Long cyclers we re the last ones standing in the tww and we re not taking it anymore guzzle down your grapefruit juice and pop those b6 pills..short cycle we re coming for you!

[thisisouryrfx18]

Looking for luvely ladies with long cycles who want to swap tips on how to shorten your cycle..doesnt matter how bonkers I ve tried it all !😘

[Aph413]

Its my first weekend off since December! I'm going to spend the whole weekend asleep! I'm actually off to a dog show with a friend and her puppy. Not sure what happens at this show but I'm looking forward to relaxing. Might even organise my craft room (hopefully invoke sods law and it'll need to become a nursery as soon as I've got it how I like!)
Enjoy your night, you deserve to relax!

[thisisouryrfx18]

@Aph413 that sounds fun i luv dogs, sometimes its brill just to have a weekend off catch up on sleep watch a boxset or organise the house. Everybody thinks im weird when I say that lol but im boxing up stuff in my kitchen at the min having a gd old declutter then getting it decorated.

[Lilsquish]

Can i ask what ages u are guys? Im almost 34 :-@ (mentally im 21)

Sounds like some good weekend plans. I should be working, but off as i have a hen do :-D

[Aph413]

@thisis I've already cleared out my wardrobe and drawers, getting ready to gut the house and bask in it's clean glory. Tidying tends to fall to the wayside after a 15 hour shift so it's overdue.

[FlapJackered]

I have got my MIL over so cue hiding all the conception vits etc! I have a dog so will probably take her on a long walk tomorrow.

@Lilsquish I am 30, but also do not feel like it! I still feel far too young to be responsible enough to have kids!

[Aph413]

Lilsquish I'm 27. Feel like an old maid compared to both sisters having their first children at 23.
Speaking of mils though mine had the cheek to tell me to hurry up because my husband wasn't getting any younger. This was at 25 and 27, I'm sorry but we aren't all ready to have kids at 19. Although I suspect if I had got pregnant at 19 mil wouldn't have been happy with either of us.

[Lilsquish]

Lol at flapjacked!!

I keep hiding mine too whenever anyone comes over.

Just dont want people to know we're ttc.

[thisisouryrfx18]

@Lilsquish and @FlapJackered im the same im kind of glad i didnt tell ne one we re ttc ppl would just constantly be asking r u not pregnant yet and add even more pressure! Lol im 33 dnt feel it either where does time go seriously scary lol

[Aph413]

I've actually told family we're trying. I needed support in one sense. On the other hand it shut my mil up when she once again asked about grandkids and I just looked at her and went I'm doing my best. There's only a 25% chance for a perfectly healthy woman.

[thisisouryrfx18]

@Aph413 im getting to the stage were im thinking about telling ppl but i just cba with all the questions tbh lol

[flyingplum]

Since we started TTC, my cycles have been almost regular, after years of all over the place (shortest 19, longest 83). Each month I expect it to go haywire again...maybe this month will be it. But I've been wondering if the pregnancy vitamin I started taking (seven seas) had anything to do with it...

[flyingplum]

And fwiw with the soy thing...I'm vegan and eat loads of soya, so I've never been convinced on that one. I actually thought the phytoestrogens were supposed to be bad for your cycle and have been eating less of it, not more, since January.

[Aph413]

@flyingplum do you mean the soy isoflavones shortening cycles? Because I always thought that was different to regular soya

[flyingplum]

Isoflavones is just the word for the chemical group that includes the phytoestrogens in soyabeans. I imagine the supplements are more concentrated than if you just eat tofu or eat soyabeans, but I don't think they are chemically different. I guess it depends why your cycle is irregular as to whether it helps, so possibly I was being a bit flippant.

[flyingplum]

Dammit, pressed send too soon. But my understanding was that long cycles are often (though not always) caused by high levels of estrogen which stops ovulation, so I don't know how a phytoestrogen is supposed to help? Apologies if I've misunderstood this - I can't find an explanation of why it's supposed to help.

[thisisouryrfx18]

@flyingplum the soy is supposed to help mature your eggs but you only take it at the beginning of your cycle your supposed to avoid soy after ovulation

[thisisouryrfx18]

Do any if you ladies use fertility apps its asking me for my cycle length its normally 42days but last cyvle was down to 33days is it better to put average or your last cycle?

[Aph413]

Thank you flyingplum my knowledge of soy supplements admittedly only comes from limited reading so you probably know more than me.
thisisouryr I put 28 days and then let the app work it out as I logged my periods. If you've been tracking them already you could add them in and it'll figure your average for you. What app are you using?

[thisisouryrfx18]

@Aph413 fertility friend what 1 do u use?

[flyingplum]

@thisisouryrfx18 - do you have a link anywhere? Not trying to be argumentative, just curious. I've heard the soy isoflavone thing mentioned before, but can't find anything to back up other than threads on various TTC boards. Assume it must come from somewhere, but it contradicts a lot of what I had learnt about my PCOS over the years (pre-TTC), so I just wondered what the science behind it was. I thought high levels of estrogen where one of the causes of long/anovulatory cycles in PCOS because it causes lots of follicles to develop (the poly cycles of the PC) without enough progesterone, and this is the cause of the increased risk of endometrial cancer Etc etc.

Then again, they don't really understand Pcos and there are different types, and things seem to change all the time, so maybe I'm just out of date?

[flyingplum]

I should add...maybe I just don't understand it enough in the first place!

[thisisouryrfx18]

@flyingplum well im no expert tbh just going by success stories ive been told online there are some interesting articles on it but i dnt know how to attach links tech really isnt my thing lol google an article called soy isoflavones for dummies it explains when and how to take it. As i said it does say do not take if you ovulate it will mess up your cycle dont take more than 200mgs a day and dnt take it longer than 5days and it must b at the beginning of your cycle. Suppose ppl try anything when theyr desperate i chickened out of taking this cycle because it can mess up ur cycle and im a bit cautious messing about with hormones because i thought about the risk of cancers etc.

[Aph413]

flyingplum I've only seen the ttc boards with "evidence" of it working. The scientific studies I've found seem to focus on it as treatment for the menopause. I'll find some links on them and come back to you.

thisisouryr I use fertility friend too. Just put in your average and it'll work it out for you the more data you put in. Like I said before you can go back and put past periods in too and it'll give you an average itself

[Coconutty89]

hey everyone can I join? trying to ttc #2 but #1 with my dp. I'm 25
came off the pill December had a bleed for 2 days February 11th. went to the docs last Tuesday who did bloods so find out results in a few days time.
sods law I started bleeding Friday afternoon. my other half is hopeful that this will be a good cycle as I started soy isoflavones on cd3.

we had an MC last January so we're more than ready for it to happen now!
haven't told anyone so would be lovely for the support.

hope you're all ok 💐

[thisisouryrfx18]

Welcome! @Coconutty89 soo sorry about ur miscarriage x❤