TTC After MC 12: Hopeful Twats and Emotional Wrecks welcome!

[BertieBotts]

Come one, come all, new and old, no-one wants to be here, but at least we're glad we've got each other :)

Hope your stay here is short.

Now, some BFPs if you please and BFNs for those who are waiting for them too!

Welcome newbies, so sorry you find yourselves here.

Juniper, what a tempting offer! I don't think I'd go for it, personally. I'm such a worrier and seek information obsessively but find it actually usually makes me feel worse. It's therefore really up to you and what you feel will make you feel the most settled in this pregnancy.

Ineed, welcome, how very confusing and stressful for you both. I don't want to give you false hope but with my first pregnancy, I got negative tests for a week or so before something showed up on a hpt, so I guess that could suggest that for you, it was just too early to show initially? Do the dates you dtd add up with the bfp? Will be thinking of you at your next scan.

So I've developed a uti and thrush over the past 24 hours. Just bloody marvellous. All in time for being bridesmaid on Wednesday! I've been downing water like there's about to be a drought in the hopes it clears but I forgot how much it flippin' hurts! OH is also not impressed that we won't be dtd on a fertile day either!

Sorry for those seeing the arrival of af and showing solidarity with those in HT phase.

Welcome HFH and Boat!
HFH as Fox says, my cycles were a bit all over the place after my last MC, but people do get pregnant straight away so fingers crossed for you!
Fox, Yeah, it was a bit of a slog but I guess it's good to get back in the routine?
Think I'll join you in the one more boozy week before joining the sober saddos! Hopefully we'll be pregnant sober saddle before too long!

Thank you ladies for all your lovely responses, really helpful.

Juniper and Boat - both sounds like pretty good news, fingers crossed for sticky ones for you both! Juniper - weekly scans do sound reassuring - I found my experience with the EPAU really empowering at it had all been a bit of a mystery up until that point but it is a personal choice.

I'm planning to wait until Friday to test. Have my bestie coming around Friday night who I can unload all my post-MC crap on, lucky thing (!) so will want the latest news at that point.

Halloumi - know exactly what you mean about the carefree young thing hinterland. My bestie did it for 5 years and is a legend, don't know how she coped so if AF arrives at least we can have a proper girls night in!

NoCats - just ordered some straight up Folic Acid tablets just to see if it is the Pregnacare causing the symptoms. Weirdly had no m/s with pregnancy but wasn't taking the tablets religiously (kinda distracted by in-laws and holiday prep and thought it wouldn't happen that month - go figure!) and wondered if my symptoms were less (only tired and hungry) cos it wasn't a sticky one. Cos it was natural and quick have no sense of how far along it really got.

Best of luck to everyone. I will keep you posted on progress or lack thereof.

Welcome newbies! This is a very supportive group. Feel free to cry, vent, share good news when it happens!

I'm on the two week wait. Day 20. Still no evidence that I've ovulated. On the scan my ovaries looked like they were sleeping. Great.

I'm betting af rocks up slightly late, when I'm at a wedding wearing a very very pale blue dress

Ive cracked open a beer that is how convinced I am that this cycle of bloody 7 days in a row dtd will amount to absolutely nothing. Sigh. At least I can drink at the wedding. Every cloud...

I think mc has made me more psycho than before. I can go only a few hours without daydreaming about my cycle, cm, possible symptoms. Must. Keep. Busy!

Stuck! I'm so glad to hear from you. Come on be a sticky one!

I like hearing tales of hope from this group. It deffo gives me hope for the future.

Evening all. Welcome new people -and v sorry you find yourself in this little club. But the ladies here are the absolute best.

Not much to report here. Af was due to today, but still pg it seems. Convinced something will go wrong but trying v hard to relax (in reality I am obsessing every two mins about whether I feel more sick this time, and what that might mean).

stuck hope you are resting up good. Pinching/pressing thumbs and fingers and crossing everything else for you!

juniper I know it's hard. I've had lots of sharp little cramps and it freaks me out every time.

smurf remind me what scan you're waiting on?

As for the living a little, my philosophy (and I've had many over the last year...) has been f* it for the first half of the cycle and then try to be a bit more cautious towards the end. But only to make myself feel less paranoid in case we did get lucky rather than believing it makes any actual difference to anything at all this early. Wine and coffee for all, I say.

Waaah I just got a positive OPK! Or very close to it. I'm only CD13 so very happy I'm not going to have to wait till CD19 this month!

And the cycle I got my BFP in march I ovulated CD15 and all my unsuccessful cycles have been late ov so my CRAZY HT LOGIC says this will work 🤞🏼

Wooopppppp getting dtd grumpy or should we say humpy?!

Juniper would you feel happier scanning weekly? I know I would as my 2 mmc were agony just with that false hope... but would you feel it was too much?

Sorry to the new members - this group pulled me from dark places so

@Stuckinstressville 😂 humpy indeed!
How are you holding up? Did you get your haircut?

Grumpy that's exciting! What are you doing online?! Get to it

Jen I'm glad it's not just me although obviously wish neither of us were in this position and could both be worry free.

I would go for the weekly scans but I'm slightly worried in case there's any implications having that many, especially the early tv ones.

OPK strong positive this morning. Does that mean I count ov as today or tomorrow you think? We DTD yesterday morning and will do again this morning.

Hope everyone has a good day x

Hi all wondering if I could join!

I've had 3 miscarriages in a row now, first at 7 weeks, 2nd at 5 weeks and the 3rd one two months ago at 16 weeks although that one felt every inch a still birth with the whole process before, during, and after!

Decided we would get straight back into ttc as that seems to be my way of coping with the one we've just lost. Second AF since showed up this morning so here we go again for another month, although technically only on my second cycle so can't really complain. Think I was naively thinking it could happen instantly and all would be ok again!

Grumpy I think it can be anything from 12-36hrs after your surge (which might have started overnight so I would cover both if I were you (& once more for luck!)

Hi hfh. Sorry for your loss. I had a mc at 8 weeks though it had stopped growing at 6. I know I ovulated exactly 2 weeks later and af arrived at 28 days (usually 26).

We didn't try as we decided to try ubiquinol and allow 2-3 months for it to take effect. I must say the 'enforced' break helped me hugely. I've since had a chemical or very early mc - that hit me more in a way but again deciding to wait a cycle helped me adjust emotionally. I'm 4 days into a 2ww and I'm more chilled than previously (at the moment). We are about to go away so that might be helping. It's hard to feel in control of when you want to get pregnant to a certain degree, but then have it cruelly taken away. I'm 40 so feeling time pressure. We do have a 4 year old ds, but the longer it takes the older we will all be.

Hi lyd, sorry for your loss. I do remember lots of cramps in early pregnancy back in feb. Fingers crossed for you.

boat very puzzling, I do hope it's good news!

juniper I'd 50% consider the scans and the other half of me would find it extra stressful. I do know a friend who had regular scans as her anxiety was high after a missed mc and she did feel it helpful. I remember symptoms coming and going with my pregnancy in feb. I'm sure with ds some symptoms didn't start till 6 weeks. Keeping fingers crossed.

Sorry if I've missed anyone - I keep lurking and not posting. Trying not to symptom spot. I don't know if we dtd at the right time this time. I felt it was a 'good' cycle though. Ov around cd 13/ 14 and lots of ewcm. Very strong opk for 12 hours. (No idea if helps! Probably didn't ov after all that!)

Thinking of buying a moon cup to temp date!

Welcome Fia!

Juniper I think I like the idea of weekly scans.. Just to keep anxiety at bay.. Although I do find I get really nervous the day before a scan so maybe not :-/
Jen of everything is OK scan should show me at around 6weeks 5 days... It's tomorrow and I'm incredibly nervous.. With both my previous mc baby was shown to have stopped growing around the 6 and a half week mark. To top things off I've come down with a horrible cold this week which isn't helping. And my husband work say they might not be able to let him out of work as they vent find someone to cover.. But I just cannot go on my own...

Ah smurf congratulations! I know it's tough. I do hope you get through today ok and good luck tomorrow.

Someone at my work just said "surprised your still here, thought you would be knocking out more babies by now"

Mate I'm surprised I'm still here too and should be handing over work ready for maternity leave.

I just smiled and said, "not yet"

Good luck smurf! Let us know how you get on!

Welcome fia.

Oh smurf that's really tough. I don't think there's anything anyone can say to reassure you. But keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you, (and hope you don't have to go on your own - this whole thread will be with you in spirit!) Can you plan something nice to do after/ tomorrow night so you're not focusing entirely on the scan?

Does anyone else write or blog about all this stuff? I've just started ( uterusmonologues.com ) and would love to read anything anyone else is working on. bertie did you say you had a blog a while back, or have I imagined that? Sorry if this is really nosy!

Sorry for the insensitive work colleagues lime. I'm working at home again today - one day in was enough for now, and allowing myself a little sob this morning as my hormones continue to play havoc!
I have thought about writing about it Jen but not quite built up the courage. I've just read through all yours, beautifully written and ring so true - the baby weight without the baby is gutting and the dates that come round or events to go to. Really hope it works out for you this time! Hopefully you'll get a good dose of vomiting in a week or so to put your mind at ease

Hi everyone, I've stayed away for a month as I was trying to stop thinking about it all so much and relax to see if that helped me get a bfp. Not this month it seems. Just got af. So sad about it all right now, I know you'll all understand. I'll have to try and catch up with what's been going on. I hope everyone is ok.

boat i hope you get some answers today. good luck for your scan.

fia welcome and sorry to hear about your losses. Especially the last one at 16 weeks must have been very tough indeed.

grumpy yay for postive opk! i like seeing those almost as much as the bfp sticks!

Only 4dpo here and the wait is already killing me. i don't think my OH has any idea about how much brain space ttc actually takes up. I think about it all day long. I never get symptoms though so there's no point me poking boobs or anything yet...

tiffin nice to see you again, but massive hugs for bloody af. I hope you have plenty of tea and cake ready. xx