When the going gets tough, the tough get Yams

[SoozC]

Thread five!

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

@Chooklass haha my DH is the same, maybe I should bring him in for my next "vaginal sonogram" or whatever its called so he can see how easy he has it. Can't wait for his SA to be over and done with, but I will laugh my head off if he has a wet dream tonight even though it would result in another enforced 4 days no sex.

Chooklas DH was horrified when I went to breast clinic and the Dr felt my boobs, not sure what he will think if he witnesses someone shoving stuff up there!

Jaggy hope your DH makes it through the night my DH is going to try to get an appointment with the Dr tomorrow to discuss his sperm getting tested.

Lolli welcome and

Yea went to a specialist in Chester le street and all they found was a polyp and had a biopsy everything fine, they said I have erosion and that's it really I went to my gp after and was given clomid because hospitals are reluctant to give it out with the cost of monitoring, x

Had a long reply but my browser froze so had to re-open and lost my typing :(

Suffice to say, sorry to hear people are going through various struggles. I'm having the most hopeful cycle I've had in a long time which is weird. I'm convinced this is the cycle for me. Part of me knows I'm setting myself up for a hard fall but I can't help feeling so positive. I'm really not symptom-spotting though. Ov is imminent or just been so going to focus on other things the next few weeks.

Limp, thinking of you x

Woken at 3am with cramping 😭
Dammit I really thought it was going to be marvellous March for me. I even had sweet potatoes!

Hope this is the one for you @SoozC

Haha @pinkdonkey well male sure to get him to "clear out" the day before he starts his four days before the sample is due, as 4 days is fine but 10 days is apparently not haha. Thankfully no accidents for my DH so hes away to his appointment soon. He was going on about catholic priests this morning, clearly it wouldnt be a job for him 😂.

@LexieJean so sorry to hear about the cramping! Look after yourself. 😕

Also apparently 10+ daya nl sex is too much for me as I was lying next to DH last night and multiple times thought about just hopping on hahaha. Thankfully didnt, as with the length of time hes waited, he'd have finished before I even got his trousers off 😂. Anyway tonights the night we are to start DTD according to my doctor! If his doctors tell him to abstain again for any reason I'll be round there screaming 😂

Thanks @jaggy and good luck tonight!

sooz hope it is your month. I was very positive about this month but AF due Friday and cramping and reduction in boob soreness have now convinced me AF is on the way.

jaggy will let DH know he could easily go 30+ days let alone 10. I have to pounce on him in fw! Anyway appointment with GP is booked for this aft if it doesn't get cancelled snow is still coming down thick and fast here.

@sooz I hope this is the month for you. I felt that way when I got pregnant in September. I just knew. Hopefully you do too.

@jaggy good luck for tonight! Fingers crossed your DH gets the all clear from the Dr.

@pink good luck at the GP. Hope it isn’t cancelled.

Af is due today, hasn’t shown up yet but I’m not getting my hopes up as I’m not sure exactly when I ovulated.

Thanks ladies! He has been to his appointment now, and said hardly any came out as it wasn't a nice experience and he 'has some left over' for me, haha. I was like 'eew, I don't want your old sperm!' haha! His doctors sound rubbish. We don't live in the UK but he speaks the local language very well (As do I) but the receptionist was ignoring him and only speaking to him in terrible English, then couldn't understand his English, so he had to say everything loudly and clearly in both languages so the whole waiting room could hear, plus he said he had asked to find out what his blood type was and they had forgotten (also had to get all his details again as they'd lost them) and they kept suggesting it was coz he hadn't asked in the local language when he had! Haha the worst I have had at my doctor was the receptionist correcting me once when I pronounced 'gynecologist' wrong.

I have to say, I dunno if it is my L-Thyroxin tablets (Have been taking them for 5 days now) beginning to work or something else (Perhaps the knowledge that I'm getting lucky tonight haha!) but I feel great today, more energy than I have had in months and just generally a lot happier and more focused. The symptoms of hypothyroidism include fatigue and depression, so it certainly could be the effect of the tablets.

@pinkdonkey good luck today, and hopefully the appointment isn't cancelled!

@MynameisJune well fingers crossed AF doesn't arrive and that there is a BFP waiting for you.

@jaggy I did wonder if you were in the UK or not. Didn’t think it was standard practice to monitor ovulation via ultrasound. My friend is in the ME and had fantastic care for her IVF and natural pregnancy. I’m daren’t even let myself think that af might stay away, it’s more likely I just ovulated late this month.

Thanks guys. Sending positive vibes for all the SAs happening atm!

DH said today he needs to stop having sex for a bit! I think I've been wearing him out. I'll give him tonight off.

Haha @MynameisJune the government here REALLY wants people to have kids haha. There is quite a lot of incentives to start a family here, as there is a high amount of elderly people, and couples are having smaller and smaller families, if any at all, the government seems to be panicking haha.

@SoozC haha thanks for the positive vibes. DH is apparently going to be emailed his results, as the doctor will look at them today, but is off tomorrow, then we are away for a few days, and then the doctor is off for like two weeks, argh. The one I go to is a proper clinic, so if my doctor is off i just get another one like back home, but that seems to be more unusual here and most doctors practices are run by only one doctor, or two most, which is a bit rubbish!

Hahaha at your DH!

@jaggy that’s not a bad place to be when TTC! It sounds like TTC heaven to be honest 😂

@sooz your poor DH. Hopefully a break tonight is just what he needs!

Cramps appear to have started here, oh joy.

Well on the down side AF appears to have arrived about 15 mins after buying HPT. Well I suppose I'd not peed on it so it's saved me some money.

On the up side DH took me with him to see GP and have both been referred to fertility clinic so it was worth going together. Been told that they will do SA first before they start investigating my end as it's less invasive GP emphasised to DH how invasive the female side was with some graphic hand gestures sounded like he is used to persuading reluctant male partners that they have it good in this respect. He slightly concerned me by saying that the fertility clinic would thoroughly dig into both our mental health histories, we have experienced prejudice before around DHs condition and ttc even though his mental health team who know us the best are completely supportive. It makes me feel so judged and also so angry for DH as he is amazing with his nieces and I know he will be an amazing Dad when we eventually get the chance. Theres so many people out there who are rubbish/absent fathers by accident how can it be fair we get scrutinised. We are both sensible adults in a loving stable long term relationship and yet there's drug addicts out there using whilst pregnant. And if all this fails we will get the same scrutiny placed on us if we tried to adopt. In fact I have a friend who she and her husband both work with vulnerable people in health an social care and have 2 happy healthy older kids who failed a background checkbfor addoption so what chance would we have. He also said that pregnancy is garunteed to make my mental health worse, which whilst scary I also know from talking to others is not necessarily true. He is known for being very blunt.

Sorry to have a rant, best case scenario is that they want to know all the history so they can support us, I'm just so scared we will be judged unfit parents due to mental health history and not get the help. I know we have the disability discrimination act in our favour and the human rights act included the right to procreate but I don't know how it works with assisted conception.

@pink I’m pleased you got a referral and that the Dr was good with explaining things to your DH. I don’t have a great deal of experience with NHS fertility clinics but I’ve never heard anyone be turned away due to MH issues. Maybe have a read of the NICE guidelines and see what they say. I’d try not to worry too much, as long as physically you both meet the criteria I don’t think they’d be able to say no.

Hey @pinkdonkey that sounds unfair - I don't think they could discriminate like that? I had my first FC appt the other day and the doc did ask lots of thorough q's about our health, so I think that's standard. Maybe your doc was just giving you a heads-up to be prepared because of your history? Hard not to worry though - I hope you don't have to wait long.

I had TWO baby bombs today. One is a very close friend and I'm genuinely delighted for them but can't help feeling a bit sad too.

Thanks June I've calmed down a bit now. Been chatting to a friend who's been through our clinic and wasn't asked any questions about mental health. Been looking online our local clinic does private and NHS, it's only a 5 week wait which surprised me and there is an open evening in a couple of weeks. Starting to get a little bit of Hope back, even though my friend didn't have any luck they seem to have a very good reputation.

LADIES HELP ME! Ok, It's not as urgent as all that but this morning there was a few specks of really light pink in the toilet roll when I wiped and then there was some more when I went just now. I'm cd15 - I'm really turned on (sorry tmi) and my cheeks are warm and pink - could I be ovulating? Or could it just be a random thing?

Sorry if it sounds like a basic question! I've never had anything like this before.

Sorry I meant on the toilet roll lol

Hey @LookingAtTheStars89 - sounds very much like OV to me!! I get all those symptoms on day before and day of OV.

@Chooklass. Would It be too late to dtd now? We dtd yesterday morning.

looking when your ovaries release the egg, it survives for up to 36 hours so definitely dtd! My fertility doctor told me the day after ovulation is actually the best day to dtd as you have higher chances of conception (apparently) Enjoy ;)

@Bubblegum89. Wow, I didn't know that. Thanks :-) I got all dolled up for when DH got home, I wasn't very subtle about it it "Can we have sex tonight?" Lol DH must be in ttc mode because he was like "But we only did it yesterday, aren't we supposed to do eod" Hopefully he will be up for dtd in a bit!