Yams, fertile feckers and what not to say.

[LimpLettice]

Part the third:

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
• Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
• Thou shall not be offended by strong language
• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

I'm not TTC, I popped onto this thread out of curiosity and after reading some of your stories I just wanted to say I think you are all fucking wonderful and so bloody strong. I really hope it happens for you, really really. X

Oh Frilly, that’s nice of you. I don’t think many of us feel particularly strong but at least we have each other and our yams!

Ps did anyone else see the ‘ how can I make sure I get pregnant with a girl’ thread?

Aghhh AF was 5 days long and stopped on Monday but I’ve just been to the loo and I have some slight bleeding mixed in with CM and cramps. What the hell is fhat?

I’m honestly crying at it justwaiting what a ridiculous person

Just I saw that thread. What was she expecting people to say? We're all struggling along and she thinks it's ok to prefer a girl (as long as she's healthy or whatever that bollocks was about)!!!!!

The absolute slam-down by one of the posters saying she has a degree in genetics was a winner for me

Hahahaha @Bubblegum89 - you’re so right! Genius smack-down!

That thread just shows that people really don't understand how hard it is because they just get pregnant when they want and can even be so laid back and confident of getting pregnant that they can think about what sex they'd prefer. And she was expecting compassion for her difficult births but offering no compassion herself to all of us who've never held our newborn in our arms.

Fuck, it reminds me what a failure I am in the baby stakes.

Aww Sooz, you're not a failure, none of us are, just desperately unlucky.

I'd rather that than be devoid of any thought or compassion for other people and that's horrendously common on the conception board - as evidenced by todays thread and the countless "I'm pregnant and wanted to share!" threads. (Take it the pregnancy boards ladies.)

Thanks, @Steaksauce, I know it's just a luck thing but I hate how the luck is never distributed fairly!!

I think I'm just having a bad day. My mum came round, which was nice but she said we'd got pregnant so soon after the wedding we were bound to again, at which point I got sad and had to tell her we'd been trying nearly two years (poor Mum, she and my Dad are very Christian, I'm sure she was actually relieved we didn't get a bfp until after the wedding). Then my cousin (on mat leave, had a mc 2 years ago) rang and we chatted about it all which was lovely but saddening at the same time. Then DH Whatsapp'd me saying happy 3 months anniversary and it was so sweet he'd remembered but again, also saddening because on our 2 months anniversary we got our bfp.

I am such a messed-up ball of emotion right now! I'll be better tomorrow, I'm sure.

@SoozC you're grieving. In my experience, grief is not linear its very up and down, but it's ok and its normal. Allow yourself days to be sad and to be happy, it'll take as long as it takes. Your mind is just trying to make sense of the loss, it'll take time but the rawness of it will eventually lessen.
Its terribly hard, but you just have to ride out the waves as best you can for the time being. We're all here to rant to

Oh Sooz you’re not a failure. It doesn’t help when idiots come on here not even thinking. There’s been a lot of “look at me, I’m pregnant!” threads lately and also the “is this a line?” threads followed by a photo of what is an obvious positive test piss me off as well. It’s so insensitive. Big hugs

Thank you, both of you, this thread really is helping; I love that I can share exactly how I'm feeling and there are people here to support me. Feeling more emotional now, but in a good way!

I hope others are having a better day than I and I've got my hopes up for a bfp for one of us really soon!

Sending love to Sooz and a massive knuckle bump to Steak

Also Bubblegum - I feel safer knowing that you are around and policing these boards against fertile fuckers and their fuckwittery.

Sooz you're not a failure and as Steak said, you're not an emotionless, selfish and arrogant arsehole like some of the ladies bag post on these boards - I just had to resurrect the "gender swaying" one - I'm a horror.
Take this day to feel sad and beaten and remember that every day won't feel like this and you're going to be amazing once this happens because of all that you've gone though to get there.

I've have a rubbish day, AF rocked up 2 days early - not unexpected but still a kick in the teeth. Just so sick of it all.

Just looked at that thread - steak, silver and bubblegum you guys are heroes WTAF??

I'm glad I mostly just keep this and another thread (on infertility boards) open and a lot of it passes me by...now and again I look at the other TTC threads and piss myself right off...

Oh sooz I can totally understand all the reminders getting you down - take care of yourself, and hope things feel better tomorrow. Fx you're right about a bfp here, feels like we're due one.

Am waiting for AF in next few days, so trying to distract myself with work and running. Plus tea and telly.

Ugh flora what an arse, sorry about AF -
it's a kicker even when you mostly expect it

Yes this is my longest cycle, previous record was 57 days. Last BFN was Tuesday, not POAS since day 30ish up till then. I hate getting BFNs so try not to do it too often.

justwaiting could it be ovulation bleeding?

I generally try to avoid all other ttc threads these days.

@bubblegum89 I almost spat out my tea when I read that comment!

@SoozC I can't imagine what you're going through but I just hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

I am 8dpo and having weird cramps in my right side. Am desperately trying not to google imaginary pregnancy 'symptoms'.

Love that she’s gone back onto her post to defend herself. Remember ladies, she’s well within her rights to brag about her children because it’s not her fault we can’t get pregnant. I’m not even going to dignify it with a response, soft cow

Ha thanks @florafoxtrot and @QuietTime
Sorry af has arrive Foxtrot.

I’ve just seen her response on that thread @Bubblegum89. Unbelievable.
Just goes to show how little compassion’s she has for others’ situation.
That bollocks at the end about how she could have had difficulty conceiving her children. She didn’t. If she had, she’d understand where we’re coming from.

I know steak the last thing you say to someone who is ttc is “it’s not my fault you’re not pregnant.” But apparently we’re the bitches 🙄 hope her next baby is a boy

hope her next baby is a boy

@Bubblegum89 😂😂😂

Oh blimey, looks like we all need to get off MN now because they have an article about gender swaying so SUCK IT. This woman is just trolling herself now. Must. Not. Send. Sarcastic. Reply.

The fuckers even get a tea!!!

Where’s my infertilitea, ey?

hopes someone sees what I did there

Oh ladies I have had the most horrible day feeling super alone and an utter failure TTC but catching up on here has reminded me I’m not alone. Just seeing your support for @sooz at this extra difficult time fills me with hope for compassion in the species! And I’m avoiding all other boards.