40+ ttc: 2018 full of bfp's!

[Orchid222]

Ladies, the old thread has now closed so I created a new one but can't post the link, hopefully you'll find it and we can continue.

I think they can tell that. Can you get that without being referred. I’m not confident in the gp

I'll ask for as much info as possible during my HyCoSy not sure what they'll tell me but I'll ask anyway it should be eight before my ov so good timing wise I suppose.
Just left my Chinese clinic and they told me they calculated that during last year they had 70% success rate helping their female patients get pregnant so hopefully this stuff will work.

Hi all, and welcome keeping the faith!

Ali, I don’t really notice any change there but don’t think I ever have! Good luck if you go for Hycosy soon.

Thank you for that article Orchid and good luck w TCM.

Faith, Ive also found this qn hard with my kids. I’m lucky to have squeezed two in but we wanted a third. They and esp my daughter have asked in the past if we can have another baby. I’ve started being more honest, eg that wd be nice but we don’t know if it will happen, have to be lucky. That’s made it easier for me really and they take that on board too.

I know my situation is different as we are v lucky to have two. But may be you cd try something similar. Be bit more honest as hiding yr emotions completely from yr lovely daughter is an even bigger stress.

Hugs... you still have chances and hoping they come through!!

I had 2 scans on the NHS but I think they were after ov. I know they measured lining but didn’t mention ovulation. I think I was referred because my periods had got lighter or something like that.

Hi ladies
How's everyone doing? I haven't posted a while but still like to watch the thread. I've just been hiy by the AF from hell..yet again i thought i was preg. I have mood swings for a week or two before af due then i suddenly feel high as a kite just before it starts and its like she loves playing tricks as i think should i get a test then the very same day she strikes! ! I'm actually spot on 28 days nearly every month so ought to be ovulating but don't bother with opks as they didn't work for me. At my advanced age (46) i doubt it will happen now. 😥 if by some miracle i did conceive it would most prob end in mc. I have to be realistic but it's the hardest door to close.

Sorry Boosey. It’s tough when AF arrives and hard not to be negative.

Out of interest, what bit of cycle does everyone find easiest and hardest?

I find the second half of cycle easiest and the bit after AF and before ov hardest. I used to find ov a positive time but not any more.

Orchid that is good odds from your TCM place, I hope it is true!
Boosey sorry you are having a tough time with it. It does seem our bodies like to tease us! So frustrating.
Ali I, by far, find the first half hardrst. I get so stressed leading up to ov worring it won't happen each month. I think as my hormomes are not great I often get weird symptoms at the early stage making me 00feel likw my body may be struggling. After ov I feel great, healthy, relaxed, happy... until bloomin af appears again.
I remember when I was 35 and trying for #2, it was by far the second week (2ww) that was more stressful. 1st two weeks were easy as ov was a given

BOOSEY - sorry af got got you. I can relate so much to what you say. Last month I paid particular attention to symptoms and signs as I knew there was no chance of being pregnant whatsoever as dh was away all month with work! I have to say that if we had done the deed just once I would have been convinced I was pregnant as every single sign I’ve had in the past when in the tww was there and from when pregnant in the past. That has really made me think as sometimes when in the tww I’ve known I wasn’t pregnant and I’ve had no symptoms whatsoever and that’s really made me think about the fact that you just can never really tell from symptom spotting. It’s only take. 12 miscarriages and 2 successful pregnancies to realise this!! I hope that waffle makes sense. I’m sort of coming to the end of the road with ttc - I’m in the tww now and as ever hopeful but after trying for no 3 for so long and so many chemicals and miscarriages it’s starting to hit home and it is not easy. I feel so so sad deep inside-it’s just an awful feeling. I’m so up and down emotionally and I hate that I do seem to be at the mercy of whatever time if the month it is. I’m finding vitamin B complex are helping a lot with the emotions and I add 50 mcg of B6 as well as anything less is ineffective for me and it really does seem to help. Just prior to Ovulation was always and still is the best time for me - I feel so positive - if only I felt like that all the time!!

I find the week straight after ovulation the easiest. I realise it's too late to try anymore and it's too early for the awful symptom spotting. As soon as I hit 8DPO I go crazy until AF arrives. That week from AF is always filled with disappointment and anxiety that this will never happen and I feel hopeless. As I start to head towards ovulation I get some hope back and off we go again!

Thank you for your lovely msg's.
Lucky: so sorry to hear about your mcs..you've done so well to keep trying. I had 2 then sort of gave up then had DS at 41. We've been trying for dc2 for 3 years but not trying hard enough. .there have def been times where i could have dtd more during the fertile window but i've been too scared/tired etc etc, and now i feel so bloody guilty for not trying enough!! Yes i know the feeling then of being so deep down upset like you feel ..and i have the guilt on top of it! I'm the same as you in that the week before ovulation i feel the most positive and also the same as JoJo: that's interesting you feel the week after ovulation is easiest. I never really know when ov ends as i use the cm method and i seem to get ewfm (egg white fertile mucus) alot of the time from about 2 days after af ends onwards until a week before af arrives! I don't know what's going on tbh and i haven't had any tests done for 2 years.
Good luck ladies

Hi Ladies, I’ve been lurking for weeks and thought I should post a bit of good news.
I’m 39, 40 next month. My DS is 3, stupidly I wasn’t sure if I wanted any more until about 18 months ago. We started trying again last Feb and I got PG straight away like with DS, but sadly MC at 6 weeks. We then kept trying for a year and finally now I’m 8 weeks pg, been so worried but it seems to be sticking. I’d got myself so down over the past year thinking it wouldn’t happen. Saw a really unhelpful and unsympathetic GP last Nov who basically said the NHS won’t pay for IVF as I already have a child, I wasn’t asking for IVF I was just asking for help. I was fuming but I did manage to get her to organise the day 21 progesterone test, the results came back as ‘normal’. I later found the actual number was 65. By January I was getting seriously down and booked to see a different GP and sobbed when he asked how it was affecting me. He was great though and referred me to the fertility clinic and typically I got a letter through a couple of weeks after my BFP. Now it’s still early days for me and I’m so worried about my first scan and the genetic tests etc. But I wanted to tell you all, not to give up, anything’s possible. Sending you all big hugs.

Congrats poopypants! Always good to hear positive stories.

I'm so confused this cycle. Been spotting every day since af finished, currently on cd11 and had ewcm with todays spotting, however opks have gone lighter?!
No idea whats going on but doesn't look like the acupuncure / herbs have done any good this cycle, it's more crazy than ever

Also temps have been higher than they should be at this side of the cycle. So bloody confusing

And CD 1 is here again! But still bloods looked good so just trying to remember there is a chance!

How’s everyone doing?

Hi all. Have posted on another board but forgot to come back and update here. Had a very relaxed approach to ttc this cycle and it appears to have worked. I got a bfp last week and lines have grown stronger over that time. Cautiously happy but fully aware its very early days.

Congratulations mini what great news!

Congrats minime!! Thats fantastic news hope it all goes smoothly for you.
It's interesting? I've heard so many stories of people who get their bfp's once they take the relaxed approach, so there must be something in that, just so bloomin hard to do! Really must try to relax more

Yay, congrats!!

Thanks ladies. Just need to back away from the tests now and accept that its real. Also we only dtd twice due to work etc. I had very strong ovulation signs this cycle which maybe helped.

Yes it’s real - good luck to you!

Remind me how long you were trying?

Congrats mini - brilliant!!

Aside relaxing do you think you did anything last few cycles that cd have helped w stronger ov signs?

Best of luck for yr pregnancy 😊

I think I remember that you were an early ov-er like me and you tried soy. Do you know which day you ovulated/conceived and was it a non-soy cycle? Had you given up all the supplements?

We'd be trying around 20 months. Ive tried soy, cutting caffine and sugar, reflexology and ubiquinol. Abandoned everything bar my Seven Seas prenatal since before Christmas. Many bfps in the circle of friends. Baby bombs galore. Kinda resigned myself to the fact it wasnt happening and then it did! This cycle though i had an inner calm. Weird as it sounds i tried to let minor niggles go and i was very relaxed. Even when work should have caused major stress I didnt let it. I think i ovulated or was preparing to on cd10 so earlier than my usual cd12. That said the previous cycle i had was 28 days so technically if id kept to my usual 26 days it would have been cd12 iycwim.

Congratulations minime! Such great news. We need encouragement on here lol. Ttc for 20 months definitely encourages me. It’s like my consultant said, it’s just takes that bit longer over 40.

Hi weasel, how you doing? Any signs or symptoms?

I’m still around ladies. Nothing to say. Still waiting on AF after a very weird few weeks. It’s almost 6 weeks since my last AF. I thought I was on an anovulatory cycle then got ovulation signs after 4 weeks. However, I’ve not had my usual sore boobs so I probably didn’t ovulate after all. Who knows. Not me. Sigh.

Good luck and congrats mrs poopy and mini me - always nice to hear encouraging news - mini me - do you mind me asking how old you are? It’s just that at 43, I’m wondering if I’m really flogging a dead one!
Still waiting on AF - never felt more un-menstral in my life this month , it’s like my ovaries have totally shut up shop! The herbs are doing my head and I’ve a face full of spots (I mean some really nasty little suckers) feel like a teenager minus the dreaded red army - ironic how I despised periods as a young women and all through my 20’s and 30’s and now m begging for them!! 🙄

Hope you ladies had a good day? Mother’s Day can be tricky - esp for those with a history of MC, although that said I am VERY lucky to have a little girl and try hard never not to lose sight of that. 🙏🏻😊🙏🏻