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Yams, fertile feckers and what not to say.

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LimpLettice · 19/11/2017 20:24

Part the third:

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

  • Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shall not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

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RhiBee29 · 26/11/2017 20:30

WTF @Bubblegum89 I couldn’t pee without wincing 4weeks after DS was born let alone dtd!

Bubblegum89 · 26/11/2017 20:36

I know right, me neither! She said she dtd two weeks after giving birth. She is also BF’ing. I mean, it doesn’t take a genius to know that you can get pregnant again that quickly. Not fair.

RhiBee29 · 26/11/2017 21:04

Take solace bf’ing 2 kids possibly at the same time will leave her with tits like tennis balls in a sock Wink

Bubblegum89 · 26/11/2017 21:16

RhiBee 😂 very true. I can’t imagine having two babies THAT close together, that’s terrifying

SoozC · 26/11/2017 23:03

Saw friends today, older friend (she's late 50s-ish) asked how the new house and job were going and said "you know what they say, new house, marriage, new baby..."
I mumbled something about not yet but wanted to shout at her to shut up. But we were in a public place so totally not appropriate!

I saw loads of Christmas lights on the drive home and just know I'm going to be sad this Christmas. I'm so down right now about the mc, the thought I would have been 13 weeks at Christmas, with scan pictures to show friends and family, is just breaking my heart. It's our second Christmas ttc and I can't believe that. How does one cope?

Bubblegum89 · 26/11/2017 23:15

Oh Sooz :( I know there’s nothing anyone can say or do to make it better. Christmas can be such a shitty time when you have things like that looming over you. And what is it with people asking about having babies, it’s none of their business! Does my head in. I don’t get it too often but now and again I do get “so when are you going to give DD a little brother or sister??” I don’t know, when you give me a hefty donation towards fertility treatment maybe? Idiots.

My stomach is so iffy this evening which is a sign of impending af. Boobs are still sore too and I’m getting those lovely pre-cramps. I’m due Tuesday so had a practice run with my mooncup this evening. I’ve deleted both of my fertility apps now. From this moment on, I’m taking a back seat until I get an appointment at the fertility clinic. Obviously I’ll still be on here 24/7 but I’m going to ditch the opks and the timetabled sex and everything!

RhiBee29 · 27/11/2017 06:47

POAS...bfn, fuck it!!!

Si1ver · 27/11/2017 07:52

I'm sorry @RhiBee29

SoozC · 27/11/2017 08:30

You're not out till af shows, @RhiBee29! What kind of test did you use? Because when I got my bfp I had positive on CB digital but negative on ic.

DoAsDreamersDo · 27/11/2017 08:46

Boo RhiBee sorry to hear that x

Sooz sending you big hugs. I don't think people realise what they are saying and how much it hurts.

Bubble I'm having a month without my apps too in December. I tried this month to be a bit more relaxed but I don't want to be thinking about it next month at all. I'll probably be back on it in January.

AF still hasn't arrived for me. I think she's waiting until Wednesday now when my colleague is bringing her newborn baby into work.

RhiBee29 · 27/11/2017 08:50

@SoozC @Si1ver it was an ic and I’m only 11/12dpo, don’t know why I do it to myself. FRER arriving today. Got bfp at 10dpo with DS on an ic but at 17dpo last time (mcSad)

Bubblegum89 · 27/11/2017 09:10

Well my sore boobs are gone so I’m 10000% out this month. Surprise surprise lol

micropig · 27/11/2017 10:43

6 - 10 days till AF here depending on cycle length.

Have been gutting the flat recently and DH commented yesterday that I'm nesting. Could have punched him.

Have given myself a drastically shorter hair cut today to cheer myself up, lol. Looks like I'm having a mid-cycle crisis 😂

Si1ver · 27/11/2017 10:50

I'm looking to dye my hair pink next cycle @micropig.

Just heading into FW, ragingly tetchy with my poor husband for no reason at all. This is going to go well.

TheGrumpySquirrel · 27/11/2017 11:18

I always fight with DH just before ovulation. Every. Single. Month. Why?!! Surely this is counter-productive, stupid hormones!

florafoxtrot · 27/11/2017 12:50

Sorry about the BFN Rhi - hopefully just too early. And sorry to all those struggling through the last few days of the TWW - it really is the worst time of the whole month. Sometimes I'm almost glad when AF arrives to get out of the limbo!

Another post on here from someone that is pregnant 5 months after giving birth! Some people really do just make it look too easy Sad

So possible Gonal-F side effects include - cramping where I assume my ovaries are, headaches, nausea and lack of appetite and the burning desire to throw a stapler at my colleague when he ate a panini too loudly... These may not be side effects and I'm just a lunatic.

Bubblegum89 · 27/11/2017 14:01

Aaaannd the cramps and brown spotting have arrived, brilliant. Another wasted month. And there’s yet more people announcing unplanned pregnancies on my Facebook just to make me feel even more shit. On the plus side, at least I get to try my mooncup out

SoozC · 27/11/2017 14:22

Yeah, I saw that, @Florafoxtrot. And she was panicking because her partner wasn't going to be happy. I know it's personal circumstances but I'd love love LOVE just s bit of her luck. Sad

Sorry to hear about imminent af arrival, @Bubblegum89. It's hard I know. Lots of Wine Cake

Merrz · 27/11/2017 14:28

Hi guys, can I crash this party, having a super shit day! Was so sure this was our month but af showed up this morning, a day early, followed by a phone call from my younger brother to tell me his g/f of 6 months is pregnant and they've just had their 1st scan Sad I'm really close to my brother and want to be happy for him but i can't help feeling a huge sense of resentment and sadness about it all. Actually sitting at my desk at work trying to fight back the tears right now.

Bubblegum89 · 27/11/2017 14:53

Welcome Merrz I’m sorry you had to deal with that, today of all days. I’ve just started af today a day early too. It sucks, especially after a year of ttc. And my sister got pregnant by accident with her partner of less than a year back in June. She sent me a scan photo saying “omg what the hell do I do???” even though she knows we’ve been been desperately ttc. She kept it and so I’m constantly surrounded by scan pictures and my whole family getting excited. It sucks, if you ever need to chat there are plenty of us on here who are going through the exact same thing. Have lots of chocolate, that’s what I’ll be doing today!

Thanks Sooz I’m bloody feeling it this month as well, cramps are awful and my painkillers are in the bedroom where my partner is still asleep after his night shift. I wish it was the weekend still so I could knock back a bottle of wine

Merrz · 27/11/2017 15:11

Thanks Bubblegum It's so shit isn't it, none of my family know we're ttc which i'm glad of now, not sure i could face the pitty. My mum is desperate for grandkids, i'm the oldest and the only one married so she, (as did I) assumed i would be the 1st to give her a grandchild and she was always jokingly digging at me to hurry up and get pregnant which is quite hard but also nice because i just kept dreaming of the day i'd tell her and i knew how ecstatic she'd be. I know this is selfish but seeing her like that about a pregnancy that isn't me is soo hard to deal with. This is definitely the hardest thing i've faced on the shit journey that is ttc. Sorry for the self pitty, feeling very sorry for myself today

Bubblegum89 · 27/11/2017 15:19

Period day is definitely the worst day of the cycle, totally acceptable to be self pitying! I’m very lucky that I already have a daughter, she’s 9 (from a previous relationship, conceived on the pill, go figure!) I told my mum in a roundabout way that we were ttc in the hopes it would stop them from being so in my face re my sister being pregnant but it didn’t work out that way lol she just gushes about it right in front of me. It’s a hard situation to be in because you want to be happy for them but it’s hard without also being sad for yourself. How long have you been ttc for?

Merrz · 27/11/2017 15:32

That's it, I know if i was pregnant too or had a baby i would be so excited for my brother and his gf but it actually just makes me feel sick with envy right now. Been off the pill for 9 months but properly trying as in opks etc since July so onto cycle 6 today of what i'm classing as officially ttc. I know it's really not that long but passing the 6 month mark and now this just feels like such a kick in the teeth.

MrsMidge0505 · 27/11/2017 15:58

New!!
Like this thread but what is dpo?

lostintranslocation · 27/11/2017 16:49

:( bubblegum and merrz Wine Cake Flowers

And sooz

And everyone else, in fact :(

It sucks. The news from others, the arrival of AF...

I'm gonna say I'm out now too. My imagined symptoms are the same as every month, that never come to anything, and I've felt crampy today, so I'm saying I'm out too. Now wanting AF you just arrive so I can crack on with the next attempt :(