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TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 16. New Year, new hope for all!

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NoCatsHere · 18/01/2018 14:31

Hello to anyone TTC after suffering pregnancy loss at any stage. Supportive group for all hoping for their rainbow babies.

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Kingy2910 · 08/02/2018 21:07

Yes cookiefiend I posted my long story not too long ago lovie x

Flatwhite32 · 08/02/2018 21:41

@Star88 I've no idea how to PM on the mumsnet app, but if you login through the web, click on your inbox and you can PM from there. X

Primrose16 · 08/02/2018 21:47

I can PM someone by clinking on the 3 dots below someone’s comment

Cookiefiend · 08/02/2018 22:24

@kingy2910 sorry for the cross post. Definitely worth a call to the EPU if you are concerned. They were very kind and knew their stuff. Good sign your sex drive has returned though!

Cakelaur · 08/02/2018 22:56

Thanks @Mimilicious013 and don't give up hope just yet. You're not our til af shows. 🤞

Well done @weasledee I'm now 3dpo too. Af due on 18th!! Which will be exactly a month since my erpc.

@DaisyMay25 sorry your body's not playing ball. Defo see if epu can see you and maybe early scan?

@peachesarenom Don't be too hard on yourself. I would suggest taking your temp anyway. To get yourself into the habit. Even if it's useless info. I find mine is similar at anytime I wake. And it took me a month or so to get used to it all.

@Flameredbus So sorry Hun. 😢It's all just shit. Did it take long to conceive between mcs? Also if re books, have you read 'taking charge of your fertility?' By Toni weschler. That's a great read!

@Primrose16 How many dpo are you? I would say go. Enjoy yourself. It's only really once baby starts to develop. Plus I did everything by the book with my pregnancy. No baths, no booze, no lifting or seafood or pate or everything!!! And I still lost the baby. So this time round I'm gonna be sensible and more relaxed. I'm going to a wedding this weekend (I'll be 5dpo) and plan on having a great time. I'm not gonna get hammered, but defo gonna have a few. Could be my last drink for 9 months! 😉

@dulwichdays sending hugs. I had that moment a week ago too. Around 2 weeks post op. A week later and I've now ovulated and can see light at the end of the tunnel. It will happen. I didn't get any + opks at all so was getting really upset.

@Kingy2910 not much advise as I had the op. But sending hugs and sorry you're going through this. But defo take a pregnancy test. It took me 2weeks after the op to be negative again.

Primrose16 · 09/02/2018 06:49

@cakelaur I mc on the 12th jan. I don’t temp or use opk. But I think I ovulated around 27th jan going off ewcm. So maybe 13dpo Ish. I do agree about the doing it right thing- that got to me after my second loss- I was so angry that I did things to the book but still lost.

Mimilicious013 · 09/02/2018 08:32

when are you poas @primrose, fx for you

Mimilicious013 · 09/02/2018 08:43

bfn here, 2 days late í½í±

girls night out for me and will be letting my hair down ((lts been forever since I lived for me ever since ttc and all the heartache ))

peachesarenom · 09/02/2018 09:12

Thank you Cakelaur. I think I will try again to get into the habit.

I've been using my clear blue advanced fertility monitor for the last week only so not since mc and it has been saying high but now it says low! How long till AF do you think? I really want to be ready for my next cycle.

peachesarenom · 09/02/2018 09:13

Enjoy your night out Mimilicious013!!!

Eastend2015 · 09/02/2018 10:23

Enjoy mimi! I’m going out of my mind here, had symptoms tues/ weds when the test was positive then felt totally normal yesterday and today. Scared this will turn out to be a CP. I can’t concentrate on anything!!! 5th pregnancy so you’d think i’d have found a way of managing the stress by now Confused

HoldTightPretendItsAPlan · 09/02/2018 10:58

I went into boots today to pick up some FRER tests, they've always been the cheapest locally, because they did packs of 3 but they don't seem to anymore.

Anyone know the next best place?

peachesarenom · 09/02/2018 11:00

Oh Eastend2015! Have you called the epu? They told me they'd give me an early scan if I got pregnant again. They might prescribe you something like baby asprin or something.

Primrose16 · 09/02/2018 11:45

@mimilicious oh rubbish! How strange being 2 days late. Enjoy your night out.
Not going to test til well after the weekend. As I’m not sure when due because of mc. I’m not overly sure if it’s goung to happen anyway this month. We not really trying- just not preventing. I have had cramping since the weekend and this queasy feeling

Primrose16 · 09/02/2018 11:52

Are they cheap on amazon?

Primrose16 · 09/02/2018 11:54

@Eastend agree can you phone EPU or gp and tell them that you are anxious. Stress is not good for you.

keepinghopeful · 09/02/2018 12:07

7dpo & i want to test!!! Tie my hands together - im a nutcase!!

Eastend2015 · 09/02/2018 12:08

Thanks ladies- the recurrent miscarriage clinic has already given me baby aspirin and EPU will scan at 6 weeks but not convinced i’ll get that far at the moment. No-one can really help at this v early stage Sad

keepinghopeful · 09/02/2018 12:18

@Eastend2015 hang in there though been in ur shoes & its a horrible feeling

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 09/02/2018 12:26

@Eastend2015 I'm in the same boat. I had to go to Sainsburys to sneakily buy baby aspirin as my surgery were useless (like the 1st time I guess) and some times I'm okay, some days I have a bit of cramping/and that warm uterus feeling (tell me it's not just me). Hoping to get to 6 weeks for our EPU scan, but right now I just don't know. I don't even know how I feel about the whole thing. Think I'm still trying to get my head around it and it's the day I should expect AF too today so maybe that's why. Fuck what mc has done to us

Eastend2015 · 09/02/2018 12:30

Thanks unicorns yes I know exactly what you mean about a warm uterus lol! Just not feeling it today. FFS!!!

Primrose16 · 09/02/2018 12:35

What do you mean about warm uterus?
Oh ladies, it’s so bloody stressful. I’d love to be like my friends and have a worry free pregnancy that I could enjoy!

Hortonlovesahoo · 09/02/2018 12:36

Hey girls, I’m wondering if anyone else feels/felt like this. I’m one week post d&c and I have absolutely no motivation to do anything. I don’t care. I’m doing everything as absolute minimal that I need to do in a day but I don’t care further than that. I’ve got lots to do but just can’t seem to find the energy or effort to do it.

I’m ok emotions wise. I have waves of sadness but I’m mostly ok.

Pinkcar123 · 09/02/2018 12:37

So with baby aspirin do you take it upto positive test and keep taking it when pregnant? Im going to try

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 09/02/2018 12:45

@Primrose16 😂 It's the only way I knew how to explain it. I get some weird warmth feeling down there when I'm gearing up to come on or cramp.

@Hortonlovesahoo I think that's pretty normal tbh. I think it took me a while to start not doing the bare minimum.

@Pinkcar123 I'm not sure. I just started when I got a BFP but I could be wrong ofc Smile

@Eastend I'm trying to take it one day at a time but I'm really struggling just to do that

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