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TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 16. New Year, new hope for all!

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NoCatsHere · 18/01/2018 14:31

Hello to anyone TTC after suffering pregnancy loss at any stage. Supportive group for all hoping for their rainbow babies.

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Cakelaur · 16/02/2018 08:33

Morning lovely ladies!!
Enter.....AF!! Silly b*tch has arrived a day early!! I mean she probably saved me £8 in tests this morning. But no doubt she'll use £8 is some other accessories! Haha. On to 2nd cycle after mc!! And there was me believing the whole "super fertile" after mc!!! I was litterally wearing a cape calling myself "fertility woman" 🤣😂🤣
Hope everyone else is having a better start to the day than me!!
Sorry for the random bold text, no idea how to get rid of it!!

Llondbol · 16/02/2018 08:40

That made me smile @Cakelaur - Fertility Woman 😂 Hope it's true that we're super fertile after MC... x

PassTheAfterEights · 16/02/2018 08:57

I did it @boboelephant and I bloody loved it. Feel so unpreggo. Fortunately no sign of Amazon dispatch so should have a few more hours mental peace & quiet today..! hope your DS is gradually adjusting to GMT..! x

@weasledee HILARIOUS - love the idea of all us testing crazies beetling around the house behaving possessed over sodding pissy sticks, fx your delivery arrives soon! @cakelaur noooo stupid witchy AF, I have a feeling she's on her way to me next, back aches in extreme but zero other symptoms - first cycle post has not been my friend either. @llondbol read the so-called boost lasts 3 months post MC so here's hoping for March x

Boboelephant · 16/02/2018 09:10

Welcome @TeaFanatic sorry for your loss. Hope your body sorts itself out and you get your bfp soon. I bought a bunch of cheapie opks on Amazon too.
Sorry she got you @Cakelaur! I was exactly the same. Convinced that I would get preggers immediately after mc and before AF despite that it had taken me and my one tube 9 months to fall before that! Fingers crossed it's March for us all!
@PassTheAfterEights good on you! I remember with DS I didn't find out until 6 weeks and the doc said not to worry about the wine I'd drunk as it takes 6 weeks for the placenta to start functioning anyway. So a cheeky glass won't hurt you in the 2ww! And thanks- he slept til 4:30am today... 🤣
@weasledee haha!! Good luck for today

weasledee · 16/02/2018 09:41

Cake, NO! Gutted to her AF arrived Angry
Onwards and upwards as they say....

SoozC · 16/02/2018 09:50

Third af after mc on its way to me today or tomorrow, so the super-fertile after mc thing isn't true for everyone!

keepinghopeful · 16/02/2018 09:56

AF here for me too ladies, not surprising as ive found out i have very weak/no ovulation from left hand side. Suspected this as any time ive got preg but lost it has always been when ovulating from right hand side, bit sh*t as halves chances already. Must mention it when at fertility clinic.

Claire138 · 16/02/2018 10:17

Aw @cakelaur sorry she has appeared but at least now you’re out of the tww and can start focusing on this month 🙂
@passtheaftereights I did too! Heard a saying ‘drink till it’s pink’ lol not actually condoning drinking heavily though...just thought it was funny!

Martydog · 16/02/2018 10:21

I think af is on the way too. Cramping slowly getting worse this morning, well least I will have loads of pregnancy tests for the next cycle. 😬

PassTheAfterEights · 16/02/2018 10:30

argh @Soozc so sorry. Really hope you get better news soon Flowers

PassTheAfterEights · 16/02/2018 10:32

@boboelephant 😳 at this rate you should be well prepared for a newborn?! @claire138 love it, if another bfn today might treat myself to a second tonight!

PassTheAfterEights · 16/02/2018 10:33

ugh sorry for triple post but just seen @keepinghopeful so sorry - that's rubbish. Hope the clinic comes up with something for you x

Hortonlovesahoo · 16/02/2018 10:43

@keepinghopeful - I really hope that they can help you. I've got reduced ovulation from my left side but they don't seem too fussed and they wouldn't do anything like ovarian drilling to resolve it.

A question for those that have had a recent miscarriage. Did you notice that you started rebleeding when you did exercise or DTD? I've had it twice now and it's quite a lot of bleeding (but not enough to warrant calling them for).

weasledee · 16/02/2018 12:19

Good news! Pee sticks arrived a day early!!! Bad news BFN but I might be a day or so early..... Confused

Boboelephant · 16/02/2018 13:37

Sorry to hear @SoozC, @keepinghopeful and @Martydog. Hope we all catch next month! I hope they can give you some answers @keeping, I was told when I lost my right tube that ovaries don't take it in turns each month, the more dominant one wins the race. So hopefully your right ovary will kick it up a notch!
Haha @PassTheAfterEights you're right! Sad thing is 4:30am seemed like a sleep in after the 1am wake ups a few days back!
@Hortonlovesahoo I had a ERPC so no bleeding afterwards. I think I'd call the doc if I was you, just to be sure.

Hortonlovesahoo · 16/02/2018 14:25

@boboelephant: I didn’t realise that the dominant one took over. I’m going to call them next week and I’ll try a few things to see if it triggers it

Hortonlovesahoo · 16/02/2018 14:26

Darn enter button! .... see a few things to trigger it. They said to expect some bleeding but not after the main bleeding had stopped. They said to only call if I went through 2 pads in an hour

Boboelephant · 16/02/2018 15:29

@Hortonlovesahoo yeah they basically said to me that each month the ovaries have a race and the winner releases the egg. So it doesn't go right, left, right, left as people think. It could technically be R, R , R, L etc. It's all pretty crazy!
Hope your bleeding stops soon!

Star88 · 16/02/2018 18:02

Got a very faint line on an opk today so hopefully my first o since mc is about to begin!! Eeeek

keepinghopeful · 16/02/2018 18:17

@Boboelephant oh thats good to know , thank u 😊

Cakelaur · 16/02/2018 18:17

🤞 @Star88

Well after a complete meltdown about af over the last couple of days and me creating arguments about anything and everything that all turn into lack of baby argument, my DH has finally told me he wants me to go see someone because he's worried I'm not coping! 😞

He told me it's unhealthy to chat to you guys all the time and that I spend so much time on MN scanning the ttc posts.

Does anyone have this from OHs? He's normally really supportive but on this he just doesn't understand the support you ladies give.

Claire138 · 16/02/2018 20:01

Aw sorry to hear your going through a bit of a tough time at the moment @cakelaur. I think some people maybe don’t get it because they keep everything to themselves and rarely talk about things that bother them whereas some people find it really helps talking it out. I also think it maybe wouldn’t hurt going to speak to someone...you might find it really helps. I know how you feel though. It is constantly on my mind!

Daffodil77 · 16/02/2018 20:23

@cakelaur my dh thinks it's nuts too. I do try to limit how much I read these boards. But it's weirdly therapeutic. The support is great because you guys completely get it.

I do take it too far and read the pregnancy thread I should've been on. What is wrong with me?!

Sometimes I do think it's good to have a break from mumsnet to allow your brain space to think about non baby stuff.

peachesarenom · 16/02/2018 20:29

Cakelaur I think it might be good to take a break. I know I have to because DH is away for work but I think I'll like it. Think body and mind need a break. Need to take care of other things. Can't constantly put things on hold because I might be preggers.

Boboelephant · 16/02/2018 20:53

@Cakelaur sorry things are so tough for you at the moment. From what you said it sounds like you're pretty on edge with the causing arguments etc so I think seeing a professional may well be helpful. I had my first therapy session last night and found it hugely helpful to talk things through without having to feel worried about what I said.
As far as DH goes, I tell mine that this forum provides an anonymous way for me to vent and chat which provides support in a distanced way and he seems to get that.
I think that women and men definitely process things differently so it can be hard to understand each other. Maybe you have to explain to him how much this forum helps you but possibly limit your time on the threads for him too.
I know how easy it is to obsess about this ttc business so I really am sending you lots of hugs and good luck!!