TTC #2 - March BFPs

[Cariad2017]

If you’re ttc #2 and due your AF/ BFP in March then this is the bus for you.

For my sins, I’m a bit of a veteran of the ttc circuit, and ironically if we get a BFP this month, my EDD is likely to be DS’s 3rd Birthday. Stats are as follows:

Age: 35
Cycle: 18 (without a hint of a BFP - yawn)
AF due: 15 March
DS: Aged 2

Desperately hoping to invoke the law of sod this month as we have a fertility clinic appointment on 26 March to get the ball rolling on IVF. You have no idea how much I’d love to cancel it!

Hi ladies, I’m joining this thread

Age - 27
TTC #2
Cycle #2 following miscarriage in December
DS is 2

AF should have arrived Friday and no signs yet, although my cycle was all off last month after miscarriage so may not have the dates quite right. I’ve got a lot of wet cm and sore boobs which I don’t usually get but I’m trying not to get my hopes up as I was convinced I was pregnant last month and wasn’t. I have some FRERs but am too scared to test at the moment in case it’s negative! Good luck to all of you

Well a little update:
I am 10 DPO, have had sore boobs for several days now and feel unusually hormonal.
Period is not due for another 7 days but stupidly I couldn't resist POAS this morning...result is not pregnant (of course). Didn't say anything to DH.
If I'm lucky there could be implantation happening around now, am I right in saying that happens at 10 DPO or so? Haven't noticed any spotting so far though.
I have two tests left so holding out until next Friday or so to test again.

Hats off to you who are keeping healthy and fit. I am not being disciplined with food or exercise, this snow has me eating rings around myself. But if I get my period next Sunday I will go on a proper health kick.

Welcome Bobo and Slippynips

Slippynips get testing!!!

Lopey - what a fantastic attitude!

I am struggling with the waiting and the disappointment factor big time. I am also struggling to feel like myself again since DC. There just seems to be no time for anything other than cleaning and tidying, think I need to take a leaf out of Lopey's book!

The good news is the weather is OKish again so we can finally get out of the house I have plans to go for a coffee with a friend tomorrow has cheered me up.

I'm still hanging on in there, now cycle day 20-22 (who knows) and not feeling so irrational today haven't got stupidly cross at DH for anything wooohoooo!!

I think I am now 9DPO, when does implantation happen?

I'm going to bite the bullet and use an OPK today. No idea when I'm likely to ovulate after miscarriage so at least I'll get an idea of where I'm at in my cycle.

Yass that sounds like a good idea, tell us how you get on, but dont be disheartened if it doesnt go well. I got no positive OPK the month I conceived DC1!

Thanks BadBadBeans and Fififiesta 😀

Great attitude Lopey!

Ooh I'd be testing too slippynips! Good luck!

Fifi and Fountain they say implantation can happen between day 6 and 12 although even later for some. Also only about 20% have implantation bleeding so I wouldn't worry if you don't. I never did.

Good luck Yass. I used them this month- trying to sort out body after mc too. I found them helpful- although something else for me to obsess over 😂

I ovulated yesterday so am officially now in the 2ww. Keeping everything crossed for March!

Thank you Bobo so I guess right now if I'm 9DPO! Crossing everything but trying not to get my hope up even though it is ceiling height currently.

Aww @Fififiesta keep my fingers firmly crossed for you!

@Lopey I've started back climbing today and started back MMA and ju-juitzu last week, my goodness i cant believe how unfit i have become! I was running rings round the young ones before and i cant even keep up with the older lads now! I swear ive done myself a mischief at climbing today too.

Still, like PP said, you feel so much better for it, the endorphins are so high I've cleaned the house top to bottom today as well! Endorphins at the moment are a welcome happiness source.

So deeply sorry to everyone who hasn't got their BFP this month its so sad. Unfortunately I'm still bleeding, it's been over 3 weeks now so don't know what will happen for March. ☹

Sorry to hear so many are out this month, best of luck for April ladies.

Lopey i think you're taking such a great approach, healthy living has got to be a help and either way you'll feel (and look?!) much happier. I really hope next month is for you.

Im 2dpo so mynameis i think we're poas buddies. I'm due af on 15 Mar - you? I'm going to do my very very best to wait until that date to test. But you know me, impatient to the core..

I've been temping like a hero this month though, and I think the process of 'doing something' every day that gives me a fancy chart is making me feel more in control. Crazy i know..! Also been running more and trying to eat well so hopefully it helps

Good luck to those of us still in the game for this month and welcome newbies xxx

Whoops i meant cariad in my pp, not mynameis (but hi though!)

And omg slippy id also be testing already - fx for your bfp. And sorry to hear of your mc i hope you're looking after yourself

Lol, I feel like a fraud now after everyone praising me for my positive attitude....! I do try to be positive....but it is forced; I still feel incredibly shit!

I was still in bed crying at 4pm in the afternoon yesterday as OH took DS out for a walk.... I still feel numb and scared to contemplate a future without another baby, sad as that is....

I know there's no point in wallowing though...got to carry on. The healthy eating is making me feel a bit better...a bit less tired, and my skin looks better, I think....?!?!?!??

Good luck slippy, sounds very promising...🤞

Lopey even if you have an overall positive attitude everyone has up days and down days, we are all human. Desperately wanting a baby is difficult and you are allowed a good sob, ideally followed by and (the healthy eating kind )

@lopey sorry to hear about BFN; it’s ok to be sad and mope a bit at times!

I’ve had my final scan in EPU last Friday and finally seem to have a clear uterus and negative hcg- so strange to hope for a negative! 6 weeks and 2 days from US picking up MMC to finally getting negative scan and blood hcg, who knew they could drag on so long! Bought condoms on the way home as am waiting on investigations and treatment. Felt my usual ovulation signs already over weekend which oddly got me really down- the thought of not trying when ovulating despite being desperate for another baby was really upsetting for some reason.

Oddly enough the doctor in the EPU saying “at least you can get pregnant” was uncomforting when I’ve proved I can’t stay pregnant!

Obviously that lead to a downward spiral of comfort eating so now I’m twice as miserable. Going to gym st lunchtime tomorrow and back on mfp for sure!

So here I am, 1dpo, not a hope of having conceived as used said condoms but still keen to see some good stories here to cheer me up!

badbeans fifi bobo fountain and catren good luck to you all! Hope you all get testing soon with BFPs!

Funkyemzie how strange! And annoying as March is out for you! Fingers crossed it stops soon. Maybe get checked out if it does keep going for a while

Paranormalbouquet sorry to read how long it's taken. I hope that your investigations and treatments start soon so you can get off the condoms and hopefully get a BFP leading to a successful birth soon

I'm on CD 12 today so I am going to start with the OPK. CM started again yesterday so reckon it's gotta be soon. We DTD last night too.

@Funkyemzie did you have confirmation that the miscarriage is complete? I had 5 weeks in total of bleeding, but had retained products and infection for a lot of that time- had ERPC after almost 4 weeks. Had tried to avoid but had nasty infection at that point.

Have you had a negative test yet? I would contact your epu at this point.

slippy that sounds rather promising... I'm now desperate to know whether you've tested yet?!

Fifi I know what you mean about the cleaning and tidying, and yet our house is still generally a tip. I think I need to get more of a weekly routine going so that I have cleaning days and not-cleaning days - so that I don't feel like I'm constantly cleaning but not actually getting anywhere! And to be perfectly honest I've not properly cleaned the bathrooms since New Year (not something to admit on Mumsnet I know!).

Lopey just going to echo everyone else - being positive generally doesn't mean that you're not allowed to have a cry and feel bad from time to time too! I think that's healthy, actually. Hugs to you.

Funky sorry the bleeding is still going on. That's horrid. Paranormal I'm glad that you've had a negative - at least that is a step in the right direction, even if you are having to use condoms for now. Fingers crossed you can start trying again really soon.

I'm still not feeling pregnant at all, just full of cold. Not feeling period-y though, either!

So I came on my period yesterday. So annoying. We are taking a break for a month or 2 now. Our sons birthday is 28th December and with Christmas too we can’t really afford another December/January birthday! Feeling a bit fed up with TTC now. Began trying for #2 in June. I got pregnant in April and miscarriage in December. This will be month 9. I also know now that I won’t have another baby in 2018 which is sad too :( oh well, just having a hormonal day.

Got pregnant in October, not April

Oh so sorry you got af slippy. I was really rooting for you, hoping for some good news. TTC can be really miserable but thank goodness we have each other for support. Big hugs, take care xxx

Hi everyone

Even though I think I have missed ovulation for this month I am still lurking to see how you are all getting on. Lots of very brave and tough women on here, I admire you all

Slippynips I am so sorry Af showed up. Could you just keep trying and let fate decide what happens?

para I am so pleased you got your BFN. I remember that feeling very well. It's a strange relief isn't it? I don't know your full story so forgive me if this isn't helpful but I had four MCs before I had my son and I was referred to a consultant who put me on steroids, progesterone and a blood thinning drug from the day I got my BFP and that pregnancy stuck and my son is one next week. The consultant said they couldn't find anything wrong with me so put me on the drugs as a safety net. Could you look into that or do you know there is something causing the MCs?

I am v sorry for those of you who've had BFNs.

Who is the next to test? Wishing you lots of luck!

xx

@slippynips don’t give up. I’ve been trying for 13 cycles. Had an early miscarriage in August. Age isn’t on my side. I’m 38 in May. I had a month off last month but back on it this month. Due to ovulate this week. I don’t know what’s going on with my body at the moment. I’m now bleeding after sex for some reason which is now just another thing to worry about. I have a Drs appointment tomorrow. Feel like screaming into a pillow right now.

I’m going to google some long term ttc success stories as I need some motivation right now xx

Oh no slippy, really sorry to hear that. I was so hoping that you'd get a BFP. I can see why you would want to avoid a Christmas-time birthday. It's difficult, isn't it? If we got a BFP next month it would mean that I would in all likelihood have to miss an important family event in December...

Second I'm due to test at the end of this week. AF is due Thurs/Fri and I did say I would wait till Saturday to test, BUT I am now going away for the weekend with a lot of friends and if I don't drink it will definitely be noticed. So assuming AF doesn't arrive, I may test with a FRER on Friday morning so that I know whether or not I can have a drink that night.

That said, I had a very similar situation when we were TTC our first, and I did a test the morning before I went away and it was negative. Had a couple of drinks while I was away and felt absolutely terrible. Came home, fished the test out of the bin just to reconfirm for myself it was negative... and it was positive! Then had to save up my wee all afternoon so that I could take another one to be sure! So this time round, even if I get a negative I won't be drinking much, just in case!

Oh Peanut cross-posted. So sorry to hear you've got extra worries on top of TTC. I hope the GP is helpful tomorrow. Good idea about googling positive stories. Best of luck xx

Thanks @badbadbeans. Oh who blimin knows what’s going on. I’ve fallen out with my body right now! We’re not talking 🙊

Just found this thread with some positive stories on ttc for over a year. Might help anyone also looking for some inspiration/hope www.babycenter.ca/thread/1468933/success-stories-after-ttc-naturally-for-over-a-year?startIndex=10