TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 15 - Christmas miracles

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

New thread!

Congrats @SantaBaby1!!

So a different GP rang me this morning (male), he was sooo nice!! Really proactive compared to yesterdays doc! He is referring me now on for recurrent m/c, said for me to come in on the different days to get bloods on different things done to see if anything changed from last year when i had them done. Feel bit more content now that there is a bit of proactivity there! Hopeful now for a successful 2018 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Hi all am following along while I wait to test. It’s excruiating waiting and I don’t feel the slightest bit pregnant so pretty sure it’s another month out.
I know how you all feel about Christmas, I would have had a little month old baby at Christmas time and I’m not even pregnant again. It’s so painful how time drags on...

santa congrats that looks like a good line to me!

And di626 I’m so sorry you’ve had a cp that’s so cruel but I’m really glad you’ve spoken to someone more helpful and will get the tests you need.

Dibs glad you spoke to someone more reassuring.

SoCats I am in the very early stages but already it seems that time is dragging. It took a while for me to get pregnant so I am dreading that never ending treadmill again.

Hi all! That's me done at work thank god!

@di626 so glad the GP you spoke to was supportive. I'm really pleased he has referred you and is taking things seriously.

@hurrythefuckupgeorge so sorry you have to go back for more bloods. Miscarriage is such a horribly drawn out process at times. Xx

@Lovemysparkle glad you and DP are enjoying your intimacy, and that the Chinese lantern you released in memory of your angel was beautiful.

@voxnihili Glad you have got your appointments through. Time seems to drag in the first 12 weeks doesn't it, particularly when dealing with anxiety 24/7.

@Finefineanddandy So sorry for your loss. You'll find great support here from lovely ladies.

@UnicornsandRainbows1 The pregnancy testing is hard, and I really feel for you. Getting a negative does mean you can 'start again', but at the same time it's such a stark reminder of everything. Sending my love. Xx

@HoneyCake86 Thinking of you getting your blood results.

@NoCatsHere, how many DPO are you?

New ladies, there is a secret Facebook group in addition to this thread. If you would like to join (absolutely no obligation though!) PM me the email address you use for FB, and I'll add you. As it's a secret group, your FB friends can't see that you're a member of the group, and they also can't see anything you post in it. It's completely secret!

How do I Pm you @Flatwhite32 ? I'd like to join please

I'm not sure how to do it on the app @Kkk87 but if you go to the mumsnet website, there's an icon that leads you to your inbox.

@Flatwhite32 Hopefully. Obviously I'd rather not have this but I'd like a clean slate at least. Idk if I will actually ovulate but I had some mild period-like feeling a few days ago and appear to have ewcm (but that could be my body being weird)

Going to buy a FRER tomorrow to test on Friday as I'll be 12 dpo (I think - first cycle since October mmc was finally surgically completed). I've split from my bf (controlling relationship but that's a story in another thread). Is it completely bonkers that I'm hoping for a BFP?? I know the answer is yes but I can't help it.

zoo I don’t think you’re mad. I think you’re very brave to leave a controlling relationship like that and want to do it alone. Fx for you.

flat I’m 11dpo today and just tested with an ic - white as a sheet so pretty sure I’m well and truly out for Christmas. Might just call it a day too. Not sure I can continue into another year of ttc....

Hormone is going down by the looks of it so im pretty sure i have miscarried, it should read 3+ by now 😢 im so upset 💔

@Zoo33 I echo @NoCatsHere's sentiments. You are not mad at all. You're one brave lady and I really admire you.

@NoCatsHere I got a BFN on IC at 11 dpo. You never know.

@HoneyCake86 I'm so so sorry. Thinking of you. Xxx

@Zoo33 you're not mad at all, would still be wonderful for you!

@HoneyCake86 im so sorry, know the feeling only too well of what you are going through xxxx

So sorry @honeycake86

Sorry honeycakes :(

Doctors gonna see if she can bring my scan forward, to check for any retained stuff, but cos of christmas and the EPU’s busy, its not guarenteed.
Any guestimates as to how long this hormone will rattle about before it goes? The bleeding stopped last week. Everytime i talk to someone about it i burst into tears. DP is lovely with plenty cuddles, albeit very matter-of-fact; “it is what it is babe, theres not much we can do”. Hes right but gawd i wish i was as together as him.

Can i have the details for the fb group pls xx

@HoneyCake86 PM me the email address you use for FB, and I'll add you. Xx

Done thanks hun x

Dr got me into EPU today. Im praying they can give me some definitive answers as to where i go from here. Ive started cramping up again today so im worried about retained mc xx

Sorry if my posts are triggering ladies. Its just so much different than the chemical pregnancy i had years ago. Im abit scared about whats happening with my own body, and the uncertainty xxthanks so much for your support ❤️

And just like that af arrives 4 days early to ruin your Christmas and knock your cycle out of whack. Just a 23 day cycle and 10dpo. Seriously why do I bother? I’m feeling so crap.

Im so sorry cats hugs xx

@NoCatsHere What a bitch AF is!

Sorry @Honeycake and @Nocatshere

@Honeycake I am in the same position my blood yesterday was 18 and they won't discharge me from EPU until it gets below 5 which could be another week

Ahh mann thats a ballache! Im still getting clearly positive test lines a week after the bleeding started 13 days ago. I was under the impression they dropped rapidly once you pass the clots. The dr is taking her sweet time with the referral so im still waiting to be seen. I feel like they arent even taking this seriously