting hopeful despite myself

@zarala what is the jks movement?
@mistymeow I use clear blue. I saw on mumsnet that they are recruiting for a trial, depending if you are in treatment or control group you get 2 months of opks to use under their instruction.
@pampl3m0usse we might have been on the same board. This miscarriage was very different from my first two, I think it is classed as missed and was a blighted ovum: bleeding started April 28th for 1 week, scan confirmed i was due to mc. Bleeding stopped.
Had faint positive preg tests, had more scans to reveal I still had the sac, had medical mgmt planned on 14th May.
A&E 13th May with severe pain and fainting. Came home.
Went back 14th for med mgmt, nothing happened.
Bled 17th/18th.
Negative preg test on Monday. Not sure if that helps really.
With the others I did what I was told and only tested 2 weeks after bleeding stopped.
@mrslcw, not sure where you are in n. East but Mr Aird works for Gateshead trust and is one of the top names in fertility.

@maverick79 I'm currently in Sunderland, under Dr Hinshaw who is absolutely brilliant. I couldn't be happier with the care I've received to be honest! X