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TTC #2 - March BFPs

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Cariad2017 · 23/02/2018 19:54

If you’re ttc #2 and due your AF/ BFP in March then this is the bus for you.

For my sins, I’m a bit of a veteran of the ttc circuit, and ironically if we get a BFP this month, my EDD is likely to be DS’s 3rd Birthday. Stats are as follows:

Age: 35
Cycle: 18 (without a hint of a BFP - yawn)
AF due: 15 March
DS: Aged 2

Desperately hoping to invoke the law of sod this month as we have a fertility clinic appointment on 26 March to get the ball rolling on IVF. You have no idea how much I’d love to cancel it!

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TwittleBee · 16/03/2018 10:21

Firstly you are certainly are not pathetic and I am sorry you aren't coping well. You are allowed to find all this a struggle though. I'm pretty sure I speak for all of us when I say this is a massive struggle both physically and emotionally.

Maybe having a month off TTC will help you though as you won't be so wrapped up in and can focus on the visiting family better? Also might be a good month to start charting your BBT if you aren't going to be busy TTC?

CatRen27 · 16/03/2018 11:30

paranormal I could also do with some counselling. Have you been before? I haven't and my SIL struggled for years with infertility (has a lovely little dd now) and said it helped no end but i just can't get my head around the process of telling someone how sad i am.. They can't fix it, I don't want any CBT, I'm just sad. Maybe a few coping mechanisms would help as I'm feeling pretty far from resilient these days. Urgh. Just another bloody thing to do. A month off to temp and settle after what you've been through might be just the thing you need xx

TwittleBee · 16/03/2018 11:52

CatRen I have had counselling twice now. First was in my uni years and I will admit that it didn't help me, CBT is not for me.
BUT
I also had counselling after I was sexually assaulted and it was amazing. I only had a few sessions and there was no mention of CBT but instead she just listened and was there for me. An extra support mechanism that unquestioningly was just there. She did teach me a few coping mechanisms to deal with my PTSD but it was so different to the CBT techniques. I think there are different counsellors, just have to find the right one. It was good to have someone tell me its okay to be sad but that doesn't make me weak etc.

Peanut1980 · 16/03/2018 12:40

@catren27 talking therapies by the NHS offers a free service. They worked wonders for me when I was being what felt like suffocated by my anxiety. Look them up. I had one face to face and the others were phone appointments. Really worked for me so I def recommend them xxx

YassQueen · 16/03/2018 13:39

AF arrived here too. Had a little cry (made harder by the fact I worked the night shift last night with a colleague who is 1 month ahead of where I should have been in pregnancy) but now just want to move ahead. Ordered a bag of OPKs and we're going to try and do SMEP next month.

Counselling is a good shout Paranormal, I don't know if/where you work but do they have a wellbeing service you can access at all? I'm having some arranged through a charity linked to my line of work but the counselling is for the miscarriage rather than work related so it doesn't just have to be work stresses etc. Sometimes it helps to just let it all out to an objective ear Flowers

I always thought I'd skip a month to avoid a Christmas baby but now I'm just like nah, just want to get pregnant as soon as possible.

TwittleBee · 16/03/2018 14:13

Yass Sad Flowers that must be so tough. Well done for getting through it. Super FX it will be your luck soon. Least with OPKs you will feel some sort of control (least I did when I started using them)

Paranormalbouquet · 16/03/2018 19:54

@CatRen27 I’ve never had counselling and not sure it’s for me tbh but might be good for me (and my marriage if it stops me moaning non stop to DH!).

@Twittle, @Yass and @Peanut, thank you for sharing your experiences.

Period had disappeared as soon as it’s started. Now I’m really worried about Ashermans syndrome. I hate this anxiety, I’m usually very calm!

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Cariad2017 · 16/03/2018 20:10

AF is here, bang on time. Onwards and upwards to Cycle 20... Heading home to gorge on comfort food and drink some wine... TGIF

Sorry to all those who are struggling. Long term ttc is such a horrid thing to have to live through, particularly when you have the grieving process triggered by a loss thrown in. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.

I’ve often wondered whether counselling would help me. My instinct at present is that it probably wouldn’t be enormously helpful right now but that I’ll definitely need it if/when the time comes to make peace with the idea that we won’t be having any more DC.

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Paranormalbouquet · 16/03/2018 20:15

Sorry @Cariad2017. It’s all shit isn’t it. I’m on call (and on metronidazole!) so no alcohol for me! Could really use a glass of wine!

CatRen27 · 16/03/2018 20:23

Af due today, big temp rise this morning, bfn on frer.. argh! Pretty sure at 14dpo a bfp should be showing up so I'm now waiting for af. Again surprisingly okay with all this!

Re Christmas babies, my dh is on the 21st and my edd would be 24th dec but we're still going to give it a whirl!

MynameisJune · 16/03/2018 20:27

@cariad so sorry af arrived. Huge, huge hugs my lovely. Hope you get some time with DS this weekend to just be.

@cat sorry for the bfn. Possibly you ovulated later than you thought. Fingers crossed for you.

MynameisJune · 16/03/2018 20:28

@cat DD was due 10 days before Christmas but she was two weeks early. It’s not the best time for a birthday in my opinion but we aren’t going to skip a month at this point. Lots of people have Christmas birthdays and love them.

TwittleBee · 16/03/2018 21:17

Paranormalbouquet sorry you're struggling with anxiety. Hope you get some answers soon.

Cariad sorry AF turned! At least she didn't mess you around and came on time I guess. Fx for next cycle. Enjoy the wine!
OH has put his food down with alcohol now so no more for me.

CatRen sorry for the BFN! Maybe you did ovulate later? Not out yet! Glad you're feeling okay about it though.

My birthday is on NYD and I used to hate it, no one is around and barely anything used to be open, everyone too busy celebrating NYE etc too. But i quite like it now I'm family focused and I'll never have to work on it at least haha.

If cycles stay regular EDD will be on my sister's birthday if I fall next month haha.

Paranormalbouquet · 16/03/2018 21:49

I'm not generally anxious, it's just a specific anxiety! I don't seem to have problems conceiving especially, which is in a way lucky. Just staying pregnant. So I'm both terrified of being pregnant and of not being pregnant if that makes sense!

Paranormalbouquet · 16/03/2018 22:01

Also I’m a December baby, never bothered me much!

tryingfornumber2kids · 17/03/2018 07:24

Got my Bfp today for #2 eek! Have ds who is 2.5 and have been trying for a while had given up hope as ds was conceived in cycle 1. Keeping everything crossed this Evan sticks

TTC #2 - March BFPs
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Cariad2017 · 17/03/2018 07:36

Amazing news Trying. That is an amazingly dark second line. Wishing you a very happy and healthy nine months ahead.

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tryingfornumber2kids · 17/03/2018 07:40

Thanks @Cariad2017 I thought that too as af not due until a couple of days time. X

HidCat · 17/03/2018 08:59

Congratulations! Excellent news @tryingfornumber2kids

YassQueen · 17/03/2018 11:50

Congratulations trying :)

TwittleBee · 17/03/2018 15:30

trying such lovely news congrats!

TwittleBee · 17/03/2018 15:32

I'm an emotional wreck today. Think seeing my sister today who had 2 under 1 years and had no trouble conceiving either didn't help. Plus I had my dad ask me how comes it's taking me so long.

Went shopping and bought a load of new born clothes ad maternity wear. Fricking stupid of me. Feel so crap.

HidCat · 17/03/2018 16:00

@TwittleBee don't do that to yourself. You'll need them at some point! Just put them somewhere out of sight. When I feel shit I end up in McDonalds. Your method is far more productive! People do come out with the most insensitive comments without having any thought about what's going on inside. Big 🤗 XX

TwittleBee · 17/03/2018 17:04

HidCat thank you. Haven't felt this shit about TTC yet. Just has smacked me so hard. Not even sure why as I'm only 5dpo so still in this month for sure.

Peanut1980 · 17/03/2018 17:56

@cariad2017 why I’ve only just been notified of your response I don’t know. Sorry for the delay in responding to your very informative post. I’ve already had transvaginal scan for antral follicle count and I’ve had my tubes flushed with that foam stuff to see if there are any blockages which there aren’t. I’ve had blood tests for thyroids too. All come back OK for my age. I need to get my husband test but he’s really digging his heels in. Think it’s a pride thing. I’ve since started to having some random bleeding so the Drs have referred me for some scans to check for fibroids and polyps. These never came up on scans in December so can’t see it being an issue now. They are moving fairly quickly though. Next step after scans will be colposcopy. Dr has advised we work on trying to stop bleeding for now and then come back to fertility, which makes sense. So we’ll just have to see how things go...