Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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I thought we could keep each other company while we wait!

Your age/DH age: 29/39
Baby #: This will be #2
When are you TTC: I think we should start in June when DS is 2 but we are so broody it might be sooner
Why are you waiting: We are doing some house renovations at the moment & sorting out some stuff financially. Everything seems a bit up in the air & I can only stress about a couple of things at a time. I'm looking forward to life settling down only to have a newborn mess it all up again
What are you doing to keep busy?: I'm project managing house renovations & enjoying one-on-one time with DS before he (hopefully) becomes a big brother. DH & I are having a huge joint birthday party in September for my 30th & his 40th so I'm enjoying planning that!

@Hofty those dresses are gorgeous! How many bridesmaids are there?

Has anyone ttc just after promotion at work? I am up for a big one this year and would feel the pressure to 'prove myself' once there. Don't want to put it on hold any longer but the promotion would make so much difference!

@dottydally I was TTC my DS1 whilst on a career progression program at work and being promoted. I quite liked the distraction from TTC but didn't let it stop me from continuing with it. It ended up taking a while of TTC anyway so I was glad I didn't stop trying because of work! Best of luck for the promotion!

@NoseringGirl ah that's reassuring! I'm a bit worried as if all went to plan I may not even be in the job 12 months before going off. But I guess it is to be expected! How soon after promotion did you have your son? Thank you - I am doing everything I can as it would get me to a good stage (and mean better maternity pay!)

I'm stuck in that awkward 'if we knew it would take a year of trying we would try now but now wouldn't be ideal'.

@dottydally 3 adult bridesmaids and 2 little ones.

I wouldn't let work stuff stop you TTC, plus, and I hope it doesn't come to this, but it might take ages. Work promotion could be just the thing to take your mind off it worse case scenario, which I really really hope won't be the case.

DFiancè and I will be TTC from September after our wedding, despite not knowing what job I'll be doing (I'll do something but don't know what yet because my MSc is extremely specific) and DFiancè (or DH as he will be by then) will still have 8 months of uni left to go. This will no doubt seem crazy to some people, but for us, it's not about the money. It'll be tight, but we'll manage, we always do. Because of the timeline hypothetical baby will definitely arrive when we're both finished and in jobs, but I can see how it looks risky to others. We can't wait much longer than that for various reasons - DFiancè not getting any younger, and I want to take the career hit early then build up later without interruptions. But this is just to show you that not everyone TTC when they're in the perfect position work-wise, so you'll be absolutely fine.

If we knew it would take a year or even 6/7/8 months ect we'd start now, but of course no one can know this.

@dottydally good luck for the promotion! I wouldn't worry how long you will be in the new job before hopefully going on maternity leave. There is no perfect time to have a baby when it comes to your career. I fell pregnant not long after a big promotion (sorry can't remember exactly how long). I used to be very career minded but as soon as I got pregnant I was suddenly much less bothered about work!

@dottydally I was in the role as a secondment for around 6 months and then was offered it permanently about 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant! I didn't actually go back to the job after mat leave (we ended up relocating) but it was all on good terms and I was actually offered a similar role by the organisation in my new area so definitely didn't burn any bridges by spending most of my promotion being pregnant.
You can never be sure how long it'll take, it's very frustrating to try and plan!

Hello everyone,

I know this had been going for a while but please can I still join you?

09/02/2018 12:53 happytobemrsg

I thought we could keep each other company while we wait!

Your age/DH age: 30(in a few weeks)/29
Baby #: 1
When are you TTC: hopefully in June or a few months after.
Why are you waiting:
Well I have recently changed jobs and am still in probation. DP was also a bit worried about starting too early-he really wants children but doesn't seem to have the same urge to do it just now So we agreed to wait a little bit and go on another few holidays. After years of being skint -as students, saving for the wedding, then a mortgage- we are only now in a position to do so.
He was extremely eager to go somewhere with the Zika virus so we obviously have to wait. He will also get the blood test done to test for Zika.

It does feel good to wait though-I'm so excited for some adult only holidays before doing this.

I also have to be honest I am feeling a bit nervous. I really really want a baby but I also know it will change our lives completely, which is a bit scary. Does anyone else feel like that?

However, I have today been diagnosed with PCOS and been told we might need some help conceiving and it could take a long time. So I don't want to procrastinate.

Hopefully we will be all good to go in June/July.

Oops, I copied the questions to answer them and accidentally didn't delete the top part. So sorry!

Hi! @TheOneWithTheBaby

I also have to be honest I am feeling a bit nervous. I really really want a baby but I also know it will change our lives completely, which is a bit scary. Does anyone else feel like that?

Yes absolutely! I think that's normal. I think it would be more worrying if you weren't a bit apprehensive - it's too big and important not to be a bit nervous.

Hello @TheOneWithTheBaby! I have PCOS (and two children) happy to answer any questions if you have them. Some women manage to conceive fairly quickly still, I have a friend with PCOS who got pregnant within a couple of cycles. So it's not necessarily going to take a long time but it's good to get to know your cycles and when/if you're ovulating while you're waiting to try. Might speed things up when you do start. There's lots that can help PCOS too if you do find it takes a bit longer.

Thank you Hofty. It's such a massive change isn't it? However I definitely want a family and we are settled enough now for it to be a fairly good time this summer. I don't think there's ever a time that feels perfect so we will go for it then and I'm very excited.

Nosering, thank you. It's great to hear you and your friends were successful. From the blood tests it looked like I wasn't ovulating but I had an ultrasound yesterday and the lady said there was a really 'ripe' egg now and I could try to make a baby literally just now. But it's obviously not the right time with the holiday.
So it seems that there's ovulation some months but not others. Everything else seems to be working fine though so we discussed the possibilities of regulating periods etc once we TTC. I think I'd prefer to try naturally first though.

Mh so despite the lady saying yesterday's that I'm about to ovuaye any time now I have started spotting today. It does feel like a normal period is about to start but surely that wouldn't be right? I mean even if we said the egg went yesterday, surely there would have to be a longer time For it to implant? Ugh another worry in addition to the pcos.

@TheOneWithTheBaby some people get ovulation spotting, maybe it's that?
It could also be breakthrough bleeding if you haven't been ovulating. Though that doesn't really match up with what you were told at the scan. Have you got another appointment coming up where you could ask?

Hi everyone, mind if I join you? It will be great to have some people in the same position to chat to. My OH and I haven't told anyone we're planning on TTC yet and it's driving me mad having no one to talk to about it!

Your age/DH age: 31/30
Baby #: 1
When are you TTC: May
Why are you waiting: We're hoping to buy a house this spring/summer, after living with DH's parents with a while to save. We didn't want to run the risk of a baby being born while we're still living out of one room at the in-laws!

I had the Mirena coil removed at the end of January and have been using Natural Cycles since then to get to know my cycle again after two years without a period at all. Hoping this will help when the time comes. We've been taking the Pregnacare Him and Her vitamins since last month.

Nosering, I stopped the pill over a year ago and that really highlighted the PCOS issues. Never had a break through bleed in that time but who knows? She did say I was ready to ovulate any minute, within the next few days at the latest. So maybe it is just one of those bleeds. We will see.

I'm meant to see the GP again to discuss yesterday's findings and gp would then like to refer to a fertility specialist. I do think I might ask for the referral to wait a few months. Go on holiday and then try a bit. We will see, kinda depends on how long a referral would take as well I guess.

I am over weight and need to lose weight so I will try and work on that. Especially having read the link between PCOS and diabetes.

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Hi MrsO1

Hi there. I'm glad to know that you're happy and contented with your life. My DH and I are also TTC for a long time. It's been quite a time but nothing seems to be working for me. I do not exactly know what is the problem. I am planning to visit my doctor soon. But I'm very scared. I don't know what's going to happen. What if I have infertility issues? I desperately want to have a baby of my own. The feeling of going to the doctor even scares me. My mind is filled up with so many negative thoughts. Will I be able to conceive? Is everything going to be fine? Will things work out the way I want them to? Everyone, please wish me luck!

@TheOneWithTheBaby I have a few friends who get ovulation spotting, sounds like it could be that?

AF has started this afternoon, which means my cycle is currently 23 days, here's hoping it stays regular now!

@Hofty how lovely! What are the little ones wearing? Weddings are so exciting.

I'm pleased to hear everyone has positive stories about promotions! I would definitely not be the norm at work as most people are 35+ when they have children. I also feel I am happier taking the hit to my career early (although I'll still be in a strong position).

I can see how your motivation for work drops when you have children though, there are just more important things in life. @RandomUsernameHere did you go back to work full time after?

@TheOneWithTheBaby I am also pretty terrified!! I know this is absolutely what we want but I am expecting it to change my life in ways I haven't even thought of yet. I worry a little bit about how my body will go back afterwards too, I'm worried I'll feel chunky/wobbly next to my friends (although I appreciate it really shouldn't be an issue but I've always had a strange relationship with food/how I look etc).

Welcome to @MrsO1

@dottydally I decided not to return after mat leave. I appreciate how lucky I am to have the choice and I haven't missed work at all!

Definitely no ovulation spotting as my period started and I'm having the worst cramps. Interesting to know though as obviously that means I eaither ovulated literally the day before my period or even during? I'll def take the GP up on the gyno referral as I doubt we will be able to conceive otherwise with these timings... So it's kinda good to know now.

DH made an appointment for early May to get tested for Zika. The advice is for women to wait two cycles and for men six months unless they test negative. So we decided to spend money on the test to see when we can start still makes me nervous somehow though.

Sorry Dotty I almost forgot to reply. I'm already wobbly so that's not an issue But I completely understand what you mean. Good to hear other people feel a whole range of emotions too.

Hi @TheOneWithTheBaby we need to wait because of Zika too. Good luck with the test! I'm debating whether to get us both tested. I'm leaning towards just waiting the 6 months and using protection.

We compromised on DH getting the test. We wanted to TTC now but then circumstances changed and we agreed to go on a big holiday of a life time before. So the text was the compromise. Obviously if there's ANY issues we will wait six months. He normally doesn't get bitten by anything whereas insects really love me and my blood.

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