Yams, fertile feckers and what not to say.

[LimpLettice]

Part the third:

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
• Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
• Thou shall not be offended by strong language
• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

There’s just been another “first cycle ttc bfp” on a post I commented on yesterday. Sigh.

Ah I've stopped reading those. Maybe my view of things is skewed.

Haha bubblegum I saw that too. Hang in there.💕

Hello ladies, I hope you don't mind if I join in?

I've been trying for a baby since January, fell pregnant in July but miscarried in September. I've had no signs of ovulation this cycle which I'm finding very frustrating. You all seem to be a great support to each other so thought I would stop lurking and say hello.

Lol silver I only read it because I’d replied to it yesterday trying to be clever and telling the OP that she probably wasn’t having implantation bleeding. She replied to say she got her BFP. That’s what I get for being a smart-arse 😂

Hi Dandelion so sorry to hear about your loss :( hope you’re not in the group for long (in the nicest way possible!)

Thanks filzma proper ruined my day that has haha

Aww thanks guys. What a fabulous group this is! I love how affirming and supportive everyone is. Knuckle bumps to all! DH actually took it really well when I told him...again. I think he was more upset to see the mess I was in! He's so chilled about it all even though all his friends are knocking up their OHs left right and centre and I know he wants a baby as much as me. I need some of whatever he's having!

@PirateWeasel, even better, bottle it up and sell it; I think we could all do with some of that on here!

Welcome all newbies, to our most fabulous thread where you can moan as much as you need to help you stay sane in real life! Or, as much as you can be sane when ttc is being a real fucker, anyway!

Have started doing opks in the hope I'll ov soon and DH and I can try again. I hate being in limbo, not knowing when af is due. DH and I just want to get back to ttc and I'm sooooooo impatient!

Oh @Soozc I meant to say. I splashed out on CBD post MC so I'd be 100% what was happening. The peace of mind really helped.

Afternoon ladies!

Hope we are all having a good Friday afternoon? Anyone had any yams in honor of thanksgiving? No? Me neither.

Just wanted to say a little thing about telling people, I know its tough and that you don't want to put expectations onto others. But for me it has helped 100% - to have people in real life to talk to and to stop all the "good natured" comments from friends and family. You also find that so many people open up and tell you that they've struggled to - or know someone that has. For me, the feeling of being the "freak" and the only one that was struggling was the worst so hearing tales of others helped a lot.

Welcome Pirate and sorry that you find yourself here but you will learn a lot about the nutritional benefits of root vegetables so every cloud?!

Thanks for asking heather - I do actually have a bit of an update. We went to the clinic yesterday and on their recommendation we've self funded a medicated cycle of IUI. Somewhat luckily yesterday was CD2 so I was able to start right away and I took my first injection of Gonal-F last night. Yep its quick and wasn't really expecting everything to kick off before Xmas but it feels good to have a bit of control back and to feel like I am actually doing something
I'll have a scan next week to check on the progress of the follicles and thereafter up the dosage and then a trigger shot and IUI to get DH swimmers a bit closer to where they need to be. Crazy eh?

Wow, @florafoxtrot, that is quick work! Very excited for you, everything is crossed! x

@PirateWeasel we definitely need some of whatever your husband's on - chill is in short supply around here!

Hello @dandelion89 - welcome

@S1lver I know what you mean, I wish none of us needed to be here if that makes sense.

Last night's dinner out with pg friend was fine, really fine. For some reason I've just felt really tearful since - like if she could conceive first cycle after MC then why couldn't I?. We were at playgroup today and I just felt like I was on the edge of crying all morning. And now. I just feel really rubbish, like I'm failing. My mother came out with one of her 'gems' just now about stopping trying for a bit, and I had to restrain myself from shouting "What part of being 40 do you not understand!" Obviously I didn't yell, but today is not going well ladies. I think I'm going to have a hot bath and an early night tonight.

I know Sooz I feel a bit like we just jumped on it since they offered but otherwise we'd be waiting 2 months before starting as clinic is closed over Xmas. But on the other hand, we have been TTC for 18 months so I'm not being too impatient? I really hope it doesn't come across that way anyway.

tired - that sounds like a tough day. Been kind to yourself and do something nice this evening.

TTC #1
Age: 28
Cycle: 6

@florafoxtrot - I didn't mean my post to sound like you were moving too fast! Definitely think you just have to take whatever opportunities come along at our stage in ttc, I'm just very excited for you because you could have a bfp really soon!

Aww totally Sooz - I didn't take your post like that at all. I think I am just feeling that way myself!

Hey ladies, and welcome Pirate, Dandelion and anyone else I've missed.

Flora that is fast! Great to actually be able to do something, I'm jel.

I'm 4dpo, twingy but resigned. DP away so I have an old friend over for dinner. She m/c about 5 years ago and never managed to get pregnant again, so totally gets the whinging, which is so nice in rl. Otoh, colleague went off on early mat leave today, reminding me I'd be about 26 weeks by now. Mopey. Going to eat a zillion roast potatoes and moan a lot I think.

Hi newbies

Feeling rotten. I don't really do lying, so when a very friendly colleague asked me about babies today I did tell her the situation. I wish my short answers and lack of eye contact had given her the hint because she asked quite a few questions and I felt I had to play it down. Shouldn't have said anything but I am rubbish at lying/skirting round the truth. I did ask her to keep our conversation to herself though.

Bleurgh. Been putting off making a doc appointment since Sep but I probably should. I'm one of the "haven't even ever bothered to take a pg test" people. I wish I felt that it might actually happen.

Hi dandelion, welcome; I'm so sorry about your loss and you find yourself here...how are things at the moment?

Hi spongecake

Ugh am with you justmeonly - tested once in cycle 1 (fool), another when was late (almost immediately got AF) and nothing since. Pretty much like clockwork, so no point. Hope your colleague respects your position and privacy - though good for you for just being honest.

flora that's so exciting! And not jumping ahead too soon at all - fx for you

limp roasties are the way forward :)

tired hope some R&R helps - sounds like a difficult day. Kudos for not blowing up at your mum despite the provocation, that takes patience (from my experience...)

Willing AF to just come the fuck on now, so there's not that niggling 1% of me that still hopes. Sigh.

I was just rooting through the drawer of my bedside table looking for an earring I dropped and found all the positive tests from my pregnancy.

Now I need to go out in half an hour and all my eye makeup is running down my face and I can't stop crying.

Thank you for the warm welcome. I’m sorry that we all find ourselves on this situation. I was so excited when I started ttc but now I’m starting to feel quite frustrated with it. My cycles were about 34 days with a 10 day luteal phase before my miscarriage, I had a luteal phase of 8 days last cycle but haven’t ovulated at all this cycle.
It’s nice to find a group where people actually understand what it feels like to not get pregnant easily. It’s hard to talk about in real life and I think it’s something people struggle to understand unless it’s something they have experienced themselves.

silver

Oh S1lver. I chucked mine, I just couldn't bear seeing them. In my 29 odd fertile years, I've miscarried about 4 times, but none like the most recent in the sense that I was so desperate and tried and tested so much, and the memory of the joy we felt with that first frer still makes me well up.

Quiet - big, homemade goose fat roasties. Just getting going and already frilly and a bit lush. Might not help everything, but by god a start . I'm a little Jewish (there is such a thing) but have a big shoulder of pork melting in the oven, because sometimes I just have to take my home comforts where I can get em. 🙄

Hi again guys.
Anyone near the 12 months mark? We're going to see the GP for tests etc on the 6th December.
Just constantly heartbroken.

I think one of the really hard things about all this is that I've come to despise hope. My husband keeps being all "but there is still hope", and he just doesn't seem to get that the hope is what kills me. If we have has sex, even once, in a cycle, then there is technically a chance. However miniscule, the chance it's still there. But whilst our heads tell us that really it's not going to happen, hope and our hearts tell us that it might ... And whilst I know I should listen to my head in order to remain sane, that tiny bit of hope always remains sufficiently buoyant to utterly devastate us each cycle.

Ugh. I hate hope.