Yams, fertile feckers and what not to say.

[LimpLettice]

Part the third:

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
• Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
• Thou shall not be offended by strong language
• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

This thread has been amazing and I’m not planning on dumping it for fb, if it helps.

Bubblegum I’ve heard that too. It’s so rude to comment anyway, but why is it ok to dump on people who already have one? Apart from anything else we are experiencing this as a couple; I already have dd but DP doesn’t and would desperately like one. Shitheads!

I know what you mean Quiet but a year is the timeframe they set so you're not doing anything wrong. I'm guessing that all your tests came back OK and that's why you've not had a referral? They can also do a hycosy or a HSG as part of the diagnostics?

The summer/autumn baby thing is ridiculous. Some people have absolutely no idea. #fertilefeckers

Do you think that girl knows that this thread (title) is about her....?!

Oh I see nimble that’s not a bad idea actually!

Limp my DD is not my partner’s biological daughter either. I just don’t get comments like that. My auntie, who wasn’t able to have kids of her own (my uncle had backwards sperm and she was very unwell with kidney failure due to diabetes and the dr said they couldn’t risk IVF) said one time “at least you’ve felt what it’s like to be pregnant.” In a way yeah I get it, it must be bloody awful not ever carrying your own baby but what’s also awful is not being able to give the person you love a child of their own and feeling like less of a woman because you can’t seem to do what comes so naturally to everyone else.

I won’t be jumping ship either, this thread and you girls have kept me sane when I genuinely thought I was going to kill someone. Like today, I’m still fuming over Yam Girl being pregnant without even bloody trying...

QuietTime I’m in the same boat as you. I’ve had al my bloods taken, OH has had his SA done. A year of ttc with no pregnancies, tests all came back fine. I’ve had two US (one in Dec last year and one in march this year) and they were inconclusive for scar tissue. My GP has just referred us to a FC. I think that going to the dr for a referral is pretty daunting tbh, it’s a realisation of oh my god, maybe I can’t do this on my own. Honestly, I’d bite the bullet. Is scary but like you said, waiting times can be ridiculous so it’s best to try and get in ASAP :)

Thanks flora and bubblegum that's exactly it. I've finally had a chance to call instead of trying to do it online - figured if they had a slot after next AF would change, otherwise go tomorrow; have one in a couple of weeks so will be full of AF rage and self-pity, ready to demand my consultant :)

I kind of hope Yam Pam does realise - anything to make people think twice about ill-considered and unsolicited advice.

Yay, glad you guys are sticking around xx

am I allowed to join the FB group?

I miss you guys.

Totally ok for you to say no though. I get it -sniff-

Let us know how it all goes QuietTime!

I don’t think anyone would mind you joining the FB group Nimble maybe pm Sooz?

Yeah, pm me, Nimble! But we're not giving up this thread. Otherwise how would fellow moaning, anti-fertile Yammers find us?! We must support all those out there pissed off at fertile fuckers!

I'm sad that Yam-woman is pregnant despite not even trying, but more for myself and DH and our hopes. I suppose it's like anything in life; if you get things easily then you don't know what it's like to struggle. She seemed like she replied nicely, anyway, so maybe she does realise that this thread and the last one were about her and is trying to modify her behaviour?

DH and I managed to dtd Sunday and yesterday; it was a bit weird, first time post-mc. I got a bit upset on Sunday but yesterday was better. Must order some more opks from Amazon as I've NO idea when I'll ov... Now that's a strange feeling after two years of closely monitoring everything and having some kind of routine!!

Well done for biting the bullet @quiet It is v daunting, I made my OH come with me but there was no need. A simple chat and a form for referral. Appointment on 12th Dec at FC so likely to be super depressed after they tell me all the other tests I need to go through but 🤞 for the fw before then!

I’m loving being a yammer whilst wishing none of us were obvs. 🍠
That might be a sweet potatoe emoji but who cares!)

Hi Ladies 👋🏻 I can’t remember if I have joined this group in the past, I’m pretty useless at keeping up with them!

I’ve been trying a year now, we got referred for tests by my gp. All blood work etc was fine and my partners sperm is very good. So next step was the local fertility clinic, the consultant gave me an internal ultrasound which as seemed fine so he then did an HSG which unfortunately was not fine and turned out my tubes are blocked 😭 my left one looks totally blocked and the right is partially.

The next step is to either have a laparoscopy where he could try to unblock the tubes, or to go straight for IVF. I’m still trying to get my head round the idea of doing either and tbh I’m slightly burying my head in the sand. I have started trying some natural things to try and help with the blockages but I don’t hold out much hope if I’m honest.

All came as a huge shock as everything about my cycle is 100% normal, I’d never even considered the idea that my tubes could be blocked I thought we were just being unlucky.
Would really like to join the FB if that’s ok? @SoozC I will try and pm you 🙂

Oh that is bad luck @wine and a tricky decision indeed. I fear I’m heading that way, waiting for appointment on12th. Is it better you know what the problem is? Maybe that’s better than the crazy unknowing why it’s not happening?

Hey guys! place marking new thread but also would love to join FB group please SoozC. I can Pm you but my Facebook account is linked to my old email address that i am locked out of! can you add me if i tell you my FB name and describe the picture?
Went to docs this morning for blood test results. Everything ok on that front. Normal thyroid, testosterone and progesterone was 54 which i was pleased about. Long story short........she has no concerns about my ability to get pregnant at the moment even though we have been loosely trying for years. I think she only takes me as seriously trying from after the miscarriage. I have a 19 year old son and my husband has a 17 year old son from previous relationships and together we managed to get pregnant even though it ended at 11 weeks. She wants me to go back in another 6 months if nothing happens and get OH to get his sperm tested. My husband is being weird about that though, he flat out refuses to do it at the moment. I think it might be because he thinks he has literally cooked his balls after being a chef for 20 odd years. Meanwhile I'm becoming more of a geriatric by the minute. Also we can't afford IVF and even if we could they'd still need him to jazz in a cup. Balls to it all.

I think it’d be funny if jammy yammy commented on this thread and told us all to “relax or it’ll never happen”. I think I’d quite like that, just for the comeback

@LexieJean I think now I’ve had time to process it I’m glad I know. If we’d carried on trying for another year and then found out I had this problem all along I think I would’ve been so disappointed that we’d wasted time when we couldve been trying different things.

GP just rang 😮 to say my thyroid function is a little low so she’s putting me on medication for it.

@dudemeister76 I’m worried dr will just tell me to keep on trying as had mc in June so i can get pg. In feb it’ll be 12mths of trying so if no bfp by then I’m going to make an appointment even if they just do bloods to reassure me I’ll feel like I’m being proactive. I’m back on weight watchers and cut caffeine to one coffee a day.

7dpo and I’m googling my due date if I get a bfp...nutter!!! Weirdly due date would be my birthday. Summer babies rock

If Jammy Yammy even steps foot in here I’ll chase her right back out again

Hi ladies, is it too late to jump on this thread? I'm on cycle 20 & need some moral support! TTC #1 38 & 'mild' PCOS with regular-ish cycles.

Two CPs so far - I think - hadn't heard of a CP before starting all this...

What's the deal with the yams?!

RhiBee I google my due date every time I get AF

I’ll spork her in the bollocks.

Which is the jammy yammy thread? Total conception forum lurker... wishing all of you the best of luck always, trying not to think of my own situation too much (DP not up for a baby yet but I'm aware we are running out of time...)

@SparkwoodAnd21 I'm being tested for that this week too. Have you ever had thyroid problems before? x

@HanutaQueen read autumn Vs summer babies.

Hello!
Please may I join you?
TTC #2, just had 2nd m/c in a row (DS was preg #5, so 7 pregnancies in total)
At least 4 of the friends I met since having DS are pregnant again, and one lady at work had a baby that was "unexpected" (despite her not using contraception!)
TTC is shit...

Welcome newbies!
Bring your rage. But no yams.