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TTC #2 - March BFPs

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Cariad2017 · 23/02/2018 19:54

If you’re ttc #2 and due your AF/ BFP in March then this is the bus for you.

For my sins, I’m a bit of a veteran of the ttc circuit, and ironically if we get a BFP this month, my EDD is likely to be DS’s 3rd Birthday. Stats are as follows:

Age: 35
Cycle: 18 (without a hint of a BFP - yawn)
AF due: 15 March
DS: Aged 2

Desperately hoping to invoke the law of sod this month as we have a fertility clinic appointment on 26 March to get the ball rolling on IVF. You have no idea how much I’d love to cancel it!

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YassQueen · 26/02/2018 10:33

I'm back to work tomorrow after the mc. I'm really nervous. Quite a few people have announced pregnancies or just had their babies so I'm dreading baby talk and everything. I keep thinking "I should be 8 weeks pregnant now" and ugh it's going to be horrible :( I just want to get through this limbo and be pregnant again.

BadBadBeans · 26/02/2018 11:21

Ah Yass, that's difficult. Do people at work know about your mc?

Funkyemzie · 26/02/2018 12:22

Well been back for my second scan this morning, been bleeding now for 10 days and there's loads left so they've sent me away again for 2 weeks, looks like I'm out for March aswell. This sucks! 😞xxx

YassQueen · 26/02/2018 12:32

Bad Yeah they're all aware. Not sure if that's a good or bad thing! We come into contact with pregnant women quite a bit in my job, I even helped deliver a baby just before Christmas. Usually they're the bits we look forwards to but right now I'm dreading it a bit.

Paranormalbouquet · 26/02/2018 19:47

Hi everyone, I’m not sure whether I’m TTC again or not but hopping on anyway as the thought of not is killing me!!

Finally stopped bleeding after the longest miscarriage in history, finally had negative test over weekend. MMC picked up at 8+5, erpc 10 days ago when should have had my 12 week scan with heavy bleeds, retained products and bad infection for which I’m completing antibiotic course on Friday.

Have seen gynae re my cervix who have suggested procedure in May- but no evidence of benefit in preventing early miscarriages so haven’t decided what to do. The thought of not even trying for 6 more months (need to wait to heal after) is hard at my age but the thought of miscarriage 4, possibly second trimester is pretty terrifying.

Anyway for now I’m:

TTC #2
Cycle 8 with MC 5 weeks in September, 9 weeks in January (previous early miscarriage when not TTC).

Period due: who knows?!

I’m sorry to see you are having a drawn out MC too, it’s hell isn’t.

Hello to Cariad and June, sorry to see you guys still here. Hi to everyone else, I’ll catch up when I finally get home from work.

NewSparkle · 26/02/2018 19:56

Hello everyone, I’m probably not in the right place for a train yet but we are TTC #1. Off the pill since November so don’t think my cycle has got back to regular yet. Stupidly I thought it would happen right away (as all my friends have lately) but early days yet. Good luck to everyone :)

NewSparkle · 26/02/2018 20:07

Sorry just realised I posted in wrong thread and can’t work out how to delete. :(

MynameisJune · 26/02/2018 20:08

@funky sorry for your loss so sorry to see you back here, hope you get sorted soon. Big hugs

@paranormal I’m so sorry for your loss too. Sounds like it’s been a tough time since Christmas. I know it’s hard to think about giving up for a while but in the long term if it helps you carry to term that’s a good thing. It seems like you don’t have much issue actually getting pregnant.

YassQueen · 26/02/2018 20:18

NewSparkle if you want to delete you can click "Report" in the blue bar above your post and ask MN to delete it for you. All the best in your TTC journey :)

Paranormalbouquet · 26/02/2018 20:21

@Lopey and @Peanut sorry to see you still here too!

@MynameisJune I’m just a bit of a mess at the moment I think. This miscarriage was much harder physically and emotionally than the others. And am finding the realisation that miscarriage 3 puts me in the recurrent loss category tough. The main point of the surgery is to reduce the risk of second trimester loss or prematurity but at the moment I can’t even get to 12 weeks- this would make first trimester loss management more difficult. So who knows what the right thing is!

Either way will have a much bigger gap than I ever envisaged.

MynameisJune · 26/02/2018 20:32

@paranormal that’s understandable, with early losses I think you’ve barely got chance to absorb being pregnant before it’s gone again. I know that’s how I felt last year. Maybe now isn’t the best time to make huge decisions. I know it probably won’t seem like it but being referred for recurrent miscarriages at least means you’ll get some specialist help if you need it. And I hear you on the age gap, still struggling with that myself!

Peanut1980 · 26/02/2018 21:58

@paranormalbouquet I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. My heart aches for you. Sending you love and strength xxx

CatRen27 · 27/02/2018 03:55

Hi paranormal sorry to see you here again, sounds like you've had a rough time of it. Fx you're not here for long xx

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Cariad2017 · 27/02/2018 07:43

Waves back at fellow long-timer CatRen. CD11 at this end (expecting to ov around CD13/14) and we finally managed to dtd last night (we tried on CD10 whilst staying at BIL’s but it all went horribly wrong when BIL came knocking at the glass door to our room half way through - thankfully I think the bed was just out of his line of sight so I think we got away with it! Unsurprisingly though, the appearance of his brother half way through totally put DH off, so we had to suspend proceedings until yesterday! 😂)

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Cariad2017 · 27/02/2018 07:52

Good luck on your return to work Yass. I hope today goes as well as it can do.

Sorry you’re having such a tough time Paranormal - I’m so so sorry to see you back here. Have you been referred for repeat miscarriages? If so, I’d be tempted to ask for their advice on the cervix op, assuming the referral comes through quickly. Here to hand hold.

Sorry you’re still in limbo Funky. There really are no words for how shty pregnancy loss can be.

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Cariad2017 · 27/02/2018 08:01

Paranormal - just to add that although recurrent loss sounds petrifying (and it no doubt is), I know lots of people who have been successfully treated for it and have ended up having no issues with subsequent pregnancies, so sh*y though it is to end up in that camp (and having experienced pregnancy loss myself, I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy), a referral could mean that you avoid facing this again.

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largepinotplease · 27/02/2018 08:13

Hi all, I'd like to join please!
Age:29
TTC #2
Cycle: 3
AF due 12th March
Day one after ovulation (according to my app)
DS 18 months

I was very lucky with DS as I became pregnant after 3 months and didn't bother with tracking just went for it and it worked but this time I'm being more conscious of my body and tracking everything. Came off the pill in late November and I've had three regular periods since so I think I'm back to a regular cycle. Have to admit it's all quite overwhelming with monitoring ovulation and fertile windows etc and I think I've gotten a bit confused as yesterday I convinced myself I was having implantation bleeding as we DTD Thursday during my fertile window however I now realise it was ovulation bleeding (very light pink when wiping) and that if you do have implantation bleeding it's after ovulation 🤦🏻‍♀️ so gave it one last go last night and now the wait begins (think we've missed this window though)

Good luck everyone!

Paranormalbouquet · 27/02/2018 08:30

Thanks everyone, I jump between being desperate to try again immediately and wanting a break! Think I was so focused on getting through the physical side, and felt so awful with infection/anaemia that now I’m feeling physically stronger it’s all really hitting me. I’m surrounded by pregnant people at work, including one who shares my due date- delighted for her, it’s been a hard road for her to get this far- but still feels like a punch whenever I see her!

I have been referred to RMC clinic but there’s a fairly long wait and the investigations are usually normal. We know I have adhesions which is likely the cause of the very early ones at least, but the surgery for those is often unsuccessful and this last embryo implanted away from them so was probably just bad luck. Part of me thinks I should just keep going and cross my fingers that the next one will stick; other sensible part says I should focus on losing the weight I’ve gained during all this and get the surgery done and wait a few months.

Who knew having number 2 could be so much harder than number 1!

Anyway that’s the end of the moping from me! I am absolutely focused on eating well and exercising from here on in, have only just had a negative test so don’t expect to ovulate for a while which gives me time to think!

@Cariad2017 I’ve often had people to stay in my tiny house (meaning DD sleeps in our room) or been staying with family when TTC and it’s a nightmare! Sounds like you got home in time at least. Every month I’ve managed to conceive it’s when we’ve got in a few days before ovulation- that’s when I have the most CM and the highest sex drive too so I definitely think it’s my most fertile time at least.

LopeyLopez · 27/02/2018 19:17

So sorry to hear of your loss Paranormal ThanksThanks Sounds like you are thinking the right way now though with the healthy eating and exercise etc.... love your positive attitude xxx big hugs xxx

Funkyemzie · 27/02/2018 20:26

@Badbadbeans just thought it worth a mention i got preggars in december using fertility friend, i was temping, checking cm and cervix position. Its a good app but i started by using Ovia before this which some swear by, I found it a little unreliable as it kept changing my ovulation dates. I don't know about others as i've only ever used those 2. Xxx

Funkyemzie · 27/02/2018 20:29

@Paranormalbouquet that is shit hunni, I don't think I actually would have the strength to endure 3, you are a strong, strong person and I hope you get a sticky one very soon!

newmama2018 · 27/02/2018 20:42

Can I join? My stats are:

Age: 35
Ttc: #2
Cycle: 35
Af due: 24/02/18
DS: age almost 4

CatRen27 · 28/02/2018 08:57

Welcome @newmama2018, another long term ttc-er to join our ranks.

I thought spotting had finished as nothing yesterday and here it is again after dtd last night.. on cd14 and day 2 of my fw but no idea what's going on. Gah!

I agree with lopey, your positive attitude is really inspiring paranormal xxx

newmama2018 · 28/02/2018 10:46

Thank you. It's really hard ttc for ages and never getting any luck. I'm 4/5 days late for my period so it's frustrating waiting for it to arrive so I can start the next cycle and try again.

user1469732658 · 28/02/2018 19:08

There's a first time for everything, so here goes:

Age 35
Cycle #3
AF due on 22nd March
DS 18 months

Who knew TTC#2 would be so difficult and thought consuming? After using the calendar method as birth control before DS, now I'm using the calendar method in the opposite way and have scheduled 7 days of DTD in the calendar next week... not very romantic, but let's hope it works!

Good luck everyone!