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Yams, fertile feckers and what not to say.

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LimpLettice · 19/11/2017 20:24

Part the third:

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

  • Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shall not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

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Teachermummy83 · 28/12/2017 15:54

Can I join too? 8 months of trying and now poor hubby has to have a wee op, so no chance
Of trying for the next couple of months.
Christmas catch-ups with old pals have driven me to tears. Everyone is either pregnant or showing off their newborns. Family events are the usual ‘surely you’re planning kids’

RhiBee29 · 28/12/2017 17:10

Hope you survive ed the film @LexieJean

Welcome @Teachermummy83, hope DH's recovery is quick and you can get back to dtd soon.

NewSense · 28/12/2017 18:32

I'm back with a new name, was around earlier in the thread but was identified elsewhere on the boards, so I've reinvented myself. Tried to reinvent myself as fertile, but no such luck.

AF arrived today, so it's onto another cycle for us :( yet another.

DoAsDreamersDo · 28/12/2017 19:23

I’m 10dpo today but AF isn’t due until Monday so I’m trying my best not to test this early. I might test on Sunday and then go into 2018 knowing one way or another.

Welcome teacher and welcome back sense

SoozC · 28/12/2017 20:37

I have survived Christmas! No-one asked about kids and I didn't meet any babies. Even managed to talk to people about my mc without crying (wore my Miscarriage Association ribbon to family event on Boxing Day so some people asked about it). Feels cathartic to talk and I'm feeling a bit more normal now, if that makes sense.

I am feeling positive about 2018; DH got me a fitbit I asked for and I've discovered DietBet, so even if a baby isn't on the cards for next year, I'll be slimmer and happier with myself. It's funny how some time away from work gives you a new perspective!

Roll on the new year; we're due some bfps on here! x

Teachermummy83 · 28/12/2017 21:52

Thanks for the welcome everyone and the good wishes for hubby too.
Trying to stay positive and civil towards all those unknowingly making insensitive comments. Hard sometimes, but hoping 2018 will be ‘our year’ - for lots of us - and by next Christmas things will be looking up x

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LimpLettice · 29/12/2017 10:55

Fucking fucking period again. Sorry Yammers, I know everyone is being so positive, but my head is fried. Not a sniff of a bfp since m/c in July, I look and feel old, fat and tired. My mum helpfully reminded me that she had nothing but miscarriages in her 40s, coz she doesn't want us to get our hopes up (up? They're so down they're below sea level) and be depressed. Which was nice. Every month is a step closer to what would have been due date. Gah.

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LovePinaColada · 29/12/2017 11:13

Ohhhh so sorry to read AF has got you @Limp. 😢 Be kind to yourself. X

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LimpLettice · 29/12/2017 11:51

Thanks Pina. I'm finding the being kind to myself part a struggle. I've been so hurt and bitter about colleague leapfrogging me from day one (babies born last week) and I'm starting to feel like I don't deserve it anyway. Poor DP.

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LovePinaColada · 29/12/2017 11:54

You most definitely deserve it. What can you do today? Eat your fave food, read your favourite book/magazine & enjoy it.

p.s Selfcare is definitely going to be my 2018 goal, I am rubbish at it.

Bubblegum89 · 29/12/2017 11:55

Sorry we’re all feeling shitty, ladies. I’m waiting until 2018 to be positive so I’ve got a few days left of ranting and feeling sorry for myself. My mum calling me selfish for overshadowing my pregnant sister’s time by writing on my blog that I’d felt sad on Xmas day with all the baby talk was a nice cherry on top of a crappy week. Let’s hope the new year brings us all some positive news

LovePinaColada · 29/12/2017 12:03

We are most definitely due some positivity & BFP's on this thread. Roll on a more positive new year for us all. We can do this! X

Mamabooksbabynumber2 · 29/12/2017 20:21

Hi ladies. I've been watching the thread all over Xmas but don't have very much to add or say really. Still trying to get pregnant and on cd24.

Went to gp last week and she said to have sex every 2-3 days. I am having my ov blood test next month as I missed it this week as it was the day after Xmas!

Gp has given my dp sa form and said there is a possibility that we aren't getting pregnant due to an operation He had there as a child.

Xx

LexieJean · 30/12/2017 09:21

Oh @limp it sucks. This is the place to rant and admit to feeling shit about the whole TTC nightmare. I have not been feeling very positive over xmas break at all. I didn’t have to deal with a pg sister (@bubblegum that’s crappy and you have every right to own and admit your feelings in your own bloody blog!) but still, all the wondering about next xmas, will I finally be a mum then? Gah! I hate it. I used to live in the moment but not any more. TTC is shit.

WonkyDonk87 · 30/12/2017 11:41

Morning Yammers. I've been doing a rather ridiculous emotional rollercoaster over the last few days about all the TTC and have settled on the following:

  1. I am not uppus duffus this month. With my briefly achieved pg my tits went bonkers - no sign atm despite regular test 'tweaks' Grin
  2. However if AF arrives, then that's at least the 3rd cycle at 35 days. Meaning a long but regular cycle at last. I'm then going to ask the GO if I can do a 21 day blood test on the 28th day of my cycle (?maths - will check Wink)
  3. It is time dun dun duuuunnnnn to start temping/charting. I feel like Alice falling down the rabbit hole....

So - is anyone here doing it? Are you using an app? Advice and recommendations please!

DoAsDreamersDo · 30/12/2017 16:44

I don’t think I even need to do a test tomorrow because my heart rate on my Fitbit has dropped like a stone today, which is what it always does the day before AF arrives so I’m expecting it a day earlier than expected tomorrow.

Then I’m going to be back on it next month. I’ve had a couple of months of being much more relaxed and not stressing out, but I’m ready to be totally obsessed again for a couple of months Wink

FairyAnn · 30/12/2017 16:52

Hey all, AF came this morning along with horrific cramps and turbulent hormones. Then I watched the Call the Midwife Xmas special....haven't cried that hard in a long time!

Going to medicate with wine later

Mrsw200 · 30/12/2017 17:32

Cd67 here getting fed up with it all now not to mention the million bfns. Currently drowning my sorrows and long cycle in a glass of wineConfused

LovePinaColada · 30/12/2017 17:57

Sorry for the BFN's & AF signs. Gosh @Mrsw200 how frustrating for you, have you been to the docs about the missed AF?

I was having the opposite problem, AF ALL THE TIME - but hoping reflexology has sorted me out!

Mrsw200 · 30/12/2017 18:34

No I haven't. Figured I'd wait and see if it was just a one off missed period but seems to now be close to two missed periods if no af in the next week. Gods know what my body is doing to me!

polkadotpixie · 30/12/2017 19:23

Hi ladies! I lost this thread 😩 I was convinced it was on the infertility board as that's where I usually lurk but obviously it's not which would explain why I couldn't find it!

Hope you all had a lovely Christmas, sorry for all the BFNs Sad

I had the HSG, it wasn't pleasant but not horrific. My left tube is definitely open but she's not sure about the right one without looking more closely at the X-ray so I'll find out about that one at my next appointment. I ovulate on my left side 90% of the time anyway

I'm currently 4dpo, we tried extra hard this month to try and take advantage of the alleged improved fertility after a HSG...Soy, PreSeed, SoftCups and DTD 5 times in fertile week. Doubt it'll make any difference but worth a shot!

Timpani · 31/12/2017 08:11

Hi please may I join? I may have in the past...

Trying for DC3 (first was IVF due to male factor). Started temping but been ill so it gone wrong and we've not had sex because of it either so have missed the boat this month. I think thus is cycle 10 since actively trying (we tried like this for 2.5 years for dc1, before treatment).

Getting a bit fed up now. Anyone else temping?

FairyAnn · 31/12/2017 08:53

I've not been temping in December as we've been moving house and I'm all out of whack.
Plan to start again once AF has finished this week.

polkadotpixie · 31/12/2017 09:30

Timpani I've been temping for about 9 months now. Fertility nurse told me it's pointless and old fashioned and not to bother but I ignored her as I find it very useful

DoAsDreamersDo · 31/12/2017 10:37

Well AF got me this morning like predicted. At least it wasn’t too much of a nasty shock and at least I only had a 32 day cycle this time, which is better than 36!! No chance of a BFP in January though now as I’m not due again until 2nd February 😔 I’m onto cycle 8 now. Maybe it’s time to eat a Yam (just kidding)