Where there’s a Yam, there’s a way

[Bubblegum89]

Thread numero four-o.

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shall not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shall not be offended by strong language

• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shall not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if they do so.

Welcome and welcome. We’re all very nice and friendly despite being horrible bitter old cows ☺️

Hope you're ok @Limp - I have absolutely everything crossed for you. X

Oh gosh Limp I really hope that you get positive news on Wednesday xx

Oh @limplettice what an ordeal, and frustrating not to get an answer. Really hope the spotting stopping is a good sign and you get clearer and more positive news on Wed

Also, sorry for tagging you in the other thread, was getting mixed up between the two

Take care of yourself xxx

You're all so lovely and I realise it's a bit mememe on the wrong thread, I'm sorry. Just feeling very low and fed up. DP is frantically googling the difference between anechoic spaces and the sac, wondering if I ovulated late because we didn't track, all sorts. I guess I'm more pragmatic but the not knowing is hideous. Wednesday is the anniversary of my oldest friends death (9 years) so I'm sure I will be a bundle of joy. But it can't come soon enough. As soon as DD is in bed I'm going too.

Don’t be silly, Limp that’s what the thread is for :) get some rest and look after yourself. I’m not religious at all but I’ll pray that it’s all good news!

I’ve decided that I might just stop ttc altogether. If they tell me on Wednesday my tubes are blocked then I know that that means IVF is the only option as they won’t attempt to unblock them. So if that’s the case, I’m just going to go stop ttc. At least for this year. I wasted my entire 2017 ttc’ing and I don’t want to waste another. I think I will just do stuff for me. I’ll go on that holiday and go out with friends and just enjoy myself and then maybe start saving up for IVF in 2019. I just can’t do this anymore, it’s exhausting

Thanking of you Limp, hope all goes well on Wed

Good idea Bubblegum I'm tempted to do the same myself. I'm so sick of being up then down every month. It's exhausting!

@LimpLettice sorry you didn't get a conclusive answer today, how awful to be stuck in limbo. Fingers crossed you get good news on Wednesday. X

@Bubblegum89 totally get your feelings on TTC. Sometimes a break is what's needed as you're right, it's all so exhausting and takes over your life. Hope you get some good news though.

Sorry it's hard news that you have to wait, Limp, got everything crossed all is okay xx

Keeping everything crossed for you Limp
Bubble that's totally understandable, I think focusing on investing in your emotional wellbeing is never a bad thing

My fucking period has turned up FOUR days early.

FFS.

Sorry @Si1ver. How crap. I feel I may be in the same boat soon - definitely hormonal & classic AF cramping! Ugh.

Oh si1ver af is a bitch :(

Limp, I know it's shit, and I'm scared to get your hopes up, but a lot of these do turn into babies. It's just too early to see them.

Hug x

Si1ver that's shit - sorry about AF

No AF here yet but got BFN this morning (CD28). I woke up at about 5am to POAS using FMU but 'missed' and managed to invalidate the test! So back to bed for about 2.5 hours lying awake waiting to take test number two!

I've a terrible headache so expecting AF later today.

Ladies have just stumbled across this whilst looking to order opks - has anyone tried anything like this is it worth it? Been trying for 9 months so dr won't offer any insight just yet....

@limp keeping everything crossed that it is just too early to see anything yet on a scan. Keep us updated x

@si1ver af arriving early is such a fucker. Seems worse than it arriving on time. Have all the wine.

I’m still away and I can safely say that all my symptoms I get each month are created by my own mind. I’ve been busy since ovulation now 8dpo and not a single symptom to spot. So I’ve concluded I think too much about this when I’m home and cause them myself!

silver what a bitch - hope you have some things to indulge in

sooz, steak how are you guys doing?

milk that's great news in your test! Hope that gives you abut of comfort; are you lined up for any other tests?

ron urgh testing is the worst - hope AF stays away

June hahaha - I like your conclusion...am in that pants checking territory before AF, must stop

Good luck tomorrow bubblegum I totally get wanting a break - looking after your well-being is definitely the right idea xx

limp thinking of you and have everything crossed for tomorrow xx

Hi everyone. Just heading home after result consultation with the fertility clinic. As I feared/expected we’re in the ‘unexplained infertility’ camp. My AMH levels were a bit low (8.something instead of 12) but she wasn’t worried. As I’m 35 that’s not hugely surprising. I know I should be grateful that we’re both healthy and have no serious problems that need to be addressed- but I feel a bit deflated and frustrated. I want to know why we’re 17cycles in and nothing. No hint of a bfp.

So we head to the IVF queue. We have to wait 6 months before referral as OH smokes (😡 how many times have I asked him to stop!) and in the meantime I’m going to research any other options like IUI. Of course I need to get a lottery ticket for other options 🙄

Hi Lexi. How come they make you wait another 6 months before referring for IVF? Seems unnecessary as you've been waiting so long already. Totally get the frustration of 'unexplained' - I was oddly irritated my initial results didn't show PCOS as it meant there was no immediate/clear treatment pathway

Sorry to hear you got af, Si1ver. Look after yourself.

Lexie, sorry to hear you've unexplained infertility. I guess it's positive it's not some terrible physical problem but that's scant relief when they can't give you any ideas on how to proceed. Take care of yourself and tell OH that now is definitely the time to quit smoking. Big hugs.

Bubble, I totally get you, sorry to hear it's got to this point for you. If anyone deserves a year of looking after themselves it's you. x

@wonky the delay is only because of OH smoking. They won't move us forward in the process on the NHS until he's quit for 6 months. Otherwise we'd have gotten the referral today.