Anyone else waiting to TTC?

[happytobemrsg]

I thought we could keep each other company while we wait!

Your age/DH age: 29/39
Baby #: This will be #2
When are you TTC: I think we should start in June when DS is 2 but we are so broody it might be sooner
Why are you waiting: We are doing some house renovations at the moment & sorting out some stuff financially. Everything seems a bit up in the air & I can only stress about a couple of things at a time. I'm looking forward to life settling down only to have a newborn mess it all up again
What are you doing to keep busy?: I'm project managing house renovations & enjoying one-on-one time with DS before he (hopefully) becomes a big brother. DH & I are having a huge joint birthday party in September for my 30th & his 40th so I'm enjoying planning that!

Still waiting for AF over two weeks after stopping cerelle (after being on it solidly for at least eight years). Is it wise to wait for your cycle to get back to normal before TTC?
What have other people done?

Hi @FrancesV83 I was in cerelle for 5 years- my periods didn't restart after I came off it and after 13 months they gave me something to force them to start- this is the first month we have properly tried- so are waiting to see :) I would say there no harm in trying-

@pinkroseuk Oh really, that's a long time. That's what I'm concerned about, that by the time I bleed and am in a regular cycle it'll be beyond when we're planning to try and time is really not on our side as I'm 35 and other half is 40 this year.
Good luck to you! 😊

Welcome @Getmeamagiclamp! None of us will call you mad for wanting to TTC sooner, that sounds like the perfect plan! Going anywhere long haul?

Owh - my DP came home last night to tell me a couple of our friends are trying for baby no.2. I am so jealous!!

@FrancesV83 I came off the pill 6 months ago and my periods are really light and short. The doctor told me it won't affect me getting pregnant as I can still ovulate - it just takes time for the womb lining to build up again.

Now back from the ski holiday that I was putting off TTC for, and so there is just waiting until May to avoid a Christmas baby. I am not sure I will have the will power! I know if I don't it will be sods law I get a baby on Christmas day!

@Flapjackered I'm in the same boat, waiting until May. I keep being tempted to just try, especially as we are on our first holiday in ages during my fertile week and will have lots of time to, ahem, try. But I tell myself in 10 years time I'll be thankful for avoiding a birthday over the Christmas period.

It is hard though!

I'm also waiting to avoid (another) Christmas baby. We were meant to be taking a break from trying that time too! We're just not great at being careful when we've made our mind up to TTC. Both babies have taken a while to conceive so I just can't get myself to believe I have a chance of being fertile!
I mostly want to avoid the long, dark January with a newborn. I found that really hard.

@Noseringgirl

I'm glad a few of us are in the same position. A few people on these boards have indicated that it's silly and somehow superficial to wait, but it's only one month...

I agree, it is only one month and in the grand scheme of things that is nothing.
I even find January a challenge without a newborn so I think it is the right thing to do to wait!
It will go quickly!

Thanks @mussie my dp decided very spur of the moment that this was our only opportunity to go to New Zealand, so about as long haul as it can get! tries to not get ahead of myself thinking about morning sickness on a 24 hour flight
Also, as another positive of post Christmas babies, it’s closer to spring and lovely long light evenings and milder days. I don’t know about anyone else, but I struggle at the best of times with the darker winter months, let alone with a brand new baby.
If only babies understood all these plans and timetimes we spend hours concocting and weren’t so blooming unpredictable!

Can I join too? We are both 27. We are waiting as he wanted to wait a bit longer so we compromised in the middle. Keeping myself busy by organising holidays! Back from a ski trip and now organising a once in a life time trip to peru with some friends. Although have massively read up about the zika virus so will be testing on my return so we can start trying in the summer.

I took my last pill yesterday. I’m so excited and relieved to be off it. Can’t start trying yet as the wedding is in October so I’m going on to Natural Cycles to give my body a chance to recover from being on the pill for 8 years straight.
Woke up at 3am (jet lag) and have spent the last 2 hours looking at baby clothes online.
October cannot come soon enough!!

How exciting for you! I’ve been using natural cycles for a while now and find it really good. it gives me excuses for being grumpy #pms! There’s lots of discount codes floating round on here, but let me know if you need one - I think I have one for 30% off.

Hello Jellie!

How exciting Assume. I think it's a good idea to give your cycles time to get back to normal.

I have had a GP appointment and they've definitely diagnosed PCOS now. I've read up a bit on it and I think my biggest challenge will be diet as I know I could be healthier. I have gained a ridiculous amount of weight recently, more than I'd expect, and the GP said she thinks it's related. Due to irregular periods and the lack of ovulation somemonths she does think I would possibly need help conceiving, which is a bit scary. She thinks clomid would help me sort it out though so here's hoping. It has def helped me make a decision to start TTC asap once we have the Zika all clear. Goodness knows how long it may take us?

Hello folks, can I join you all?! It would be great to have some company whilst I count down the days until we can TTC ...! :)

Your age/DH age: 28/28 (born only two days apart!)

Baby #: This will be #1 :)

When are you TTC: on our 2nd wedding anniversary, which is towards the end of May.

Why are you waiting: We are having a new kitchen installed in mid-May and so we thought it might be stressful if we started TTC before that’s done or at the same time! Also, I travelled to California for work last month (without DH) and so I have a very low risk for Zika ... that means I think it’s sensible to wait 10 weeks at the least from when I got home to when we first TTC.

What are you doing to keep busy?: Work, work and more work! I travel a lot for work and have a very busy job, so that takes up a lot of my time ... it’s not stopping me from counting the days and weeks until we can start TTC though! The kitchen will also hopefully keep us busy from next month until it’s done, as we need to strip wallpaper off the walls (I know, why would anyone ever wallpaper a kitchen?!) and paint them :)

Can I please have an irrational rant?

We are not TTC until June - partly due to sorting out some finances by that time & partly because DS will be 2 in June & it seems like a good age gap.

But the nearer I get to June the more I'm taking risks because well what's a couple of months?! We're not trying, not preventing I guess. I use FF to track everything except my BBT so I know this month we didn't DTD at optimal times but AF has just started & I'm so so irrationally sad 😢

Welcome @BusyBee27!

I understand what you mean happy. I always get a pang of disappointment whenever I come on. I can only imagine what it’ll be like when we’re no longer being careful!

Hello all- I’ve been off mumsnet for a few weeks as I’m trying to keep sane while waiting!

I’m thinking of starting an AIBU thread to get some perspective... but I’m a bit scared! Can I test the waters with you lovely lot first? 🙏🏼

Basically my question is ‘is having children worth it...’

I’ve got an overwhelming broody urge from the primal part of my brain- but the logical part remains unconvinced. I’ve been reading a lot and tbh pregnancy and birth seem utterly horrific. Once the baby is here it’s not all pain sailing either, from what I’ve been reading. It seems that there’s a huge toll on finances, comfort, marriage and mental health... the girls at my work with kids says that they come in to get a break! So I wonder how much hard work they have to do at home?!

My life is lovely, I’m still young, the only real difficulty is the longing to have a family. I blow hot and cold over the issue and it’s upsetting me and my DH. I don’t want to regret waiting too long, I don’t want to jump too soon. Part of me thinks that just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s not worth it, and if that’s the case waiting won’t make it any easier. In fact pregnancy and birth might be better when young.

Obviously no one knows the ‘right’ thing to do. Just if you were me, would you wait? Or go for it? Heart or head...

🐝xx

I often wondered the same thing.

I made the leap and pfb is now 10 months old.

It was a damn hard pregnancy (which I still miss a little part of) and an awful birth (which I will make difference choices next time)

And the first 5 or so months were damn hard.

But right now, I am the happiest I've ever been.

I work a few days a week (il increase that eventually),
I spend my off days with friends or family or just me and my little side kick.

Some days are hard still, but the good ones are amazing.

And nothing beats seeing me dp be a father to him. It's reignighted more passion I thought was far hidden and I'd do it all over again tomorrow

Thanks so much for your reply @springmachine that’s what I was hoping it would be like. I might post on aibu to see if there is a general trend one way or the other. Xx

Same here @happytobemrsg - and that’s even when I know the timing would be awful, finances would be tighter than I’d like, I’m not as fit as I want to be etc. I’ve just decided to accept that nothing about wanting a baby is rational and go from there!!

@BeeKeeping, do you mind mind me asking how old you are? Is time on your side? In other words, can you wait a bit longer? That might help you to become more sure about what you do want - it worked for me (28 now), as only five years ago I was adamant I didn’t want children!!