When the going gets tough, the tough get Yams

[SoozC]

Thread five!

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shalt not be offended by strong language

• Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

And also no massive change in bbt since cd10 either

@bana4, looks like you ov already to me?

My af cramps just kicked in. Dammit. Was expecting the witch on Fri so on the positive side at least it's 2 days less wondering.

Sorry for all you ladies having such a tough time just now. I don't know what to say to make anyone feel better but wish I could xx

Sorry @bama4 - just saw your message about bbt. Maybe your body greared up to ov then didn't? Mine did that 2 months ago when I'd had flu. Ended up ov 6 days later than usual (but had given up on tests so just know because af was 6 days later).

bama is it possible you could have missed your surge? I have never done bbt so don’t really know much about it. I have had cycles where I’ve ovulated WAY earlier than normal and also a couple where I’ve ovulated way later.

I’m on cd4 now and I’ve had to put my mooncup back in..? I only ever need it on day one of my period (occasionally for part of day 2) as after that I only tend to have brown spotting and so don’t bother using anything. But this afternoon, I’ve started having dark red “flow”. I say flow, it’s hardly gushing but it’s heavier than spotting and not light enough to get away with not using anything. I don’t know if this could be anything to do with my SIS/HyCoSy or if it’s purely coincidence

😬 @bama I’m glad it’s not just me confused by these things! I’ve had the control line and nothing for last 2 days, now cd 11. I’m guessing I’m not even close to ov yet- except I just found ewcm. Wtf?

Thanks for the replies I'm really confused. Had I not been temping I would've though I'd ov already. Will keep doing 2 opks a day and see if they start to get stronger

Bama, sounds like you haven't ov'd yet. I did bbt for some months and saw a shift every month post-ov. What's your cm like?

Bubble, hopefully the hycosy has cleated things out a bit! Cd4 for me too. My af was a bit odd this cycle but my acupuncturist liked the sound of it and thought my lining must have been a bit thicker and was pleased with what I said about it (which is a first, anyone being that interested)! I've just had my fourth session, I always feel so positive afterwards and it's something I recommend to anyone!

Bama what CD are you on? You might still ov yet? I don't usually start with OPKs until about CD10 or 11. I've been using the Clear Blue ones that give a very unambiguous smiley face (or circle).

I've only just started BBT & I'm not sure if I'm doing it right. It seems like quite an imperfect process - I can't do it at exactly the same time every morning, I'm tending to wake up earlier and earlier with thoughts of doing my temperature and that makes me sleep restlessly and toss and turn until my usual waking time.

Mind if I share my chart on here for advice?

This is my chart. I'm a bit worried that there's not more of a temp rise, since the rise it just seems only very slightly higher than the follicular stage. Does ov actually take place at the temp dip (seems to be CD10 here) or at the rise (CD13, when I also got a +ve OPK)?

Also, am I too cold? There seem to be much higher temps on the chart that I never get to!

@SoozC I don't think I've ov yet - haven't had ewcm and wasn't expecting positive opks till next week I just wanted to get in the routine of doing them - currently on cd12 so to get a near positive on cd10 was a bit of a shock. Hopefully they'll get darker over the next few days and then a positive

@ronswansonstache I don't know enough about temping yet to be able to help but hopefully one of the other ladies can give you some advice
@Bubblegum89 hopefully it has cleared things out and your periods will get heavier over time? 🤞🏼 it's not a coincidence

Yeah, Bama, I reckon you'll ov soon. Keep going!

Ron, I am thinking you haven't ov'd yet, just because you had a temp hike on Monday but it doesn't look sustained for three days which is what confirms ov. You had a positive opk but that only confirms a LH surge. Only bbt can confirm ov. So keep dtd because I think you'll ov soon!

Oh, and don't worry about low temps - I'm someone who hardly ever gets over 37 degrees, I usually hang around the low 36s! Although I haven't successfully been pregnant, so maybe do worry as perhaps that's a reason! (Joking! I'm sure it's fine!)

I’m usually low 36’s or high 35’s. I didn’t realise this could be a problem 😲 I need heating up too!!

As long as your uterus is warm, Dreamer...

Can i join. Ttc for 15 cycles. Af or bfp due on the 26th. Have all sorts of weird symptoms but been down this road before. Think this is our last month and then we are out. DH and i have decided to accept DD will be an only child if this fails. (Unless i cave next month and keep believing a miracle might happen)

I’m guessing it’s probably not ❄️

Welcome Cats sorry that you’re here, but join us with our long list of crazy symptoms that seem to change each month!

Thanks Sooz I don't think this tempting stuff is for me really although I'll see it out to the end of the cycle. All I do is wake up at 5am worrying about temping at the right time then tossing and turning, which probably affects my BBT.

It won't hurt to dtd tonight although I've not had much cm since Monday so I feel like that was the peak day. It's DP's lucky night! He'll be delighted 😀

Hi cats, welcome!

Hi Cats, welcome to our moany thread! We are lovely, but most are currently going through a tricky patch so apologies if we come across as negative, we can be silly and upbeat too! Feel free to be either or both :)

I had a twinge in my uterus earlier and thought "better log that" before I realised I'm only cd4 and the chance of being pregnant is 0%! FFS, I'm symptom spotting already and I'm not even in the tww. Roll on two weeks time...!

I love a moan Sooz and a lot of angry words have flowed over the last 14 months everytime AF arrives. To make it more galling i barely looked at DH and fell pregnant with DD yet despite pissing on more sticks than i can count we have nothing to show for it. The universe has a twisted sense of humour

Ah, Cake, you sound like a Yammer already!

Ah thanks @SoozC ! Welcome @Catscakeandchocolate - as sooz has said you seem like a yammer already!