TTC #2 - March BFPs

[Cariad2017]

If you’re ttc #2 and due your AF/ BFP in March then this is the bus for you.

For my sins, I’m a bit of a veteran of the ttc circuit, and ironically if we get a BFP this month, my EDD is likely to be DS’s 3rd Birthday. Stats are as follows:

Age: 35
Cycle: 18 (without a hint of a BFP - yawn)
AF due: 15 March
DS: Aged 2

Desperately hoping to invoke the law of sod this month as we have a fertility clinic appointment on 26 March to get the ball rolling on IVF. You have no idea how much I’d love to cancel it!

Cariad haven't heard of Angus Cactus I shall hunt it down and give that a go! Thank you. Been taking Vit B this cycle though. (Not BFing anymore, gave that up a few months before returning to work)

June in no way are you being punished, it isn't your's or your OH's fault that it is taking its time to get #2. Wish I could give you a hug. You never know you could be lucky soon! Fx

12dpo and a BFN this morning on an IC. I'm not technically out yet, but I really feel like I am.

DP still convinced that I'm pregnant. I've told him he has to try harder next month :D

Thanks @twittle you made the room go all dusty 😊

@MynameisJune I feel exactly the same; I know it’s totally irrational. There’s bumps everywhere I look and I hate the thought that my little girl is starting school in a few months without even a hint of another baby. Even getting a BFP wouldn’t cheer me up as I’ll feel I’m just waiting to miscarry again. I’m trying to be positive but not trying now is killing me. I have friends and family who I just know are going to announce pregnancies any day and I feel awful for dreading their good news so much.

Sometimes I wonder if I should just try to make my peace with having only one child.

Definitely out as AF arrived about 10pm last night so my app is correct - at least I know now. To be fair we didn't do it half as much as we should have due to various reasons so I couldn't really expect much this month. Must try harder and hopefully April will be our month! Good luck to everyone else x

@paranormal big hugs, I do think about giving up and just accepting DD being an only. There are loads of pro’s to this, she would have an amazing life we could give her so much. But she would also get so much from having a sibling, I’m not sure I’m there yet. I’m dreading more birth announcements from my baby group. Luckily most family females have now stopped procreating so there shouldn’t be any from there thank god!

I’ve ordered more FR tests in an attempt to invoke the law of sod and af turning up!

@MynameisJune we could certainly travel more, even consider private education with just one child. But I know my DD would love a sibling which makes it all so hard.

I’m very much up and down at the moment!

How is your DH coping with things? All the DHs? Mine is very upset after recent miscarriage and I don’t think he’s comfortable talking to a friends/family about it.

@paranormal, same here re being up and down. I swing from not being able to take any more disappointments and thinking we should just give up to going all out for IVF before the end of the year. DH is very quiet, every month he gives me a hug and tells me it will happen we just need to keep trying. He didn’t even realise that it had been over a year, he honestly thought it had been about 4 or 5 months so i don’t think it really plays on his mind at all.

@MynameisJune have you had investigations? I’m having some recurrent miscarriage basic bloods next week.

I obviously (up to now at least) conceive reasonably quickly, just can’t seem to stay pregnant. My friend is an obstetrician and says often you just need to keep trying and hope it eventually works out. Just the thought of having more miscarriages is terrible though.

@paranormal we’ve had the basic GP bloods and I’ve had an internal pelvic scan. All fine, DH has his SA done, all fine. I’m tempted to go private for further testing but I’m really not sure. I got pregnant last September and we have DD so we know it can happen it does just seem to take a while. Next cycle is 6 months from the MC, it was 6 months from properly trying to getting the bfp in October but in reality we hadn’t been using any contraception since 2008. But I’m kind of pinning all my hopes on us conceiving every 6 months. Madness I know. I do worry about another MC as well, I don’t know if I’d cope at all.

@MynameisJune I don’t think it’s mad, I think it’s normal to want to avoid intervention. Might be worth having tubes looked at before thinking IVF?

I’m quite sure my bloods will all be normal (other than anaemia which hopefully is improving now) as I’m sure the cause is adhesions and in reality they aren’t very easily fixable.

I coped very well with first two miscarriages, perhaps because both were around 5-6 weeks and seemed more like a heavy period, passed quickly. The MMC was physically very very hard and I’m not coping very well. I’m sure it’s no coincidence I’ve got a horrible dental abscess just as it finished. Perhaps a holiday is needed where we forget about TTC, surgeries, miscarriages and just enjoy being a family.

@paranormal yes our first port of call would be testing at our local fertility clinic before IVF. I had a pelvic scan and that looked fine but possibly there is a blockage or something.

My MC was 5 weeks so like you I coped pretty well and went back to work the next day because I couldn’t face sitting around and thinking about it. I’m just so desperate now to get pregnant again that another loss i think would floor me.

I was talking to DH about a holiday, we need to plan something in. Life can’t be all about work and TTC. I have a long weekend away in May but I was really hoping to be pregnant by that point.

Paranormal and June sending you both hugs and hope you both book lovely holidays!

After all that af has finally arrived, so must have ovulated super late (for me) in my cycle this month. Well at least now I can move on to the next cycle, even though DH is away all month!

I’m glad it’s turned up, nothing worse than when it plays tricks.

I’m keen to get my period so I can plan moving on. I’m pretty sure I ovulated just over 2 weeks post erpc but usually have super tender breasts after ovulation and nothing so far this month. Would be due period Sunday/Monday so suppose there’s time.

Sorry to hear AF has arrived Mynameis. I shall be keeping everything crossed that you get your BFP very very soon.

Like both Paranormal and Mynameis, I’ve been trying to get my head around having to draw a line under ttc at some stage and accept that DS will be an only. It’s very very tough. Getting to DS took 11 months, a cp and an ectopic, so I anticipated that if we were very unlucky, this time around it might be quite similar... I never expected to be in a position where 20 cycles (and 16 months in) even conception was nigh on impossible....

DH was really positive for the first year or so, but even though he’s typically positive person, he’s also struggling to believe that it will ever happen now.

I hate the bleakness of it all... I hate feeling like we’ve moved mountains every month; cancelled nights out; timed dtd to perfection; turned down alcohol; limited caffeine, only to be confronted with a stark white test strip yet again (accompanied almost invariably by at least one pregnancy announcement from someone who you know did literally none of the above).

@paranormal thank you, hope yours arrives soon as well.

@cariad thank you, I’ve decided to buy the Ava bracelet I think. I can’t temp because of waking up at wilding different times most days. It has never worked. This kind of does it for you. Not cheaper but then only about the same as clear blue monitor and 6 months of test strips. Although Apple are missing a trick not creating an app to do the same thing.

One of the reasons I’ve decided not to limit life for TTC is so that we don’t feel like life is slipping away whilst waiting for that elusive bfp. And as you say so many people get pregnant without needing to do all this stuff!

I ask DH earlier if we should just give up, he definitively said no and that nothing worth having ever comes easy. So I’m trying to remember that and not get hung up on age gaps and kids getting along etc!

Its just such a load of old shite isn't it.. Sorry you ladies are really feeling it right now. Its hard not to internalise why its not happening for us and others have it so much easier. It's just the way it is though i guess and just have to trust that we're doing everything we can and leave it to chance beyond that.

Ive taken a slightly different approach this month, just finding the whole thing ridiculous.. month after month of bfns and disappointment.. it just feels different this month i could just laugh.

Sooo another bfn this morning at 11dpo. Starting to get used to the idea of it just being dh, dd and me.

AF arrived on day 27 (bloody early for me!) in the middle of the fucking night. DP is a bit disappointed, I expected it.

However, he is on board with shagging when he is told to next month...so onwards! I hope everyone who is left gets their BFP, so I don't see any of you on the April bus!

Sorry for the bfn @cat but you know it’s too early 😁 I really hope it is your month though.

I’m totally out for an April bfp already as DH is away when I usually ovulate and I thought about taking supplements to delay it but that takes us to Easter weekend when I’ll have my DN staying over!

Well I'm about to enter the tww. Got my positive opk yesterday so tomorrow I will be 1DPO. Today is what I call "limbo day" 😆 good luck everyone testing xx

June I am tempted to get one too! Let me know how you get on with it. Sucks that April is out for you though! blurgh.

CatRen like June said 11dpo is early still so Fx! I know how you feel though about maybe just accepting 3 as a family unit. Strange though because I feel like I either have to put it all in trying for #2 or stopping and decided to stick with the 3 of us. Not sure why I cant take a middle ground approach of "if it happens it happens!"

Stego sorry that AF has turned up. In middle of night too! urgh. that must have been bloody annoying. Good luck for April, I'm sure I'll see you there.

newmama welcome to TWW, I've recently entered it too. I am 2/3dpo!

So I am trying it out with Fertility Friend and Flo to track my cycles (previously I just had it on an excel sheet at work! haha) and I am pretty confused as both telling me different things. FF is claiming I ovulated CD 17 but Flo is saying CD18? I know everyone raves about FF but CD 17 is the date I got my POPK and the instructions say you tend to ovulate 24-48hrs after the POPK? Any help here with this?

(Also I have attempted to track my BBT this cycle as DS seems to be sleeping more regularly now, think my BBT chart actually looks right too)

No sign of AF yet. OPK negative. I just want out of this limbo at the moment. I want to be pregnant and I want it to stick :(

bless you Yass you have recently had a MC though haven't you? If I've recalled correctly. How far should you be in your cycle now? How are you holding up too?

@MynameisJune what does the Ava bracelet measure?

@CatRen27 11dpo is very early to assume you are out.

@YassQueen when do you think you ovulated? I'm fairly sure ovulated around 18th February, just over 2 weeks after ERPC. Would usually have tender breasts by now though and they are fine so half wondering if I'm wrong. I'm feeling greasy and cranky though so who knows! Even though we weren't trying I know I'll be half devastated when it starts so just want it over with. We can't try in April as DH will be away (similar to @Cariad) so I just feel like it's never going to happen.