I yam what I yam

[Bubblegum89]

Thread 6... 😑

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

Sorry to hear about fp paranormal :( well done on losing 1lb though. Fp hasn’t arrived yet for me but I’m taking my mooncup to work because I don’t trust my body one bit to go from nothing to full blown massacre within the next few hours lol had a bit of an iffy tummy this morning which is almost always a sign of impending fp/doom

I get that dodgy tummy too Bubblegum. I’m just annoyed FP hasn’t shown up as was using condoms anyway coming up to surgery and would like to think my cycles aren’t a total mess at the moment. Also found last months very upsetting as first one after MMC so am slightly dreading it but want it over!

Sounds promising for you though, I’ll (quietly) cross my fingers.

I’m also supposed to have day 3 bloods done for recurrent miscarriage clinic, but can’t do them until FP actually starts!

I think sometimes not getting fp is worse than getting it. You start worrying there’s something wrong or you just want to go on to your next cycle of ttc but you can’t because you don’t know where you’re at. Hopefully it comes soon! I stuck my mooncup in this morning as I couldn’t be bothered attempting to get it in in the middle of work because it can be a messy business lol. I just took it out though because I’d put it in awkwardly and it was uncomfortable and fully expected at least a bit of brown blood but nope. Just lots of creamy cm. I think I’ll buy some preggo tests this afternoon because if there’s one definite way to bring on fp, it’s buying tests!

Just popped into the chemist next to work. You know you’ve been ttc for too long when you walk out without buying any tests because all they had was blue dye

Haha Bubblegum I think even a blue dye is ok when period due, just useless for early testing! Although I much prefer a pink dye. Not the digital with weeks indicator as the weeks scare me (gave me wrong dates with DD who was fine, but early 3+ with MMC).

I’m never late usually when I’m not pregnant but we used condoms and only had sex about 4 times so I’m just being crazy! We aren’t teenagers who don’t know how to use them properly!

Hi yammers, I need some sense knocked into me. FP is due on Friday/ Saturday and have been feeling nauseous since the weekend. I have zero appetite and just feel sickly. I promised myself I wouldn't symptom spot this month but here I am, once again, symptom spotting and finding other forums to confirm my desperate hope that I might just have got lucky this month. I am determined not to test until at least sat as I'm back home for my sister's 21st and I don't want to be miserable after a BFN.

Am going to try and keep busy this week to stop myself going insane and em even going to Zumba with the old ladies this lunch time to distract myself. Wish me luck! X

I’m the same @bubble if I start ‘planning’ to test then it’s a guarantee FP will show up!

Good luck @si1ver I hope it’s not too painful. Just think of the lovely new lining that will be there for fertilised egg to latch on to!!

Enjoy your hols @wonky am very jealous

@Bubblegum89 I can totally relate re thinking there is a problem if Fp is late to arrive. I have self diagnosed myself with early menopause on a number of occasions but the Gp tested for this and said this definitely wasn't the case. We also have the results back for the semen analysis on Friday - this shit can be so scary at times. Am wishing you lots of luck and who knows, it could be your month x

I’m on my way to work now but hoping it’s your lucky month Bubblegum. Hopefully the hycosy cleared some debris for you.

@bridget33 I don’t think we can stop ourselves going crazy even when we know it’s too early to test. I personally don’t really mind seeing a negative but if it upsets you I wouldn’t test.

I am a serial tester normally @Paranormalbouquet but am just going to see if I have the willpower this month to wait until FP. I have just finished Zumba and it was hilarious! Haven't been in years but I think I will go again. Am still feeling sick though and don't even want lunch which isn't at all like me as I love my food! I think I may have a bug or maybe it's stress. I have also had quite a bit of cm but I keep reminding myself that before FP I often feel nauseous and have lots of cm so I don't want to get my hopes up.

paranormal I see too many evaps on blue dye tests to ever trust them haha it’s pink dye or nothing. They do frer’s in the Boots by mine so I’ll maybe get one of them. I’ve never used a digital, I’m far too scared for those. Fingers crossed your fp shows up soon (not used to saying that to people!)

Lexie once I was late by about 4 days because I had been on norethisterone and it messed my cycles up. I bought a test and the second I went to take it, fp showed up!

Thank you bridget not getting my hopes up yet though! It’s frustrating isn’t it, you don’t want it to come but when it doesn’t you worry something is wrong!

I’m getting these weird sharp twinges coming and going mostly in my left side (the side I got the supposed ov pains on) but no cramps as of yet. Also got a bunch of watery milky cm again. So yeah I have zero idea what’s going on 😑

Super negative frer just now. Oh well. At least I know I’m not pregnant and can stop daydreaming about it

@Bubblegum89 that’s so annoying, I’m disappointed for you. I’m cramping now so hopefully FP just shows up. It’s so strange wishing for it but as you say worrying when it’s not appearing.

I’m just annoyed because my body is wasting valuable ttc time lol I know that if I DID ovulate, it had to have been that Sunday two weeks ago as the day after, my cm had completely dried up which always happens the day after I ovulate. Then again, I’m not 100% sure I ovulated anyway so I could be waiting ages for fp now. I’m going to put my mooncup back in and see if it triggers anything! Hopefully your cramping is a good sign :)

Sorry to hear that @Bubblegum89 - it's super shit. :-( x

Thanks bridget I’m so annoyed at myself for getting my hopes up. Of course I’m not pregnant, I’ve been trying for long enough to know it’s not as easy as that. Never mind, looks like it’s a waiting game now then

@Bubblegum89 cheer up sweets. I took a test yesterday despite being six DPO AND not having had sex at the right time this month AND having been basically diagnosed as infertile because I felt funny and couldn't find anything on the internet about having a scratch while pregnant by mistake.

Unsurprisingly it was negative 😂

This is why I don’t bother with tests, they make me feel worse than fp showing up si1ver. 6dpo though 😂 it’s madness isn’t it, the things we do. I went straight online to see if I could find anything about getting negative frers when not using fmu. It’s a frer for god’s sake, doesn’t matter what pee you use, if it’s negative then you ain’t preggo. My OH doesn’t know fp is late or that I did a test and is being so annoying and making things worse because I want him to leave me alone lol

Sorry to hear that Bubble. Nothing worse than a neggier-than-negative test.

I am off for my first acupuncture session on Wednesday so feeling a bit less scared now I've read the replies to Wonky about it! I'm a scientist (of sorts) and usually a complete sceptic about alternative therapies but so many people swear by it that I figured it had to be worth a go.

GP appointment next week too. I've already had 3/21 bloods but they were a few months ago so expect they'll want to repeat them. Is it normally just bloods and sperm analysis as a first step?

Oh Silver last month I did a test the day FP finished because ooooo just in case ooooooh

wobbles own head

@Miserablemouse. 😂😂😂

Honestly, at this point I couldn't figure out if I wanted it to be positive or not. I was all "well if I am pregnant I'll have to cancel my meds delivery and my scratch and my scans and my flights and and and " I mean obviously if be delighted to be pregnant and not to have to go through IVF but the idea of unpicking all my arrangements was horrendous.

@Miserablemouse I’m also a scientist of sorts. I think the evidence that acupuncture helps with fertility is very limited, but the evidence that it helps with stress is very good. And that can only help. It’s normally day 3/21 bloods and semen analysis to begin with- and thyroid function, prolactin along with the day 3 normally. I’m having them to see if a high FSH could be the cause of my miscarriages but can’t have them until I get FP. Which is never usually late.

@Si1ver hope the scratch went well.

Thanks @Paranormalbouquet, it's not until this evening.

Just checked my mooncup. Sure enough, there was some brown blood. Fuck sake, can’t believe I wasted £12 on pregnancy tests. I 100% hate my body. Guess we’re on to our last month of ttc then :(