TTC after pregnancy loss - lucky thread 13

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Hi guys I couldn't see a new thread so hope you don't mind me starting it off @BertieBotts ?

becca I'm so sorry, what you really need is support not to have your other child used against you. I'm sorry your first partner left you when you were pregnant, that is a really shitty thing to do. You sound like you care deeply about your child and about wanting another. You are strong, as woman we all are, especially to go through a mc. We will do our best to support you as much as you need in this little forum, stick around if you need xxx

water and elp such wonderful news! I really hope your line was stronger this morning elpheba.

flat it's those milestones that are impossible to forget. When I got past the 20 week one and my birthday when I thought I was going to be 38 weeks pregnant I felt better, in fact now the due date has past I am feeling less sad. I'm wary I'm now onto second mc dates in my head which the due date is 27th Nov but I'm trying not count dates quite as much. Can the miscarriage association help you? They seem so caring? Or perhaps visit your doctor again, she might be able to put you in touch with help?

bean I'm sorry af seems to be on the way. It gets harder and harder to pick yourself up each month doesn't it.

bluee I'm gutted for you that your line isn't better. When is af due? Maybe wait now until then and if it doesn't show test again?

stowie welcome and of course so sorry you are here. So cruel to think you didn't need the fertility clinic and then have it all taken away as a mc. The first af is a shock I think, makes it all seem so final. The good thing to take from it is that your body is working again and you can try again. The ladies here are super supportive and we are all rooting for each other to get pregnant again soon.

Thanks ladies. I've just read Day 46 of my miscarriage book and I'm feeling a bit better. I really do recommend the book. There's a baby remembrance service in Reading next Sunday which I think we'll go to. You don't get invited to our local hospital for any sort of goodbye, so I think it'll do us both good to attend. I think there will be a lot of tears, but it'll be cathartic I think.

@BlueeSpottyTiger I'm so sorry. HCG does double every 48 hours, so maybe it'll be darker tomorrow? X

@Stowie3012 welcome to this thread. It's a sad one to be on, but it's very supportive, and all the ladies here are lovely. The first AF is hard. I cried all the way through mine! You do feel a little better when it's over though.

Hi flat, we went to a similar service on our area. My DH in particular found it so helpful to go to x

@Flatwhite31 Honestly, it might sound measly right now, but 3 days is a massive step :) It might take a bit of time and it will feel like forever which I know is of no help to you. I think right now it's about accepting baby steps. It's not great, I wanted everything instantaneously back to normal but every step in the right direction is good (shorter cycle, normal period, no breakthroughs, a surge etc). Hopefully you can start your therapy soon, even if it isn't about the mc, carrying anything around right now will be crap.

@Bluee Remember it can take a little while to double up and then make the line appear darker! :)

Thanks for the positivity everyone! I just think it won't get darker now, What did i expect straight after the mc. I shouldn't have even tried! I feel stupid for getting ny hopes up.
I'll just focus on the next cycle, better order some more conceive plus! Onwards and upwards :) xx

It's not stupid at all. It's entirely possible and we all saw the line too

Top pic is 9 or 10dpo
bottom is 10 or 11dpo
No obvious progression :(
I know its still early days but this is how my early mc started in May.
How can 3 teats show lines! Is this a known fault with frers and bfn? Stresses me out lol

I see both. It might be down to concentration at this point. Even if they both have fmu one might differ slightly from the other and as it's quite early on it might make a difference (at least in my experience anyway where one morning is more darker and concentrated than the next fmu).

Take tomorrow out and have a go on Tuesday as it might help you see things more clearly you know? It'll then have time to get darker. You have three tests, they all have lines.

I can see a line, to me it looks pink. However, first responses DO have an indent but it’s usually invisible unless you hold it up to bright light or take it apart piece by piece & shine your phone torch through it 😳

If you haven’t even officially missed your period I’d wait & test then. I’ll be keeping it all crossed xx

bluee I definitely see a line in that top one. I know how hard it is but try and pee away that fmu tomorrow and then see what Tuesday brings. I really do have everything crossed for you.

bluee I can see a line, but agree that you should sit out tomorrow and try Thursday. Fingers crossed for you x

Has anyone had letdown sensation as a pregnancy symptom? I'm 11 dpo and due on Weds but told myself I'm not going to test until I'm late as tested 5 days late when pg with DD and that all worked out very well... My last pg which ended in May MC at 8 weeks I conceived when I was still BF'ing. Stopped pretty much straight away but have still had milk in left boob ever since, nothing in right boob for a while but have just had a big let down sensation in it and now have milk coming through So odd and trying not to be a hopeful twat about the while thing...

Feel devastated tonight. I knew with all our past infertility history I wouldn't get pregnant first month after mc. But the arrival of my period (and it's even 2 days early) has completely crushed me. I've just burst into tears in the gym changing room. It's bought it all back. I should be almost 23 weeks pregnant. Instead I'm back to square zero. I thought I was emotionally coping but clearly not as well as I thought.

@beanhunter
Lots of hugs for you

I found myself bursting into tears/struggling with feelings of extreme sadness, even months down the line from the MMC.

Especially when my period came- a double whammy, for a start it meant I wasn't pregnant and secondly, I kept thinking that I should be x number of weeks now.

It didn't help that I had downloaded an app on my phone at around 7 weeks, shortly after I found out I was pregnant. I didn't delete it after the MMC.

A quick glance told me exactly how many weeks/days I should have been on any given day.

I deleted it around my due date. Not sure why I kept it going for so long.
More to keep some proof that the whole pregnancy actually happened etc.

Of course, things were made worse at my due date by not yet being pregnant again (6 months down the line)

Hey All

Wow congratulations to waterfeature and elphebra!!! Fingers crossed for safe and happy pregnancies for you both.

Welcome, Stowie. Sorry to hear of your loss

for Flatwhite and Bean. TTC after mc is such an emotional rollercoaster. The uncertainty is so debilitating. I hear you.

I caved and did po an opk and got a line and got all excited. But then BFN on a proper hpt. I think it's 11 or 12 dpo so just waiting for the inevitable!

Turquoise I had the same experience first time around, except with email subscriptions that wouldn't cancel. Sad times

Oh bean I'm so sorry. It really is so cruel to have a miscarriage after suffering infertility and longing for a child for so long. I am so sorry the fabled 'more fertile after a miscarriage' thing didn't work for you this month. ❤️

Hi everyone sorry to those struggling right now. It's just a really shit time and sometimes there's nothing else for it but a big cry. I always feel about better after a cry so I don't try to stop it...

I'm only 6 dpo but couldn't stop myself poas, obvs negative. I think I just like poas as it feels likes you're doing something towards the cause...

A friend of a friend apparently had 3 or 4 mcs then went to a chiropractor and was told they had uneven or unaligned hips which can apparently effect fertility as it can interfere with the blood supply to the reproductive area?? Not sure if this is an absolute load of shit or possibly something in it?? Apparently it can cause so called 'secondary infertility' cos if you have a big first baby it can knock your pelvis/hips a bit. My DS was 9lb14oz so that part could fit?
Just wondering if anyone has heard of this/visits a chiropractor/is a chiropractor?! I googled it and there are a few mentions but not loads.

DH said to ask at to recurrent mc clinic before booking a chiropractor appointment but don't want to be not taken seriously at rmc clinic if it's hocus pocus.

In other news I started my 5mg folic acid tablets yesterday so that feels good x

Well i resisted my final frer, I'm not going to test now until thursday if af doesn't start before then.

Really crossing my fingers hard for you blue and flat!

I’m 9dpo and got a shiny white BFN on an IC this morning. Starting to worry a bit - if it doesn’t work this month then I’m going on to cycle 6 post mc and been trying since January including the MMC, so a long time. I have my first acupuncture appointment on Wednesday. Hope it helps.

Trying to hold out till Wednesday to use a FRER.

Fingers crossed for blue, flat and squirrel!!

I resisted testing again yesterday but caved this morning. Am so over the moon to have a BFP- it came up quickly on the IC so it gave me the confidence to do a CB digital. Am so so so relieved. Just in time for DH's birthday and the due date of my MMC which is one week today. Feeling very thankful but will also be knicker checking constantly. Cycles are weird post MC so I'm on cycle day 31 but only 11 dpo. Anyway- still keeping everything crossed for all of you. Hope the frer is positive tomorrow Bluee- sending unmumsnetty hugs

Brilliant news elpheba!!!! Congratulations!!!!

That's great elpheba! Fingers crossed for a healthy 9 months! June is an awesome month to have a birthday

My friend who got pregnant by accident at the same time I miscarried had her 12 week scan on Friday and her baby is fine. I would never wish miscarriage on anyone but I do feel (irrationally I know) like 'of course HER baby is fine, everything works out for her and nothing will ever work out for me'.

Oh meant to say as well, I'm about to ovulate I think, positive or nearly positive tests and tons of ewcm and we've been having loads of sex so at least that's one positive. Though I fully expect to be having an iui next cycle rather than being pregnant naturally