Sorry I disappeared yesterday ? threw myself into work and tried to forget about the spotting. It seems a lot less today so I am feeling happier. I spoke to the midwife at the EPU who I?d seen on Tues and she said to keep an eye on things but that brown blood was old and so had not been to do with a bleed in the preceding 24 hours and therefore, what we saw on the scan should be the right state of affairs but if the spotting got red, I was to go in immediately as they would have to manage the Clexane as well as re-scan me. She did say it is not unusual to spot at this stage. I have a haem appointment on Monday and my booking in on Weds so will mention it to both of them. Let?s hope there is no more!
Thanks Torres & Lissie I was exhausted all day but think that was just worry. I slept a lot better last night and feel a lot more positive today.
Herby & Torres ? just something I was thinking when reading your posts, one of the signs of depression is finding decision making hard and exhausting and whilst I know that the decisions we are talking about here and complex and emotive, please seek help if you are finding it hard to cope. It is so incredibly hard to get to grips with what you have been through.
Popsy ? indeed they do! I guess we forget how fragile life is when we go about our day to day. Thanks for the support and affection Happy birthday! may all your dreams come true ? I hope you?ve made a wish. I did on my B?day (even though AF had arrived that day! ) and it has come true!
NH101 ? sorry about AF but remember that this is the start of a new cycle and that means new hope! If the old cycle wasn?t the ?one?, it?s best that it?s now over! Thanks for the positive thinking ? you are right about the HB, let?s hope my beanie is a fighter! You know you can share any of your thoughts here that you can?t share in RL, I am sorry that SIL?s happiness is happening at a time when you are so raw
Iwillbe rest did help (and Cadburys fruit and nut cuddled up to DH! ) thank god he was home, he is away overnight tonight sorry that your friend?s news made you feel sad, huge hugs, we all understand
Thanks Myfirstbaby
Mumto3girls ? I?ve been thinking about you. Stay strong. I hoped that if the worst was true and your beanie was an angel, that it would all be gone. That is what happened with me and I was so relieved that I was no longer in limbo and could grieve and heal. I hope you get some peace soon. I was tested for lupus a few years back. What made them consider testing you do you know? Thanks for your thoughts for me. Spotting is one of the things I know a bit about after last time I know all the stats, ½ bleed and a ¼ of them are fine but when you have been one of the unlucky 1/4 , all you can imagine is being there again . I read that having a positive outlook can influence outcome so I am trying hard but it?s a self defence mechanism I guess to think the worst.
Thanks EllieG Re OV, generally OV calendars pinpoint OV at cd14. Not that many people actually OV on cd14 but you can OV anytime between about cd8 and cd20odd and beyond depending on the length of their cycle. If you have a regular 28 day cycle then chances are you OV around cd14. Ideally, you want to have at least 10 days after OV before AF each cycle or else there is a risk that your lining is breaking down too quickly and would not support a pregnancy. The fact that you have been pg suggests that that is not likely to be an issue for you. I have a 28/29 day cycle and usually OV either CD17/18 but I only know that from months of charting and getting to know my body. To learn exactly when you OV takes some time and effort (recording temps etc) but a really good indicator is your CM. Basically; you should aim to have sex on every day that you have EWCM as those are likely to be your fertile days. OPKs can help pinpoint OV but they can also really stress you out which in turn can delay OV so beware. Some people (especially people with PCOS) get lots of false +ives throughout their cycles. This is because we can have LH (the hormone needed for OV) surges and then not necessarily OV. There were a few cycles where I got ?ive OPKs throughout but I know I did OV from my temps. My best advice would be to use them as back up of your own thoughts on your CM. Then make sure that you have sex on every day that you get a +ive around the time you have EWCM as those are bound to be your most fertile days. Best time to do OPKs is between 10am and 6pm, I personally find the later the better and sometimes it?s worth trying twice in a day when you really think you are about to OV. Don?t worry about storing up pee for the test; it?s not needed for this type. Also, just a tip, elevated hips after sex mean that the sperm has nowhere to go but the right direction
Hello Kensgirl ? no internal scan this time but I am trying to put the brown spotting down to cervical erosion and telling myself that it was too much of a coincidence that it happened the day my AF would have been due. Thanks for the positive vibes keep us posted x
Harveysaunt ? deep breath, just take each day as it comes, that is the only way to get through the early days. Take great care of yourself and tell DH you need to be babied (it may take a while to get through ? I?m 8 weeks and DH is finally being protective! ) Try not to be scared, this baby needs to know you want it and it can feel your vibes. You have every chance of success this time, you have to tell yourself that, the slate is clean and this is a new beginning The thing is that expecting the worst and not letting yourself enjoy what is happening does us no good at all, if things go wrong again, that reservation of feeling won?t help us and if all goes well, we are delaying the wonderful and essential feeling of bonding with our baby. I do appreciate that it can be subconscious, I recognise that my holding back has not been deliberate but I definitely have been. Just do whatever feels right for you, tell people if you need to, don?t if you don?t. Have you bought any books? I like ?What to expect when you are expecting? and Miriam Stoppard?s Childbirth bible. Oh, and protect your assets, get a new, properly measured bra as soon as you can (its not tempting fate, it?s for your benefit, not the baby?s!) and moisturise your body as much as you can to avoid stretch marks The PG after MC thread helps me an awful lot
Gilly ? all sounds exciting in the big smoke!