TTC after pregnancy loss. Thread 16. New Year, new hope for all!

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Hello to anyone TTC after suffering pregnancy loss at any stage. Supportive group for all hoping for their rainbow babies.

What would you do. Friend asked me to go out next Saturday for bottomless prosecco and meal. £45 and needs booking. I highly doubt I have caught on this month. But do I risk it?

I’m sorry @flameredbus it’s bloody horrible and so unfair.
I went to the gp after my second but they wouldn’t do anything until my 3rd. They could see I was clearly devasted but still said no, said I could have extra scans when I fell pregnant again. But that never happened. All they wanted to do was sign me off work with depression 😡

I thought because i am nearly 40 they might help...do you think that makes a difference?

Yes it might do. Defo worth a visit.

Flame it’s worth asking your GP- we were referred for tests after an EP then MMC but then conceived DS. After another MC in December was referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. We had our appt yesterday but also had a positive test (don’t feel like I can say bfp, a definite but faint line at 10dpo) so she put me on baby aspirin but said that I don’t have sufficient clinical history for anything else.

@primrose16 If I were you I’d go - the way I see it if I decline invitations based on if I could be pregnant, if I’m not then I’d be doubly upset. I’d feel like I’d also be putting my life on hold in the hope of being pregnant.

Having a really crap day - I’m only 2 weeks post D&C and time just feels like it’s dragging. It feels like forever until I potentially get AF back and get another opportunity to conceive. I know things could a lot worse but I guess it’s just one of those days today.

Perhaps also to say was 34 and in London when first referred and am 37 and in Essex now.

@UnicornsandRainbows1 I put a little bit on alternating arms each day! You're more than welcome to join the FB group again. Actually ladies, for those of you who are new, I set up a secret FB group after my MMC for ladies on here. If you would like to join, PM me the email address you use for FB and I'll add you. There are some ladies on there (like myself) who are currently pregnant again as the group was set up a few months ago now, but the pregnancy chat is very minimal, and if there is any it is all anxiety and support related.

Hi ladies I have a question about miscarrage but would not want to bring back any painful memories.....would it be ok to ask or not???? Its more about the bodily process. I fully understand if not.

I think you should ask Kingy2910 but see what a few more people say.

I’m fine, for miscarriage questions. If others not feel free to pm me.

Thanks ladies I'll wait a little longer...@primrose16 I have absolutely No idea how to PM (I'm even guessing that must mean private message???) Yes I am this daft always getting laughed at at work ha

No issues with MC questions

Ha ha @kingy. Yep private message.

Ok here goes but I hope I don't upset any of you. So I started bleeding with small clots just over two weeks ago on the Tuesday. I went for a scan at EPU on the Friday morning and all was ok. I was measured at 7+6. Right through until this Sunday (just short of two weeks) then the bleeding became a little heavier. On Monday morning I had a private scan which showed I had miscarried. My bleeding became heavier but nothing more than a period. On Tuesday morning I had an appointment with EPU (my feotus was measured at 8+1 so not long after my scan) as they aren't allowed to take private medical notes had scans etc. We went through my options and I decided to give it time to come out on its own but booked in for a week on Friday for a procedure if it doesn't. I asked the nurse if I will know when it comes away and she said most definitely as I will be in labour like pain. On Tuesday night whilst having a bath I had very very light movement in my tummy. When I went for a wee later on a grey marble looking thing had come away as I was unsure about this I dismissed it and flushed. For the next two hours I bled heavily but no pain. Wednesday morning when I got up went for the first wee of the day I felt something fall.out of me. Took a look but couldn't see anything because there was a lot of blood. Since then my bleeding has become lighter a lot lighter. So my question is......have i possibly passed it and not every one has the pain my nurse said I would have or am I still in the waiting game??? I just want it over if I'm honest. Sorry for the long post and thank you

I don't know. I was 11 weeks and I defo had awful labour pains. I hope you don't have that.

Thank you peaches

@kingy I had a mmc and I initially decided to miscarry naturally but I was scared of it dragging on and just happening. So I had the pill. A few hours after taking I had horrible pains! I know now that they were like early labour pains. And the bleeding started was extremely heavy to the point of soaking pads/clothes (settee) within a few mins. Then I passed what you described in the shower, a large mass. Bleeding then slowed down and pain eased. I think though I got that pain as the pill forced me to miscarry. Since you miscarried naturally then you might not experience the same pain. It’s hard to say. But it sounds to me that your body has done what it needed to do 😢

As @peaches said I hope you don’t have that pain. It’s horrible and codeine wouldn’t even ease it

Thank you primrose I was wondering as I've been bleeding for over two weeks any way. I might ring EPU in the morning see if I can get an internal that way I won't have to go next week and waste time if I have passed it. If not I might actually get the tablets and just get it over. Don't think I need another week of it!!! On the brighter side of life myvsex drive has returned all ready which I was very surprised at but me and hubby have said to wait a month or two before trying again....

@Flatwhite32 how do you private message on here? I'd like to join the fb group please!

@Kingy2910 when I mc at what I thought was 6+2 I had pains for one night and day, definitely noticeable ones! But everyone is different... :)

That’s positive. Yes you could asked for a internal. I didn’t have one, I took a pregnancy test when instructed and it came back negetive. As it happened I had a scan a month later as I was still struggling with pain. The scan came back clear and no obvious reasons for the pains. I think it just took me a while to physically heal

Oh kingy I’m so sorry for your loss and what you’ve been through. But I agree with others it sounds like your body has done what it needs to. I didn’t have any pain when I miscarried in December- it was at around 6 weeks so earlier than you but just a lot of clots and then light bleeding for about a week.

Wonder if I should do a test in that case.....just thinking as it's been going on for over two weeks now...hmmmm.....Thanks star

@kingy you should ask- there is loads of miscarriage chat in here (in part because no one ever tell you how it happens and it is helpful to let people know in advance and also a little cathartic)

If we are horrified by your question we just won't answer. Are yiu going through a mc yourself?