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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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I yam what I yam

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Bubblegum89 · 20/03/2018 10:10

Thread 6... 😑

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

NEW RULE ALERT!

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

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Paranormalbouquet · 15/04/2018 11:32

@Bubblegum89 I am too which I think explains my very variable temps!

Anovulatory cycles are usually long. The best predictor of ovulation is regular cycles of 25-35 days. Much better than OPKs/temps/CM!

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Bubblegum89 · 15/04/2018 11:47

Well I braved the toilet lol it’s a surefire way of starting fp off normally. Still no sign so I think I definitely didn’t ovulate because my cycles are super regular. Apart from that weird 4 months when going on norethisterone for a week messed them up. If I ovulated this cycle, it will have been two weeks ago today as that’s when I had the weird pains and my darkest opk (and was exactly 2 weeks after my last fp) so if fp doesn’t show up today then I’ll just assume I didn’t ovulate. Just frustrating as it was our second to last month of ttc naturally before looking into IVF.

Speaking of which, did anyone watch Britain’s Got Talent last night and see the magician guy? I was in tears. 5 years of IVF, finally get pregnant and then your wife gets cancer. The little girl was adorable though

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SoozC · 15/04/2018 11:50

It's hard to know what goes on, isn't is, Bubble? The whole thing's a fucking mystery. But with any luck you did ov, just maybe not when you expected it. Got tentative fingers crossed...

I am okay, thanks, ticking along as normal, trying not to get my hopes up about anything. I only ov'd last Sunday so too early for anything and if I do get 'symptoms' I'm hoping I can just block them out. It's so disheartening, I can't believe I'm still alive, that I'm still getting through the cycles, the years. The human brain's capacity for coping with the rollercoaster of hope/not hope, depression, emotional exhaustion, jealousy, bitterness and low self-esteem is simply amazing.

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Bubblegum89 · 15/04/2018 12:01

Sooz I know, right. Sometimes it gets so on top of me and I’m amazed when I come out on the other side like “okay let’s try again”. It sucks but I suppose in a way it does show you how strong you really are as a person. And you really are, you’ve been through a lot and you’re still here :)

In terms of if I ov’d, I don’t think I ov’d any later/earlier than I expected as I had those ov pains on my expected date but I’m guessing you can probably get “ov pains” without ovulating... oh I don’t know. I give up. I’ve felt cautiously hopeful this cycle, more so than any other cycle so far. I don’t know why. But now I think about it, it does seem like I didn’t ovulate so there’s that hope down the toilet lol I’ll just have to give it all I’ve got next cycle and hope it works because ideally I’d rather avoid ivf.

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Paranormalbouquet · 15/04/2018 12:05

@Bubblegum89 a test today would be fairly conclusive if you did ovulate 2 weeks ago? I think my cycles are just a bit confused due to recent miscarriage; this is cycle day 30 and it's never more than 29days long usually.

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Bubblegum89 · 15/04/2018 12:10

Oh good lord no, I would never take a pregnancy test until I was at least 2 days late paranormal I have a phobia of stark white tests and refuse to take one without good reason 😂

I know a lot of ladies who have had a mc and found their following cycles were much longer. As if having a mc wasn’t awful enough, it goes and messes about with your body too :(

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Paranormalbouquet · 15/04/2018 12:20

@SoozC the drive is amazing isn’t it. My mother keeps asking why I am putting myself through a big surgery without any guarantee that it works when I already have a child. And then said the age gap will be so big that there’s no point really. Thanks mum, way to make me feel better!

@Bubblegum89 after my other miscarriages (and the probable very early one where I hadn’t bothered testing but was 10 days late) I actually ovulated early afterwards; this time I ovulated the day the miscarriage bleeding stopped which was strange. Thought I’d be back to normal by this month though.

Haha with stark white tests! I have pretty much equal fear of stark white and of positive tests! As with positive tests I just feel like I’m waiting for it all to end.

MynameisJune · 15/04/2018 13:45

@bubble I saw the magician, had me in tears too. Also reminds me that there are always people worse off than I am, and to be grateful we are all healthy. Are you going to test tomorrow? Can understand the fear of the stark white tests. So much worse for me than seeing fp arrive and that’s bad enough!

Owlpatrol · 15/04/2018 14:08

@Bubblegum89 same as me this cycle so hanging in there. I too have my day 21 bloods on Tuesday I'm a bit nervous about it mainly because I need to tell my boss I'll be running late for work and she's such a nosey cow she'll question why I've been for blood tests. I'm going to lie if she asks and I'm tired all the time or something. Had some more mild cramping today I'm about 6dpo if I indeed ovulated. Was only late once by about 5 days so may not have ovulated that cycle. We shall see not due fp for around 11 days

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Bubblegum89 · 15/04/2018 14:53

june If fp doesn’t show tonight or tomorrow (I’m 99.9% sure it will show tomorrow) I’ll test on Tuesday maybe. I’m the same, I’d rather my period showed up than have to look at a negative test!

owlpatrol fingers crossed for you :) I had a lot of twinges/cramps on my left side last Sunday so 7dpo (IF I ovulated) but I tend to get twinges now and again through the tww anyway. I have had a few twinges the last few days as well. Not period-like but enough for me to think that it’s on its way.

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FairyAnn · 15/04/2018 19:58

Okay, talk me down Yammers. Period was 3 days late, heavy for 2 days, then stopped completely. Now I've read a number of posts from women saying this happened to them and they still got a BFP.

So now seriously considering taking a test tomorrow. Am I being stupid to hope?

starwishing · 15/04/2018 20:31

@FairyAnn are you sure it's not just your mid break? My FP comes on for 2 days off for 2 and on for another 2 xx

FairyAnn · 15/04/2018 20:33

Could be but don't think so. Typically I get 4 days with tapering off for a few days after. This started Friday morning heavy and just stopped cold this morning

Paranormalbouquet · 15/04/2018 20:54

@FairyAnn that depends on how upset you would be at a stark white test? I don’t mind seeing negative tests, they prepare me for FP.

Lots of cramps here but no FP.

MynameisJune · 15/04/2018 21:10

@fairyann depends really, if it was implantation bleeding rather than a period then a test would necessarily be positive tomorrow.

Si1ver · 15/04/2018 21:10

It's unlikely @FairyAnn but test if you want to. Be prepared to likely see a negative test though.

My scratch is booked for tomorrow. I'm quite apprehensive, then my meds are being delivered on Tuesday. It's all suddenly very real.

FairyAnn · 15/04/2018 21:22

Thanks all. I think I'm just being daft and letting my mind run away from me 😊

WonkyDonk87 · 15/04/2018 22:04

Evening all. Well - I'm writing from our not-so-luxurious airport hotel before our "I'm Not fucking pregnant - take me somewhere hot with good food and wine" break. Had my first acupuncture yesterday and despite being pretty cynical, I did feel very relaxed and spaced out afterwards so maybe there's something in it. Think I'm due FP on Friday, but have packed tampons just in case (had a surprise period in Nice last year and had to send DH out for supplies ha ha). Hope you're all well. Wonky

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Bubblegum89 · 15/04/2018 22:22

Ooh where are you off to wonky? Have a lovely time!

Fp didn’t show up today. Looks like it’s going to be tomorrow instead 🙄

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WonkyDonk87 · 16/04/2018 04:09

Lisbon Grin

FairyAnn · 16/04/2018 06:38

Have a wonderful time Wonky!

Paranormalbouquet · 16/04/2018 07:14

Lisbonnis a great city, have a great time Wonky.

Paranormalbouquet · 16/04/2018 08:02

Lisbon is!!!

MynameisJune · 16/04/2018 08:15

Have fun Wonky! Anywhere hot with food and alcohol sounds amazing right now!

Paranormalbouquet · 16/04/2018 08:35

Wish FP showed up, lost 1lb this week but I know I always lose a bit more once it’s arrived!

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