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anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?

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stillvicarinatutu · 06/08/2017 23:31

come on then.
moan away.
ill start. i m just so fucking fucked off. lost one last year at 44....i thought its a miracle!! wasnt to be but filled me with what appears to be false hope.

been trying ever since. and no. every month the same. this month as well as AF ive another surprise - a cyst. where no one ever ever wants one.
so this month will be lost. along with all dignity as i beg the hospital to lance it.

moan away. go on. you know you want to.

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Justwaitingforaline · 07/10/2017 16:50

We’ve kept the fact we’re TTC from a lot of people, including parents as I think the more people who know, the more who are let down by it not happening/the more who keep asking questions about it. Luckily, my disappointment every month is masqueraded by ‘PMS’

Mrsjones17 · 07/10/2017 19:00

I'm drinking tonight. Just finished AF so not near fertile window and Def not pregnant. Pass me the vodka! It's not that often we go to parties!

LimpLettice · 07/10/2017 20:05

I am too. Just a couple with dinner. Spotting for the 3rd day in a row, af due Tuesday but I just know it wasn't this month. Again. So incredibly fed up with this shit. So convinced I've just left #2 too late I think I've gotta stop opks and just move on. Gah.

SoozC · 07/10/2017 21:14

Sitting at dinner opposite a heavily-pregnant woman who keeps rubbing her belly. I feel so sad.

Janefx40 · 07/10/2017 21:20

Booze it up girls! I've just had tea at the Ritz (present from a friend) and we've been sat in the bar since (cocktails are £22 - nope I didn't have one but I did have a cheaper drink!). If we can't be pregnant, we may as well be drunk!

juneybean · 07/10/2017 22:03

Watching breaking dawn and usually I love it cos Kristen Stewart.... But how annoying that she would be pregnant on her honeymoon. FFS.

DoAsDreamersDo · 08/10/2017 10:16

I'm going to a baby shower today of a woman who got pregnant before even having a period after coming off the pill - fuck, fuck, fuck! I hope there's prosecco.

Summer1986 · 08/10/2017 10:20

Good luck Dreamer, maybe sneak in a hip flask!!

juneybean · 08/10/2017 10:23

Ugh good luck dreamer!

Justwaitingforaline · 08/10/2017 10:28

Good luck Dreamer! You got this.

I feel like utter shite today. I don’t think it was the gin either as I had a grand total of two drinks. Snotty, sore womb, sore tits.

hellybellyjellybean · 08/10/2017 12:25

Just feel utterly crap today. My dhs birthday party last night, one of my best friends was there and 'hiding' the fact she is pregnant. Pretty obvious she was, other friend said she'd told her and is only 8 weeks. Just feel shit and then feel even shitter that I feel shit about it. Wish she'd told me so i wasnt finding out by her crap attempts to pretend she isnt, but I know she wasn't telling people but then don't tell anyone but also know it's her choice when and when not or tell ppl, I know iabu. Don't want to see her or this group as don't really want to talk about it and certainly don't want them asking me if I'm okay or anything as they know we're not very successfully trying! It's not fair though and they've been trying for like 2 minutes!! Dh is useless bless him, asking why I'm upset when he knows and then says what do you want me to say to you?? I'm like nothing just let me be sad but he always has to try and fix everything

LimpLettice · 08/10/2017 13:31

Hope it's not too awful, Dreamer. I have one soon I'm dreading.

Hellybelly I'm in a similar frame of mind. Day 4 of spotting today, and it's really getting me down. I've felt sick this morning, grumpy, incredibly sore breasts, but I know it's all pms which feels like a massive insult on top of the infuriating period. I was whinging to DP last night about my stupid, old, defective body (it really hasn't been that long, it just fucking feels like it) and he just wants me not to be upset but it isn't fixable with a few nice words. Poor bloke.

gonnabreakmyrustycage · 08/10/2017 16:54

Tested today with a FRER 6 days before missed AF. Of course it was negative. The clearest BFN ever. It always is. So, feeling like absolute shit and @limplettice I said exactly the same to dh. That I'm useless. Also said he should leave me and find a fertile woman. So fucking sad right now.

DoAsDreamersDo · 08/10/2017 19:39

Well I'm back and I survived. TBH it wasn't too bad and I was only a bit jealous over all the tiny baby clothes that she got and all the cooing.

juneybean · 08/10/2017 19:59

Well done dreamer!

I just read a thread where one of our friends who used a condom is surprised her period arrived. Jesus Christ.

LimpLettice · 09/10/2017 09:14

Not exactly a surprise but period in full force. 27 days this month. Curtain pole fell on me head when I opened them this morning, and I forgot a dress up day for DD. So today can fuck the fuck off. And then fuck off some more etc.

Janefx40 · 09/10/2017 09:48

@LimpLettice I'm sorry. The curtain pole really is the last straw! Sometimes you feel that life is battering you over the head...and sometimes it literally is battering you over the head.

@DoAsDreamersDo well done for surviving the baby shower - that is really tough.

@gonnabreakmyrustycage you know what I'm gonna say - it is still early to be testing xxx

Justwaitingforaline · 09/10/2017 10:33

I’m doing my best to hold off on the testing front until the day AF is expected, for the first time ever. My attitude to testing changes every month but this month, I’m in a headspace where having to squint at a test or edit it to see the line probably means it isn’t worth looking at.

juneybean · 09/10/2017 10:36

argh sorry @limplettice xx

LimpLettice · 09/10/2017 11:15

Thank you, ladies. I just feel so fucking hopeless today. I was a single parent for a long time, had resigned myself to no more which was so hard, and when I got bfp in July I was so bloody overjoyed and then it all just went to shit. Every month that passes makes me more negative. Feel like I got my hopes up for nothing. Pity party, sorry.

Hope you all are feeling better than misery guts over here. Keep holding off as long as you can - the squinting is soul destroying.

Steaksauce · 09/10/2017 11:42

Sorry to everyone who is feeling shit. And who had to deal with baby centred gatherings over the weekend..

I'm in a proper funk again today. I'm on CD9 so not in fertile week yet (clear blue opk confirmed this this morning) but I just feel so low. Part of me doesn't want to even bother. I'm trying to lose a little weight (BMI is currently 26 so I'm only slightly overweight) but after not having any bread, cake, biscuits, chocolate, crisps, pasta or rice for an entire week, I lost 0.3lbs. I can't even lose weight properly I'm THAT useless.

I hate my job, I mean proper hate it so I'm in my usual monday morning sulk about being here because I can't/don't want to leave when TTC as this place gives more maternity benefits than are required by law and I've been here for 9 years.
In cycle 2 of trying, DH asked me to share all the stuff I was doing (opks etc) because he wanted to know what was going on - I'd been keeping it from him as I didn't want to pile on the pressure which I told him at the time and he said he understood why but that he wanted to be involved. Great. So I've been pretty open about it all ever since (he doesn't know how many FRER's I've got stashed away).
So on Saturday I made a flip comment about fertile week approaching and he kicked off about all the pressure and he can't deal with it etc.

So I literally have no idea what the fucking rules are around what he wants me to share/not share. So we barely spoke all weekend. ace.

Meanwhile, my 3 closest friends and I are in a whatsapp group and they spent the weekend sharing pictures of all the fun things they were up to with their kids.

I'm so glad this thread exists because I'm such a whinging whinge bag at the moment.

Mrsjones17 · 09/10/2017 11:51

@limp sorry about AF proper shit! And the curtain pole just takes the biscuit!

@dreamers well done for surviving

@gonnerbreak it's too early wait off a little while longer.

@steak sounds like an utterly shit time!

Perhaps it's going round but feeling crap today. More likely the after affects of the the alcohol on Saturday. Always makes me feel a bit depressed after. Just hit me about DH deploying on Saturday. It's only 9 weeks but can't say I'm looking forward to it :( to top it off I start my fertile window on Sunday and he flies out on Saturday night FFS. So that's it no baby for us in 2017. Never thought I would say that.

juneybean · 09/10/2017 11:56

@steaksauce FFS he's under pressure?! It's you going through it every month!!!

Hang in there though at work if you get good benefits

I've got a raging cold today so feel like crap.

Oh @mrsjones17 :( bang some sperm in there Saturday night you never know what might happen!!!

Mrsjones17 · 09/10/2017 11:59

@juney well that's the plan! Shagfest to try an make up for 9 weeks of missing out! Grin but still irratating. Cold seems to be going round with the weather temperature drop. Hope you start to feel better soon!

LimpLettice · 09/10/2017 12:21

I really feel for you MrsJones we are apart in the week a lot which can make things very awkward - 9 weeks is a total pisser.

Steak that just sounds shitty. I know they feel the pressure, and it is hard for them, but still. I think we could all do with a bloody break quite honestly. A close friend of mine has gone through this in the last few years and recently given up, and sometimes I feel bad I didn't understand just how soul destroying ttc can be. I am going to give her a big hug next time I see her.