Thread 31, TTC1 | Jam and her dodgers still riding the bonking bus for that elusive BFP

[Jamon]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Sorry about af basset she sounds particularly nasty so I hope you're ok.

I think AF will be here tomorrow as I had a temp drop today. I wish I didn't care so much about not being pregnant but the last two days I've been so down about it. It's all so unfair isn't it?

Welcome Harry fx for a bfp now your thyroid is in check

Hey Music 🖐️ How are you? Man I can hardly believe it's almost August and all you girls on the Grad's are due imminently. So sad I never got to join you! Good luck lovely, hope all goes smoothly

Great work on the make-up sex Mouse. Hope your DH is alright now.

Saturday will be here in no time Flora bet you can't wait to let loose and enjoy yourself.

Sorry to those having dh issues. Mine wants to be a dad desperately but he doesn't break down or show emotion like I do. He says he needs to be the strong one and support me through AF etc.

Good luck to all tww'ers. Hope to see some more bfps soon

Bassett - that is really really helpful, thank you!! I doubt anyone manages to fill that form in, it's so convoluted.

Thanks harry that's interesting to hear - & glad meds made such a difference

So hope you're not out Alexia, sending you hugs - know how much you want this, it is so unfair xx

Got a sniff at a new job - probably won't go anywhere but reminded me that had thought my current job would be the one I'd have kids at (flexible hours, etc)...

Hello all.

TTC #1
Cycle #2
Day 1

Currently doing loads of research as last month was mostly a lot of sex and hoping for the best. Not that we were complaining about that, but obviously it hasn't worked so we'll trying to help nature along a bit more this month.
DH is now taking zinc and vitamin c.
I've picked up some evening primrose oil to take until ovulation. I've also ordered opks and some conceive plus for when we hit that fertile window. I'm also taking multivitamins but will swap those to just folic acid and vitamin D once I hit ovulation too to try and reduce any conflicts.
Now I just have to research diet. Any opinions or tips?

Hi holy and welcome! I think on cycle 2 you don't need to panic or do anything different yet. There's only a 20% chance of pregnancy on any given month even when conditions are perfect so you shouldn't feel like you've failed after 1 month. As a lot of us on this thread can probably say, things can quickly get less fun and more medical/regimented, so if I were you I'd try hold on to the fun for a little while yet!

As long as you and your DH are healthy, don't smoke, don't drink to excess that should be fine. Some people cut down on caffeine too.

So sorry basset

Have a fab holiday flora; eating and drinking and being normal sounds pretty perfect right now.

Sk1pper, we've been married two years and I'm yet to even think about changing my name (although I will at some point). You are way more organised than us!

Hope you're doing okay Alexia, sorry about your temps

Welcome holy, I totally agree with Harriet that you should just sit back and enjoy for now.

Kath - welp I'm well know for putting things off, we were engaged for 9 years, and I didn't want people to tease me about this too. Actually starting to wish I hadn't done it, it's been a right pain in the ovaries.

Holy - no one knows whether you will conceive in a normal timeframe or not, the odds are you will. But I do know that id stated to freak out about this kind of stuff on cycle 2, I'd be a dribbling, insane mess by now. It's cliche but best thing you can do when you start is relax and enjoy the sex. Oh and take folic acid.

Hey morning ladies and hello FRIDAY!!
Just chilling with my crosshairs over here. 😎 OFFICIALLY 3DPO!! I'm savouring this small victory 😂

3 things I'm thankful for today are...

1. The cake I made last night didn't completely fail. And will be delivered to my godson tonight!!
2. I have a free Starbucks!!!
3. I have DH alllllll weekend, he's not disappearing lol 😂

Have a lovely Friday

Basset what you can't drink on beta blockers?? This is news to me!

Fx sorting your TSH Harry is the missing piece of the puzzle for you. It's hard to keep expectations in check when you've 'fixed' something but equally it could just happen.

It is just so bloody unfair alexia I think that's the main word for me when it comes to infertility. So easy for some, so horrible hard for others and not much rhyme or reason why. Where are you up to with medical help, are you considering IVF?

Quiet ooh are you tempted?

Welcome holy fx for nice quick easy conception - they happen all the time

Hello lemon! Apologies I couldn't add the link to the new thread as the old one filled up completely

Hurrah mouse!

Ah yes it's positive Friday
Hmmmm struggling a bit with this as just so bloody busy with work and we're going up to the in laws this weekend which is usually fairly intense... but...
I've got lunch today with a lovely friend at work
We've got our first counselling appointment next week
Our BIL and his fiancé are also coming this weekend and it'll be lovely to see them (plus the PILs - they are lovely really just intense!)

Interesting seeing sperm numbers and male fertility making the headlines

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/jul/26/making-babies-is-beginning-to-look-as-difficult-for-men-as-it-always-has-been-for-women?CMP=fb_gu

Sperm count drop 'could make humans extinct'
www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-40719743

jam I saw that - scary isn't it?? Has anyone been watching the handmaid's tale?

Friday positivity for me: work has calmed down after meeting a big deadline on Wednesday, looking forward to my friend's wedding tomorrow, and DH is back on Monday night after 2 weeks away so not long till I see him!

Well the consultant told me not to drink on them. The leaflet says "alcohol should not be consumed" so erring on the side of caution jam.

Friday positives
1- booked myself a nail appointment for next week
2- spending the day with my mum tomorrow booking my 30th birthday party
3- treated myself to a bar of marvellous creations

Trying not to think too much about personal things as dads death anniversary is on Monday so trying not to get upset. The most annoying thing is I am so behind on my 5 line a day diary as last year was all about dad and i dont want to read it 😞.

Mouse a weekend of DH hope you have a fab time.

Welcome holy! What are these post ovulation conflicts? Maybe I should cut down! I'm cycle 3 and using the OPKs, but also enjoying the sex so hopefully you can do both

How was your temp this morning alexia? A drop for just one day may be nothing to worry about. I researched this extensivelyasy cycle as I had a temperature drop but barely any blood and didn't know if it was AF not (in my case it was but lots of people had a one day dip and got BFPs) so FX for you.

Great news about the crosshairs mouse! Sounds like you have a lovely weekend lined up too filled with Starbucks, cake and DH!

Good luck with the in laws jamon! I saw that in the press, bit depressing really. I have no EWCM really so will use Fertile Check to hopefully make it a bit easier but my luteal phase is the main thing I need to get sorted before I worry too much about the swimmers' journey!

harriet I haven't seen Handmaid's Tale but wish I'd watched it as heard great things, will get the box set I think. Enjoy the wedding!

basset Hugs for Monday, look after yourself

CD6 and still bloated as hell here! However my bbt has been fairly consistent this cycle, was really erratic last cycle. Hoping this is a sign of less haywire hormones.

My positives:

1. I have today off work and had a nice lie in.
2. Off to a wedding this weekend and I have an awesome new hat to wear.
3. DH and I have now been married for 2 months

Happy Friday everyone!

I don't know if there are any mctufty but the ones I take contain vit k and I think I read on here that it can be bad, so I just figured I'll cut out anything non-essential, if that makes sense?
My plan is to go all-in in August and September, then relax for Oct, Nov and December. If nothing happens by end of January I'll see if the doctor can help as I was diagnosed with PCOS a few years back.

Happy Friday everyone.

Positive things:

1. Holiday on Sunday!
2. I've got over my fluey lurgy thins, just a bit sniffly now.
3. Dh's horribly busy work period has eased off and I've actually seen him the past two evenings!

I felt a bit sad last night, DH has decided he's going to buy a new car in spring next year. Which on it's own is nice, but at the same time it feels like he's thinking about things he wouldn't be thinking about doing if he thought we would have a baby by then. I know that sounds a bit mad. And of course he can still buy a new car if we are having a baby, but we won't have a baby until at least May next year now, and the new car just sort of brought that home to me. Sorry, rambly!

Harriet I am obsesssed with the Handmaids tale! Had not read it and wish I had now - but the dramatisation has been so well done. Shocking but terrifyingly plausible

Basset sorry you lost your dad I can understand you not wanting to look, but I hope there are happy memories in your diary too to look back on. I didn't realise that about beta blockers .. I take them occasionally for panic attacks. Will take care to avoid alcohol on them on future!

Congrats on your recent wedding tufty. Agree that it is slightly depressing reading however for me I'm glad there is some focus on male fertility in the media , as it often feels like it's all aimed at women and women's fault for not doing x y z. Good to have to focus on the chaps to remind them they have biological clocks and responsibilities too.

Ahh flash it's so hard to not look into the future and wonder what might or might not happen. Long term TTC really does teach you there are no guarantees. I really hope you're having to send a sports car back in a few months to make way for a baby seat.

Love this Friday positivity! For me

1. Lovely lunch with my work friend. She is also going through IVF so had lots of good advice
2. Skyping with my bezzie who lives in France tonight - we're rubbish at doing it but we can have wine and good chats virtually!
3. Off to a wedding tomorrow - I love a wedding! Fingers crossed for some sun (Snap McTufty although no new hat for me!).

harriet I've been thinking exactly the same about the Handmaid's Tale - feels a bit too real!

flash I know how you feel about cars - my husband is looking at more and more impractical ones. I told him he could get a new car when we got pregnant...18 months ago...so I don't think I can stop him now! Maybe you should encourage him to get a 2 seat convertible...sod's law is then you'll get pregnant!

Congratulations McTufty! I got married recently too, it's been a month already - I can't believe it.

My three positives:

1. first week in new job has gone well, much more engaged and happy
2. DH and I have nearly saved enough money to do the loft conversion we wanted
3. were getting a curry tonight! Can't wait to tuck in with my nanny state beers

Aw I like a bit of Friday positivity !

My three would be:

1. I made it through my first week back at work after holidays
2. It's payday
3. I pick up my wedding dress tomorrow

It's been quite on the TTC front for me as I'm awaiting AF in the next fews day, but all ready to get back to testing and thinking about temping since we're not 100% sure I'm ovulating as I should be. Fingers crossed.

*quiet

I just posted in this thread. Was my post unreasonable? It made me really upset to read that someone thinks they can compare pregnancy losses as more or less sad.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2991198-AIBU-to-wonder-why-my-friend-who-had-a-recent-miscarriage-deleted-me-and-DH-from-FB-we-have-both-had-recent-losses?pg=1&order=

Don't think you were unreasonable at all Flash, I hate the way people compare their feelings like they are more or less valid. Hope you're feeling a bit better today as well, totally get what you mean re the car

Happy TWW Mouse! Here's hoping it's a successful one for you.

Jam, hope you have a lovely weekend with the ILs. What did you decide in the end re telling them about IVF?

Enjoy all the weddings this weekend Harriet, struggle and mctufty!

Thinking of you basset

Glad the first week went well sk1pper. Very impressed at your saving too especially given you just got married and went on honeymoon!

Lovely to hear all the Friday positivity! I'm feeling okay as I took the afternoon off and had an appointment at the FC. We're on holiday at the start of my next cycle so we're probably going to start in September unless we freak out and decide to postpone a few more months...

I am feeling loads better thanks kathrino even went for a run today. How did the appointment go? Where are you off on holiday?

Morning ladies, well last night was a weird one. Got baby bombed to FOOOOOK at my godsons birthday party. Dropped his cake off, the adults are people we see maybe twice, three times a year at my friends house parties and I don't really know them well. They all have kids bar me and another woman. I accept that. My godson is 14 so I've seen a lot of them grow up.

Well the other childless lady is pregnant and despite her being rather quiet and shy about it my friend (drunk on the wine at this point and knows about my mmc) starts to tell us, ooooo we're going to have a scan pic soon, I want to be the first to see it, pregnant this, pregnant that, kids this, wait till you're craving this, I was tired when I was pregnant (queue allllll of them then talking about their pregnancies - which is weird btw) and thankfully it didn't turn into a birth battle but one lady asked how many weeks she was.... 8 weeks. It just made me panicked all night and put me in a weird mood. The poor pregnant lady was quiet as I think she'd told my friend in private. I got dragged into the conversation briefly about having to call my future son after my DH to which I said Nope. (My DH and his dad have the same name) and then I went back in with the men to talk about landing on the moon. 😐

Flash I didn't think your comment was harsh and I COMPLETELY agree to a point however unfortunately I think something of that nature has gone on with that OP. I had a very similar experience with a friend who was sooooo focused on her own loss and grief (as she should be) that when I told her we too had a loss she basically called me selfish and had a massive rant and go at DH. It was horrible. It happened a few weeks apart. She's since apologised and I understand why and didn't hold it against them. They had a traumatic d&c and an early loss where I had a loss at 10 weeks. I didn't really see either as more or less of a grief, if anything her loss has effected her and her DH far more mentally than ours but then people grieve and handle grief differently. I had 10 weeks to tell our parents and had their support during the loss, they only told a few friends once the loss was happening. I think it's such a personal time no matter what is happening that your own personal grief outweighs anything that anyone else is going through in that moment. X