Where there’s a Yam, there’s a way

[Bubblegum89]

Thread numero four-o.

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shall not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shall not be offended by strong language

• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shall not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if they do so.

Welcome and welcome. We’re all very nice and friendly despite being horrible bitter old cows ☺️

Just got in from work and retested OPK. All systems are go! Now where is DP!?

@Bubblegum89 The Radiologist gave me an indication there and then (she said one side was definitely open but wasn't sure on the other) but said she couldn't say for certain until she'd been able to view the films

Bubble, can you not book something cheaper? Maybe a shorter holiday somewhere closer to home? I'm sorry you feel you have to choose; not a nice situation to be in. :(

I've just had my first acupuncture session! She said some interesting things including the fact I have cold feet and get period-type pain around 7dpo are indications of a 'cold' uterus which is a factor in infertility. She seemed positive there were things she could try that would have an effect and said acupuncture can be really good. So we shall see! It just feels good to have been, like I'm doing something to help myself. Yay! A positive post from me! x

Happy dtd @BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy good luck

Yep @Si1ver going to really try to stick to SMEP this month to try and get some post positive opk dtd in.

CD10 and stark white opk although ewcm is getting there and having ovulation cramps.

Bubble I've just got back from a week holiday in the sun. God, I needed it. I think both me and DP needed it to take time off from the stress and worry of things. It really helped us reconnect and we managed to dtd lots without it feeling like a chore! I really think it did us a lot of good & If you can afford I'd definitely go for it. You need a break.

At my HSG the nurse told me on the day that tubes seemed open/ no blockages but had to go back to FC for detailed results.

That sounds great @Sooz!! Maybe I should look into that as my feet are always bloody freezing even though the rest of me is often too hot, they are like two blocks of ice and I almost always have socks on!!

Appt at half 9 tomorrow. Printed out results from when I had blood tests done at private work gp. Can’t be arsed to read them at the moment but I did notice that they were done on cd24 and at that point my progesterone was 19, whereas at my nhs GP day 21 tests my progesterone was only 18! Riddle me that!!

@Bubble I would go for the holiday option. This is all hard enough as it is, we need some light at the end of the tunnel sometimes!

@bubble could you not do an air b&b in Spain and then just get flights. It’s likely to be a lot cheaper than a package holiday. I’ve got a friend with an apartment not far from the beach, nice decor and a roof terrace. I can send you the link to her fb page for the apartment if you want.

@Milknosugar1. I apologise if you've already said but have you had your t3/t4/thyroid antibodies checked? My tsh is .93 but I am symptomatic (previous hyperthyroidism) so my GP is running the other tests.

Hi everyone. Just wanted to share my story.. TTC for over 3 years.. DH and I are both young and healthy.. there seemed to be no reason it wasn't happening.

I went to a bad place. Couldn't watch TV shows that had babies in. Couldn't stand to be around friends who were pregnant. Lost my shit when I got a baby shower invitation from a colleague who wasn't even trying.

It. Was. Shit.

Everyone seemed to just get pregnant. And the worst were those 'undeserving' scummy Jeremy Kyle parents already with 5 kids and couldn't care less about the fact they were pregnant again. I'm sorry.. the whole journey has made me quite bitter.

We started fertility treatment. The waiting was crap. No one knew what was wrong with me and I got referred (after a long battle) from one place to another with no answers and what felt like, no help.

I was in a very dark place.

Then one day, completely out of the blue...bam. bfp. One of those moments that you think will never happen to you.

So I just wanted to say to anyone who might be struggling... It's okay and it will happen. And I'm sorry it's so shit. It is soo shit. It's not fair and it's honestly one of the most stressful shit times every. But I promise you... It will be okay.

Just wanted to give a glimmer of hope and share my experience even if it only helps 1 person.

I wish anyone TTC the absolute best of luck. You deserve your babies and I hope that your wait is short and speedy. All the best x

Gosh @BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy - that's a true positive!

@milk they won't test thyroid antibodies if your tfts are normal... it's pointless as its basically looking for an underlying problem when there isn't one iyswim.

D24 progesterone bloods got taken today post Clomid.... hopefully get the results this week. Finding it very easy not to do a PT actually.... probably because I'm convinced it'll be negative so no point rushing out to buy one

Thank you @sirlee Thank you for not forgetting how shit TTC is after your bfp

@sooz mine was worried about my cold uterus too! Lots of warm food, wrapping up my feet etc! 🤞 it all works. Glad it’s making you feel a bit more positive.

Cd17 here and I’m confused- more ewcm today. But I ov’d on Sunday according to my opks, so then I stopped using them. Could I be ov again? Or is my body just being weird?

Thyroid tests can be affected by illness so if your t3 and t4 are normal and just slightly high tsh I'd retest in a few weeks/months before assuming abnormal.

Lexie, last cycle I assumed I'd ov'd but then had ewcm about 5 days later - got af 2 weeks after that so looks like I did ov when I had the ewcm. Always worth dtd if you can!

More uterus confusion incoming - AF started last Wed and ran until Sat. Pretty average. But today I've had dark brown blood, some weird kidney pain and stringy dark brown/red cm. Not had this before so not a clue what my body is up to now... -_-

Thank you for your replies RE the holiday! I think I’m going to wait until next week before I decide anything. I want to get a rough idea of what we’re up against (if the sonographer is able to tell us anything) on one hand I don’t want to spend money we could be saving for IVF but on the other, I don’t want to waste another year preparing for something we might end up not needing and missing out on some time away.

The place we want to go is the same place we go to almost every year (I get quite bad anxiety about being abroad and not knowing my way around etc and it’s the one place I feel comfortable enough to properly unwind!) and it’s ridiculously cheap over there. But that money would be a huge chunk of potential treatment money. Treatment that only has a 30% chance of working so could be totally wasted money so we could very likely end up with no holiday AND no pregnancy. But then again we may be lucky and the 30% will pay off... Oh I don’t know. I’m possibly getting too ahead of myself. I’ll hold fire on all accounts until I (hopefully) know a bit more next week. If my tube/s are blocked, I know that that means IVF is the only option, I know unblocking tubes is extremely difficult and usually results in more damage or tube removal. If it’s scar tissue, I will have more of an option thankfully. I guess I’ll have to wait and see.

I hate waiting.

Sirlee thank you for sharing :) congratulations on your bfp. I sincerely hope every single lady on this thread has your luck, I would love to see all of them get their bfp’s. Oh and I totally feel you on the Jeremy Kyle idiots that have 7 kids all in care. It’s always the people who don’t deserve kids that are able to have them so easily :(

Sounds like a good plan Bubblegum. Fingers crossed all goes well for you next week

Ooh I wonder if I have a cold uterus. I seem to get AF type cramps from OV onwards. Although, I do think it's only the last two cycles that my body has started to settle down after coming off the pill last April. They used to be much longer and PMS-symptom free, but now i get sore boobs etc. and much shorter (albeit still 30 days) cycles, which is much better!!

So either AF has come 4 days early out this is a very funny type of implantation bleed 9dpo