When the going gets tough, the tough get Yams

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Thread five!

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

AF due tomorrow. Have usual pre AF symptoms so not holding out much hope. On the plus side, I have charted this month and it looks like I'm ovulating although slight drop in bbt this morning makes me even more sure AF will be here soon. Any charters about? What do you think?

I have bought DP some zinc for next cycle as it's supposed to help with clumpy sperm. I don't know that he has clumpy sperm tbf but it can't hurt to try.

Forgot to post chart!

I have no clue about charts at all. Even if I could be consistent enough to temp they confuse me!

Bubblegum I've scoured so much information and whatever the consultant said, that kind of minimal hcg rise can only mean miscarriage. I don't even think it's a case of self protection.

Biscay, it's still way above coverline so don't give up just yet. See what happens tomorrow.

Hi all! Checking in. I wish I wasn't seeing so many familiar faces here in thread 5.

My husband decided to get us new internet and in his wisdom cut our old one off yesterday even though the new one isn't being installed til Friday so definitely won't be around much.

@Bubblegum89 congrats on you're new niece and well done on being birthing partner!
@WonkyDonk87 that's a long cycle wtf is going on?!
@Pinkemi welcome!
@LimpLettice sorry you're still in limbo it must be awful. Thinking of you x

Congrats @Bubblegum89 !
Sorry to hear you're still in limbo with it all @LimpLettice
AF arrived a day or two early yesterday so another failed month 😫😫 just waiting for it to end and get my hopes up for cycle 10. Currently taking EPO and Folic acid - is there anything DP should be taking? We're both cutting out alcohol completely this month too - god help us

@bama4 friend recommended zinc for men to me. Apparently she got pregnant after trying for a year as soon as her DH started zinc. I have ordered DP some zinc chelate from Amazon as it's more absorbable in that form.

I also cut out alcohol last month and it made no difference.

@limp sorry you’re still in limbo, I’m still keeping everything crossed for you.

@biscay I’ve got DH some conception for men vitamins. Not sure if they have zinc in or not. Or if they work! But worth a try. Your temp dip isn’t below the cover line so still hope.

I’m expecting af tomorrow, I’m hot and restless at night which is a pre-af symptom for me.

Hello my loves. Adore the new title.

I just emailed a fertility clinic about private IVF.

@si1ver I’m just researching my options to see if any is an option financially for us. The consultant said the only other thing they could offer us while we wait for NHS IVF is IUI (insemination) but as that’s £1000 I don’t feel it’s worth it as we’ve been dtd so I’d rather put that £1K towards private IVF. Remind me are you ‘unexplained’ too?

@LexieJean yes unexplained primary. NHS won't help us because at 37 I'm too old in my PCT. At 36 I was too old because the waiting list was so long there was no point putting me on it. In June we'll have been trying for two years, with one miscarriage and one chemical pregnancy to our names. We can't wait any longer.

If you want details on the clinic (abroad) we've picked let me know.

@milk 😂😂😂😂

@si1ver it’s rubbish that fertility treatment on the NHS is such a postcode lottery. Good luck with the IVF!

Thanks @BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy I will get some zinc for him to try! We just want to try our very hardest for the bfp! Too many baby bombs happening at the moment making it seem so much more unfair for us all on this thread 😢

@Milknosugar1 I've been using a Diva cup for 2 years and it's never changed my flow. They do hold a lot more than a pad or tampon but definitely fills up enough to tip it out after a few hours.

@si1ver my concern is I’m 36 in August so by the time we get referred on the NHS I’ll be heading too close to ‘too old’. Can’t win.

@milk my flow is quite light so first day there’s not a lot in my mooncup. I have been told in the past that the average woman only loses half an egg cup of blood so it looks like more in a panty liner than in a cup.

Milk I’ve been using my mooncup for 4 months and it’s not changed my flow

Stark White bfn this morning at 13 or 14dpo, only tested because I’ve got my smear test booked tomorrow. Oh well onto the next cycle.

I feel the same LexieJean, I'm 36 in September and we're only just getting tests done now because we had to try for 12 months with no luck before they would start them.

Milk there's so many variables that there's no way of predicting at this stage. Be gentle with yourself and stay away from the tests for a day or two xxx

Oh @milk I really hope this is a sticky bean for you. I didn’t have dark lines with DD at all, I was 4 days late when I tested and the line wasn’t as dark as the control line. Big hugs xx

Fingers crossed for you milk