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Thread 31, TTC1 | Jam and her dodgers still riding the bonking bus for that elusive BFP

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Jamon · 24/07/2017 14:01

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

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QuietTime · 05/09/2017 00:05

Hi again - popping on to give you a virtual hug mouse you did an amazing thing just being out and about; hope you and your DH are managing - take care of yourselves xxx Flowers

sk1pper · 05/09/2017 07:26

And the spotting has begun...that's very likely me out again this cycle. I need to stop believing this can happen. 😔

kwick · 05/09/2017 08:06

mouse honey 😘

Haha jene!!! I did think about adding some height once...

sk1pper Flowers it can and it will happen - you are in perfect time

Jamon · 05/09/2017 08:55

Excellent work pyjamas I love your style. I play the piano but currently don't have one - I really miss it. Agree it is completely absorbing , very good for switching your brain off other things. Keeping everything crossed for you tomorrow 🤞🏼

Hello kwick glad to hear things are getting underway again, hurrah 😁 I'm another commute MNer

Lemony me too re Facebook and Kate Middleton! Ugh so fertile. Also with you on the Dcat - ours brings us so much joy

Glad you had a good hol chlo and it sounds like you've got a solid plan coming up. Great that your DH has spoken to work too. I still need to work out what I'm going to do about that.

Binky hmmm I don't think I had that with clomid?!

Oh mouse Sad I'm sorry. I don't know what to say but one day you'll be a mum and will look back on that pickle and remember what you went through to get there. It's a horrible hard journey but we all know it will be worth it. Take care 🌸

Sorry skipper Sad I'm so sorry if I got your hopes up too - I really thought it could be it for you. You will get there xx

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sk1pper · 05/09/2017 08:56

I know Kwick but my body is always giving me a sense of false hope, like it's playing with me.

Flash and Pyjamas - sincerely hope you have more success than me xxxxxx

Pyjamas81 · 05/09/2017 09:31

So sorry about bastard spotting skipper - I'm a spotter and know what a kick in the ovaries it is when it appears 😞

Oh mouse - what a day, I'm so sorry it was so tough. It's done now and you got through it.

I don't feel anything physically chlo - maybe a slight heavy feeling in lower stomach and very minor boob soreness this morning which has now gone. Nothing with couldn't be attributed to massive dose of progesterone I'm on or AF coming. The progesterone injections seem to have held off spotting - I'm so glad I made our doctor prescribe it despite how negative she was about it! It may not have made any difference to the end result, but it's given me two final days of sanity. Nothing worse than spotting starting, knowing deep down it's all over, but not being able to test as it's still too early.

Another fun packed day planned today - reiki, head massage, cinema and picking up a digital piano! I picked one I wanted on the Yamaha website, then went on gumtree on the off chance and turns out someone is selling an unused one as their daughter never used it at a bargain price with stool, music stand, stand and headphones thrown in! And they live 5 mins away from me! Funny how things just perfectly align sometimes 😊

Flashinthepan · 05/09/2017 09:34

skipper sorry about the spotting. Brew and Cake for you.

mouse I'm sorry it wasn't the day you hoped for. Brew and Cake for you too.

kwick oooo what are you doing to your house? I want to move so I can renovate again Blush

Great news about the scan babi.

Pyjamas your piano lessons have made me want to take up the clarinet again. I've thought about practising by myself, but I live in a Victorian terrace and not sure it would be welcomed.

I'm trying not to hope at the moment. Enjoying my blood-free luteal phase but too scared to have sex in case it makes it happen. I don't have a middle ground for hope with this. I either think I'm infertile or start planning my maternity outfits, so I'm trying to be neutral.

Chlo Kate three-perfectly-timed-pregnancies Middleton's baby announcement made me irrationally annoyed too. And, as a huge Call the Midwife fan, I was half excited half irritated that Helen George is hugely pregnant.

Know what you mean about Daniella Westbrook, she is in the same group to me as Kerry Katona.

Hello to anyone else I've missed.

If anyone wants a chuckle, I got lecherously chased by a creepy man gobbling a sandwich down my highstreet yesterday.

Flashinthepan · 05/09/2017 10:03

Oh for god's sake! 8 dpo and the spotting has begun. It's just sort of beigey, but I know what it means. Hopefully AF holds off until the weekend, as at least that means I would have a normal length LP.

Kathrino · 05/09/2017 10:48

Oh Flash, what a bugger about the spotting. I hope you're doing okay Flowers. Same for you too sk1pper, it must just be the worst.

Good news re the scan Babi

I'd kill for a night by myself JeNe. I think I've spent a bit too much time with my DH recently and really fancy a solo night on the sofa!

Mouse, well done for getting through yesterday. It must have been so hard. Thinking of you lots.

Have a lovely and relaxing day pyjamas! My dad has started learning the piano and absolutely loves it.

Another one irrationally annoyed by Kate Middleton too although I do feel a bit sorry for her that she's basically condemned to being a baby making machine.

Flashinthepan · 05/09/2017 11:00

Thanks Kathrino.

I was thinking last night, I wonder what would have happened if she couldn't have children. It feels like the amount of pressure to procreate would be huge for someone marrying the future king. And as we are all living proof, being young and healthy is no guranatee of fertility.

kwick · 05/09/2017 18:26

So I started today in such a good mood - only further increased by IVI consult (looks like from Friday things will go quite fast!!!!!) and now I am like a deflated balloon... maybe something to do with having to pack up my living room (did I ever tell y'all about my hoarding tendencies???) for builder by Thursday am Shock

pjs yep progesterone will hold off any bleeding - that is why I only knew about my MCs through the scans.
I am very sorry I have not read back - why do you think you are out? When can you test?
I love Reiki - had a session on Sunday and lady (whom I told about TTC) said she could see great determination, a baby in my arms, being centered and natural - but did not know what the last two meant Confused

flash why in the hell would you want to do this more than once?!
Here is what I am having done:

  • new wood floor throughout
  • walls painted throughout
  • brand new bathroom
  • damp damage sorted in bedroom (see picture - after builder scrapped off paint yesterday)
  • new internal doors

Fricking spotting flash Angry

Thread 31, TTC1 | Jam and her dodgers still riding the bonking bus for that elusive BFP
Flashinthepan · 05/09/2017 18:44

Oh kwick sounds like it's going to be amazing! Can't wait to see progress photos. Yeah, been having gentle cramps yesterday and today so expecting AF early.

Also, it's only with 1 year from finishing it that I want to do it again. During and just afterwards I told my DH I only ever wanted to.live in perfect fully finished houses!

Babipotjam · 05/09/2017 18:51

🌸🌺 for you Sk1p it will happen xxxx

Flash 😤 @spotting grr.

Two days back in work and I am knackered.

florafoxtrot · 05/09/2017 19:03

Just been for a bikini wax and my Beautician is pregnant, really wasn't expecting that. Sakes.

Kwick I'm sure it'll all be worth it once it's done! Am I being stupid though or what is IVI?

Sorry about the spotting Flash

Is it just me or are Tuesdays totally shite?

geeup · 05/09/2017 19:23

Hi all. Just coming on to say good luck for tomorrow pyjamas. Haven't seen you for a while on our other thread but I have everything crossed for you.
Sorry to crash the thread - some of the old timers will recognise me but I migrated to IVF boards at the beginning of the year. I drop in from time to time to lurk and look for bfps.
Wishing you all well.

MouseLove · 05/09/2017 19:25

Ah I just want to hug you all. Sk1p I completely get it, month after month my body feels like it could have a little hope juice, something changes, something is different, a little twinge and then AF comes and all the hope is sucked out of me. Give it a few days and I'm sure our hope will be back, is has to right?

Kwick, you've done so well with your weight loss. My lack of appetite, impending AF & bloating last week lead to a 4lbs weight loss. Yay lol - still around 12 lbs to lose to get under 35 BMI. 😕

Sorry for the spotting flash. 💐

I'm interested to see how the progesterone effects things for you pyjamas. It can only be a good thing surely?

Thank you for the virtual hug quiet. And for everyone else's well wishes. You ladies are my absolute rocks! Thank you. Xxx

Ive been in an absolute FOUL mood today, so thought best to keep my headphones in and be quiet. Got home to a lovely care package of my favourite things from DH to cheer me up. Did I mention it was 10 yrs since we got engaged yesterday? Oh and he also didn't get the job he nailed the interview for a few weeks back. Apparently nobody got the job which I can't work out.

This cycle I took vitamin C, ovulated on CD19/28 and spotting on CD28. 9 day LP yet again. I cramped every day from ovulation so maybe something is happening and I just don't know yet for the long term. Spotting is heavier this evening so cycle 12 starts tomorrow... 😔

sk1pper · 05/09/2017 20:09

Pyjamas - I just wanted to say how inspirational you've been organising all these different things to keep you occupied both physically and mentally. I hope you've found it's helped you deal better with the 2WW.

Flash - what do you mean you got chased by a man eating a sandwich?! You have to elaborate on this story, it sounds very interesting. If Kate Middleton couldn't conceive you can guarantee she would have got the best private fertility care available in the U.K. Sorry you've started spotting too hon 🐼 xx

I remember you Geeup - how's your IVF going?

Mouse - oh mouse id hug you right back, I'm sorry you think AF will make an appearance soon. I was really hoping we'd have some good news soon, all my hopes are riding with Mrs Pyjamas.

I had a brain wave today, Ive emailed my mother to see what early symptoms she had when pregnant with me. We share a lot of the same AF problems/symptoms, issues with cysts etc so I figured our pregnancy symptoms might be similar. That way I know what to look out for and can stop freaking out every time I get a spot, or a sore boob.

Hopefulbunny · 05/09/2017 21:15

Mouse- thinking of you.

Flash , Skipper hope its not af for you.

Pyjama's good luck, are you testing tomorrow?

Kwick you seem very busy!

Hope all of you are well I'm useless at keeping up but sending good wishes to each and every one of you

So I've had 21 blood results back and progesterone is 45.6 but prolactin has increased not sure what this means but have Dr app to discuss. Can anyone advise if I should worry.

Pyjamas81 · 06/09/2017 06:35

BFN. Clinic will tell me to re-test in 2 days to be sure like they did last time, but I know I'm out. I'm crushed.

Kathrino · 06/09/2017 06:49

Oh pyjamas, I'm so, so sorry Flowers

JeNeBaguetteRien · 06/09/2017 07:10

Aw PJs, so sorry to hear that. Sending hugs.

Binkybunny13 · 06/09/2017 07:11

Oh pyjamas 💐 I'm so sorry ❤️
what's your plan for today- can you call in sick to work? Curl up on the sofa and have some time lovely x

sk1pper · 06/09/2017 07:21

No Pyjamas 😢 - this isn't right. Can't they give you some indication of what's going wrong? The egg was good so maybe it's not just implanting right? Do they scan your lining to check it's thickness each time? I'm so sorry hon xxx

MouseLove · 06/09/2017 07:25

I'm so sorry pyjamas there's nothing we can say. Life is fucking cruel. But I still have hope for you. Test in 2 days and try to cling onto a little hope. In this cruel TTC journey I've learnt anything is possible. Xxx

geeup · 06/09/2017 07:31

I'm so sorry pyjamas. I've been through exactly the same - two BFNs from fresh cycles. If you want to talk you know where to find me.

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