Anyone else starting to TTC #2? Promised they wouldn't go crazy and already becoming a woman obsessed?!?! Please join me!

[ImMrsBrightside]

Hoping to find some ladies in a similar situation to either help keep the crazy at bay... or provide company to safely let it out!

DH and I had planned to wait until May-ish to start trying for #2. Our DD is 15.5 months and we are due to complete on our new house next month so wanted to wait. I am still BF but only a couple of times a day. Periods returned at 8 months and have been every 29-33 days since. Downloaded the sodding Ovia app last month, "just to start monitoring my cycles"... instead I am already devoting an unhealthy amount of time to staring at it and subsequently became fixated about DTD on my ovulation day (usually around CD18-20). Successfully managed to seduce DH during DD’s nap this weekend on CD18 and am now descending into madness checking CM and wondering about every minor twinge!

So I guess we are now officially TTC! The madness, upset and hoping begins again!

Please tell me there are some of you in the same boat?!

I stopped for the exact same reason! I was starting to resent ever feed as I knew it was suppressing my fertility. Was a tough decision at the time but I'm happy with it now.

Fingers crossed we start seeing some bfps here soon

I feel the same, that I'm out already! AF isn't even due until Friday but I woke up with a familiar headache so I think I'm out. I think I feel this way because I just don't know how my cycles are, as we TTC straight after the withdrawal bleed when I stopped my pill. With DS I was off the pill 8 months before we TTC so I was confident that my cycles were regular etc. Now I'm cursing not coming off the pill earlier as if I'm out I'll have to wait until June to TTC!

Hi all and welcome newbies!

Stupid question - I am still breastfeeding DD who is 16 months but periods came back at 8 and have been regular since then. Does it still affect fertility even if you have periods? I know periods are no guarantee you are ovulating but does breastfeeding do anything else? I only feed her twice a day.

I knew last month wasn't our month but was less about a feeling and more just knowing we fucked up the timings.

Have also realised today that my next fertile week is our moving week! This is either a recipe for disaster - both painting, unpacking and generally being shattered. Or could work in our favour - DD booked in for extra days at nursery, our chance to "christen" all the new rooms...

@ImMrsBrightside I tried for 6 months with no ppaf before finally weaning DS and was on lots of TTC while breastfeeding groups, so I've read tons on the matter. The consensus I got was that if your periods had returned and were generally regular then it's likely there's no negative effect of breastfeeding. However, there were also a lot of women who had to fully wean to get pregnant despite having had their periods for some time. Unfortunately it's a case of - who knows? :( It's a very individual thing.

I think prolactin suppresses ovulation. So although a woman can have their periods they may be anovulatory.

Good Evening all!

Hope all is well! Wow, didn’t realise there were long term feeders on the thread! I went reluctantly until 13 months, I was fed up of being a dummy (she wouldn’t take a real one). It was really hard to wean her though - cold turkey for us, tough but I’d still be BF now otherwise

DEFINITELY make time to christen every room the house @ImMrsBrightside - you can embarrass your child at their 18th party....if you have it at the house, ha ha ha! I’m starting to have a lookout for our ‘forever home’ now we are are hoping to expand.....!

Anyway, digressing -
I am super-proud of myself today. 3 days until AF due and DESPITE having 1 FRER in the house I have not POAS

I have a WWYD question (if you are sensible woman ttc)

We are heading to Ireland Friday lunchtime for the bank holiday to stay with the PIL, should I:

POAS on Friday morning before we leave?
Or
Wait until Monday and test when we return home if AF hasn’t arrived?

AF due on Saturday

PIL live in the middle of nowhere on the west coast, there is no way I’d be able to head to a shop and buy a test (and everything is shut in Ireland over bank holiday, inc the pub).

I’m confident I won’t be tempted POAS tomorrow. After last weekend’s BFN I’m in no hurry to try again.

Also, tbh not experiencing any real ‘pregnancy symptoms’. I think I might be in my usual cycle (apart from my left boob which is quite sensitive and sore, my right feels fine - anyone know what that is about)? Which is probably the real reason why I’m not tempted right now.

I have googled BFP’s at 8,9,10 & 11 dpo (yes I am a bit nuts) and you can toss a coin whether it’ll show up. My gut is telling me to wait it out, but I’m impatient!

WWYD? Any advice and opinions welcome!

Kurly I would PAOS Friday AND hide a test in my bag and go again on Sat maybe Sun too!

MrsBrightside I dont know if BF can affect TTC. I am also BFing I got a positive OPK this month.

TTC is already making me crazy last night I dreamed that AF arrived!!!!! She isnt due for another 10 days!

AF has now arrived, my body must be playing tricks on me as usually very punctual.
Need some positives on this thread!

@kurly test before you go! I live in Ireland and trust me the pubs will be open, they just close a little earlier so still possibilities for drinking etc so best to know before you go! Best of luck to you (and enjoy your trip, the West is so beautiful)
BFN for me again this morning, this would’ve been the same time period when I got my last BFP so I am more than sure I’m out now. Hoping AF will show up on time and not take forever!

@KurlyWurly88 I would probably test Friday cos otherwise I'd not be able to stop thinking about it all weekend!

@Bluebelltulip sorry to hear that :( positive vibes your way for the next cycle!

I did a FRER today - BFN. I'm about 10dpo. I had a positive with DS at this stage so I'm pretty sure I'm out. In fact I'm 99% sure. Just don't have any pregnancy symptoms/feelings and AF signs are there. My face has broken out badly and that was always a sure fire sign it was on its way. Was a bit sad with the BFN but I'm glad I can wash my hands of this cycle and focus on the next. I think I'm going to start temping as it'll give me something to do daily (or just something else to obsess over )

POAS this morning using my last FRER - BFN

I had a feeling this week it would be negative, after being convinced last week it might be positive.

O well, onto the 3rd cycle. I might revert to ‘get hammered every weekend approach’ this month, which worked last last time!

We DTD everyday apart app predicticted ovulation day.

What else can we do 🤷‍♀️

@cherryo88 - DH husband confirmed that the law changed only last year, we can go to the pub tonight, yay! PIL can look after DD!

Jesus, do I have a squinter???

Please bear in mind this is now approx 25 mins old now (we’ll outside the 5 mins).
A chem or evap line?
I typed up my post on mumset, and made tea. Looked at it again - and can see the faintest of lines.....

Can you see it, or am I seeing things? It keeps ‘pulsating’ as fading a little, getting stronger, then fading....

Is that what a chem pg does?

I’m shaking......I think I might be seeing things....

@KurlyWurly88 that's definitely a line but as it came up outside the time frame you need to retest to be sure, if it's pink then it is most likely a positive. The pulsating is probably a trick of the light. A chemical pregnancy is just an extremely early miscarriage so a later test would be lighter or even negative if that were the case.

Keeping everything crossed for you that this is not an evap!

kurly that’s a line! Congrats! That’s exactly what mine looked like with my DD. Go get yourself another one!

Hi everyone kurly that does look like a line! I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you!
I’m still breastfeeding my 14mo a couple of times a day. My period came back at 6months and I get positive opks each month, but now I’m starting to wonder if BF is affecting my fertility hmmm.
Have a good long weekend everyone :)

Omg kurly!!! That looks like a line with colour and everything!! Sooo hoping this is it for you!

CD 1 today - AF arrived. First AF in 29 months!! I've read horror stories about first period after giving birth. Is it really that bad??

My first was super heavy, had to get DH to get me super flow tampons which I’ve never ever used before! The good news is it only lasted 2 days and I had zero cramps. Before DD I would’ve been crippled for first 2 days. I’m should be due around Monday. Hoping it comes so I can get cracking again!

I've not had any cramps but it's already pretty heavy! Fingers crossed it doesn't last long

Can I join?!

Not officially TTC#2 but we’ve had a couple of “let’s just see what happens” moments. However I keep going back and forth on my decision as to whether the time is right! DS is 13 months and I’d like our DCs to be close in age but worried about how hard it will be

Already using Ovia just to track my cycles and I used an OPK on a whim yesterday. It was hanging around in a drawer left over from last time... the madness has already begun but we are definitely not TTC!

Hi Naschkatze, welcome

I'm now CD23 but I'm pretty sure already that I am out. I have had mild cramps for the last 2 days and again today I have eve put a liner in because it feels like AF could show up at any moment.

Yesterday I was very tearful and I just cried and cried about it not working for us yet. Finding it really hard to be around friends that are pregnant I know its only early cycles but I am trying to get my head around DC being an only child because we dont seem to be having any luck

Fifi did you conceive your first quickly? What cycle are you on now? When is AF due?

AF is in full force now. Not sure if it's worse than preDS as I've always had heavy periods but after 29 months of none I'm remembering how shit they are. Currently in bed with a large bar of galaxy and a cup of tea!

Tested yesterday and thought i could see something. This was this morning with FMU. Could it be? I have no more tests and will be Tuesday before I can again

Ooh Cherry! Def a line there! I've never used a blue dye test before. Are they bad for evaps? All my fingers crossed that this is your bfp

Yeah they’re notorious for them from what I’ve read which is why I’m trying to be very conservative. I’m already scared to test again in case it’ll be a BFN.
I’ve compared it to the test from the night before and there is more due uptake but who knows. Didn’t have any wine with dinner just in case. Tuesday seems so far away

Two more sleeps. Keep yourself super busy tomorrow. When's AF due?

Well this is first cycle I’ve had since DD so I’m not sure but I was 28/29 days before and that would make me due tomorrow or Tuesday. The more I google the more I’m convincing myself it’s an evap