Thou shall not tell everyone to eat Yams

[juneybean]

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
• Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
• Thou shall not be offended by strong language
• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

I'm trying to keep it casual this month/cycle. I'm not tracking anything and it feels quite nice. The only thing that I'm doing is BDing more regularly not just on weekends and starting from tomorrow today I'm going to be eating healthier and cutting down on alcohol.

Welcome to the group @Funkyemzie ! Not big on vitamins myself either, I just take a pre conception vitamin at the moment, and DH is taking zinc and fish oil capsules. I may change to just folate and Vitamin D if I can get natural folate tablets.

@DoAsDreamersDo no more hating breakfasts then? Gutted 😂

I'm also wanting to eat better this cycle. Going to start trying to get an eating routine as it's all over the place at the moment. Still trying to drink enough water too, managed it the other day but did terribly yesterday (and felt it). Still recovering from the cold as well which doesn't help.

DH is away for a work thing next moth, then I am in January, so we won't see each other for a whole cycle. This is our last chance till February really. Bleh.

@Micropig Maybe a healthier diet for me would be a bacon sandwich for breakfast

i do try to drink a lot of water though. I tend to drink more when I'm at work though and probably substituted it completely last week for wine instead!! Naughty Dreamer

Well looks to me that af has arrived as just spotted. Fx she stays away limp!
I'm going to take a month out now so I can not give birth in August and that way finish my masters degree !

Snap, Mama. Just a tiny dark brown spot but I think that’s that. Ffs.

Hello all, checking in after a rubbish end to fertile week, so next to no chance this month. And I was surrounded by two bumps and two epically cute newborns at swimming this morning which made my broodiness skyrocket

Sorry for the appearance of AF/ bfn @Mamabooksbabynumber2 and @LimpLettice

I think I'm going to focus on shifting some of the weight I've gained comfort eating (oh! The irony) over the last 18 months, and vitamins this month.

I'm currently taking Folic acid, Vitamin D with magnesium and a multi vitamin. On the spreadsheet I saw lots of Co enzyme Q10 and some Omegas. Worth adding in dyou reckon?

Popping my head in to say hi and raising a glass of wine to those with AF arrivals.

7dpo here but not optimistic because what’s the point in being optimistic? 3 pregnancy announcements on FB this morning and a birth announcement of an acquaintance who’s just had her third boy in 3 years....

Fuckers.

I'm so sorry to all the AF starters and those with baby bombs.

I have my in laws staying tonight. I've been super clear with my husband that I don't want to talk about my miscarriage with them. I'm actually fucking furious with my MIL as she took it upon herself to tell my BIL about my miscarriage after she'd been specifically told not to, she claims this was a mistake. Would it be childish to hide at work and not go home until after they've all gone out for dinner?

Stupid, horrible af. It is like I dared it. Showed up bright red now. I dared to be over the moon and all positive after this weekend so my barren Karen womb thought it would shit on my mood. Need to go back to my usually gloomy it'll never happen self to avoid the horrific crash. I SO wanted to be able to tell dp he hasn't committed to marry a dried up old prune this month.

Who cares, S1ilver? I mean who cares if it is childish? Get caught up at work, avoid, you will feel better. How can you mention a miscarriage by mistake? She might accidentally try to bring it up with you later by 'mistake'. I'd avoid.

3dpo.

Trying to channel my inner zen. Would be easier if it wasn’t freezing

I feel like I spend my free time pissing on other people’s chips - so many threads where people are late but getting negative tests.

Should I just ignore and let them hope (and piss away their money) or tell them straight?

I really don’t want to be a bitter old woman

I think a straight telling is probably for the best. You know what it's like when you're starting out, there's always someone saying "well I didn't get a BFP until 98dpo but actually I was pregnant all the time".

You're less likely to get your hopes up so high of you realise that at 14dpo you'll get a BFP if there's one too be had.

Yeah, the hope is the killer.

I wish I could rid myself of the final vestiges of it. Life would be so much easier!

Interestingly, I've been wondering if things will be better for me now I've been pregnant because I know how it feels. So I'll be less likely to hope when I have no symptoms.

Then I mentioned this to a friend at the weekend who did the whole 'well with my third I had no symptoms and no idea until I did a test when I was six weeks late' thing. At which point I rationally shot her in the face.

In all honesty, I'm rather impressed with a FB acquaintance who kept her pregnancy off social media and just posted a pic of her newborn. Much classier than I would manage!

I'm now pre-fertile window and feeling more chilled than normal. Wonder how long that will last...?

How's everyone else? This thread has been a bit quiet so I hope you all had lovely weekends

Weekend was okay - We went to a friends wedding which was lovely aside from DH drunkenly telling me how sad he is that we haven’t had a baby yet ( triggered by ALL of the babies I figured I wouldn’t see at the reception because it was, you know, 9pm)

I drank a lot of gin and then felt gross on Saturday but I’m doing alright now. I have my day 21 bloods on Thursday and finally managed to get an ultrasound apt for 15th December.... what a lovely early Christmas present to myself

That sounds mostly nice just. My OH is a bit confused about my sadness tbh. He isn't unsupportive but he isn't feeling it like I am...

Hi everyone, hope alls well. Ive been trying to play it cool this TWW. Currently 6DPO and i just know ill be a jibbering wreck next week as usual. I have just turned 41 and I'm now unavoidably 'in my forties'. Balls. My eggs and i are geriatric ffs. Im surrounded by dickheads at work and i am very pissed off today!! I also put up my christmas tree yesterday which makes me a dickhead too. Someone slap me.

nimble I’m the same haha I reply to all the “early symptom?” Type threads with a “no it’s not a pregnancy symptom.” I just replied on a post you replied to, think it was the vivid dream one. I do feel like a Debbie Downer but tbh, it’s better that they know the truth now lol

I’m in my fertile week now and tbh, I don’t even care. It’s been a year of ttc, there’s obviously something wrong seeing as I’ve been pregnant twice before whilst on the pill. Just kinda thinking is there any point ttc anymore until I know what is actually wrong?

just glad you got your tests sorted! I too drank a lot of gin on Saturday and vaguely remember rambling on about babies to my OH. I’m only just recovering from the hangover 🤢 what’s the US for? To check your lining/for cysts? I’m going to ring my dr tomorrow to try and book a HSG

Bubblegum the US is to check my ovaries as they were polycystic before, but I don’t have the syndrome, just the very full of cysts ovaries. I think it’s just to see what state they’re in at the moment. If I don’t fall this month or next, I’ll be bang slap in the middle of AF for it which will be nice....

I’ve just seen a woman on a board here saying AF is due on the 22nd of Nov and she’s tempted to test. I couldn’t help but point out she’s probably not even ovulated yet....

Oh bubble don’t get down!

I know it’s hard not to, but you’re so young! You’ve got so much time.

I wish I could make it easier.

Trying to get the hsg booked sounds like a good idea. Hopefully that will give you some ideas

I’m thinking about starting a new thread - if your period is late and you’re still getting negative tests - guess what - you aren’t pregnant!

Especially if this is your first month off hormonal birth control.

I mean - the boxes on the tests all day 98% accurate. What about that makes them think all theirs are wrong?

justwaiting tempted to test now?!?! Bloody hell... and I see, I had an US to look for cysts in Dec last year. I also had one to check my lining in March. It’s good you’ve managed to get one so quick though, my March one took two months from referral to appointment. I’ll keep everything crossed for you!

nimble don’t get me started haha. They probably read a story about that one woman who got negative tests AND a period and ended up being pregnant. I am desperate for a baby but even I’m not that hopeful haha and thank you, I think it’s just that I know there is something wrong with me but I don’t know what and it’s so frustrating. On one hand I’m like “what’s the point?” but then I’m like “what if this is my month?” Honestly, this time last year I didn’t think I’d still be in this position. I don’t do patience well

Need to catch up with this thread, but sorry to all the AF's. Wine for all. X

Love your replies on the ridiculous threads @NimbleKnitter - I am always tempted to reply but they annoy me too much. I was probs that hopeful once - argh!!

I feel the same @Bubblegum89 - I am convined something is wrong with me. But, trying to be more 'positive' this morning & just see if it helps me!! I know I sound like the Git's that they just relax - but I turned into a mental POASer when my AF was three days late. SO now trying to be more 'normal' - what is that?!!