TTC after Pregnancy Loss Thread 20 - Fx for 2019 babies

[dulwichdays]

Another thread for us all - I'm hoping I've got everyone's details in the list below, I copied it from our previous thread.

PassTheAfterEights 33 C6 TTC#1
BadBadBeans 33 C1 TTC#2 (1 cycle ttc pre MC)
hayleyfx 24 C4 TTC#1
Claire138 28 C4 TTC#1
Lovewinemorethanhusband 37 C3 TTC#3
Blondcat 36 C8 TTC#1
Sweetpea0318 38 C1 TTC#2 (7 months TTC pre MC)
Dulwichdays 34 C4 TTC#1 (4 cycles TTC pre MC)
Weasledee C3 TTC#3
BabynameEdie 30 C2 TTC#1
Yellowdaffodils86 31 C2 TTC#1 (1 cycle pre mc)
Boboelephant 35 C4 TTC#2 (9 cycles TTC pre MMC after EP)
Wellthisisunexpected 34 TTC#2 awaiting AF
Sloeberrygin 36 C1 TTC#2
Hidcat 35 C1 TTC#2 (3 Cycles TTC pre MC)
DaisyMay25 27 C8 TTC#1
Rdm10 34 C2 TTC#2
Zarala 36 (to be) TTC#2
SerenaOverjoyed 28 C1 TTC#1 (ttc 1 cycle pre mc)
KnitKitty 30 C1 TTC#1

@Littlegoth I'm so sorry. Welcome to the 🐧huddle.

@Boboelephant haha i have 1 FRER left in the house and im determined to try save it. Im sure AF is round the corner.
I also realised the reason for strange sickness. Pre natal vitamins on empty stomach in the morning, i usually take them at night. They are still 'during pregnancy' ones too. Ahhh stupid women!! I almost had my hopes up.

Evening ladies. Just been catching up. So much going on its hard to keep track. I'm sorry for all the new losses. Congratulations to all the bfp and sorry for all the bfn. All those still twwing fx and sticky glue for potential bfp. Baby dust for those on their fw.

My update : miserable, cramps and feeling generally useless. I know I shouldn't but I feel a bit like I failed again ( funny how our brains work, I know I didn't do anything wrong but still feel crap) hoping to get this finished. I've got another scan for this cyst on the 4/6/18 so I'll hopefully made a decision on what to do about it and (privately hoping it got smaller on its own, though not hopeful still getting lots of pain on the side its on). Sorry for having a moan again

@yellowdaffodils86 think me and you are in the same boat. Af due today or tomorrow. Started having some yellow / brown spotting friday. Tiny amount friday. Bit more saturday. Bit less yesterday. Bit less today. I do usually spot before af but generally a different colour and since ive been taking lots of vits i havent reallt spotted like i used to so weird. I also had a faint bfp yesterday. Id already put myself out friday when i noticed the spotting so goodness knows whats going on. Holding out till wednesday and will test again if no af.

Hello, can I join? I've lurked and sporadically joined and dropped off again over the last few months.

Had a MMC first trimester a couple of years back and a second trimester lost last year.

Just got a positive last week only to realise it was a chemical pregnancy - period has just started.

Luckily it's not too late so I'm hoping my cycle won't be completely flipped by it and we can start TTC in earnest as soon as it's done. Really starting to worry now that it's just going to be loss after loss though :(

@Littlegoth welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss.
@YellowDaffodils86 ah bummer yeah I've had that too. Well I will still cross everything for you. Do you have a date to use the frer by if af stays away?
@Lilimum4 sorry you're having a tough time. You have done absolutely nothing wrong but I do know how you feel. Feeling a big fat failure over here too. I get so frustrated that this was so easy for me at the start and now my body just won't play ball. Still feeling like that old cheese a bit!! I hope your cyst has gotten smaller. Fx for you on the 4th.
@DBoo how confusing. I hope you get an answer soon. Fx af stay away!!

@DBoo i wish she would get on with it. I dont usually spot before AF.but who knows things can change.
Ahh i missed that, congrats I doubt AF will arrive. FX for you.

@whyhastherumgone sorry to see you back here and so sorry for your CP. I really hope you get your sticky bean soon.

@Boboelephant thanks 😊 erm
Not really, maybe Wednesday. Although i will probably crack and use it in the morning if no AF. 😂
Id be more convinced if my boobs were more sore, they are a little but not as they were with last bfp.

@yellowdaffodils86 i havent took the faint bfp as a positive as im so sure af is on route. Guess time will tell. I kp squeezing my boobs too and thinking nope theyre not hurting like pregnant boobs.

Thanks bobo. Sorry im crap on the app and cant remember everyones names to tag.

This is such a lovely supportive group.

@redrobin 7 and @zarala. I feel strongly that women have a good intuition tho even I confuse mine at times with pregnancy anxiety. I knew that something was wrong with this pregnancy, and asked for an early scan but didn't get it. I also knew with my 2nd pregnancy which I also miscarried that it was twins and was laughed off as there is no history in our families however both sacs seen at the scan that confirmed I was about to mc.

@Pampl3m0usse I was very sorry to read of all that you have been through, you must be a woman of remarkable strength to manage all of that.

@Zarala @Weasledee I was prescribed progesterone. I was advised to take the pessaries 1x 400mg twice a day 12 hours apart from 1st day of missed af until week 13. There has since been the Promise trial which did not back up the efficacy of progesterone however as it can do no harm my consultant will continue to prescribe. Although the trial results didn't go as planned I think there is a lot of anecdotal evidence that it works.

Thank you to anyone who answered my question, it has really helped. I got my negative pregnancy tests this morning post mc so can try again, so I have another question, if you didn't wait for af, how did you know when to dtd? I usually do ov sticks but don't know when day 1 would be? My mc was in 2 parts 3 weeks apart but I think I have cm already tho.

@DBoo i hope she stays away for you.
Haha i know, i keep looking to see if they are veiny or bigger etc.

This probably isn't going to help the 2ww insanity but every time I've been pregnant (3 times now, no children) my resting heart rate has dipped just before ovulation that crept up and stayed up/kept going up when I've been pregnant even before I could take the earliest tests.

I wear a fitbit so track it religiously as I'm a stats geek.

Think there was a thread on it at some point...

@whyhastherumgone my first symptom both times has been a stinking cold... I'm praying for a snotty nose this time next week! X

@YellowDaffodils86 just read your post and got so excited for you, yay sickness 🤣 fx that af stays well away!! 🤞
@Boboelephant 🤞🤞
@Wellthisisunexpected just want to say - I’m testing on Thursday or Friday too!! Not feeling too hopeful but everything crossed that we both have good news to share 😊
@Littlegoth and @whyhastherumgone so sorry for your losses and welcome. Hope you both find this thread as helpful and supportive as I have 😊
@Lilimum4 sorry you’re feeling so rubbish. I had a chemical in March too, I thought I was getting my rainbow baby but sadly not. I felt the exact same way as you. It’s a rubbish feeling but just know that you’re doing nothing wrong, it’s not your fault. Sending you lots of hugs, I hope you’re feeling better soon 💕
@maverick79 I’m not sure what is right in that sense or what others have done but I classed the day I passed the sac as CD1. I used OPK’s from cd8 or 9 and I ovulated on CD18. Surprisingly it turned out to be a pretty normal cycle for me, shocked me quite a bit. Incase I missed it though I just kept dtd from about CD8 every 2-3 days for a couple weeks. Good luck for whenever you decide to start ttc again!! 🤞

@YellowDaffodils86 those all sound like promising symptoms but it's so hard to know. How many dpo are you?
Thanks for saying hi, I'm doing ok thanks, not really feeling it's real yet and am hugely busy with work this week so mind slightly taken off it all which is probably good.
@Boboelephant how are you doing?

Penguin huddles to everyone in the tww, new to the thread or anywhere else in their cycles. Baby dust to you all 💕🐧

@SerenaOverjoyed yes my colleague did that- she just went out and bought some and convinced her gp to give her progesterone and her next pregnancy was successful! She told me this after my second MC and now I wonder whether that could have saved my 3rd MC...but hey ho! It wasn't meant to be - really shouldn't go down that what if avenue...

@L1zz13 hahaha your post about chainsaw massacre made me laugh! But I'm sorry you're going through this/ does not sound fun at all! And that's so sweet that you buried it- really lovely

@KnitKitty yes I only started getting ovulation pains after ERPC- and last month it was for a full 5 days! So I am sure you've caught it!!! Good luck for his interview on Wednesday and hope you have more celebrating fun times in the bedroom 🤸🏼‍♀️😊

@Pampl3m0usse I think I missed your post earlier- so sorry for everything that you've had to go through. Lots of penguin 🐧 huddles for you! And welcome to this group of awesome women!

@DBoo & @YellowDaffodils86 sounds exciting girls!!! Fx for you that it is what I think it is! 🤞🏽

@whyhastherumgone hi! I remember your name from a couple months ago! Sorry you're going through this! Sending you hugs!
And Also- traditional Chinese doctors use the pulse to determine pregnancy- they can tell from conception! Because as you said heart rate goes up! So yes it is definitely a sign!

@maverick79 that's interesting about the promise trial! So many people swear by progesterone and Dr Shehata gives to everyone! With regards to ovulation I've never tracked my cycle we just try and do it every other night from about 3-4 days after my period has ended for about 2 weeks or until I can't be bothered anymore haha. I am a strong supporter of the JKS 🤸🏼‍♀️ movement 😂 probably not the help you're looking for! But...!

@Boboelephant sending you massive penguin 🐧 hugs! Sorry this wasn't your month. It is just not fair at all ! But don't despair- I know it's taking a long time but it will happen for you very soon!

I am just waiting for stinky Chinese herbs to be ready so I can down it and go to bed-
I have another 2 weeks to wait before I get my results from Dr Shehata so I'm anxiously waiting for that appointment
Look how much blood they took from me! And I've got to go back when AF next comes for even more !

Anyway good night ladies !

@yellowdaffodils86 - 🤞🏻 for you. Let’s hope we get more BFP this month.
@boboelephant - I’m working my way backwards in the fridge. Large drop in BBT today (despite not expecting AF until Thursday). Obviously I’ve told myself that it’s still fractionally above cover line, I wasn’t fully asleep for the hour before I took it and lots of other excuses. But I probably just need to face the writing that’s on the wall and accept that again this month isn’t my month and I’ve well and truely missed any fertility boost!

Mine are definitely not bigger or veiny and usually my nips darken and none of that either.

For those asking about progesterone i managed to get it prescribed from an understanding gp in my last pregnancy after she discussed with my consultant. I got to 14+2 woth a triploidy baby whos hb then stopped (always would have). I often wonder if the pregnancy lasted so long because of the baby aspirin and progesterone as i bled on and off from 6 weeks. That being said the hb still stopped and the consultants opinion was there is no conclusive evidence the progesterone stops mc but it causes no harm either.

Already got it lined up with my gp for a repeat prescription the next time i get a bfp. They could only prescribe 200mg a day (recommended is 400mg) but she was happy for me to use them as i wanted seen as tho on repeat. Lovely gp.

Be warned if u get any (cyclogest) its into the vagina but a lot of people go the back way. I got horrendous thrush on it so definitely the back way for me next time. Delightful lol!

@dulwichdays ..... implantation dip??? 🤞🏻

@cakelaur - sadly I think not at 12dpo...

Yellowdaffofils86 I think we're cycle twins!

AF was due yesterday but no sign of her (other than fatness). I think she's just late though, I don't get spotting usually. My boobs are sensitive but not really sensitive enough.

@serenaoverjoyed good luck, hope it's not just lateness!

@zarala hello I remember you too! Under you under investigations now? I'm going to go see my doctor this week but doubt he will count the chemical :-/ That's a LOT of blood they took from you - how do you have any left??

Morning ladies, I've got everything crossed for those of you with late AFs, and sending big hugs for those she's turned up to, the cow!!
I've just gotten back from my appointment with lead midwife. It was just for some bloods and things to rule out some other clotting disorders, however she said absolutely crack on TTC, and to phone her directly the day I get my positive pregnancy test and they will get the ball rolling there and then. She was absolutely lovely, and I only had one little cry when she asked if Penny was our first and I tried to explain we'd had a loss at 9 weeks beforehand. Never gets easier!!
Off to work I go now, just having a sneaky Diet Coke in the car before I go in! Xx

Hi everyone, I’ve name changed but was a previous lurker/occasional poster but the thread always moved so fast for me.

I’m sorry to see so many familiar names still struggling and I hope it isn’t much longer to wait for you

I’d decided not to try last cycle (my due date based on my LMP would have been my daughter’s birthday) but my period has unexpectedly arrived today, so I think I will try this cycle or at least get back into properly tracking my cycles.