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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Thou shall not tell everyone to eat Yams

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juneybean · 22/10/2017 09:42

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
Thou shall not be offended by strong language
Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

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Si1ver · 09/11/2017 08:48

I'm sorry today is a bad day @DoAsDreamersDo it's horrible when you getting hopeless and impotent like that.

I know what you mean about the wanting to do something. This month has been weird, at first I was pregnancy testing watching my HCG levels drop off post miscarriage, then I was ov testing to see when my cycle kicked in again. Then I had sex very mechanically three times during my surge and now I'm just waiting. I feel all weird with nothing to pee on.

If my period isn't here on Monday I'm going to start pregnancy testing again.

Bubblegum89 · 09/11/2017 09:16

You’re a better woman than me dudemeister I would probably just cry all the time lol and it’s weird isn’t it that it’s not just the baby we want but it’s all the stuff you have to buy too. Like, I want to pick out bottles and look at prams too.

Sorry you had a crap day dreamers I was like that yesterday. Pissed off, having this feeling of how it’s never going to happen etc. A friend of mine is known for years and has had fertility struggles (was told she couldn’t conceive as she didn’t have a good enough ovarian reserve) messaged me the other day to tell me she is 3 months pregnant and she wanted to tell me before she announced to everyone else because she knew how it felt to have it sprung on you. I was genuinely happy for her and thought it was so nice of her to tell me first, she told me before she even told her family lol but I kind of felt a bit, I don’t know, betrayed maybe? She was the only person left that I knew who was also going through this. I did know two other girls but one has since had a baby and the other is due any day. I think feeling left behind is one of the worst parts of ttc. How long have you been trying now?

DoAsDreamersDo · 09/11/2017 09:30

Bubble only 6 months, which I know is nothing but I think that reading someone elses comment on another thread that said that everyone she knew who didn't fall on straight away had issues so now I'm stuck on that thought and can't get away from it.

Si1ver · 09/11/2017 09:46

Oh god @Bubblegum89 There's no good way to hear that news, but that's so kind and thoughtful of her.

@DoAsDreamersDo I know it's hard, but up to a year to conceive is totally normal. Me saying this isn't going to make you feel any better at all. Egg people said it me I didn't feel any better. We're all so conditioned with"once is all it takes" and teenagers getting pregnant the very first time from sex ed at school. Actually you have a 25% chance of getting pregnant each month.

Si1ver · 09/11/2017 09:47

When people, not egg people. Sorry.

DoAsDreamersDo · 09/11/2017 09:58

Thanks Si1ver it does help to here it, but one negative comment always sticks harder than lots of positive comments doesn't it unfortunately. I do now have an image of lots of Humpty Dumptys though giving advice on TTC

DoAsDreamersDo · 09/11/2017 10:09

I do feel though that it's nice to have a group of women here who are all so supportive and that we can all have a moan with that we can't necessarily have in real life x

micropig · 09/11/2017 10:49

@justmeonly just so you know, I think grapefruit is known to impede absorption of certain medications. It might be worth checking out if it has any reactions with the vitamins you are taking.

micropig · 09/11/2017 10:51

Welcome to the new yammers!

Nothing really happening with me ATM, AF has ended so I'm just waiting for fertile week. DH & I have DTD every second day out of pure chance that we've been in the mood then, hoping that keeps up next week!

NimbleKnitter · 09/11/2017 11:34

6dpo here!

Progesterone related symptoms in full flow (nausea and -joy- constipation)

DayManChampionOfTheSun · 09/11/2017 12:37

Hi All can I join please? Been ttc for just over a year now and am really feeling shit about the whole thing!

Have a dr appointment this pm to find out about test results so that’s at least (hopefully) a positive!

RhiBee29 · 09/11/2017 14:57

Anyone know the cheapest place to get Clearblue OPK’s? I’ve got cheapies but I spend most of the time analysing the intensity of the line at least with the smiley faces it’s either there or not. Hoping the b6 might kick in this cycle and I ovulate earlier than cd19. CD10 now so want to start OPK’s from Saturday.

Tiredofbeingsotired · 09/11/2017 15:22

@RhiBee29 have you tried Groupon? Amazon were cheaper than boots but I've not tried for a while. Meant to this month, but disorganised. I totally hear you with cheap OPKs though, I find it really stressful deciphering them too.

RhiBee29 · 09/11/2017 15:28

Hadn’t even considered Groupon thanks @Tiredofbeingsotired, I’ll have a look.

Si1ver · 09/11/2017 15:55

I bought my last set from Amazon.

RhiBee29 · 09/11/2017 17:15

Amazon look to be the cheapest, hate spending £15 just to piss on something

Bubblegum89 · 09/11/2017 17:31

Spoke to my GP today and she’s going to send a referral to the fertility clinics near here to get booked in with them and get an appointment for a HSG. How long do you think I’ll be looking at, roughly? I suppose it depends on the clinic really doesn’t it. I don’t mind if it’s in the new year as I’ll be happy enough to have a short break from things over Christmas but I’ve heard people talking about waiting like 6 months or more...

NimbleKnitter · 09/11/2017 17:33

Your clinic might have waiting times on its website (mine does)

LexieJean · 09/11/2017 20:23

Hey @bubblegum I’ve just been referred, waiting times 28-55 days so the new year is right.
@dayman I’m at 13 months TTC and totally pissed off with the whole thing. Surrounded by friends and their successes. Feel like I’m the statistic from my group that won’t get pg.

Seriously going to scream if another person tells me to relax and it will happen!

Bubblegum89 · 09/11/2017 20:30

nimble annoyingly I won’t know which clinic takes me on until I get my letter so I can’t check it or chase it up at any point. I’ll have to try and be patient I think. Not my strongest point!

LexieJean that’s not too bad then! And I’m soon to be on cycle 13 myself and constantly surrounded by new babies and expectant parents. It’s horrible, I feel your pain!

pinkdonkey · 09/11/2017 20:43

CD 65 now and today I suddenly feel all premenstrual, sore boobs, nausea and cramping. Normally the nausea lasts 1-2 weeks, but the sore boobs don't kick in till near to AF so whilst I'm hoping these are signs I've finally ovulated I'm worried that we've missed the window this month. DTD monday, but it's been a while before that, it's hard to keep it up these super long cycles. Think I will try OPKs at least that may help us target the right days.

DayManChampionOfTheSun · 10/11/2017 07:38

LexieJean

Feeling your pain too! Two pg women in my office, now being constantly asked when me and dp will have one. Just want to tell them all to fuck off hahaha! Yep! The ‘relax! It will happen when your not expecting it’ brigade are so irritating

Dr cancelled me last night as is off sick! Going to have a phone call on Tuesday apparently - soooo unreasonably upset about it yesterday

LexieJean · 10/11/2017 08:40

Thanks for the support everyone, I need this place for advice and understanding. It’s the understanding part I haven’t found anywhere else, none of my friends are going through this! I know I’m feeling super sensitive because I’m in my 2WW (which is the WORST) and I shouldn’t get ratty.

Wishing you all a great weekend with lots of DTD just for fun

DoAsDreamersDo · 10/11/2017 10:42

Well today would have my first day on holiday if I hadn't cancelled my plans due to wishful thinking that I'd either have a baby by now or at least be pregnant. And just now I've had a birth announcement from one of my friends (who announced she was pregnant in my first month of trying and said that it happened for her straight away and gave me so much hope until AF arrived for me later that day, so that feels like another milestone that I've missed). Now I'm on CD18 of a 32 day cycle so will probably OV any day but haven't even BD'd at all this week!

pinkdonkey · 10/11/2017 12:03

dreamers

So many friends and collegues and even SIL have got pregnant since we've been trying and now I'm watching their babies grow up on FB. One of my collegues is the most annoying as she knows how long we've been trying yet delighted in telling me she fell pregnant first try and is positively glowing and saying things like "oh you can't possibly understand until your pregnant"

I am still trying to evoke Murphys law as if I get a BFP this month I have a camping trip booked at what would be about 35-37weeks and so completely impractical! I'm also hoping to use that to lighten the blow when AF does arrive yet again.

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