Thread 31, TTC1 | Jam and her dodgers still riding the bonking bus for that elusive BFP

[Jamon]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

pjs 😂 drakes!!!

jamon have had loads more crappy home reno news since I last posted getting electrocuted could have been the least of my worries!!! At this rate it will be Christmas 🎄 before I can move back in 😔
Yay to getting your mum's piano!

Seems like I missed a whole load of panda fun!!! 🐼

flash this journey is so fcuking hard I am surprised we are not all stircrazy all the time!!! Hang in there - you will make it through!
I have had loads of meltdowns - without the bit where you advise DH to find another DW of course 😬

If we are forming a band I think I will have to take the position of person in the back who pretends to be doing backing vocals but isn't (I love singing but I am a bit "pitchy" so out of tune it immediately starts to rain)

pjs a $4000 deductible- WTF???

Jam can't believe you're doing IVF so soon! How exciting! Is that on the NHS?

Kwick lovely to see you again and pleased to read you're carrying on with the PMA.

I'm just lurking around ATM. 9 days late, 23dpo, BFN.

I can play the violin

Well.... haven't for about 12 years but I'm sure it's just like riding a bike!

I'll join the band as a backing singer if I can😊 I've always wanted to learn to play piano I have my old keyboard from when I was a teen. I had put it on my 30 before 30 but I am now extending that to include the year of my 30th haha!!!

Who knew we were such a musical bunch! We could go on tour!

Alice 9 days late? Sorry if I missed it, but is that normal for you, I'm guessing not?

Sorry your renovations are proceeding bumpily kwick. From your posts it sounds as though you and your mum have a good relationship though so hopefully it's not too bad staying with her. Can you at least spend the next couple of months perusing furniture/new gorgeous Christmas decs for when you can move back in?

jam I know what you mean about feeling sad things more, I feel I've lost that safety net of knowing I'm growing my family and panicked at my grandad's about who would do that for me and DH if we didn't have children (stupid I know, as that's decades away, but sometimes I can't stop my mind from going there).

Oh kwick that sounds so stressful 😩 hope you can hunker down and have some quality mum time in the meantime

Alice it is the NHS - we were added to the waiting list in march and will start treatment end of October / early November time. That'll be two years since we started TTC. It's been a long old wait. Where are you up to with medical help? Is it unusual for you to be that late?

Flash I also think about what our future would be like without children. The thought of no grandchildren is so upsetting ☹️ When you look at what some people go through to get their family though we are relatively early on and have options though. I really hope we'll get our babies.

10 DPO today and my stupid brain still symptom spots. Just want stupid AF already as will feel closer to starting treatment.

Been double-baby-bombed again.
another friend announcing their second whilst i have been ttc.

started hiding all baby related facebook posts.

So sorry hep 🙁 - this is why I've basically unfollowed everyone on FB so timeline is now mainly puppies and kittens. Hope you're ok.

Literally haemorrhaging money today - paid £960 for two sodding blood tests!!!! And if GP won't cover the extra 3 I need then that'll be an extra £700! Actually felt light-headed heading over my card 😰 Family will have to get IOUs for Christmas.

Oh Hep. and for you.

Ouch pyjamas that is a real hit. What are these tests for (sorry I've probably missed that elsewhere)?

Jam I don't think you ever stop hoping it'll suddenly just happen but I can well imagine you just want November to arrive.

As my poor piano skills are probably trumped by pyjamas can I join on percussion? I could play the tambourine?

What would we play though? All that she wants is another baby? The classic Kinks song 'so tired of waiting'? Be my baby? It could certainly take our mind off the whole thing!

jamon and kwick I know how you feel about losing sight of where we're going. I can't even think of having a real life baby - I look at pregnant women enviously but feel
I'm far too far away to even envy people with babies.

Great news about the doctors appointment pyjamas - it must be so reassuring to have a committed doctor,and although I'm sure it's not much of an upside, at least the doctors know more than whey they first started treating you.

So pleased appointment well well flora - reassuring to know that there is nothing holding it back, it could happen at any point!

flash sorry you have been feeling down - it's all completely natural and you are doing the right thing by being kind to yourself.

kwick sorry the renovations are a nightmare - I am sure it will all be worth it, just try and focus on how lovely it will be when done!

Argh sorry about the baby bomb hep - bloody fertiles!

We're off on our American adventure tomorrow - 4 nights in New York, 1 night in Philly and then 3 nights in Washington - I can't wait. Felt a bit decadent when we booked it but as IVF will start a few weeks after we get back I think we need a final blow out. I'm going to eat and drink everything, and the sort my act out when I get back!

These are the NK cell/immunology tests flash - might actually just start paying my salary directly into their bank account!

You're right struggle - they know so much more now. So jealous of your adventure!!

So sorry to hear that you are feeling low Flash - know that this might not help but I've also previously said to DH "why don't you just leave me and meet someone that can have a baby" thing... This was before we started testing and before we had the context of DH SA results he mentioned that conversation again and he admitted he'd been heartbroken when I said it the first time and was now even more distraught that I'd lost sight of it being our baby. And he was right, I didn't marry him expressly for his baby making abilities - I married him because he's an amazing person cook I'm sure your DH thinks the same of you.

I'm not sure I can add much to this band.... very unmusical. Perhaps I can book your hotel rooms or something?

That is eye watering PJs - what are the tests for?

Sorry about the baby bomb Hep

Time is passing Jam and you will be started before you know it. As of tomorrow we are half way through September!

That sounds amazing Struggle - we were in Washington & NY about 7 years ago and loved it! Particularly Washington, there really is an amazing amount to see and do!

I'm looking into acupuncture as I'm running out of TTC initiative ideas. Anyone tried it?

struggle good suggestions for songs! We could do a sort of Weird Al act and spoof loads of songs. It's my birthday next week so I feel like I need to just have a good time and celebrate life and me just as I am right now.

flora we'd need a band manager, someone to manage our image, I feel we could be an unruly bunch left to our own devices!

It does help, I've just had the same chat with my SIL who feels guilty as she's older than my DBro that he could have married someone younger and had children with them. My reply to which was 'I'm 12 years younger than you, I've been at this 18 months and only have 3 scars to show for it!" Shame noone is good at taking their own advice! I'm pretty sure DH married me for my cooking too, so I think I'm safe.

I did try acupuncture end of last year/beginning of this year. I found it mnetally helpful but not physically. It didn't regulate my cycles at all, as I was hoping, but that's not to say it won't help you.

pjs fingers crossed the tests show nothing is wrong/something is wrong that has an easy fix.

Just found my clinic's info document on NK cell testing/treatment etc online if anyone is interested! ivf.org.uk/uploads/data/files/lister-fertility-clinic-nk-cells.pdf

flora I'm having acupuncture at the moment in conjunction with Chinese herbs. I think it has made a difference to my cycles, lengthening my luteal phase. Not preggers yet though

flash couple of months???? Please tell me I will not have to be out of my flat that long??? My mum and I do get on well but we both like our space. I will hopefully be able to move back in next Wednesday or Thursday.

hep FFS when will these baby bombs stop already!! I am not on FB anymore - too hurtful & depressing.

pjs since TTC I have had to spend so much money on tests and treatments I have become completely desensitised... I mean I spent £3.5k last Monday on materials for renovations and barely batted an eyelid (and I am by no means rich!).
and that is why £70 for a beauty advent calendar looks like a bargain

struggle hope you have an amazeballs trip!!!

Why don't we write our own stuff?
"hey, hey, hey we are the dodgers
We are just trying to conceive
We are too busy shagging
To bring together our knees"

"If we took an OPK
Took sometime to urinate
It would be
It would be so nice"

"I am looking for the bump in the mirror
I am asking it to change my stays
And no message could have been any clearer
If you want to get pregnant and stay that way take a look at IVF and make the change"

apologies if any of that is in bad taste

I am on my way home to see what has been done today and then to Restorative Yoga and then back to my mum's. I am shattered- thank GOD tomorrow is Friday.

Hahaha - that made me properly chortle kwick thanks

Feeling pretty shit - onto cycle 11. Got down to last two in job application but no luck - apparently a 'tough decision' but...pfft.

DH has SA next week, and trying to up my food intake in case they fuss about weight

Ooh struggle sounds like a great holiday - hope you live it up!

Like the band idea - I have piano to offer (and truly awful violin skills)! Or just page turner, whatevs :)

Oh lemon so many hugs being sent xxx Nothing to say to make it immediately better, but you'll get your chance - and in the meantime

Jem Wow! Time has passed so quick. I'm so pleased for you. How many cycles do you get in your trust?

Yes I am never this late, never missed a period. I had 4 days of v light brown spotting and assumed AF was dragging it's heels, then it just stopped. 5 weeks and 3 days since last AF and all the BFN. What can you do.

Hep I remember you from the early days of this thread. Sorry you have been baby bombed so much :(

Lemon :( those months are the worst. Hope can be a terrible thing. So sorry x

Oh hep the baby bombs never stop hurting sorry love

Pyjamas my fb feed is puppies and kittens too hurrah the fb god have listened !

Struggle have a fabulous American adventure, that trip sounds really exciting

Flora I had acupuncture a year ago and really loved it. I found it deeply relaxing and floated down the street afterwards. I'm starting it again later this month ahead of IVF

Flash cooking hey? What do you cook? You can be band cook please??

Kwick now we have our own anthem 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 hurrah, I love it

Massive hug from me lemony there is absolutely nothing wrong having hope and it's so so easy to get hopes up. I still do it too. A lovely gin for you 🌸

Alice I wonder what the hell is going on but mostly hope it ends in some kind of delayed BFP for you. How are you feeling in yourself?

Girl sitting next to me at work today said "are you next?"

Turned out she meant to have a baby. I kick started a trend to get married two and a half years ago. The other two are pregnant 🙄

BFN, think I must have had a proper annovulatory cycle this month - the one month we managed to properly dtd around ov time. Not having a period and being bloated and nauseous for week's was just my body being shit. Feels like a cruel joke.
Trying to keep a lid on the self pity. I get so cross with myself for getting my hopes up. Again.