When the going gets tough, the tough get Yams

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Thread five!

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

I'm hoping by lunch time that I will have my Day 21 bloods back. I will be pretty gutted if it comes back that I haven't, I know it's fixable but it's just the thought that you've essentially wasted month after month!

My symptoms have been odd this month, I've been super emotional all month. I had some major bloating mid cycle, which I thought was ov but then the last few days, blood streaked watery/ewcm. I've not slept great the last few nights, which usually means flo isn't far off. Normally I'd be starving before AF now but I wouldn't be bothered if I couldn't eat all day today.

We have dtd the last two nights though, just in case the cm is because I'm fertile.

Well AF probably isn't coming any time soon! I got my results back and they were less than 1! I got sit and cry. Even if I'd only just ovulated a few days ago they'd be higher than that! That's like progesterone on the first day of Flo! The most annoying thing was, my registered GP (I never see him) filed it as "normal" I was the WTF. I have an appointment on the 26th to see a GP. I'm only cd23 so I guess I could still ovulate but it's not looking great. All the dtd we've done over the last 22 days from a ttc point of view has been pointless!

Oh Looking that must be so frustrating. The NICE guidelines say that you should repeat the 21 day progesterone test every week until AF, could you point that out to your GP? There's things they can do for low progesterone but IME you need to ask directly x

@looking so sorry for the rubbish results. So frustrating that everything takes so long. I’d definitely push for weekly tests until af arrives or they get higher. Huge hugs x

My results came back as normal but I’m going to request the actual numbers from the GP now I think no see what they were.

@WonkyDonk87. I have a spare test form so I can book in for next week to have it tested again.

@MynameisJune. I would - the receptionist told me mine had ben filed as normal, maybe be because I have PCOS? I got a bit grumpy and said "How can below 1 be normal?!" Lol

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@looking I’d have been grumpy too, how the hell can one be normal. I’m at the GP for unrelated bloods next week so I’ll be asking then. I’m still waiting for smear test results which was 3.5 weeks ago 🙄

@MynameisJune. No idea! I will get it sorted though. I'm no push over! I have learned how to fight for myself with Drs over the years!

Well af has arrived. Time to spend money I don’t have on shit I don’t need to try and curb the need to just launch myself headfirst into a wall

@Bubblegum89. I'm sorry

Thanks looking not started properly but it’s the brown spotting that means it’ll be here tomorrow. So now my weekend is ruined as well. Yay. I knew I was stupid to be hopeful this month :(

@bubble sorry for af arriving, be gentle to yourself this weekend.

Thank you june a lovely baby bomb perfectly timed this evening as well. Someone on baby number 5 that was “totally unplanned” 🙄

@Bubblegum89. Lol baby stuff crops up everywhere! I even dream about it! I dreamt the other night that I was running water over a pregnancy test. I woke up thinking that the f***g tap water has more chance of being pregnant than me!

@Bubblegum89. And hope isn't stupid x x

Hello ladies. Would you believe I think I'm having another fucking chemical? I'm starting to think you couldn't make it up. I've had negatives since a few days after I passed the miscarriage, but am getting stupidly faint lines on an ic. Has to be chemical. No symptoms, line hasn't gotten more than faintly visible in 4 days, no idea when I even ovulated. I'm getting to the point of blasé whatever now. I'm 40 and a bit fat, it's a joke.

Looking I'm sorry about the shit results, and Bubblegum I wish I could will your af anywhere else. Ttc is fucking arse.

sorry to hear everyones feeling so rubbish atm 😕 x

Ugh I hate pregnancy dreams looking I once had one where I took a test and it came back with two lines and then when I looked again it was an opk. Even my subconscious is trolling me haha

To top the evening off, a friend of mine just found out she is pregnant but she’s having a termination. It’s made me feel even more crappy than I already did. Just reminds me of the worst thing that’s ever happened to me that I’m paying the price for in abundance now. Anyway, at least it’s friday so I can have my pity party over the weekend instead of being in work lol

Limp thank you are you using a different brand to the ones you were using before? I know IC are some of the more sensitive hpt’s. It does sound very strange. If it was a chemical, would the lines not be fading rather than staying the same? Sorry your body is being such a dick :(

Bubblegum I always have my fingers crossed for you 😘

Dp ordered a big batch of one step cheapies after m/c so I could check hcg gone. Last time stuck to frer but didn't want to waste those in misery. I stupidly did one Monday which in a normal cycle would be about 9dpo. I only did it coz I've been bloated and tired again. Tonight's was a teeny touch darker, he could see it too but mostly the same all week. My body is a total bastard. This will be about my 16th week of pregnancy in 8 months, with nothing sticking. Wtf is wrong with me?!?

@limp have you had a referral to the recurrent MC clinic? I don’t know if they do NK tests on the NHS but if not it might be worth looking at getting tested privately if you can.

Morning June. Gp has started the referral process but no appointment through yet. He said it can take up to 6 weeks. We probably could manage a private consult in the meantime, I think I need to look into it and find out about the NK thing.

I've been awake most of the night. Terrible nightmare about being chased through a field whilst holding a bloody kebab of all things. Poas after 3 hours, and the line is still there. And slightly more purple. I'm going to start baby aspirin i think, but it's just a case of waiting for it to go pear now. We've dtd twice this cycle, no timing involved, it's a month today since I passed the last one. Madness.

Jesus limp, that's beyond shit. I'm so very sorry.

@limp I’d definitely look into the NK cells. I know someone who lost 5 IVF babies. Finally got tested for NK cells and treated, she now has twin girls.

Fingers crossed for this one being a sticky bean. I know it’s cold comfort but at least you don’t struggle to get pregnant. And there are options for recurrent loss that are easier than IVF etc.